I was talking about swinging and how and why we decided to try it to someone the other day, and how It has made me feel different about my thoughts on sex.
While I still feel and value sex within a relationship is upmost important, with solid foundations in place within a relationship you can explore together sex outside of that comfort zone.
Before entering into this lifestyle I had only ever had sex with my hubby who I have been with for 29 years, I didn’t take trying this lightly we talked about it for a few years before hand. I believe that was the time that I realised that you could have sex outside of love, that lust would be the driving force so liberated my mind.
I am a very honest person so I have told a couple of vanilla friends and my Mum that we were going to try this lifestyle, nothing has changed and they have never judged us but understood that it was something we both wanted to do.
I feel at the right time in their lives I will tell my children, so that they could understand too.
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Quote by Theladyisaminx
I was talking about swinging and how and why we decided to try it to someone the other day, and how It has made me feel different about my thoughts on sex.
While I still feel and value sex within a relationship is upmost important, with solid foundations in place within a relationship you can explore together sex outside of that comfort zone.
Before entering into this lifestyle I had only ever had sex with my hubby who I have been with for 29 years, I didn’t take trying this lightly we talked about it for a few years before hand. I believe that was the time that I realised that you could have sex outside of love, that lust would be the driving force so liberated my mind.
I am a very honest person so I have told a couple of vanilla friends and my Mum that we were going to try this lifestyle, nothing has changed and they have never judged us but understood that it was something we both wanted to do.
I feel at the right time in their lives I will tell my children, so that they could understand too.
Would you tell anyone what you do?
Would you tell your children?
personally no....my private life is where it should stay ...private :shock: as for kids and family a deff no :shock:
I love what I do and am ......but keep it private methinks ? not all of us are open minded .
steve x
Quote by travlinmanukok
I was talking about swinging and how and why we decided to try it to someone the other day, and how It has made me feel different about my thoughts on sex.
While I still feel and value sex within a relationship is upmost important, with solid foundations in place within a relationship you can explore together sex outside of that comfort zone.
Before entering into this lifestyle I had only ever had sex with my hubby who I have been with for 29 years, I didn’t take trying this lightly we talked about it for a few years before hand. I believe that was the time that I realised that you could have sex outside of love, that lust would be the driving force so liberated my mind.
I am a very honest person so I have told a couple of vanilla friends and my Mum that we were going to try this lifestyle, nothing has changed and they have never judged us but understood that it was something we both wanted to do.
I feel at the right time in their lives I will tell my children, so that they could understand too.
Would you tell anyone what you do?
Would you tell your children?
personally no....my private life is where it should stay ...private :shock: as for kids and family a deff no :shock:
I love what I do and am ......but keep it private methinks ? not all of us are open minded .
steve x
I see open minded is about breeding what we instill into our children, I already bring my children up to not judge and view things in an open minded way, so I just feel at the right time, another subject to discuss on that level.
Warming the Bed
No way. I wouldn't tell anyone of my vanilla friends., family of children (if I had then)
Its far too risky, they may not understand. Somethings are supposed to be private.
Also, once you tell your children, you cant go back and "untell" them. I'm sure they will know about swinging, and decide if its right for them by themselves
Just my thoughts.
Its far too risky, they may not understand. Somethings are supposed to be private.
Also, once you tell your children, you cant go back and "untell" them. I'm sure they will know about swinging, and decide if its right for them by themselves
Just my thoughts.
Quote by Rak
No way. I wouldn't tell anyone of my vanilla friends., family of children (if I had then)
Its far too risky, they may not understand. Somethings are supposed to be private.
Also, once you tell your children, you cant go back and "untell" them. I'm sure they will know about swinging, and decide if its right for them by themselves
Just my thoughts.
I wouldn’t tell them to go out and swing
I felt for years once you are commit yourself to a person that you should never stray.
But what I always knew, that to be in a monogamous relationship for some is a hard commitment. I never felt the want or desire to stray, but only having one sexual partner in my life, did wonder what it would be like to try another.
