Would you shag someone you don`t like ?

11 Feb 2008

Quote by helnheaven
At the risk of generalising here, I think most men would have sex with anyone if it was offered to them, wether they fancied/liked the person or not. Its a man thing isnt it???
On the other hand, us girls, in general, are more discerning

I was thinking about this this morning- and had a chat with Mr W about it (though I already knew his feelings.)
When he was free & single, he was offered a one night stand on a plate by-in his words- a girl most blokes would've given their right arm to "shag." He, however, thought she was pretentious, and said "Sorry love, you just don't do it for me."
The same thing goes for my "other significant other confused

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He spends a lot of his time in costume. Women fall at his feet. He never- ever - takes them up on their offers "even if they're beautiful" in his words. Why? Because he knows they'd be having sex with his "costumed persona" and aren't the least bit interested in him.
I've seen it first hand. When he's in costume, there will be women walking past & going gooey- making all sorts of comments to their mates & trying to catch his eye. He changes into his civvy's, sticks his specs on & no-one gives him a second glance. Well, almost no-one :wink:
So I'd agree that men are more inclined to sleep with someone they don't like than women. But there are many exceptions.
Which leads me to ask myself is that why I find these two fellas attractive-the fact that they differ from the masses? dunno

11 Feb 2008

Quote by splendid_
I have done it... but then again sometimes I meet them and think that I like them well enough to have sex... and during sex I realise that I don't like them at all. At that point I get to the end and never meet them again. That isn't such a big deal tho' as there are few people I have sex with more than once.
I must admit... if I like them then the sex is loads more satisfying as it becomes a mental and emotional experience as well as physical.

I think I agree with you Splendid_
In my younger days lol

then I slept with a number of people based on their looks rather than personality. I think most one-night stands are based on physical need or attraction rather than a deep appreciation of the finer aspects of the participants' personalities... aren't they? (If they're not, then damnit... I was clearly going wrong somewhere... rolleyes

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Now, sure I think it is far greater an experience mentally and physically if I like the person I am having sex with. But could I have sex with someone I didn't like... yes, probably - if there was enough of a physical spark. And, as Splendid_ said, sometimes it takes having sex with someone to make you realise you don't like them. In which case, I just exercise the option of not seeing them again.
Ok so I am not advocating completely unfeeling sex here... it is soooooo much better when there is a physical and emotional/mental connection. But yep, I've done it in the past and no doubt could/might do it again. I certainly don't beat myself up about it.
Nola x

11 Feb 2008

I dont think ive ever/or would sleep with someone that I did'nt like.
I did sleep with someone that I did'nt even get time to know redface

but that was in my early day's of swinging when I was still very naive about it all, and really did'nt know how to say no confused

So I don't know if I would have like him or not :?
For me now, there has to be some sort of attraction, whether physical or mental and I need to know that they are roughly on the same wavelength as me. So yes I would need to like them to be able to shag them.
Louise xx

11 Feb 2008

I think most people have been there, so to speak......
would I do it again....... no...
older, wiser, knowing what I want from any experience and knowing that I want that other person to feel the same way........
My god....I have actually grown up!!!!! lol

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11 Feb 2008

Quote by helnheaven
At the risk of generalising here, I think most men would have sex with anyone if it was offered to them, wether they fancied/liked the person or not. Its a man thing isnt it???
On the other hand, us girls, in general, are more discerning

Nope not a man thing, (not all men anyway) there still has to be something to 'attract' cos lets face it, you ladies will know if the bloke doesn't like you. innocent

Now you ladies could get away with it :shock:

11 Feb 2008

At the risk of generalising here, I think most men would have sex with anyone if it was offered to them, wether they fancied/liked the person or not. Its a man thing isnt it???
On the other hand, us girls, in general, are more discerning

erm well you are in my case because I certainly wouldn't.
I would shag someone who I thought was fit, even if I thought they were a prat and have done. lol. maybe that is the same thing? Not sure I would do that now.
Asha - I would not, full stop.

