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BallouBear
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 64
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Quote by Lindaxxx
were off to the dominican too in sept, to get married...am sure u will have a great time....dont think theres a swinging club there tho sad
Have fun!!
Lindaxxx

Yeeeeaaaahhhh - Congratulations!
Hope you have a fab time over there. So is it a beach wedding? - That bloody sand gets everywhere.
I do reckon you should invite a few select SH members, at a push and I do mean a big push, i can just about fit into a suitcase, as long as it is crate size.
We could form our own swinging franchise out there!
For Spyware specific I also use a combination of Ad-Aware and Microsoft.
As much as I hate to admit it - the Microsoft product is very good - it certainly picks up more than Ad-Aware, plus it does have some nice little features.
On top of this I also use Norton for anti-virus specifically.
My only comment would be that it is such a shame that you need all this stuff now. I have been in the industry for so long that I do remember the early days of the net when there was an abundance of useful freeware and the world seemed a happier place!
It seems, certainly from the phone calls of help from my friends, that now the main issues are spyware rather than viruses. I once looked a guys pc who had more than 900 spyware programmes on his pc. He hardly ever used it, but he did have 3 teenager kids.
A lot of "free" programmes like Kazzaa are just loaded with Spyware, I wish that the warnings on a lot of these downloads are not more apparent.
Quote by DreamerHelen
Well you know where I am hun, the offer's always open.... :twisted:

Bloody hell Helen - now you tell me - you tease :doh:
Quote by davej
I have never played a computer game in my life and doubt that I ever will, it's not something that has ever caught my imagination and I guess the old adage of......can't miss what you've never had.....rings true. As for them being a waste of time? who knows. If it's something that brings pleasure and outwardly isn't causing harm then why not.
Likewise, I think that in many cases, it isn't so much about the specific action (playing games) as in the isolation of the activity, it may not be recognised as such, but I'm sure that if some people with the same problem, packed in the games and dedicated the same amount of time to another, largely solo based activity, then at some time you would get the same comment. With me it's golf, it's nowt to do with the activity, it's more about the nature of it, solo and partner / family excluding.
I do think that the question you pose, is easily translated into the bigger problem of activities that are generally solo activities that exclude other family members. I'm referring to time spent on our computers, wether browsing, playing games, taking care of work and home or indeed making comment on forums such as this. I do think that by expanding the problem you've highlighted, then there is indeed a bigger problem looming.
There is no doubt that this keyboard that I punch my wafflings into has greatly influenced our family and will go on doing so as further advances are made. Already we no longer have the need to interact with a number of people, companies and institutions, we can do it via the P.C. Why do I need to go and buy the groceries, a book, a piece of music? Why do I need to visit a financial instituation? Why do I even need to travel to work? Why do I need to communicate with my own family in the same way as I used to? In short the answer is I don't. Even as a family, we can see the little things that creep in, such as sending each other emails, or a quick instant message alongside the text message, when either times short or we just can't be bothered. In short the communication in our immediate family is changing as well.
I do think that the way in which we communicate and interact with others is going to see the biggest impact on the way we are in the future and that ironically, machines that are part designed to bring us a faster, more communicative world, will in fact have the opposite effect of turning us back into cavemen / women, whereby we retreat into our state of the art caves. Where we can exist in our own insular way, without the need to actually speak face to face with another person. The impact of this I find a tad worrying, you'll notice I said a tad cos it isn't exactly gonna make stay awake at night, simply because I have a recognition that this process has already started and is to damn big to stop. Our social skills will be eroded and with that comes the ineviatable problems that crop up when folk can no longer make themselves understood.
.....davej off to cyber shag mrs davej cos it's less messy..........

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Bloody hell Dave - one magic post that I agree with totally. I have been in the computer industry for 20yrs and it never ceases to amaze me how our daily lives become affected by this technological progression.
You may have to keep an eye on your musings - I would not be surprised if someone borrowed them for a thesis! cool
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Quote by DreamerHelen
Well I'm with WBB on this one....if I like the cock then I love giving blowjobs....
I once went with this guy who just had the ugliest cock (not you hun kiss) and I just couldn't bring myself to suck it, so just did other stuff instead because I didn't want to insult him.....

Oh Helen
If only all women were like you!! biggrin
Nothing to do with Gene Kelly swinging on a lamp post with an umbrella then? dunno
Quote by Dawn_Mids
Just a passing thought, why do we have to make it a once a month thingy dunno
Shouldn't we be trying to make new friends ALL the time :confused2:

Completely agree - as long as we always have the excuse to blame dawn for initiating a pm! biggrin
With a lot of people, especially the shy ones (me included), it just seems that is all the reason they need to pm someone that they have never chatted to before.
Great idea, long may it continue
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Hello All,
Just a quick post from a couple of newbies to say hello to everyone as you all seem great people. smile
We are really looking forward to making some nice friends and having some nice experiences. Hopefully someone will like us...
Take care.

