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13 Sep 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
My GF is a very sexy size 16, she says shes fat but i always tell her she's VOLUPTUOS
and sexy with it.
Can anyone reconmend any GOOD adult dvds That star the larger lady but it must have a good title instead of the usual poor titled films, you know the ones like "scale busting bimbos #1" ..... but dont want to watch one with such a degrading title- !

.... and does it really matter what the titles called? dunno

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I think the point here is that he's trying to reassure her and trying to alter her perception of self (maybe she's just honest and to the point?? although 'fat' is such an ugly unattractive word in itself I wouldnt use it)
Porn films with degrading titles do absolutely nothing for your confidence and self-esteem if you already have issues about size/appearance and are identifying yourself with the 'actresses' involved - 'scale busting bimbos' and such like only serve to reinforce the 'unattractiveness' idea.
I cant say I find 'scale busting bimbo's' appealing at all.........even though I am one !! biggrin

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edited to add - scale busting bimbo party anyone?? :twisted:

13 Sep 2005

Quote by treasurechest
when we first joined s/h we were chatting to a guy who asked for a pic ,we obliged , then he replied sorry you,re too big :shock: i,m glad i did,nt let this idiot put me off as we,ve had lots of fun since , but at the end of the day you can be more diplomatic ie ; sorry you,re not what i,m looking for etc ! But i must admit i did feel a bit insecure for a few days

Personally , in those circumstances I would rather here "sorry your too big " than any other mumbo jumbo that says nothing. Not everyone is into bigger women , that is a fact of life and there choice. I hate the ambiguity of "not what I'm looking for"
I agree - I actually quite respect someone if they're straight up enough to say 'Sorry, you're too big' if that's how they feel! - but that's just me!
Others are more comfortable with a 'you're not my type' ' you're not what I'm looking for' - and that's fine too. The key is saying it in a tactful manner - once , without elaborating and making it insulting - and move on.
Personal preferences again! rolleyes

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13 Sep 2005

Quote by naughtynymphos1
Hey, both Darkfire, Vix I am willing to be a student for you both. Just call. remember when I was posted to Canada, I had one out there and what a feeling

had one what? belly wank in canada? what a strange bunch of people
I'm am loving this wierd and wonderful mix of people that is SH! biggrin

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13 Sep 2005

Quote by Amber
Look, I know it does not sound attractive, but when you have a big flabby belly, like I do, you do these things....

I would be Interested to know how that works exactly??! I just can't picture it at all!!.......:undecided:
Me too - I'm obviously missing out on something good here!

13 Sep 2005

Personally, if it's a cut and paste generic type message I wouldnt bother replying, genuine or not - a simple Thanks but No Thanks.
I'm kinda of the opinion that if a person replying to my ad isnt select enough to need to write me an individual and personalised message, then I'm really not gonna be interested anyway! evil

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Even if the person replying uses a standard pre-written message, it really doesnt take much effort to edit a few lines and make it personal to me.....thought and effort is the key.
(and no I know I dont have an ad on here but I do elsewhere, and the one I had on here lasted 3 days before I gave up and removed it purely due to these cut-and-paste-really-cant-be-bothered messages!)
but hey, that's just me wink

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13 Sep 2005

No No NN you havent missed the fun!
I think we're still debating what is a true BBW and how/if its possible to have an un-exlusive party confused

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I say lets have a vodka jelly party with an emphasis on BBW and people that appreciate curves - is that a better approach?? biggrin

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13 Sep 2005

Quote by true20man
yeah defo count me in please! im a bbb i think also being 6"8 and not shy of a pound! does it bother any of the lovely ladies if i come?

6ft 8??????
helloooooooooooooooooooooo wink

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Doesnt bother me hunny, the more the merrier!
Where's AndyWolves gone??? it's not even my party and I've kinda taken over here rolleyes

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Andyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy smackbottom

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13 Sep 2005

EdinbBW wrote

Well if there's vodka jelly count me in too.

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Pete_sw

is there such a thing as a BBB? coz if there is could i apply to be one?

If there wasnt before, there is now! I like BSF's myself - Big Strapping Fellas biggrin

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, do you qualify???
and Debz4u

im size 16/18 but tall at 5ft8 am i bbw .Iim not sure.
But i wouldent label myself as one but in others eyes i proberly am ..

