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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
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Quote by Marya_Northeast
Giving oral is wonderful and I do get turned on by someone else being turned by me! If they reach orgasm it's another great turn on and it's like a massive compliment as well really.
There's not much nicer than have a man or woman squirming with pleasure at your touch.
:thumbup: ditto
and you can soooo tell when someone's 'into you' and into what they're doing cant you! it shows both ways! there's a huge difference bewteen a couple of tentative licks just to be able to say you've done it, and being sooo into making them squirm you want to practically climb inside....especially if they reciporocate and start bucking onto my mouth :lol2: :twisted:
Quote by cu3b4ll
Tosses "the list" into the bin obviously!
I'm not actually tossing off into the bin that would just be wrong haha!
:laughabove:
Nope - that would only be wrong if you started a thread on how far you could 'toss' your load! ;-)
Quote by spanishtony
Someone will use that I'll bet!
Sorry Tony hun, you'll find that one here >> http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/76596.html
:lol2:
there's been some posts on this very topic earlier ...in here: http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/54188.html
I know several people who have been sucessful - a friend at work has got over 6 grand back from various banks, so it can work :thumbup:
the downside, for those with bank accounts, is that the bank will often close your account if you start these proceedings against them, so make sure you open another account elsewhere before you start
I know several people who have been sucessful - a friend at work has got over 6 grand back from various banks, so it can work :thumbup:
the downside, for those with bank accounts, is that the bank will often close your account if you start these proceedings against them, so make sure you open another account elsewhere before you start
Quote by Jemlet
As a matter of interest do you orgasm with penatrative sex with your regular partner? There was some research (sorry can't remember where I read it) that "A women won't have an orgasm unless SHE wants one. You can physically facilitate the process but unless she wants to orgasm she will hold back." Do you think that there are occasions where subconciously you don't allow yourself to orgasm until you have reached a level of mental comfort?
To answer this - not sure if it was to me personally or to the thread contributors in general... but penetration alone is not enough, with anyone
I do agree that usually women in particular have to reach a mental level of comfort before she'll 'allow' orgasm to happen.... but I'm very much in the minority with my other thoughts on this so am perhaps not the person to ask
depends what you consider to be helpful and tactful doesnt it - and who you're 'expecting' it from :giggle:
now this - this interests me ALOT :thumbup:
It's fairly easy when you have a partner (your hubby or wife for example) who knows what makes you tick, and is 'in tune' with you and knows you sexually well enough to be able to recognise the 'stages'...they know your body and its responses....Its something that perhaps doesnt happen so easily when swinging
And - if someone is touching you/ doing something (using a HJ as the example) which you know if you did it yourself you'd be 'there' in an instant....doesnt it get a bit ...frustrating?
- and who you're 'expecting' it from :giggle: now this - this interests me ALOT :thumbup:
Definitely a technique. A few times I've been given a HJ, and the lady in question has not been able to make me come as she didn't know the "stages".
It's fairly easy when you have a partner (your hubby or wife for example) who knows what makes you tick, and is 'in tune' with you and knows you sexually well enough to be able to recognise the 'stages'...they know your body and its responses....Its something that perhaps doesnt happen so easily when swinging
And - if someone is touching you/ doing something (using a HJ as the example) which you know if you did it yourself you'd be 'there' in an instant....doesnt it get a bit ...frustrating?
Quote by Juniper_couple
To answer the "would i teach to a partner for the purpose of playing?" Yes, I would hope that likes and dislikes are discussed first and if something is good or bad it can be said without offence
totally :thumbup: me personally, I like that 'instruction'....but, we've had discussions before about confidence & performance etc, and I guess there are people who might be mortified to be told how to do it ...and take it the wrong way, ya know?
- one mention of knitting circles and there's now so many posts I want to pick up on and reply to I cant type quick enough! 
Keep em coming though please, not ignoring anyone intentionally just reading with interest I still fancy a guided tour of local dogging spots :lol2: but I'll be spending the weekend doing the million and one jobs around the house I havent got round to since the last set of holidays, and making sure paperwork is done, filed and pushed out of my mind for the next fortnight! :happy:
oh, and Mr Gallo and Mr Daniels are visiting at some point!
oh, and Mr Gallo and Mr Daniels are visiting at some point!
ok then Drew (and anyone else :wink) do you think orgasm is guaranteed through :wanker: then, or is there a 'technique'/ grip/rhythm/ whatever that you know will bring you off quicker/stronger ?
and for the purposes of playing - could you 'teach' that to your partner, or would you just do it yourself?
and for the purposes of playing - could you 'teach' that to your partner, or would you just do it yourself?