What I would say to my children is that whatever two people decide to do that feels right for both should never be frowned upon by others.
Quote by RakRAK.... my compliments and an excellent response .....quote" you cant go back and untell them" could be thought about in all sorts of things not only swinging :shock: :shock:
No way. I wouldn't tell anyone of my vanilla friends., family of children (if I had then)
Its far too risky, they may not understand. Somethings are supposed to be private.
Also, once you tell your children, you cant go back and "untell" them. I'm sure they will know about swinging, and decide if its right for them by themselves
Just my thoughts.
but ? you are right once you have mentiond to who ever about what you are in to the seed is allready set for their opinion be it good or bad , and their thoughts on the subject allso will be a lot younger than yours presumably especially when you have the benefit of maturity and experience . :shock: :shock:
Best to keep stumb as they say
steve x
I wouldn't lie if they asked me when they were old enough to understand but tell them, no 
The reason why is because I wouldn't tell them when their Dad and I had sex, why would I feel that I needed to tell them when I shagged others
A private life is exactly that and I can't see what benefit could come of them knowing :?
The reason why is because I wouldn't tell them when their Dad and I had sex, why would I feel that I needed to tell them when I shagged others
A private life is exactly that and I can't see what benefit could come of them knowing :?
Sex God
Both staggy and I would never tell our children or family.
If our children caught us then we would explain the bare minimum that we had to.
i wouldnt want my mum to tell me about her sexlife at all (unless she had a problem and needed my opinion or shoulder to cry on) actually it would really turn my stomach if she told me anything about her sex life..and neither would i want my children to tell me about their sex lives (unless they had a problem and needed my advice)
we are very open with our children and they can come to us with any problem they have or questions but to tell them about our sex lives i think would discust them. not about the swinging but about telling them about us and sex.
They scream ... MUMMMMM to much information.. when i mention anything to do with sex.
if it doesnt affect there growing up then why do they need to know..
and you know what..if they asked me ...i would lie..and im not ashamed to say that at all. burn me at the stake, i dont care..
oh and kids and family talk and tell people..dont for one minute think they dont!
wildrose xxs
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disclaimer..these are mine and staggys thoughts on our family and children..its non of our business what other people feel they should do and we are not here to judge
If our children caught us then we would explain the bare minimum that we had to.
i wouldnt want my mum to tell me about her sexlife at all (unless she had a problem and needed my opinion or shoulder to cry on) actually it would really turn my stomach if she told me anything about her sex life..and neither would i want my children to tell me about their sex lives (unless they had a problem and needed my advice)
we are very open with our children and they can come to us with any problem they have or questions but to tell them about our sex lives i think would discust them. not about the swinging but about telling them about us and sex.
They scream ... MUMMMMM to much information.. when i mention anything to do with sex.
if it doesnt affect there growing up then why do they need to know..
and you know what..if they asked me ...i would lie..and im not ashamed to say that at all. burn me at the stake, i dont care..
oh and kids and family talk and tell people..dont for one minute think they dont!
wildrose xxs
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disclaimer..these are mine and staggys thoughts on our family and children..its non of our business what other people feel they should do and we are not here to judge
Quote by Dawnie
I wouldn't lie if they asked me when they were old enough to understand but tell them, no
The reason why is because I wouldn't tell them when their Dad and I had sex, why would I feel that I needed to tell them when I shagged others
A private life is exactly that and I can't see what benefit could come of them knowing :?
:thumbup:
One or two very close friends know I'm bi but they don't know I'm a swinger. I wouldn't tell my family though especially my Mum and Sis - they're not very open minded and would judge me unfairly.
Youngest son has hinted about my sexuality and he knows I have had a couple of FBs. He's very cool about stuff for an 18 year old
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I was talking about swinging and how and why we decided to try it to someone the other day, and how It has made me feel different about my thoughts on sex.
