I was in the chat rooms last night chatting to others about who and why we would have sex with someone.
I said I wouldn't have sex with a friend and started to think men just think differently to woman, someone said they didnt have to fancy someone to have sex with them but, has had sex with a friend because they care about the friend, and it was something she wanted, I asked how she felt knowing you didn't fancy her. The response was she doesn't know.
I would know if someone didn't fancy me I am sure, it would be in the way they felt me, or in their eyes.
I don't think I would enjoy the sex as much and be so relaxed if I felt there was no physical attraction towards me.
Would you have sex with a friend even though there was no phyiscal attraction?
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Would you have sex with a friend, you knew didnt fancy you?
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Never. It would be no compliment to either. I doubt I could get interested in the sex itself if I though they weren't interested. And if I wasn't interested - no way.
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Quote by __random_orbit__
would Minstrels be involved?
(Galaxy Minstrels, not street balladeers, or travelling madrigal merchants)
Minstrels... the new Malteser... you heard it here first.
anything for a friend with a minstrel or two. (even if theyre old or ugly)
lp
oooo you're cheap.
A Mars bar at least, surely. Quote by foxylady2209
would Minstrels be involved?
(Galaxy Minstrels, not street balladeers, or travelling madrigal merchants)
Minstrels... the new Malteser... you heard it here first.
anything for a friend with a minstrel or two. (even if theyre old or ugly)
lp
oooo you're cheap.
A Mars bar at least, surely. oh, I don't know, I think that may be putting to high a price on frienship.lp
If I had a friend that didn't fancy me, ( lol perrish the thought), would I have sex with her? Obviously this would mean for some reason she was prepared to let me. Hmm, let me think about this one for a minute..:.
...... YES! Without a second to think about it, just in case she changed her mind!!
Mind you I haven't got any friends, only enemies, and I'd shag them too if they met my very high standards. White, female, over 25, yup I'm choosy.
...... YES! Without a second to think about it, just in case she changed her mind!!
Mind you I haven't got any friends, only enemies, and I'd shag them too if they met my very high standards. White, female, over 25, yup I'm choosy.
If I knew he (or she 
) didn't fancy me, then I couldn't. It's hard enough for me to get naked, let alone 'let go' for someone who professes that they do fancy me. I sometimes take quite a bit of convincing - I have a very poor self-image. I am, however, white, female and over 25 :twisted: honest!
In edit: I wouldn't have sex with someone I really didn't fancy either, although I'm not as fussy as Brightongeezer :P
) didn't fancy me, then I couldn't. It's hard enough for me to get naked, let alone 'let go' for someone who professes that they do fancy me. I sometimes take quite a bit of convincing - I have a very poor self-image. I am, however, white, female and over 25 :twisted: honest!In edit: I wouldn't have sex with someone I really didn't fancy either, although I'm not as fussy as Brightongeezer :P
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Quote by Theladyisaminx
Would you have sex with a friend even though there was no phyiscal attraction?
Minx, I'm not being awkward (well, not on purpose anyway!
) but just wanted to clear something up:Your question above seems to be slightly different from the thread title - Would you have sex with a friend, you knew didn't fancy you? - and I was just wondering which aspect you wanted an answer on?
I have a friend who I adore - plain and simple he is my one and only totally unrequited crush of the century - would I have sex with him if the opportunity arose even if I thought he didn't fancy me? Hell yeah. :rascal: It would probably be a total head fuck afterwards, but if the opportunity to have sex with him was ever presented then yes, I would go for it.
Would I have sex with someone who I didn't fancy? Hmmmm... not sure.
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Quote by noladreams
I have a friend who I adore - plain and simple he is my one and only totally unrequited crush of the century - would I have sex with him if the opportunity arose even if I thought he didn't fancy me? Hell yeah. :rascal: It would probably be a total head fuck afterwards, but if the opportunity to have sex with him was ever presented then yes, I would go for it.
I have a couple of female friends in the outside world who I would love to get up close and personal with but like you point out Nola it would likely be a total headfuck afterwards for both of us....
But the sex would be great :lol2:
I have,in the past, had sex with a women who I didnt really fancy but sort of lusted after if you know what I mean and afterwards it left me feeling cold...
I at least have to fancy the person to make it an enjoyable experience and if I'm not enjoying it then the chances are the lady involved wont be either.....Not good for either party really....
