I don't think I could to be honest. I love my kids and to think I could have another somewhere having a different dad and mom would hurt me.
I wouldnt.
I have no intention to procreate.
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No... it's a can of worms....er...tadpoles....either way....no.
ooohh I did also mean to say in my first post.....if you were in a couple yourslef, do you think that your female patner would be happy for you to do this
...or if you are the female, how would you feel about ti??
No I would not.
The main reason would be...would you be able to distance yourself from that child? Even if you could, you would always wonder what the child would be like if they decided to move away.
Also there could possibly be legal implications if they split up. If the Mother decided to name you as the Father on a CSA form you WOULD be liable to maintenance, no matter what agreement you may or may not have agreed too at the start.
Or sometime in the future that child could come knocking on your door, saying " hi Daddy I am your child ". Not a great thing if you have not told your current wife or partner, or even any kids. I have heard it happen.
So no as I do not think it would be right for many reasons, including the ones above...a potential nightmare.
no way.
to many come backs and sooner or later that dreaded csa or whatever its called would get involved.
never!
some very interesting comments....would you do it if you had a contract drawn up, saying that you would not be named?
Boney....
If Stormy were able....I could'nt let him do it. Making love to someone to produce a baby is an emotional thing and I am jealous of his emotions. I will happily share him for sex as long as I am with him and I admit we both get attached to ladies we swing with..but thats ok we are both attached.
However I could and would if able carry a child for someone else. I would even use one of my own eggs to achieve this if needed.
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I was asked to do this by a female I know and said NO!
If i'm going to be a father I want to be part of the childs life.
Ummm I wouldn't give my eggs. I wouldn't have much say in my partner's 'stuff' so that is irrelevent to me.
I don't actually 'agree' with messing around with the whole eggs and sperm thingie as I think that we should all consider adoption if we are in 'need' of having children.
That said I am a mother to a child that I had all by myself with sperm given by his father. So, my opinion is based on not being in that situation (strictly speaking).
I do DESPERATELY want more children and have always been in this situation. Worlass and I could have them 'naturally' as she has all her bits intact. If we get to the point of being ready to have children then we would be adopting because, politically, (for want of a better phrase) we believe that bringing more children into the world just to procreate is selfish. There are many many children out there already and we sincerely believe that those in the position to adopt should do just that.
Its a toughie, I think I would happily give my eggs or mr lyns sperm (obviously it is his decision not mine) to an annomonus recepient but not a friend, seeing the child grow up in a different family would be to hard and I don't think I could detatch myself from the child.
I could only be a surrogate to a child that was biologicaly not mine.
Splendid, I do agree that there are many children out there who do need someone to love them but the adoption laws are very restrictive and people who would make fantastic parents can often get turned down.
I totally know that Lyns. I am in awe of anyone who can be so selfless to give up their eggs and sperm and stuff. I have no judgement on that score.
I just think that adoption should be the first resort (for me and 'mine') The laws are restrictive and in some cases I have seen some right numpties get kiddywinks.. biologically I have seen that too, also if I let me thoughts run amok with the possibilities then I know I have no idea who is really in a position to judge anyone fit or not to be a parent. But if I rein my thought processes back then adoption is the first resort and the rest should only be done as a last resort.
Mrgoggins has been snipped but I wouldn't have wanted him to donate sperm (except anonymously maybe). Mainly because of the CSA thing but also he would be very emotionally involved and I don't want to share him if I don't have to. I, on the other hand, would love to help someone else have a child by carrying it for them as I love being pregnant and even giving birth. I can't do it because I know I would have trouble giving away a girl.
method, or a yoghurt pot and a syringe method, say for a single female friend, a couple where the guy was firing blanks for whatever reason, or a lesbian friend who wanted a baby.
hwoar: at the thought of ty's bone 
pah !
does that make sense or does that make me extremely selfish 