While I still feel and value sex within a relationship is upmost important, with solid foundations in place within a relationship you can explore together sex outside of that comfort zone.
Before entering into this lifestyle I had only ever had sex with my hubby who I have been with for 29 years, I didn’t take trying this lightly we talked about it for a few years before hand. I believe that was the time that I realised that you could have sex outside of love, that lust would be the driving force so liberated my mind.
I am a very honest person so I have told a couple of vanilla friends and my Mum that we were going to try this lifestyle, nothing has changed and they have never judged us but understood that it was something we both wanted to do.
I feel at the right time in their lives I will tell my children, so that they could understand too.
Would you tell anyone what you do?
Would you tell your children?
Understand what exactly? That their Mother chose to get shagged by other blokes? You may well have brought your children up in an honest and openminded way but.... what the heck is there to gain by telling them you had sex with other men?
I know it is your decision to make Minx but...why fgs? :shock:
Are adults not allowed a private life away from their kids? I think you are making a big mistake, and are being very naive if you think your kids will understand your reasons for doing it. They I feel will look at you differently, and I really cannot even begin to understand your logic.
Or is this another thread for threads sake? Sorry Minxy but there is a lot I do not understand, and this is right there at the top of the tree.
Everyone that is important in my life knows and that includes my son who is 15. We discuss sex and we are open about life in general and, as I see nothing wrong in swinging, I see nothing wrong in telling him about it.
All of our friends know about our 'open' relationship and that was so that if they see us 'with' someone in a place they are then they know that they don't have to have a moment's worry about telling me or worlass what the other is 'upto', that is the same for my son. He doesn't ever see anyone that I have sex with because he doesn't know anytime that I have sex but I would never want him to think there was some dark secret that he had to hold for me or worlass.
He wants to make different choices for himself and he is also open about that.
My father's words were 'you only live once 'splendid' as long as you are both happy then what more can you ask from life'.
My friends (who are actually my family) are all supportive and it has allowed them to explore things about their life with me knowing that whatever they were thinking before isn't quite as bad as they first thought.
basically, if it feels right then do it. (in my humble opinion)
All of our friends know about our 'open' relationship and that was so that if they see us 'with' someone in a place they are then they know that they don't have to have a moment's worry about telling me or worlass what the other is 'upto', that is the same for my son. He doesn't ever see anyone that I have sex with because he doesn't know anytime that I have sex but I would never want him to think there was some dark secret that he had to hold for me or worlass.
He wants to make different choices for himself and he is also open about that.
My father's words were 'you only live once 'splendid' as long as you are both happy then what more can you ask from life'.
My friends (who are actually my family) are all supportive and it has allowed them to explore things about their life with me knowing that whatever they were thinking before isn't quite as bad as they first thought.
basically, if it feels right then do it. (in my humble opinion)
Quote by kentswingers777
I was talking about swinging and how and why we decided to try it to someone the other day, and how It has made me feel different about my thoughts on sex.
While I still feel and value sex within a relationship is upmost important, with solid foundations in place within a relationship you can explore together sex outside of that comfort zone.
Before entering into this lifestyle I had only ever had sex with my hubby who I have been with for 29 years, I didn’t take trying this lightly we talked about it for a few years before hand. I believe that was the time that I realised that you could have sex outside of love, that lust would be the driving force so liberated my mind.
I am a very honest person so I have told a couple of vanilla friends and my Mum that we were going to try this lifestyle, nothing has changed and they have never judged us but understood that it was something we both wanted to do.
I feel at the right time in their lives I will tell my children, so that they could understand too.
Would you tell anyone what you do?
Would you tell your children?
Understand what exactly? That their Mother chose to get shagged by other blokes? You may well have brought your children up in an honest and openminded way but.... what the heck is there to gain by telling them you had sex with other men?
I know it is your decision to make Minx but...why fgs? :shock:
Are adults not allowed a private life away from their kids? I think you are making a big mistake, and are being very naive if you think your kids will understand your reasons for doing it. They I feel will look at you differently, and I really cannot even begin to understand your logic.