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Hiya and welcome.
Grab a coffee, pull up a chair and immerse yourself into the world of SH.
Have tons of fun.
:welcome:
Quote by Lindaxxx
Can someone please click on that 'Good day to die' link in VenusnMars post and tell me if it will do nasty things to my computer.....I,m dying to know what it is....

Well i hope its not agood day to die...its my birthday :cry:
Lindaxxx
Errrr - the 20th August or today?
Hope the 20th August, else if today hmmmmmmmm the card must have got lost in the post ..............
Quote by Dawn_Mids
I've been pmming with someone since early this morning lol
I might pick another person for later tonight :confused2:

Pick me pick me pick me pick me
God I feel like Donkey from Shrek now!
I only got replies to the ones I sent!
Looking for a sympathy vote now!
The smell of freshly baked bread
Holding hands
Shrek
Playing with my rockets
Shrek 2
Listening to Hungry Eyes
Finding Nemo
Looking into a certain persons eyes
Successfully getting the kids to clean my car properly
Well, not being the smallest guy in the world, (understatement) I have to say that it took an awful lot to go to Rio's. The fact that I was encouraged by 2 fab people really helped.
However, the nerves really kicked in as I was sitting in the pub beforehand and I almost backed out.
However with the kindness and understanding of a fantastic lady I did take the plunge. I shall never forget going through the front door, getting changed then immediately wanting to hold her hand for re-assurance.
Once at the bar and you start to meet people you soon come to realise that it’s not about size. People will still converse no-matter how you look. Everyone, and I really mean everyone, made me feel really welcome and I just forgot about the nerves.
That was the first time for me and I have to say it was one of the best afternoons I have ever had and I can’t wait to go back.
I don’t think I could have done it without being with someone who is very very dear to me. That said, if I hadn’t gone I would have missed a huge life experience.
I came across this a couple of days ago - god knows how it does it, but it always beats me.
Probably because I am just to damn obvious!
Anyway - if you get bored - give it a go.

Have fun
Quote by Dawn_Mids
:bounce: I've just had one of the funniest pms, well few pms, that I've had in ages
Please, I urge you to pm someone that you don't know or don't know well. Make a new friend because it can be so much fun :bounce:

Well Dawn - what can I say apart from well done!
It's 11:30 and still people are finding new people to say hi to.
I actually plucked up the courage to write a couple and honestly it was really well worth it.
Quote by Dawn_Mids
Oh so true - It is so tempting to pm friends on here, but I am trying intensely to come up with a decent pm, full of witticism and an enticing question - maybe by tonight I may have thought of something! Then all I need to do is find someone to send it to!

I wouldn't worry about it too much. I've had one liners, compliments, 2 about my sex toys redface
The point is, you try to make a new friend biggrin
I am getting the knack now!
Quote by awol
Ummmmmmm dont know who to pm - I knew this shy thing would catch up to me one day! redface

you and me mate... biggrin
actually since I joined I haven't PMed many people - and the majority of the PMs I sent were to mods regarding questions about the site etc. I think you've got it though - the shy thing gets in the way... but now I have an excuse to pester people via PM and I can blame Dawn mwahaha! :twisted:
Oh so true - It is so tempting to pm friends on here, but I am trying intensely to come up with a decent pm, full of witticism and an enticing question - maybe by tonight I may have thought of something! Then all I need to do is find someone to send it to!
Quote by Dawn_Mids
Oh FFS, I was trying to have a laugh, infact I did have a scream with the pms I had from people I had never spoke to.
I don't know why I bothered :doh:

You bothered because you care about the well being of SH.
With all the bad sentiment at the moment I thought it a good idea - after all, it is only in jest and nothing serious. Dont let it kill the thread
Quote by Dawn_Mids
It came to me as I was pmming someone this morning (I so hope this works)
Instead of all this heavy discussion we have right now, pm someone.
PM someone that you have never pmmed before. Find out something about a person that you don't already know. Maybe it is someone you would like to know, have never met or have seen but never spoke to dunno
I don't care what you find out, maybe you could even post back on here to say what you find out. Anything would do. Someone's job, their age or when they last brought a sex aid!
dunno

What an absolutely fab idea :thumbup:
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Fingers crossed it will be taken in the correct context.
Decisions decisions ......... Ummmmmmm dont know who to pm - I knew this shy thing would catch up to me one day! redface
Absolutely superb news
Huge Congratulations to the both of you

