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ChairmanMiaow
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 48
0 miles · Hertfordshire

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Quote by Spark61
Many thanks for the extremely useful and considered advice, its really appreciated. Just hearing other peoples views helps to get things in perspective. I see there are people not even as far down the line as me and people a lot further ahead so normal life really.
softly, softly catchee Monkey ! I think thats the expression I'm looking for lol

My experience in sales has taught me that given a gentle enough approach, and enough time, nearly anyone can be persuaded of nearly anything.
"Plant the seed and let it grow" is definitely the way - something in your wife is going to have to have changed from the person who said "definitely not" a year ago, before she'll give it a go, and you can't force that change on her... but a bit of gentle nurturing, and a lot of patience, and you'll be amazed what can happen. It's a two way process though, and you may find that you change your position as well, and go off the idea!
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Quote by adeymull
iam very greatfull for all you responses, iam not here just to shag as posted, in fact iam here to meet some great people who have no holdups about having some fun,
yes i love sex but who doesn`t??????
but for me iam in a circle of straight boring people at work and home and need more in my life,
i love to be sociable and meet interesting people, ive had enough of the same old boring conversations about day to day bullshit,
i woulkd love to spread my dreams and fantasies into reality.
point taken, i have to maybe look at what is on offer and how to put others views intyo action
so once again
thanks.

Why don't you try going along to one of the munches that are advertised in the Lets Meet Up section - face to face is always going to be a better way to get to know people than posting ads on the net?
I'm not personally looking to meet people, but it stands to reason that if you're really serious about hooking up, then making the effort to go along to a few social gatherings might be a good start!

Why don't you print out the above picture and leave it around the house next to pictures of your mate, see if she gets the hint?
Quote by alspals

I reiterate my question - has anyone on this thread actually read the consultation document, or are you all relying on the media reports?

this is a link to it Chairman
Thanks alspal - forgot to put that in my post!
Quote by SXBOY
Has anyone else here read the consultation document ?
The law doesn't look too bad to be honest. It addresses:
-Necrophilia
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-And "serious sexual violence", which is defined as violence occasioning Grevious Bodily Harm
Bondage, and the vast majority of S& M activities would not be caught by these rules - even a severe whipping which leaves marks would only be Actual Bodily Harm or Wounding.
GBH generally means broken bones, internal injuries or psychiatric damage - stuff that certainly should NOT be depicted. "Naughty" photos (or even pretty hardcore stuff showing needleplay etc) should not be affected if I read it correctly. Whether this will deter bored vice squad coppers from causing trouble is another concern.
Of course, there is still plenty of scope to for them to screw this up in the implementation, so if you really care about the dangers of this, it might be a good idea to send your views to:
Consultation on Possession of Extreme Pornography
Criminal Law Policy Unit
2nd Floor, Fry Building
2 Marsham Street
London SW1P 4DF
Tel:
Fax:
Email:

which would still be a criminal record..great sexual violence on your cv !!!!!!
what on earth are you talking about - did you even bother reading the post properly?
whipping someone is currently assault/ABH/wounding - as unfortunate men in the Spanner case found out, you cannot consent to be consulted (don't know if any case law has changed things since then).
The proposed laws won't actually change any of that....
I see that some people on this board prefer to do their best chicken little impersonation and complain bitterly about civil liberties rather than equip themselves with the facts.
I reiterate my question - has anyone on this thread actually read the consultation document, or are you all relying on the media reports?
And if you all feel so strongly, does this mean you will all be emailing the home office at the above address/faxing your MP with your views?
Has anyone else here read the consultation document ?
The law doesn't look too bad to be honest. It addresses:
-Necrophilia
-
-And "serious sexual violence", which is defined as violence occasioning Grevious Bodily Harm
Bondage, and the vast majority of S& M activities would not be caught by these rules - even a severe whipping which leaves marks would only be Actual Bodily Harm or Wounding.
GBH generally means broken bones, internal injuries or psychiatric damage - stuff that certainly should NOT be depicted. "Naughty" photos (or even pretty hardcore stuff showing needleplay etc) should not be affected if I read it correctly. Whether this will deter bored vice squad coppers from causing trouble is another concern.
Of course, there is still plenty of scope to for them to screw this up in the implementation, so if you really care about the dangers of this, it might be a good idea to send your views to:
Consultation on Possession of Extreme Pornography
Criminal Law Policy Unit
2nd Floor, Fry Building
2 Marsham Street
London SW1P 4DF
Tel:
Fax:
Email:
I remember hearing mick jagger denying it and saying "you'd have to be utterly jaded to want to do something like that".
I did it with my first proper gf when I was 16. Was quite surprised at how fast it melted. :shock:
Please can someone explain the appeal of straight wank clubs
The whole idea leaves me completely baffled
full weight depends on the size of the woman in question - my girlfriend weighs just over 7st so that is perfect - I know some guys like a lot of pressure, but that's not really my thing
I find a woman sitting on my face to be very, very, VERY sexy - most of my fantasies tend to be dominant, but this is a submissive one that never fails to push my buttons.
it's such an obviously horny place to be "in the thick of things" that I would have thought this must be pretty common. However a search for Internet porn sites catering for this little niche (usually a good barometer) doesn't turn up to much - surely it's not that unusual?
Do many of you share this preference?
Quote by LisaMarie
I read through this thread earlier and decided at the time to say nothing
but I have to agree with the majority here that causing pain during sex
is unecessay, sex is meant to be an pleasure and a joy to both parties
not a lesson in pain.
thanks guys of the forum for standing up for what you all thought was
right and not have a laugh for once.
lisamarie

that depends entirely on your preferences :twisted:
However the sort of sex mr HorL is describing doesn't sounds like the sort of naughty fun between two kinky people that leaves marks.
It sounds like an insecure, unimaginative man who needs to degrade people in order to bolster his self esteem.
If that's really what he's after, HateItOrLoveIt he should stop looking to forums for validation that he's not going to find, and go out and get on with it.
Quote by angelnn66
Good grief, is this thread still going?
I will put it my own opinion then - I have been told by some men that I am really good at blow jobs, a couple have said I was the best, but others haven't seemed quite so keen and have preceded to tell my what I'm doing wrong! blast
That must mean that what suits one person doesn't suit another because I think I always do it the same dunno

How you like your oral sex definitely a very personal thing - that's one reason I'm quite happy with the idea of sticking with one person for the rest of my life... it's an opportunity to teach them how to get it _perfect_ - and reach a kind of blowjob nirvana, if you will biggrin
Perhaps you should use Microsoft project to help plan your sex life?
I'm sure a Gantt chart would be wonderful. You could even highlight the bits where you're going to be spontaneous.
Dude, if you're worried enough about getting your cock sucked to pay attention to a 7 page thread about it, you're never gonna be happy until it happens.
If you're really that bothered your girl says no, either:
1. She doesn't like giving head. You're not gonna change that. Leave her
2. She's using it to get power over you. She's a bitch. Leave her.
Earlier in this thread, people have described my response as being selfish and sex obsessed. Yes, I am.
Your comments about disliking women being on top, doggy style etc do make me think perhaps this isn't as one sided as it first appeared. Maybe you should examine your own attitude more. If a girl told me "my guy wont let me go on top, but its the only way I can come easily", I would say the same - leave him.
Note I didn't say "threaten to leave" - that's emotional blackmail, and will get you nowhere. Just make your mind up and get on with it.
Life is too short to spend being mutually unhappy with someone you're not compatible with, just for the sake of being nice.
Yes, successful relationships are about negotiation and compromise, but unless your priorities align you are wasting everyone's time. You will just end up resentful.
I'm sure after this thread you feel no further forward than before you started it. Well that's what you get for asking a bunch of strangers who know nothing about your
situation apart from what you choose to tell them.
Have a nice day. smile
Quote by steanrachy
as ever freckled bird your semi witty and semi intelligent comments are semi noted, its not that i want to impose any of my beliefs and opinions on anybody (il leave that to you....), i merely wanted to make my point, to which i am entitled.
you seem to be always on the offensive, its not an attractive quality....... rolleyes