Or is this another thread for threads sake? Sorry Minxy but there is a lot I do not understand, and this is right there at the top of the tree.
I didn’t mean I will tell them that I have shagged other men as you so nicely put it.
As really that isn't how I see it.
I see it being able to explore something that both parties would like to do, to keep an open mind about it.
I judged people for years for living this kind of lifestyle, I believe that was due to upbringing and taboos, I wouldn’t tell my children that it is right to do, I would say if it is right for you that’s what matters.
What I find are people’s attitudes to judge come from upbringing from when is perceived as right or wrong.
As for saying is this another thread for thread sake, I find slightly Patronising
I didn't realise I spoke such a load of rubbish!
Quote by kentswingers777
Or is this another thread for threads sake? Sorry Minxy but there is a lot I do not understand, and this is right there at the top of the tree.
Crikey Kent, what side of the bed did you get out of this morning?
Obviously as this thread has a few replies already, other people find is an interesting question - I myself have seen this discussed on other swingers' sites and it always provokes a lively response.
Quote by Theladyisaminx
I was talking about swinging and how and why we decided to try it to someone the other day, and how It has made me feel different about my thoughts on sex.
While I still feel and value sex within a relationship is upmost important, with solid foundations in place within a relationship you can explore together sex outside of that comfort zone.
Before entering into this lifestyle I had only ever had sex with my hubby who I have been with for 29 years, I didn’t take trying this lightly we talked about it for a few years before hand. I believe that was the time that I realised that you could have sex outside of love, that lust would be the driving force so liberated my mind.
I am a very honest person so I have told a couple of vanilla friends and my Mum that we were going to try this lifestyle, nothing has changed and they have never judged us but understood that it was something we both wanted to do.
I feel at the right time in their lives I will tell my children, so that they could understand too.
Would you tell anyone what you do?
Would you tell your children?
Understand what exactly? That their Mother chose to get shagged by other blokes? You may well have brought your children up in an honest and openminded way but.... what the heck is there to gain by telling them you had sex with other men?
I know it is your decision to make Minx but...why fgs? :shock:
Are adults not allowed a private life away from their kids? I think you are making a big mistake, and are being very naive if you think your kids will understand your reasons for doing it. They I feel will look at you differently, and I really cannot even begin to understand your logic.
Or is this another thread for threads sake? Sorry Minxy but there is a lot I do not understand, and this is right there at the top of the tree.
I didn’t mean I will tell them that I have shagged other men as you so nicely put it.
As really that isn't how I see it.
I see it being able to explore something that both parties would like to do, to keep an open mind about it.
I judged people for years for living this kind of lifestyle, I believe that was due to upbringing and taboos, I wouldn’t tell my children that it is right to do, I would say if it is right for you that’s what matters.
What I find are people’s attitudes to judge come from upbringing from when is perceived as right or wrong.
As for saying is this another thread for thread sake, I find slightly PatronisingI didn't realise I spoke such a load of rubbish!
Ah I understand now. You want to tell them because you want them to understand and be honest and open with them, then on the other hand you are saying you won't tell them ALL the details....ah right understand now. Sorry if my comment about " shagging other men " offends you but....imagine how offended your kids will be if they were to know, because that is how they will see it.
They won't want to know the rights or wrongs, they will only see THEIR Mother wanted to shag other guys. Sorry Minx but that is fact......pure and simple.
As you put it " I see it being able to explore something that both parties would like to do ", it aint learning to dance together, or learning to ride a bike together. As that comment says quite clearly " both parties ", that is you and hubby.....not anyone else.
As for being " patronising ", I am sorry if you see it that way, but as we have known each other for a long time now, I feel I can be open with you.../..no?
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Or is this another thread for threads sake? Sorry Minxy but there is a lot I do not understand, and this is right there at the top of the tree.
Crikey Kent, what side of the bed did you get out of this morning?
