I'm from the same area as you and nice, friendly, fun people are too few and far between. Hope to maybe have the pleasure of bumping into you once you are back out
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I don't think that's being judgemental, it's expressing a preference for whom we'd play with.
There was talk of having a poll to get general opinion!!!! What would be the point of that unless it was to judge (through general opinion) the actions of somebody?
You may argue that a poll would just see whether people thought it was wrong or not but that is judging at the end of the day. Judging that somebody is doing something deemed as wrong by a majority of people
If I went on a single bi males advert thread and started expressing my preference that I didn't wish to play with a bi man, what do you think would happen? Questions would be asked of why I was even there and I'd probably get some abuse. I wouldn't even bother
Last week it was someone deemed too young to swing (http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/43596.html). This week, it’s someone’s personal circumstances that are the problem.
I always thought that some core elements of swinging were the ideas of being open- minded and also non-judgmental. These are always more regularly stated in swinging definitions than personal circumstances.
So many times on these forums this just doesn’t happen. It’s one of the most judgmental forums I know, and some of the people are just not very nice when it comes to treatment of (in particular) new members.
If you don’t like what somebody is doing or is searching for then just leave alone and let them get on with it, with no judging. It may not agree with your beliefs but their life is very much their own business.
In this particular instance, she’s gone far further than she ever has to in openly stating her circumstances (something she’ll no doubt think twice about in future) and then even providing a link (I had no problems viewing if you play about with it just a little) to what are clearly her personal pictures (i.e. not swinging related) just to try and prove her story which was being questioned. There’s absolutely never any justification for anybody, as a new member, to ever feel pressured into giving out personal things just to be welcomed onto the site and the fact it has happened pains me.
Every time I read through some of the adverts (or forum adverts) on the site, I come across something I don’t necessarily really agree with but I just move on and live and let live.
A big problem of mine is the guys who post about wanting to get their wives into swinging and especially the ones who literally want to arrange a meet with somebody for them to chat up the wife who will then suddenly get the taste for swinging and everything will be great etc. It’s totally wrong and should never happen but I’ve never gone to the trouble of writing to them to say what I think. Each of their lives probably has a different story to tell and who am I to pass comment on it? It would only be my opinion after all!
I always thought that some core elements of swinging were the ideas of being open- minded and also non-judgmental. These are always more regularly stated in swinging definitions than personal circumstances.
So many times on these forums this just doesn’t happen. It’s one of the most judgmental forums I know, and some of the people are just not very nice when it comes to treatment of (in particular) new members.
If you don’t like what somebody is doing or is searching for then just leave alone and let them get on with it, with no judging. It may not agree with your beliefs but their life is very much their own business.
In this particular instance, she’s gone far further than she ever has to in openly stating her circumstances (something she’ll no doubt think twice about in future) and then even providing a link (I had no problems viewing if you play about with it just a little) to what are clearly her personal pictures (i.e. not swinging related) just to try and prove her story which was being questioned. There’s absolutely never any justification for anybody, as a new member, to ever feel pressured into giving out personal things just to be welcomed onto the site and the fact it has happened pains me.
Every time I read through some of the adverts (or forum adverts) on the site, I come across something I don’t necessarily really agree with but I just move on and live and let live.
A big problem of mine is the guys who post about wanting to get their wives into swinging and especially the ones who literally want to arrange a meet with somebody for them to chat up the wife who will then suddenly get the taste for swinging and everything will be great etc. It’s totally wrong and should never happen but I’ve never gone to the trouble of writing to them to say what I think. Each of their lives probably has a different story to tell and who am I to pass comment on it? It would only be my opinion after all!