11 Feb 2008

Must just be the men I know then lol

:lol: :lol:
Maybe I need to get out more confused

Im told by the majority of men I know, for men its a physical act a means to an end, for females its more of an emotional act and there has to be some sort of attraction. Perhaps this is isnt the case in the 'swinging' world?

11 Feb 2008

Shag someone I don't like? I take it my ex hubby when we were still married doesn't count then? dunno

11 Feb 2008

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Shag someone I don't like? I take it my ex hubby when we were still married doesn't count then?

lmao
I *have* been in a situation where I did have sex with someone - not because I fancied them, but because she was trying to do all *sorts* of nice things to me :shock: biggrin

, and I was in the mood for some relaxation...
But in hindsight, it was hardwork, there was no major interest in pleasing her on my part - I had to 'work' at it a little, so may have been better solo - as I would have been doing the same thing innocent

So its a kind of yes, but no, but.....oh crap, did Ido that banghead

Would I do it again with someone I didn't fancy - no.
A finger shuffle would be preferable I think.....
For me 'clicking' with someone is important - physical 'phwarr' and mental stimulation as well. passionkiss

Then I want to please and enjoy - and have a great time, which is the purpose of it, no?
Did I just post that?
bolt

11 Feb 2008

I've thought abot this quite a bit, and I couldn't shag someone I didn't like.
I could shag someonr who was fit but I didn't really know
I coulsd also do the same if I knew the person but was indifferent.
BUT....... although as any man will tell you there's no such thing as a bad shag, someone I connect with makes for a better night (afternoon. morning, holiday or whatever)
Ed
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11 Feb 2008

I have done...and it was horrid...so no, I wouldnt do it again. :!:

11 Feb 2008

Quote by Sassy-Seren
Shag someone I don't like? I take it my ex hubby when we were still married doesn't count then?

Hadn't even thought of this aspect when I posted earlier. Yes, in relationships that have been souring/coming to an end or just going through a bad patch, I have slept with people who I didn't like very much at all.... confused

11 Feb 2008

Quote by noladreams30
In my younger days then I slept with a number of people based on their looks rather than personality.

Im not saying I couldnt/wouldnt sleep with someone purly on a sexual attraction or physical attraction, I would and Im sure I could :twisted: but if I actually 'mentally' disliked the person, then I couldnt. I would not want to give or receive (if its possible) pleasure from someone I didnt like.
Same as Freckledbird said earlier, if I dislike a person, I would just rather not have any contact with tme and not even bother speaking to them, so starting a sexual act may be slightly difficult wink

11 Feb 2008

I would do, for the simple reason that if I don't like someone that hatred can be a passionate stimulant - but I have odd taste, and they would have to be physically attractive to me and they'd have to keep their mouth shut!

12 Feb 2008

Quote by helnheaven
At the risk of generalising here, I think most men would have sex with anyone if it was offered to them, wether they fancied/liked the person or not. Its a man thing isnt it???
On the other hand, us girls, in general, are more discerning

I think this is a bit of a cliché.
Men usually get a very bad press and we just go along with it because it makes us seem 'dangerous' which some women are attracted to.
However speaking for myself I need to at least like someone … otherwise nothing happens. redface

12 Feb 2008

Well yes and no. No because 95% of the time I have to fancy them and like them as people without a doubt. Sex for me is far more than just the physical. Yes because I broke that rule once because of a situation and it seemed right at the time (and no regrets either but a good learning curve)
There was a thread a while ago - Have you kissed someone you didn't fancy and went "WOW" once you started?
So once in a swinging situation I thought I'd try seeing as this "try and be surprised" idea was in my head, the guy in question didn't appeal to me physically but was a really nice guy therefore I liked him just didn't fancy him.
Anyway, nope it didn't work. Shall not be repeating, shall stick to my intuition next time.
pink x

13 Feb 2008

So would I bed someone I found unpleasant? In the normal run of things, no.
...but say there was something to be gained?
money
exam pass
a favour
please someone you would bed
a job
Now I am not asking anyone to say why they would do it and I am not saying why myself, but ask yourself!