Obviously as this thread has a few replies already, other people find is an interesting question - I myself have seen this discussed on other swingers' sites and it always provokes a lively response.
The same side as every morning Cherry.
I have known Minxy for ages and we tell each other a lot and chat a lot, so on that basis I felt I could be more open with her. She has with me at times too. :lol:
I just feel her kids are on a need to know basis, and they do not need to know.
Why the heck would a parent want to openly tell them, when they do not have too? Why burden them with that kind of information?
Most I feel would be horrified if their parents told them that kind of stuff. Some things are best left private, and a parents sex life is one of those things.
You want to tell Vanilla mates ok, but to tell your kids such stuff, in the wrong circumstances, is being irresponsible.
Maybe Minx should have done another poll?
Quote by kentswingers777
Or is this another thread for threads sake? Sorry Minxy but there is a lot I do not understand, and this is right there at the top of the tree.
Crikey Kent, what side of the bed did you get out of this morning?
Obviously as this thread has a few replies already, other people find is an interesting question - I myself have seen this discussed on other swingers' sites and it always provokes a lively response.
The same side as every morning Cherry.
I have known Minxy for ages and we tell each other a lot and chat a lot, so on that basis I felt I could be more open with her. She has with me at times too. :lol:
I just feel her kids are on a need to know basis, and they do not need to know.
Why the heck would a parent want to openly tell them, when they do not have too? Why burden them with that kind of information?
Most I feel would be horrified if their parents told them that kind of stuff. Some things are best left private, and a parents sex life is one of those things.
You want to tell Vanilla mates ok, but to tell your kids such stuff, in the wrong circumstances, is being irresponsible.
Maybe Minx should have done another poll?
Kent yes we have chatted and we very rarely see eye to eye, but we have always got on.
But to be trueful here I am really offended by want I saw you write there, I was only asking others opinions as I don't mind differing of opinions.
What I didnt expect was a puplic thrashing.
But I have broad shoulders, I will go off and take it out on my pile of ironing.
And let you have time to read again what you wrote! :wink:
Quote by Theladyisaminx
Or is this another thread for threads sake? Sorry Minxy but there is a lot I do not understand, and this is right there at the top of the tree.
Crikey Kent, what side of the bed did you get out of this morning?
Obviously as this thread has a few replies already, other people find is an interesting question - I myself have seen this discussed on other swingers' sites and it always provokes a lively response.
The same side as every morning Cherry.
I have known Minxy for ages and we tell each other a lot and chat a lot, so on that basis I felt I could be more open with her. She has with me at times too. :lol:
I just feel her kids are on a need to know basis, and they do not need to know.
Why the heck would a parent want to openly tell them, when they do not have too? Why burden them with that kind of information?
Most I feel would be horrified if their parents told them that kind of stuff. Some things are best left private, and a parents sex life is one of those things.
You want to tell Vanilla mates ok, but to tell your kids such stuff, in the wrong circumstances, is being irresponsible.
Maybe Minx should have done another poll?
Kent yes we have chatted and we very rarely see eye to eye, but we have always got on.
But to be trueful here I am really offended by want I saw you write there, I was only asking others opinions as I don't mind differing of opinions.
What I didnt expect was a puplic thrashing.
But I have broad shoulders, I will go off and take it out on my pile of ironing.
And let you have time to read again what you wrote! :wink:
Sorry Minxy but....the only reason that I can see for you being offended, is well I cannot see any reason. Other than the fact it was not an answer you liked.
Tell your kids but do not moan when they see you in a completly different light.
Should your own sexual activities not remain private from your kids? Obviously you see not. I could understand if they had caught you " at it ". Then an explanation might be called for but.....to tell them when they have no need to know is dangerous in the extreme, and as I said before.......irresponsible.
Sex God
OOOOOh this one is gonna get just as scary and circular - if not overlapping with the morals thread !!
A place for everything and everything in its place .
Peace
A place for everything and everything in its place .