Quote by Steve
I have a friend who I adore - plain and simple he is my one and only totally unrequited crush of the century - would I have sex with him if the opportunity arose even if I thought he didn't fancy me? Hell yeah. :rascal: It would probably be a total head fuck afterwards, but if the opportunity to have sex with him was ever presented then yes, I would go for it.
I have a couple of female friends in the outside world who I would love to get up close and personal with but like you point out Nola it would likely be a total headfuck afterwards for both of us....
But the sex would be great :lol2:
I have,in the past, had sex with a women who I didnt really fancy but sort of lusted after if you know what I mean and afterwards it left me feeling cold...
I at least have to fancy the person to make it an enjoyable experience and if I'm not enjoying it then the chances are the lady involved wont be either.....Not good for either party really....
What if the sex wasn't great though - you'd throw away a wonderful friendship on a whim
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Quote by fluff_n_stuff
What if the sex wasn't great though - you'd throw away a wonderful friendship on a whim
Note the jokey styley emoticon after the comment ;-)
I would be really worried that I'd throw away a best friend for the sake of a shag 
Friendship is really important when you have spent time building a rlationship. I wouldn't like to risk that for a shag when I could shag someone I don't care for or even know :?
Having said that, I have been thinking about doing it :lol2:
Friendship is really important when you have spent time building a rlationship. I wouldn't like to risk that for a shag when I could shag someone I don't care for or even know :?
Having said that, I have been thinking about doing it :lol2:
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Quote by Dawnie
I would be really worried that I'd throw away a best friend for the sake of a shag
Friendship is really important when you have spent time building a rlationship. I wouldn't like to risk that for a shag when I could shag someone I don't care for or even know :?
Having said that, I have been thinking about doing it :lol2:
It can be a difficult decision but I think if both parties actually fancied each other then thats a step in the right direction....
The next step would be looking each other in the eye when next you met as friends :lol2: but that could be overcome....
It goes back a little to the what would you change thread I think......Some things you want to do and you should do and some things you shouldn't....
It all goes into shaping you and they all become part of lifes experiences both good and bad.....
There isn't a rehearsal for life so my philosophy(sp) is now to get on a live it as best I can and be as happy as I can whilst doing so...
All the above made sense in my head so dont blame me if I cant transfer it into text :lol2:
Quote by noladreams
Would you have sex with a friend even though there was no phyiscal attraction?
Minx, I'm not being awkward (well, not on purpose anyway!
) but just wanted to clear something up:Your question above seems to be slightly different from the thread title - Would you have sex with a friend, you knew didn't fancy you? - and I was just wondering which aspect you wanted an answer on?
I have a friend who I adore - plain and simple he is my one and only totally unrequited crush of the century - would I have sex with him if the opportunity arose even if I thought he didn't fancy me? Hell yeah. :rascal: It would probably be a total head fuck afterwards, but if the opportunity to have sex with him was ever presented then yes, I would go for it.
Would I have sex with someone who I didn't fancy? Hmmmm... not sure.
Hi Nola, sorry for the confusion, but you have answered perfectly in what I was asking, and totally understand where you are coming from.
Even though I might have confused you I think you got my meaning :thumbup:
Quote by Dawnie
I would be really worried that I'd throw away a best friend for the sake of a shag
Friendship is really important when you have spent time building a rlationship. I wouldn't like to risk that for a shag when I could shag someone I don't care for or even know :?
Having said that, I have been thinking about doing it :lol2:
Yeah but if the friend was up for a shag and you declined, well wouldn't that be like turning her down? I couldn't do that to a friend! lmao!
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Quote by brucie
some of the best sex i have ever had was with a girl i intensly disliked. it was on and off for over a year.
I think I can empathise with that... :twisted:
Incase I wasn't clear in my opening post I will add this.
I have who I see as a friend, who said he would shag me, he could be joking, but I have never felt he fancies me, so I said I couldn't shag a friend that I never felt fancied me.
He asked why not as he said you don't have to fancy someone you shag, you could just like them as a person.
It is enough to just like someone as a person to shag them?
I believe without the physical chemisty it wouldn't work
I have who I see as a friend, who said he would shag me, he could be joking, but I have never felt he fancies me, so I said I couldn't shag a friend that I never felt fancied me.
He asked why not as he said you don't have to fancy someone you shag, you could just like them as a person.
It is enough to just like someone as a person to shag them?
I believe without the physical chemisty it wouldn't work
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Quote by Theladyisaminx
Incase I wasn't clear in my opening post I will add this.