13 Feb 2008

Quote by
So would I bed someone I found unpleasant? In the normal run of things, no.
...but say there was something to be gained?
money
exam pass
a favour
please someone you would bed
a job
Now I am not asking anyone to say why they would do it and I am not saying why myself, but ask yourself!

That's akin to prostitution, if you do it for anything other than pleasure. confused

13 Feb 2008

No way could I have sex with someone for a job or an exam pass. If I'm going to achieve something like that then it has to be by my own merits confused

13 Feb 2008

Well flower you asked the question I have thought about my answer!
Could I have sex with someone I didn't like? No I couldn't.
Could I have sex with someone I connected with but dont find attractive? yes I think I could.
As lust can be a mental attraction not just a physial one. Once the mind gets working the body does too!
And I think thats adds for, far better and enjoyable sex,than just having sex with someone that looks attractive but doesnt have a brain.
Has this confused anyone?
I have read back and it has confused me I think! :doh:

14 Feb 2008

They'd have to be really good looking before i'd have sex with someone i didn't like lol

14 Feb 2008

To me it's an age thing.
When I was , say 20 (many,many years ago), I certainly would have shagged someone that I did not like. Boys of that age (and maybe somewhat older) are ruled by the Willy.
As one gets older one is more interested in having a connection that is not purely physical but rather based around how you click on different levels. So, if you don't like them you don't shag them.
On saying that; if Kelly Brook offered herself to me , but turned out to be a right cow. I might just weaken. wink

Paul

14 Feb 2008

We've been in a situation where a devastatingly attractive man became very unattractive to me purely because of his arrogant "I don't have to try" attitude.
pink x
bugger - he was so sexy...and with a gorgeous wife .... but it confirmed my initial thoughts on what I would do in such a situation and whether looks can conquer liking the person

14 Feb 2008

Gotta like 'em - and they've gotta like us. Even if they were the most attractive person in the world, if the chemestry ain't there it ain't gonna work.
And let's face it, if they don't like you they might start bad-mouthing you afterwards ;-)
Anyways, I'm an ugly old git and people sleep with me, so there must be something to be said for having a personality :happy:

14 Feb 2008

Quote by cu3b4ll
Anyways, I'm an ugly old git and people sleep with me, so there must be something to be said for having a personality :happy:

Same here

14 Feb 2008

for me i would have to fancy them in every way or else its just so so not real.
as if ur going for a trohpy and for me thats def not swing
hugs sandy and happy valentines

14 Feb 2008

to me its about sex 1st and foremost,,with heaven its love but with anyone its plain sex,no feelings on my part and hopefully not on theirs too

15 Feb 2008

OK, so we will not have sex with someone we dislike for personal gain, but what if it was a choice
sex or a I break a strangers leg
or arm
or blind him
or kill him, still no sex?
Or yourself, still no?
What if it was someone you know, your child, children, whole family, your whole street, or town.
At some point you are no longer a two-bit whore but a hero. What more can you do but put aside your self for others. Yes there are women who have been in prostitution to protect them selves or child.
So do not say you would not fuck the most repugnant person, until you have been there.
Travis

15 Feb 2008

Quote by
OK, so we will not have sex with someone we dislike for personal gain, but what if it was a choice
sex or a I break a strangers leg
or arm
or blind him
or kill him, still no sex?
Or yourself, still no?
What if it was someone you know, your child, children, whole family, your whole street, or town.
At some point you are no longer a two-bit whore but a hero. What more can you do but put aside your self for others. Yes there are women who have been in prostitution to protect them selves or child.
So do not say you would not fuck the most repugnant person, until you have been there.
Travis

Slightly different circumstances and a rather extreme tangent though, I think the OP was just referring to swinging/opportunistic situations confused

15 Feb 2008

- I actually think sex under those circumstances is . rolleyes