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Let's hope they are both little :angel: and don't keep you up all night!
Well, just recently there have certainly been a few thought provoking threads and this is another.
Maybe it is good to get some of this out into the open and I truly believe that the recent threads have been an opportunity for both newbies and oldies alike to vent their frustrations.
I don’t necessarily believe that all threads are just to bump up the post count – I do believe a lot are from a “look at me” perspective, however that said, this applies to newbies and oldies alike, it is just that there are more from newbies. When the oldies do similar, they are received and replied to, why, because the individuals are known, but to a newbie that post could also be perceived as dull purely because they cannot participate.
I do detest inane threads, so most of the time I just don’t bother to enter a post in reply.
It was said to me recently that I don’t post enough, that is why people don’t know me. Do I care? Of course not. I post because I want to, not because I need to. I also post one liners and in one or two cases a lot more. Again why? Because I feel it appropriate for me. Do I care that most that I submit is ignored? – Of course not, if I did, my style would change and that would not be in keeping with who I am.
Bottom line – yes there has been an influx of dull threads and replies, but if we look back, they have always been there, just in less numbers and the community was smaller and I believe more patient. How many times have we seen in the past dull threads be turned into great reads purely because one or two individuals have that knack of instilling warmth and humour into any thread.
Now that the site is bigger hopefully some newbies will also show that ability if given the chance.
BBQ's in the afternoon followed by drinks outside till the early hours with good company.
Nice warm evenings though only seem to happen a couple of nights a year.
I normally start with good intentions but end up clustered around the dying embers of the BBQ.
Gas operated wine bottle cork opener/puller thingy.
wow
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All donations of wine gratefully accepted (full bottles only please) and I dont want that cheap crap with a screw top.
I am more than happy to give in-house demonstrations ..............
I feel a cut and paste moment coming on ........................
rotflmao rotflmao rotflmao rotflmao
Hat's off to the author - hope he doesn't do me for copyright
I just love going to munches and people asking who you are.
Manowho?
Lishi
Never heard of you
Are you on the list?
Manolishi?
What was the end bit?
lishi?
Never heard of a Rotary Club member by that name
Oh bugger - wrong pub again
Quote by Eagerslut9
Gem
You should've called the Fire Brigade (speaking as an ex firefighterI know about these things).
:therethere:
blink blink

Ah but Gem may have barred the doors behind them after they got in ..........................
Men in uniforms etc etc
Errr, we seem to be drifting off topic here with all this talk about tight foreskins, so in an attempt to bring it back!
To communicate or not?
For me, absolutely. As each of us is different with what pleases us, then unless we know how can we both attain ultimate pleasure? Of course this must be a two way thing.
I have been with women who faked an orgasm, only to discover it was fake over a drink afterwards. Sometimes it can be for the most silly of reasons that if I had known I could have done something about. I have also been with women where it is just take take take, not just because that is what they wanted, but sometimes because they were unsure of exactly what I wanted from them. This can range from a particular position to more oral or whatever.
It takes two to tango as they say, unless you communicate you may be doing the foxtrot and your partner may be doing the waltz.
Well, not a lot more can be said that has not already been said.
I would certainly agree with the comments from MikeNorth, davej and Missy, but to be honest they always have something constructive to say.
It’s not worth quoting them, as if you read this far then you will know anyway.
The only other bit I wanted to say was just a huge thank you to the Laird to post something that obviously people have been thinking.
There have been a couple of posts recently from newbies that have been immediately jumped on and berated solely because some individuals have taken it as a slur against SH and the common reply will usually be, “if you don’t like it leave”.
The fact that this was posted by a respected member of the community and immediately followed by other respected members has fortunately allowed this thread to grow into something that is not criticism, just constructive feedback.
This is a site for all, not just a select few. Everyone has an opinion and we are all different, that’s what makes us human. We should allow that opinion to be heard unless it breaks site rules.
We all know that there really has been some incredibly boring threads recently, but this thread may just be hinting at the fact individuals are wary of posting anything that is contentious.
Definitely food for thought – thank you the_Laird
Quote by vodka_babe22uk
oi behave woman or ur be longer on ur back

About 3 minutes (spanking aside) cool
At last .............
I have been looking for an excuse to give you a good spanking for ages
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The BBQ will happen when it happens - The most important thing is that you make sure you get better. biggrin
Wow Wow Wow
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Helen - you star worship
It really was a fab afternoon and evening, although I wish they hadn't been serving Grolsh at the pub!
God my head hurt in the morning.
I didn't get a chance to say hi to everyone, but to all those who did put up with my ravings, thank you for being patient!
Every time I go to these things, it always amazes me how nice and welcoming everyone is - this one was no different.
Thank you everyone and especially Helen - roll on October ......................