Sex God
I'd explain that I have a partner, to give them the chance to extend the invitation. However, if they then didn't invite my partner, I wouldn't go alone.
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Would you accept an invite to a wedding without yr partner
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Same here.
I would lightly ask if this was a plus 1 invite, if they say no leave it a bit and then politely apologise that you can't make it.
I'm lucky, my family love the mrs to bits so it's not a problem, but unless they were a REALLY good freind and absolutely no way round it, if she's not invited then I wouldn't go.
I would lightly ask if this was a plus 1 invite, if they say no leave it a bit and then politely apologise that you can't make it.
I'm lucky, my family love the mrs to bits so it's not a problem, but unless they were a REALLY good freind and absolutely no way round it, if she's not invited then I wouldn't go.
Orgasminator
Writing out 40 or 50 family invites and going down the list of cousins and uncles -- easy to forget who is with who, unless you've been conspicuously together at other family do's -- ask if its ok to bring your partner, but if they say "No" then find an excuse !!
how contradicting are these` the very people who were complaining when that kid in sweden was forced to cancel his 9th birthday for not inviting two of his fellow students....its their wedding they invite who they like if you dont want to go because your partner was intentionally not invited,tough
If they didn't know me well enough to know that I was in a relationship then I would wonder why they wanted me there anyway. I would be flattered that they had invited me and politely tell them I was doing other things because I don't like attending social events with people who don't know me or with whom I have nothing in common, being connected by blood is not enough of a connection in my eyes.
As for being invited alone. I am an independent person and I would be happy that people recognise that.
As for being invited alone. I am an independent person and I would be happy that people recognise that.
hiya
i didnt and i still wouldnt accept an invite to a wedding without my partner
my guy lee's mother got married i could go to the wedding see them get married then go home with my son as lee went to have a meal with is mum and new partner and he's kids, in other words partners of there there kids which was me wasnt aloud to go but then we could go to the night do i even offered to pay for myself they still said no so me and my youngest son never went to the wedding meal or night do
mind you lee's mum is the mother in law from hell
thanks jo xx
i didnt and i still wouldnt accept an invite to a wedding without my partner
my guy lee's mother got married i could go to the wedding see them get married then go home with my son as lee went to have a meal with is mum and new partner and he's kids, in other words partners of there there kids which was me wasnt aloud to go but then we could go to the night do i even offered to pay for myself they still said no so me and my youngest son never went to the wedding meal or night do
mind you lee's mum is the mother in law from hell
thanks jo xx
Sex God
I cant see the problem being invited alone. We have been invited to go to a wedding without our children because of financial constraints on the 'happy couple' if the same were true of having to invite us as a couple thats cool if they don't know my partner. If however they are inviting just the one of us as a pointed gesture possibly maybe because of disliking the other or some such reason then it would be a different ball game.
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If they didn't know me well enough to know that I was in a relationship then I would wonder why they wanted me there anyway. I would be flattered that they had invited me and politely tell them I was doing other things because I don't like attending social events with people who don't know me or with whom I have nothing in common, being connected by blood is not enough of a connection in my eyes.
As for being invited alone. I am an independent person and I would be happy that people recognise that.
Same here. Weddings are such intimate affairs, so if the couple didn't know me well enough to know about a relationship I had been in for 4 years, then I would probably feel a tad uncomfortable being there.
If they just didn't want the partner there, then I would be even more uncomfortable attending.
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how contradicting are these` the very people who were complaining when that kid in sweden was forced to cancel his 9th birthday for not inviting two of his fellow students....its their wedding they invite who they like if you dont want to go because your partner was intentionally not invited,tough
I've read it different to you. I didn't read the opening post as 'are they entitled to leave people out'. I read the question as 'would you go if your partner had been left out'
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Ok ...so ya get an invitation to a family wedding and your partner of four years is not included in the invitation.
Would you accept and go because maybe the cousins didn`t know about ya new partner or would you politely refuse........
Or would you inform them that you had a new partner and point out that new partner is constantly excluded from family get togethers and would it be ok to bring him this time ?
Or
None of the above !!