Peace
Quote by kentswingers777
Or is this another thread for threads sake? Sorry Minxy but there is a lot I do not understand, and this is right there at the top of the tree.
Crikey Kent, what side of the bed did you get out of this morning?
Obviously as this thread has a few replies already, other people find is an interesting question - I myself have seen this discussed on other swingers' sites and it always provokes a lively response.
The same side as every morning Cherry.
I have known Minxy for ages and we tell each other a lot and chat a lot, so on that basis I felt I could be more open with her. She has with me at times too. :lol:
I just feel her kids are on a need to know basis, and they do not need to know.
Why the heck would a parent want to openly tell them, when they do not have too? Why burden them with that kind of information?
Most I feel would be horrified if their parents told them that kind of stuff. Some things are best left private, and a parents sex life is one of those things.
You want to tell Vanilla mates ok, but to tell your kids such stuff, in the wrong circumstances, is being irresponsible.
Maybe Minx should have done another poll?
Kent yes we have chatted and we very rarely see eye to eye, but we have always got on.
But to be trueful here I am really offended by want I saw you write there, I was only asking others opinions as I don't mind differing of opinions.
What I didnt expect was a puplic thrashing.
But I have broad shoulders, I will go off and take it out on my pile of ironing.
And let you have time to read again what you wrote! :wink:
Sorry Minxy but....the only reason that I can see for you being offended, is well I cannot see any reason. Other than the fact it was not an answer you liked.
Tell your kids but do not moan when they see you in a completly different light.
Should your own sexual activities not remain private from your kids? Obviously you see not. I could understand if they had caught you " at it ". Then an explanation might be called for but.....to tell them when they have no need to know is dangerous in the extreme, and as I said before.......irresponsible.
Kent I will get offended when people tell me how to raise and what is right for my children. I didnt ask if people thought I was right or wrong. I was wondering what they would do for their own.
I believe there is a big difference there.
Then out of the responses I could maybe be swayed to change my opinion.
So I will take from your response you wouldn't tell yours?
Thats all I asked :wink:
Would I tell my kids? What do you think? :shock:
MY private life is MY business, and nothing whatsoever to do with my kids. Now they are adults I would still never discuss my private sex life with them.
There is a time for openess with your kids, but that does NOT include discussing ones sex life with them, and certainly not about shagging others.
Anyway I thought you was going to take it out on your ironing?
MY private life is MY business, and nothing whatsoever to do with my kids. Now they are adults I would still never discuss my private sex life with them.
There is a time for openess with your kids, but that does NOT include discussing ones sex life with them, and certainly not about shagging others.
Anyway I thought you was going to take it out on your ironing?
Sex God
I don't have kids so I couldn't answer.
However, I do have parents and the less I know about their sex life and vice versa the better thanks!!
My dad is going round to mine with his drill to put up a curtain rail for me this afternoon... I had to make sure that all my hidey places were safely looking inconspicuous before I left this morning and that the toy chest was locked. Not for my dad you understand, he's taking my mum with him and I'm sure she thinks my bedding chest is actually full of bedding!!! :lol:
They'd be horrified, not surprised I don't suppose, but my mother would be horrified that I've kissed a girl!! :giggle:
However, I do have parents and the less I know about their sex life and vice versa the better thanks!!
My dad is going round to mine with his drill to put up a curtain rail for me this afternoon... I had to make sure that all my hidey places were safely looking inconspicuous before I left this morning and that the toy chest was locked. Not for my dad you understand, he's taking my mum with him and I'm sure she thinks my bedding chest is actually full of bedding!!! :lol:
They'd be horrified, not surprised I don't suppose, but my mother would be horrified that I've kissed a girl!! :giggle:
Quote by kentswingers777
Would I tell my kids? What do you think? :shock:
MY private life is MY business, and nothing whatsoever to do with my kids. Now they are adults I would still never discuss my private sex life with them.
There is a time for openess with your kids, but that does NOT include discussing ones sex life with them, and certainly not about shagging others.
