We have been playing for about 2 years now, and in that time have met a couple of guys that I would call friends with benifits, in that one of the guys we have met 6 times another 4 times.
As a married couple, when I have spoken to other couples and mentioned this, they have said they wouldn't like their wives to meet the same guy too many times.
We feel to keep to the same person it has given us more of an oportunity to broaden our mind to try different things, as trust and respect has been established, as after all we came here to try new expierances not just to have a shag as such.
I just wondered how others feel, as I am feeling we are rare in that hubby doesn't feel threatened by this approach, I don't get the same feeling by many other men is simular relationships, after all trust in doing this within a relationship is paramount.
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would you have regular play friends?
Sex God
Horses for courses I reckon. It could be that some may find the anonymity of single meets allows them to explore the wilder side of things without having to build up to it etc. Others might need the idea of a "relationship" to develope.
With us we've experienced a time when the single guy became a regular partner, a really nice guy great bloke made J feel good I liked him a result. Unfortunatly as meets proceeded he started to get very, how can we say attached with J and would do things such as whisper to her with me in there and thingfs i can't really explain but they made me feel uneasy as if it was a guy trying to get in emotionally with J. I'm afraid I told J i'd become unconfortable with this and she understood. I know it may of been harsh on the guy as he was really nice and probably didn't realise how I felt but hey some things you cant go back on he had to go.
Oddly enough J found the same thing with another guy after a couple of meets but I didn't realise and said that he was coming across in a too personal manner.
I must admit though we do see a couple who we consider good friends and we socialise with them as often if not more than we "play" and either or the times we see them are precious and we never get any feeling other than that of having a thoroughly good time. Mind the fem of the couple blimey does she talk! :
With us we've experienced a time when the single guy became a regular partner, a really nice guy great bloke made J feel good I liked him a result. Unfortunatly as meets proceeded he started to get very, how can we say attached with J and would do things such as whisper to her with me in there and thingfs i can't really explain but they made me feel uneasy as if it was a guy trying to get in emotionally with J. I'm afraid I told J i'd become unconfortable with this and she understood. I know it may of been harsh on the guy as he was really nice and probably didn't realise how I felt but hey some things you cant go back on he had to go.
Oddly enough J found the same thing with another guy after a couple of meets but I didn't realise and said that he was coming across in a too personal manner.
I must admit though we do see a couple who we consider good friends and we socialise with them as often if not more than we "play" and either or the times we see them are precious and we never get any feeling other than that of having a thoroughly good time. Mind the fem of the couple blimey does she talk! :
Sex God
Yes and no.
Yes: I like regular arrangements (as a single gal) because the trust element does build up, allowing me to perhaps pursue stuff I wouldn't on a one-off meet.
No: because sometimes the best sex happens on an initial more anonymous type of meet - it is a situation that is hard to recreate.
Yes: I like regular arrangements (as a single gal) because the trust element does build up, allowing me to perhaps pursue stuff I wouldn't on a one-off meet.
No: because sometimes the best sex happens on an initial more anonymous type of meet - it is a situation that is hard to recreate.
Orgasminator
A friend would be nice..... 
Sex God
I'm having enough trouble finding an irregular playmate let alone one who is saft enough to meet me more than once...
When I was part of a cpl I had no problem with my partner having someone she saw regularly at all....
When I was part of a cpl I had no problem with my partner having someone she saw regularly at all....
Orgasminator
Off to get a passport...Here I come south!!! lol
Quote by Mark_July
Off to get a passport...Here I come south!!! lol
Or to the northeast mate - you have nice eyes and I'm a MUCH better shag than a barstool!
I don't mind regular or irregular playmates as long as I feel some connection with them at the time but this doesn't necessarily have to come with time - usually just a big old knob or husband/boyfriend with said tool :rascal:
Quote by BIoke
Off to get a passport...Here I come south!!! lol
Or to the northeast mate - you have nice eyes and I'm a MUCH better shag than a barstool!
I don't mind regular or irregular playmates as long as I feel some connection with them at the time but this doesn't necessarily have to come with time - usually just a big old knob or husband/boyfriend with said tool :rascal:
Oi bloke fluff and I offered first, join the queue! :P
Orgasminator
Quote by BIoke
Off to get a passport...Here I come south!!! lol
Or to the northeast mate - you have nice eyes and I'm a MUCH better shag than a barstool!
I don't mind regular or irregular playmates as long as I feel some connection with them at the time but this doesn't necessarily have to come with time - usually just a big old knob or husband/boyfriend with said tool :rascal:
Yikes.....
hey bloke..an Kate...lol Quote by Mark_July
What am I now? 'Kate Bait'? FFS!
Nola tried that bait thing too but it didn't work - all she got was a Maccy D's in Birkenhead Park on a Wednesday night... with a large fries on the side!
Tell me you have a massive knob and I'll consider it 8-)
Orgasminator
Quote by BIoke
What am I now? 'Kate Bait'? FFS!
Tell me you have a massive knob and I'll consider it
Yes...Yes...and noooo....Scary (but decent) Bloke... :shock:
Quote by Mark_July
What am I now? 'Kate Bait'? FFS!
Tell me you have a massive knob and I'll consider it
Yes...Yes...and noooo....Scary (but decent) Bloke... :shock:
I said just tell me! You don't have to have one or do anything... I'll just rub myself in my 'special place' at the thought :rascal:
Orgasminator
Quote by BIoke
I said just tell me! You don't have to have one or do anything... I'll just rub myself in my 'special place' at the thought :rascal:
Is this how you treat your Passengers...
Sex God
Quote by BIoke
I said just tell me! You don't have to have one or do anything... I'll just rub myself in my 'special place' at the thought :rascal:
He sent me a picture of it and its huge :shock:
Orgasminator
Quote by Steve
I said just tell me! You don't have to have one or do anything... I'll just rub myself in my 'special place' at the thought :rascal:
He sent me a picture of it and its huge :shock:
Steve that libelous!!!! :moon:
Sex God
Quote by Mark_July
I said just tell me! You don't have to have one or do anything... I'll just rub myself in my 'special place' at the thought :rascal:
He sent me a picture of it and its huge :shock:
Steve that libelous!!!! :moon:
OK I admit it.....Its not that huge
Sex God
Quote by BIoke
... and just exactly why would straight men be sending their cock pics to one another? Or is that another thread? :rascal:
I didn't say I sent one back :lol2:
Orgasminator
Its all lies!!!!!! Steve you C~@T......
Sex God
You wouldn't be interested in a meagre little thing like mine Bloke....
Mark wasn't either :lol2:
Mark wasn't either :lol2:
Orgasminator
Quote by Steve
... and just exactly why would straight men be sending their cock pics to one another? Or is that another thread? :rascal:
I didn't say I sent one back :lol2:
No Steve ....you sent 2... :shock:
Sex God
Quote by Mark_July
No Steve ....you sent 2... :shock:
Now your just trying to make Bloke jealous aren't ya :lol2:
Orgasminator
Blokes joining in..... :shock: is that really yours? .. 