crikey - sounds like someone's got a spot of 'roid rage.
I can't reiterate how much you have to dump a woman who does this.
If you don't, I would lay a very large amount of money that she turns out to be a complete nightmare as the relationship develops.
Leave her.
Women who "don't do that" are a complete waste of time. (I would guess the same applies to men who expect but don't give too)
Trust me, I know, I've been with 2. (one for 5 and a half years)
Both, retrospectively had problems with intimacy.
Go and find someone who will. I did, and I'm 500x happier.
Quote by sexyann57
im with the muscles on this debate, i used to be 12st and at 6ft 2 it wasnt pretty, started training about 18months ago an now about 16st4 an muscled up.
before i started bodybuilding some girls i know wouldnt have been interested in a sexual way but now i get a lot more admiring glances and attention and feel miles better about myself and has changed my personal perseption of myself for the better, get down the gym and start pumping iron guys, u will be pumping a lot more if you do.... wink :wink: :wink:

It's your confidence that has done it. Not the muscles.
"Useful" muscle, like a builder or gardner has, is cool. If a guy is over-muscular, all I see is a guy who spends too much time on himself.
I totally agree with you vix, normal muscular guy,s (or girls) are fine , but the' mr muscle '
just does,nt do it for me confused The women who do those bodybuiling comps just make me feel sick :uhoh:
The mr muscle types are posing fools IMO. That's why I train for strength endurance, not "fluff". Having a good shaped body is just a nice side effect of that biggrin
It's got other advantages too - there's a whole load of sexual positions that become open to you once you can support your partner's bodyweight with your arms for an extended period of time.
:twisted:
Most "muscular" men don't train properly - they focus excessively on arms and chest, and as a result get that "cheesy muscle" look, which is out of proportion.
I found that having trained for a couple of years to get into decent shape, I got far more attention from more attractive girls. How much of that is due to increased confidence though I couldn't say.
What I do know is that my girlfriend who is lovely and toned is wonderful to look at naked because of all the hard work she puts into staying in shape, so it's only fair that I should do that same for her. biggrin
Quote by angelnn66
Airwaves chewing gum do the same thing , and those ice blue minty strip things (sorry, I can't remember what they're called)
But ON NO ACCOUNT have oral sex when you have been eating chillies!
and don't start playing with someone after you've been chopping chillies either - hurts for hours!
:spit: :doh:

don't try to put contact lenses in after you've been handling chillis either, otherwise you will find out the meaning of the phrase "World Of Pain"
:shock:
I went out with a woman who wouldn't give blowjobs for years...
I love giving oral sex and did it frequently)
It's one of the (many) reasons I split with her- although it was more because it was indicative of her general attitude than anything else.
No such probs with current girlfriend
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If you want to order adult vids mail order, it's easy enough - sites such as ship from the Netherlands.
Why do people always think that summer starts in June here - any heat in June is merely to lull you into a false state of be-sandalled security.
Never trust the sun until mid-July! But you're normally pretty safe until September.
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All this is in stark contrast to my festival experience at Sonar, Barcelona last week - 32 degress constant sushine, and no stinky tent. biggrin
I've been to glasto twice, but although it was fun i decided this year you can keep your muddy field, Europe is far more civilised. Glad i did now!
Quote by welsh one
i would love to send a full picture but only having a webcam and not very long arms its a bit awkward to take it alone, but i am just outside cardiff if thats close to you? biggrin

Why don't you use it to take pics of your entire body, one section at a time, then montage it together in photoshop ?
The only potential problem is that it could look a little bit like you've skinned someone else and made a suit of it, but heh...
Quote by flapjackboy

For those who want to register for unwanted calls

Surely that should be register to stop unwanted calls. </pedant> :mrgreen:
So you want me to register for unwanted calls? That does not compute, captain.
Quote by Ice Pie
We don't want a constitution. We want...
... a shrubbery!

rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
I wonder if tomorrow's Sun/Mirror will have a Monty python-related headline for their report on the Dutch constitution vote (if they report it, of course biggrin ).
I'm quite annoyed about the whole bukkake thing...
When i was younger my friends and i used to make a similar sound when impersonating a chicken (hey, it's funny when you're inebriated) - spelt the same way.
Our innocent poultry impersonation has been hijacked by the sick, corrupted internet.... mad