I have who I see as a friend, who said he would shag me, he could be joking, but I have never felt he fancies me, so I said I couldn't shag a friend that I never felt fancied me.
He asked why not as he said you don't have to fancy someone you shag, you could just like them as a person.
It is enough to just like someone as a person to shag them?
I believe without the physical chemisty it wouldn't work
In my sexual experience (and I'm not just talking about my time on the scene) I suppose I could say I've had sex for lots of different reasons.
Have I had sex with someone I liked but didn't find physically attractive? Yes.
Did it work? From memory it seemed to
I'll ask them next time I see them
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Fuck me what happened to good old NSA sex eh? Cant you also just nail a mate and then keep stay mates after and if not why not?
Jeez some times it must be harder for some swingers to get laid than the blody pope.
Jeez some times it must be harder for some swingers to get laid than the blody pope.
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Quote by flower411
Fuck me what happened to good old NSA sex eh? Cant you also just nail a mate and then keep stay mates after and if not why not?
Jeez some times it must be harder for some swingers to get laid than the blody pope.
I must admit lost ...I am a bit confused as to why people keep assuming that once you`ve shagged a friend they automatically stop being ya friend !! :shock:
What`s that all about ??
I have friends that I have had sex with just because the situation arose and we went for it ...we are still friends.
Wonders if flower will be checking his pockets in a mo... Because I'm about to agree with him!
I don't think sex necessarily ruins a friendship.
Yes, I could do both.
I see 'fancying' as a purely physical attraction in my personal lexicon.
If someone didn't fancy me but they wanted to have sex with me and they were practically good at sex then yeah I would have sex with them. With the lights off or their eyes closed I can be anyone they want.
And likewise with my eyes closed and a good imagination I can fuck someone I don't 'fancy'.
I see sex as a recreational activity and in much the same vein as a squash league- to enjoy every aspect of 'winning' climbing the squash ladder may mean playing opponents I may not care for in any other situation.
I aint getting romantically involved with people off here so it matters very little to me the 'depth' of the 'relationship'. I am here for a fuck (or a hundred)
I see 'fancying' as a purely physical attraction in my personal lexicon.
If someone didn't fancy me but they wanted to have sex with me and they were practically good at sex then yeah I would have sex with them. With the lights off or their eyes closed I can be anyone they want.
And likewise with my eyes closed and a good imagination I can fuck someone I don't 'fancy'.
I see sex as a recreational activity and in much the same vein as a squash league- to enjoy every aspect of 'winning' climbing the squash ladder may mean playing opponents I may not care for in any other situation.
I aint getting romantically involved with people off here so it matters very little to me the 'depth' of the 'relationship'. I am here for a fuck (or a hundred)
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No. I wouldn't fuck someone I didn't fancy and I certainly wouldn't fuck someone who didn't fancy me.
What sort of friends would do that? What on earth would be the point?
What sort of friends would do that? What on earth would be the point?
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Quote by Dirtygirly
No. I wouldn't fuck someone I didn't fancy and I certainly wouldn't fuck someone who didn't fancy me.
What sort of friends would do that? What on earth would be the point?
Suppose it depends on how you define "fancy" DG.
I have a mate (not from SH) who I fuck. I like him, the sex is great. Do I 'fancy' him? Nope. I think I once did, in the dawns of time... but now we just have a very easy friendship that includes great sex. We know that we can turn each other on through the physical act of sex - but I don't think either of us would say we 'fancy' one another.
I don't see it as a problem - the non-fancying thing - because we like and respect each other.
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Quote by noladreams
No. I wouldn't fuck someone I didn't fancy and I certainly wouldn't fuck someone who didn't fancy me.
What sort of friends would do that? What on earth would be the point?
Suppose it depends on how you define "fancy" DG.
I have a mate (not from SH) who I fuck. I like him, the sex is great. Do I 'fancy' him? Nope. I think I once did, in the dawns of time... but now we just have a very easy friendship that includes great sex. We know that we can turn each other on through the physical act of sex - but I don't think either of us would say we 'fancy' one another.
I don't see it as a problem - the non-fancying thing - because we like and respect each other.
Yeah but you once did. Your friendship has moved on, you like and respect each other and you're still having sex. That's not unusual and I'm sure is the case in many relationships.
I took from the question in the OP - that it was about someone you didn't fancy or who didn't fancy you.
It's sex for the sake of having sex is it not? Personally, I'd rather have a wank but each to their own.