I wouldnt say you were BBW either luv....wanna come anyway?? biggrin

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13 Sep 2005

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12 Sep 2005

lol SF, this I've been trying to work out for a while.......i honestly dont know.....my personal oppinion is size 22 upwards, however someone else will say size 18 and someone else might say 26!
Having said that, dress sizes alone are misleading - perhaps it's more about body shape, attitude and defying stereotypical images of what other people think bigger women should look like/dress like/behave like.
I dont think there is an 'official' definition - like I said earlier, it's more how you see yourself not which box other people might put you in. If you think of yourself as a big beautiful woman, then that's what you are!
edited to ask : anyone else have views on this? is there a definition of BBW in terms of actual dress size?

12 Sep 2005

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Maybe I just need to stop being so damn silly and join in the Jellytastic Party!!!

That's exactly right hun....and with any luck it'll be vodka jelly too! :happy:
Have to say though, it's not silly is it when body image starts getting you down? but you answered your own question there in the fact that you still pull nice horny blokies and had a great time at Leicester - other people obviously see you as the attractive sexy woman you are .... now leave that damn mirror alone and get your name on AndyWolves party list! wink

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12 Sep 2005

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Hey Cuddles

Not that comfortable stating dress size on here but I most definately qualify as a BBW

Come on in hunny!!
I dont think its actual dress size that's important to be honest - this is what I mean about how do you classify what BBW is? Maybe it's more about how you see yourself??? I'm a 22 and quite happy with the BBW 'tag'.... someone else might be a 24 and reject it!
Lets not get hung up on sizes and measurements (dont mention the W word though :fuckinghell: ), lets just have fun!

12 Sep 2005

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
Mine would be Ripple Bunny

lol HLB - Ripple Bunny sounds like it'd have a market in Ann Summers!
come to think of it, Dairy Milk Willy cant be far off their current stock lines either :shock:
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AndyWolves wrote:

And Darkfire....to see a milk chocolate willy cumming.....sounds like the voice of years of experience to me hun?!!!

I did it again didn't I?? rolleyes

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12 Sep 2005

Quote by Sexysteph
I have to agree with some of what you say Postie definitely.
I certainly was not thinking of another Major Munch this year and it would have to be after Easter next year already if you look at the diary as it stands already. Yes we do need to look at different locations as well for fairness but we also have to give everyone the chance if they want to attend Munches. As soon as Munch lists are opened we have a lot of places full with the regs this limits options for newer members.
To my mind Munches are not embracing newer members to the site as fully as we could - that has been one of my hassles over the last week. Also the security and discipline at the munches is a problem. The Mods and ops should not have to enforce site rules on a social FGS - they are there to have fun and catch up like the rest of us.
I would be more than happy to run one major munch a year but to intersperse that with some mini munches or social activities like we are seeing in the North West but we do have to appreciate that Swingingheaven is growing - it does have new members daily and that Munches are not JUST for the regs. Yes it is great to see them all each time and allows us to keep in contact with each other but Newbies deserve to be a bigger part in a munch than they sometimes currently are.
Hope that makes sense
Steph

:rose: :cheers: :rose:
Where's the emoticon for 'give this woman a standing ovation' when you need it????
SexySteph you're a diamond!

12 Sep 2005

Ohhh Andy what have you done !! *shakes head* :giggle:
do you seriously know what you're letting yourself in for??? :twisted:
My advice to you my friend is go scream at someone with party organisation experience to come give you a hand.....it will have to be a private party by invite via PM though as this wouldnt classify as munch....i think...!!
but Good Luck lol :twisted:

12 Sep 2005

Quote by AndyWolves
lol @ darkfire - you could be on to something there!!!

:doh: awww dammit, should have seen that one coming! rolleyes

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12 Sep 2005

Quote by AndyWolves
to hell with the size 10 party - if thats what they want, let 'em "ave it"!
So that's three so far? Any more for any more.....or we're gonna get drunk on that bottle!
xx

Just the one bottle?? smackbottom

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size 10 or size 24 rule of entry says bring at least one bottle each!! :twisted:

12 Sep 2005

Perhaps if she's that scared, she isnt ready to try... and may be better exploring her bi side with you through talking more, discussing fantasies or watching girl on girl porn to get a better idea of what really makes her curious and what turns her on??
There are lots of bi fems here on SH who I'm sure would be happy to just chat with your wife to discuss & even alleviate her fears with no expectations or strings attached.
To be honest I think it's not so much 'chickening out' - more so that your wife just wasnt/isnt comfortable/wasnt the right person for her in the club/the chemistry wasnt right?? Maybe she feels like you're pushing her into something she likes as a fantasy but isnt ready to make a reality?
just a thought.
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hello by the way lol

12 Sep 2005

Quote by AndyWolves
well, I'm definitely game to host such party at my place....
anyone else up for this?

