In a number of ads, it says that people are unable to reply to mails because they're not members. Is this the case ? And if it is, how do we make contact ?

I'm wondering because I've replied to a load of ads that seem to be asking for guys like me, but never get any replies...in fact the only mails I've ever get are from gay men.
My concern is that I can't tell whether they're not able to reply, if it's because l'm a troll, whether they have too many replies to deal with or if they're just rude....l'm in the middle of my mid-life crisis, so it would be nice to know if it really is time to give up and book my room in a McCarthy home or to keep trying

Any advice gratefully received....even from gay men
