When you say she Must become involved later,,,,,you do mean because she wants too and not has too?
Why wait till later......ask her now she may be up for it! honesty is the best policy!
exactly, shes just not interested yet. How you to getting on ?
So you believe honesty is best....well maybe you might want to think about your ad in LMU.....don't get me wrong I'm not having a go at you,what you do is your buisiness but maybe if you want to get into the swinging scene sit down with your wife and talk about how you feel and see what her thoughts are on it,has she ever said anything on the matter before?