:evil2: I'm game
However I wonder how we'd feel if someone were to post a 'size 10 only party'.....just a thought. I'm not suggesting this be a BBW exclusive (how the hell do you 'categorise' that ? dress size? bra size? entry by Evans account card only?? lol

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12 Sep 2005

Dairy Milk Willy dunno

dunno

hey, it could work
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12 Sep 2005

Quote by LilMissGullable
I have a BBW party whenever I meet one... we play Kiss Chase, Musical Beds, Open the Parcel, Blow out the Candle, Hide the Sausage...... Lots of jelly and lashings of cream, of course.
Hours of fun.
Trouble is, I just never get to meet enough BBWs. :cry:
Welcome!

Mmmmmmmmmm....i like the sound of ur party's ;)
Mmmmmmmmm me too biggrin

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12 Sep 2005

Quote by The Dukes
Think the petrol in Prague was only about 30p a litre. It would be cheaper to buy a tanker and get it delivered. Anyone want shares.

30p a litre :shock: :cry: :cry:
count me in for shares in the SH tanker - that, or a one way ticket to Prague biggrin

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I hear there's some nice bars in Prague...nice sights...nice people...cheap fuel...
now all I have to do is pedal the car, a la Flinstones, to Heathrow. (where funnily enough there's plenty of fuel. Wrong kind but hey! :twisted: Hmmm

12 Sep 2005

Quote by JustABloke
This an an issue that really gets my goat..........
I feel like getting the car sign written with something like "How F**king small, clean and green a car do I need to be able to afford to drive in the UK?"

Ooo I like that - go on, I dare you! you'd definately get a supportive horn honk from me biggrin

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and probably everyone else you might drive past!
I fuelled up yesterday (normal routine) and the queue was ridiculous! So, I now have a full but very expensive tank of petrol and I'm afraid that once its gone I wont be queuing to get more, or paying these bloody daylight robbery prices and lining this damn Governments pockets anymore. Fuel tax evil

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Council Tax evil

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Income Tax evil

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Mal wrote:

I know it will be inconvenient, but actually I hope they are effective. I'm pissed off paying for everything the Government needs money for, just because I put fuel in my car.

I do hope it's effective. Problem with this country is we don't have a united front anymore - more of a roll over and take it mentality.
Great Britain? bollocks!
Deviated Prevert wrote:

If they want to protest, they can do what everyone else does and march through the centre of London or other major cities. I doubt they will though, as it'd very quickly show exactly how few committed supporters they have.

I agree - marches, blockades, signs on cars, horn honking....I dont know what to suggest as a viable way of making a stand, but we should, as a very pissed off nation of taxpayers get more committed and more supportive of those who are willing to do more than armchair protests. whip

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12 Sep 2005

Quote by equi-princess
Today..... its.... Ulternative Ulster by Stiff Little Fingers.......
All in all... not a good day...

ooo if you're listening to SLF it's a very good day!! Beruit Moon here and loving it :thumbup:

12 Sep 2005

Hiya Andy
Welcome wave

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12 Sep 2005

Quote by EagerSlut
..... is there one Sense that does it for you more than any other, or do you feel they're inseparable?....

I think definately inseperable -but- if I really had to choose just one which does it for me more than the others it would be hearing.
If anything can turn me from 'just horny' to 'ohhhh jesus I need it right now', its hearing another woman in the throws of sexual pleasure.....and if its the guy I can hear, well, thats the one that totally just does it!
:thumbup: for vocal men!
in edit: in fact :thumbup: :thumbup: for vocal sex!!

12 Sep 2005

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Hello and :welcome: Talismaniac
come on in!
Dark x

12 Sep 2005

it might help if you gave some more info about what it is you're looking for or what's on offer luv - single, female and under 28 doesnt really give anything away does it?
ah well, I miss your requirements by a year anyway rolleyes

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11 Sep 2005

awww poor silver shark :cry:
more than likely died 'naturally' though....age, nitrates in water, water quality intolerance etc.....and the remains of poor sharkey eaten by the others in one of their cannibalistic cleaning-up rituals lol
Mine do the same . Strange creatures fish :shock:

11 Sep 2005

Quote by sharon_2005
I like Groove Coverage also although i don't know how the woman in the vid called " 50 years and 50 days" keeps her figure though as she eats everything :giggle:

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lol - havent seen it
the other song I have on every CD player in the house (and car) is by Blackfoot called Highway Song - total classic southern rock, saw em live in August and am hooked!
(redeeming self here from the Techno confession lol) wink

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