I wouldn`t go to any family get together if mrs f wasn`t invited ..
She`d go anywhere ...whether I was invited or not !!!
If that was the case then yes I would go alone. :lol:
For me there have been occasions in the past when I did not want to go somewhere, and on one occasion it was a wedding. My ex went without me but that is a slightly different thing.
I would not go if my partner was excluded and am sure the same would be said of her but...as Flower has said, if she was prepared to go then the next time, if there was a next time my partner was excluded, then yes I would go. I still think its not a nice thing to do though to go somewhere where your other half has not been invited...would make me feel a tad uncomfortable if honest.
How about replying with a "We would both love to attend"
See what the reaction is - they've already made it uncomfortable by only inviting one person, so put that feeling back to them. See if they respond to say it's not a "we" invite, or if they say whoops sorry of course you both, or if it was just written wrong and they meant both.
If there's no response, get back to them saying you've just re-read the invite and could they clarify if it's both or one, cos don't want an potentially embarrassing thing to happen if you both turned up, only to find a table setting for one at the reception
That way you might get a reason as to why only one is on the invite and can decide whether to attend or not.
See what the reaction is - they've already made it uncomfortable by only inviting one person, so put that feeling back to them. See if they respond to say it's not a "we" invite, or if they say whoops sorry of course you both, or if it was just written wrong and they meant both.
If there's no response, get back to them saying you've just re-read the invite and could they clarify if it's both or one, cos don't want an potentially embarrassing thing to happen if you both turned up, only to find a table setting for one at the reception
That way you might get a reason as to why only one is on the invite and can decide whether to attend or not.
Sexpert
If the shoe was on the other foot:
There are some friends I want at my wedding that I havent seen in years and don't really know their partners, however any that I have met with their partners would defintely get an invite.
If numbers were becoming a squeeze then if I felt we didn't have the space to invite everyones partners, I will contact them, tell them the problem and tell them I would still really want them to come and see what they said or suggest for them to come to the after party, where generally, you can never really have enough people at that.
I had a similar situation where a female friend of mine (Whom actually met her partner through me when we all went to Skinnydippers in 2005) was getting married on the day after boxing day. Because I was at my partners for Xmas, I explained it would be possible for transport and other problems for me to come without her, because she drove and I did not, I also explained that we were quite happy to just put in an appearance at the church, forego the meal (Which is normally the main area of expense) just so I could be there to see her get married. However their numbers were so limited that we were told this was not possible, which we thought was somewhat rich, especially as if it hadn't been for me, they never would have met in the first place. Inevitably, I couldn't go, as I could hardly take the lift and then tell my then partner to wait in the bar.
Now, I wouldn't goto any wedding without Asha because I hate going to them alone and being seated on the 'Potentially single' table.... lol
There are some friends I want at my wedding that I havent seen in years and don't really know their partners, however any that I have met with their partners would defintely get an invite.
If numbers were becoming a squeeze then if I felt we didn't have the space to invite everyones partners, I will contact them, tell them the problem and tell them I would still really want them to come and see what they said or suggest for them to come to the after party, where generally, you can never really have enough people at that.
I had a similar situation where a female friend of mine (Whom actually met her partner through me when we all went to Skinnydippers in 2005) was getting married on the day after boxing day. Because I was at my partners for Xmas, I explained it would be possible for transport and other problems for me to come without her, because she drove and I did not, I also explained that we were quite happy to just put in an appearance at the church, forego the meal (Which is normally the main area of expense) just so I could be there to see her get married. However their numbers were so limited that we were told this was not possible, which we thought was somewhat rich, especially as if it hadn't been for me, they never would have met in the first place. Inevitably, I couldn't go, as I could hardly take the lift and then tell my then partner to wait in the bar.
Now, I wouldn't goto any wedding without Asha because I hate going to them alone and being seated on the 'Potentially single' table.... lol
Sex God
hmm, tis a tricky one-I'm going to a wedding on my own this weekend, although den was invited, he doesnt know the couple and really cant be arsed to go- so fair enough!