Quote by Suze43
Went out with a guy once who said it was his mission to make me cum that way... talk about making me feel a freak and also talk about piling on the pressure!! He said he had shagged countless women and i was the only one who hadnt cum when being shagged - i told him a lot of women cant but no he wouldnt have it!!
they were more than likley faking it to get it over and done with, arrogant twat :lol2:
nice one Suze
good to see you posting again! shy? :shock: Its a swinging site not a fookin knitting circle (jeez, stuck record! )
btw, for the 50 who've read but not posted yet, dont forget when constructing your informative and interesting contributions, the site times out at 24 minutes - so hit copy before submit and we'll have you disarmed of knit one pearl one in no time :lol2:
) btw, for the 50 who've read but not posted yet, dont forget when constructing your informative and interesting contributions, the site times out at 24 minutes - so hit copy before submit and we'll have you disarmed of knit one pearl one in no time :lol2:
Quote by Dirtygirlie
I often find that it has more to do with my state of relaxation though and I guess that's partly why I only play with people I've spent time building some kind of friendship with. I need to be comfortable with them or it'll never happen at all!
agree with that, 100% :thumbup:, I'm exactly the same :shock: I can do 'horny as hell/ filthy bitch' with someone I dont really know/met that night type situation....but orgasm just doesnt happen. Kinda dont need it to sometimes though
But the one thing, guaranteeed to make it happen for me is someones fingers on my clit and in my ass. Bingo... does it every time!
:twisted:
thanks DG
Bear with me on this one - I know what I want to ask, along a similar line to the Scene Replay thread... but it aint coming out right! ...but, its Friday, we're due a sex-related thread, so I'm trying ..
From previous discussions and threads here, I'm aware that there's not that many of us who can orgasm at the drop of a hat (aka through penetration alone) and something else is usually required to tip you over the edge - clit stimulation being the main one but I'm curious about any others that really hit your spot and, for want of a better word, guarantee an orgasm For me its fingers, so I'm easily pleased if they're doing it right However, I have had play partners in the past who just didn't 'get' that something very specific is needed to bring me to orgasm...like in films (and porn) where sex scenes almost always end with the fem cumming through penetration - when actually it's not really like that! (or is it? )
I've always found it incredibly difficult to orgasm through penetration alone...it can take me right to the edge...but never actually over it
, no matter how horny I am! In fact, if I'm that horny, I kinda cant orgasm at all, until it builds to the point of exploding :lol2: Is anyone else the same ? (male or female )
So I guess the actual question is... is there one particular thing that will make you orgasm? the 'when all else fails' button? can you go right to the edge but not over it without this particular thing? ..and, what is it!? Or, are you one of the lucky people who can cum for England pretty easily? and (edited to add...) Oooo, sudden thought! :idea: - is there anyone who cant orgasm without penetration?
Go on, have a bash (pun intended) :thumbup:
From previous discussions and threads here, I'm aware that there's not that many of us who can orgasm at the drop of a hat (aka through penetration alone) and something else is usually required to tip you over the edge - clit stimulation being the main one but I'm curious about any others that really hit your spot and, for want of a better word, guarantee an orgasm
For me its fingers, so I'm easily pleased if they're doing it right However, I have had play partners in the past who just didn't 'get' that something very specific is needed to bring me to orgasm...like in films (and porn) where sex scenes almost always end with the fem cumming through penetration - when actually it's not really like that! (or is it? ) I've always found it incredibly difficult to orgasm through penetration alone...it can take me right to the edge...but never actually over it
, no matter how horny I am! In fact, if I'm that horny, I kinda cant orgasm at all, until it builds to the point of exploding :lol2: Is anyone else the same ? (male or female ) So I guess the actual question is... is there one particular thing that will make you orgasm? the 'when all else fails' button? can you go right to the edge but not over it without this particular thing? ..and, what is it!? Or, are you one of the lucky people who can cum for England pretty easily? and (edited to add...) Oooo, sudden thought! :idea: - is there anyone who cant orgasm without penetration?
Go on, have a bash (pun intended
) :thumbup: This is how a Munch goes : http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/terminology/munch.html
and, its a bit like going to your Uncle-who-you-havent-seen-for-10 years' 40th Birthday party
It is purely social and to be called a Munch is open to all - singles, couples, male, female, straight, bi or gay, black, white and pink with blue spots.
People sometimes get dressed up, especially if there's a 'theme' or fancy dress, many get very drunk, some dont, usually there's dancing (as in disco) or karaoke, sometimes food....
you get the idea
and, you dont 'get taken' to one, you simply ask in the thread for an invite - organisers discretion depending :thumbup:
HTH x
and, its a bit like going to your Uncle-who-you-havent-seen-for-10 years' 40th Birthday party
It is purely social and to be called a Munch is open to all - singles, couples, male, female, straight, bi or gay, black, white and pink with blue spots.
People sometimes get dressed up, especially if there's a 'theme' or fancy dress, many get very drunk, some dont, usually there's dancing (as in disco) or karaoke, sometimes food....
you get the idea
and, you dont 'get taken' to one, you simply ask in the thread for an invite - organisers discretion depending :thumbup:
HTH x