Anyway I thought you was going to take it out on your ironing?
done!
Quote by Dirtygirly
I don't have kids so I couldn't answer.
However, I do have parents and the less I know about their sex life and vice versa the better thanks!!
My dad is going round to mine with his drill to put up a curtain rail for me this afternoon... I had to make sure that all my hidey places were safely looking inconspicuous before I left this morning and that the toy chest was locked. Not for my dad you understand, he's taking my mum with him and I'm sure she thinks my bedding chest is actually full of bedding!!! :lol:
They'd be horrified, not surprised I don't suppose, but my mother would be horrified that I've kissed a girl!! :giggle:
Hence that song that was out recently..... " I kissed a girl, and I liked it ". Am sure they would have heard it.
Sex God
bet that never tasted like cherry chapstick seren x hehehe
Sex God
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I'm not sure mine would be shocked if they knew I'd kissed a girl but they'd freak if they knew what else I'd done with them! :shock:
Yeah... I was aiming not to be crude!
I don't have, or plan to have, kids but I know I absolutely don't want to know any details of my parents' sex life - because I've occasionally had to hear more then I wanted, I know that if I was a parent I'd be careful to keep the details of my private life private. Having said that they both brought me up to be very openminded and I appreciate that - I'm all in favour of discussing types of behaviour in general terms and getting kids to learn that many diferent things are acceptable. It wouldn't surprise me in the slightest to know my parents had 'swung' in the past, but there's absolutely no way I want graphic images put in my mind by being told so for sure!!!
End of waffle
End of waffle
Quote by Mmmaybe
I don't have, or plan to have, kids but I know I absolutely don't want to know any details of my parents' sex life - because I've occasionally had to hear more then I wanted, I know that if I was a parent I'd be careful to keep the details of my private life private. Having said that they both brought me up to be very openminded and I appreciate that - I'm all in favour of discussing types of behaviour in general terms and getting kids to learn that many diferent things are acceptable. It wouldn't surprise me in the slightest to know my parents had 'swung' in the past, but there's absolutely no way I want graphic images put in my mind by being told so for sure!!!
End of waffle
I would say that sums it up for most people.
Plus you cannot just say to your kids " hey we have shagged other people ", and then not tell them all the details. By not telling them they will of course conjure up all sorts of images in their heads.
By telling them all the details, that is presuming they want to know, which I am sure most kids would not, then the images will be there anyway.
To me it is a no win situation, whatever way you paint the picture. You can imagine a conversation which goes like..... " my parents told me they have had sex with others during their marriage ". The other person would say " what they told you "? They would then say " yes, I keep having these images of them in my head ". The other person would say " I would hate it if my parents told me that ".
I can picture the scene right now.
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I don't have, or plan to have, kids but I know I absolutely don't want to know any details of my parents' sex life - because I've occasionally had to hear more then I wanted, I know that if I was a parent I'd be careful to keep the details of my private life private. Having said that they both brought me up to be very openminded and I appreciate that - I'm all in favour of discussing types of behaviour in general terms and getting kids to learn that many diferent things are acceptable. It wouldn't surprise me in the slightest to know my parents had 'swung' in the past, but there's absolutely no way I want graphic images put in my mind by being told so for sure!!!
End of waffle
I would say that sums it up for most people.
Plus you cannot just say to your kids " hey we have shagged other people ", and then not tell them all the details. By not telling them they will of course conjure up all sorts of images in their heads.
By telling them all the details, that is presuming they want to know, which I am sure most kids would not, then the images will be there anyway.
To me it is a no win situation, whatever way you paint the picture. You can imagine a conversation which goes like..... " my parents told me they have had sex with others during their marriage ". The other person would say " what they told you "? They would then say " yes, I keep having these images of them in my head ". The other person would say " I would hate it if my parents told me that ".
I can picture the scene right now.
:rotflmao: I am so glad we don't don't think alike or conjure up the same images!