At our wedding next year, i want my whole gymnastics team to be there. One of team is married and a couple are in long term relationships, but the with the others it's just the odd short term bloke here n there. The problem is if we invite one partner, then we'd have to invite them all, and we just cant afford to pay for all of them. I've decided to only ivite the girls to the meal, and partners can come later in the evening if they want, harsh some may find, but we have to draw the line somewhere and i know the girls will all still come without partners anyway.
A family wedding, however, might be a different story!
At our wedding next year, i want my whole gymnastics team to be there. One of team is married and a couple are in long term relationships, but the with the others it's just the odd short term bloke here n there. The problem is if we invite one partner, then we'd have to invite them all, and we just cant afford to pay for all of them. I've decided to only ivite the girls to the meal, and partners can come later in the evening if they want, harsh some may find, but we have to draw the line somewhere and i know the girls will all still come without partners anyway.
A family wedding, however, might be a different story!
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If they didn't know me well enough to know that I was in a relationship then I would wonder why they wanted me there anyway. I would be flattered that they had invited me and politely tell them I was doing other things because I don't like attending social events with people who don't know me or with whom I have nothing in common, being connected by blood is not enough of a connection in my eyes.
As for being invited alone. I am an independent person and I would be happy that people recognise that.
Same here. Weddings are such intimate affairs, so if the couple didn't know me well enough to know about a relationship I had been in for 4 years, then I would probably feel a tad uncomfortable being there.
If they just didn't want the partner there, then I would be even more uncomfortable attending.
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how contradicting are these` the very people who were complaining when that kid in sweden was forced to cancel his 9th birthday for not inviting two of his fellow students....its their wedding they invite who they like if you dont want to go because your partner was intentionally not invited,tough
I've read it different to you. I didn't read the opening post as 'are they entitled to leave people out'. I read the question as 'would you go if your partner had been left out'
whats the difference he still didnt get an invite,but in other cases what if you had an old fling with either of the couples' dont expect an invite,go shopping or hire a dvd out...
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Ok ... thanks for the replies ...it`s pretty much what I thought
The reason I asked is because, not only, has mrs f been invited to a family wedding without me, but she has accepted without telling me...I`ve just managed to wheedle it out of her !!! :shock:
I have no idea when she was intending to tell me !!
it means she still intend to go without you,sorry it harsh but true!
Master of Sex
Quote by Phuckers
Ok ... thanks for the replies ...it`s pretty much what I thought
The reason I asked is because, not only, has mrs f been invited to a family wedding without me, but she has accepted without telling me...I`ve just managed to wheedle it out of her !!! :shock:
I have no idea when she was intending to tell me !!
it means she still intend to go without you,sorry it harsh but true!
Not necessarily, could have been trying to sort out extended invite etc before mentioning so as not to offend.
There is one thing certain, a wedding is the ideal opportunity for offences either indended or unintended...
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OK, It turns out she accepted the invitation in a fit of pique after a particularly heated argument when she thought I was never coming back !! :shock:
Personally I`d have probably crawled into a hole and sulked for a few months :cry:
But not Mrs fshe just got on with organising her social life !! :shock:
So, although I won`t be attending the wedding, I will be joining her in the luxury spa hotel for two nights which she had already booked for herself !!!! :shock: :shock: :shock:
good lord! :roll:
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Personally I`d have probably crawled into a hole and sulked for a few months :cry:
But not Mrs f
:rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:Have a wonderful time in the hotel spa - on the bright side, while she's standing around for 8 hours while the photos get taken, you will be bobbing around in the jacuzzi!!!
Sex God
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... Or would you inform them that you had a new partner and point out that new partner is constantly excluded from family get togethers and would it be ok to bring him this time ? ...
If they didn't know your partner exists, then you could inform them and ask if you can bring your partner along. Unless arrangements are far in advance, I think most people would say it was ok.
The 'constantly excluded' bit makes me wonder if the family do know the partner exists but have excluded them because of some previous issue ... or maybe it was just misleading wording there ...
Casanova
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I'd explain that I have a partner, to give them the chance to extend the invitation. However, if they then didn't invite my partner, I wouldn't go alone.
What she said!
