Can you imagine it
Half way through some anal action
The bedroom door opens with a squeek
Ah love, would you mind just rubbing your ass against the hinge for me ..........
I stay in an awful lot of hotels and always have had the same routine.
When I first enter the room, its bags on the bed, shoes and socks off, re-fil the kettle, drop tea bag in cup. Light fag, remove trousers, unpack, pour water on tea-bag, sort toiletaries in specific order, turn radio on, squeeze teabag.
Then and only then can I relax.
On the odd occasion when I enter a room with someone else and cannot follow this routine I get confused and flustered.
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Oh hell, you got me thinking about Xmas prressies now
I would meet up with anyonewho I could get along socially with. After all, when I do meet someone, it is not with the sole intent to shag. Therefore, me meeting someone is based purely on personality.
Would I meet an ugly old crow if that ugly old crow held good conversation, absolutely I would. Would we shag - definately not.
I think H had it spot on when she said we all have our own reasons for our insecurities, likewise those insecurities can be varied and can encompass a variety of things and some under differing circumstances. Generally the perception is that people’s insecurities revolve around appearance, which in practise is not always correct.
For instance, in business, I am very confident and am quite successful in what I do. If I am chatting to someone behind a computer screen, I still can come over as a confident person. However, all that can change when face to face with someone.
It’s all well and good telling someone that they are attractive, witty etc etc, but does that help with someone’s insecurities? No, I personally don’t think so.
Certainly for me, I have only ever met one person who gave me that confidence and it wasn’t anything that was said, it wasn’t even actions – I have no idea exactly what it was, but I know when I was with that person I believed I could achieve anything.
Now the problem comes that there are so many people who are just utterly selfish and will only ever work to their own agenda with no thought given to others. You can be in a position where you have completed all the pre-meet criteria, heard the right words, met, shagged and never heard again from that person. Now, if that was the intent, fair enough, but if the expectation was different, then that could lead to further insecurities.
There never is an easy answer, even then, one answer will never fit all.
For me, the difficulty here is that no matter what you do, you just don’t look as smart as the next guy.
I have met some guys that no matter what they wear, they will look smart, others (like me) who could purchase and wear something smart, shave, all that good stuff, will still not look that good. This can even extend to choice of attire. Personally I have no idea about co-ordination and colour. The only thing I do know is I don’t have the physical attributes to wear a top with horizontal stripes, always a vertical for me.
It is for me, not about looks, body shape, indeed anything physical, but possibly that inner confidence that some individuals have.
Maybe over time, any confidence that we did have gets eroded due to a multitude of events. Similarly, if we don’t have that confidence, then it takes something really special in your life to regain that confidence.
As for actually making an effort, that would depend on the situation. In my work life, my attempt is smart but casual – end result a mess.
If I am going out to meet anybody sociably, then I will always make an effort, but again, the result is the same. As for the weekly shopping etc etc, I really can’t be bothered. As long as I don’t smell and my hair is not greasy, then in effect, I perceive myself “fit for purpose†– that purpose being shopping.
Bloody hell, I need to type faster !!
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