Quote by dambuster
Funnily enough, there's a new girl at work I go for a coffee with.
In the last 2 weeks she's mentioned swinging, dogging, TVs and that she quite likes pain.
) ...allowing the thought in your head that (a) your vanilla friend has nice tits (and not just in a vanilla appreciation of nice tits sense ) and (b) not only that, you're thinking about it ! :shock:Quote by dambuster
It got me thinking about vanillas in general. Particularly from a couple's point of view, and how I would feel about inviting a single vanilla (male or female) to join HLB and me, or us getting it on with a "vanilla" couple - someone not registered on any of the sites or not part of and experienced in, the lifestyle. And I wondered if there was a consensus amongst you lot ????
about pops up the name of a couple we both know, independent of each other, who are swingers. Cue following conversation during which we both realised we were quietly admitting to knowing this couple in a not so vanilla way andthat we are both bi ......and she's standing there giving me that look :shock: :lol2: 
and the *evil laugh* one I've seen elsewhere that does ' :dry: in one go :lol2:Quote by Geminifemale
Darkfire
I didnt bang on his door in an irate manner, i treated him like an adult, asked for his time and help in resolution. I havent been disrespectful at any time. Taking the moral high ground from the outset puts me in an unassailable position later.
Im the responsible adult here and need to show that.
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... moved 2 kids in. Shes late teens, sheepish, hes late teens, cropped hair, gelled down, pasty white skin, constantly sniffing no doubt due to his sinuses rebelling at the nicotene cloud he lives in and looks shifty.
... some spotty faced kid ...
I snapped and went down stairs in my tee shirt and knix, opened the unlocked door and told the kid to fk off, he started pulling faces and i stepped out into the road and told him to run while he could, ....and he did.
Stormed up to the kids room and asked for some of his time, marched him down and asked him to identify the lump on the seat. Mumbled grunts followed, and he cleaned it off, appologied and swore it wouldnt happen again.
.... dirty little **** has pissed all over it.
Just called landlord, said i wasnt paying rent for every day the kid is in the house, explained why and he said 'OH no, we had to give him a chance but i will move him out today"
It seems the kid has a history and clearly doesnt know how to live in civilised company.
...why is he a wild animal.
...the drug dealing slag...
I treated the kid as an adult, asked for his help with "our" problem, and made it clear though superior attitude and posturing that he had to find the solution.
I had hoped he would see the importance of acting resposibly, but when he pissed on the seat this morning, i knew the lesson wasnt learned, so the stick has come out and ive evicted him.
I have my 'work' head on and so is best I give this thread a wide berth :thumbup: I dont think for one minute you should put up with the situation, but I dont think your appraoch is the best one, either. Quote by dambuster
* Someone has asked me why I'm "getting involved" and posting. In a "what the fuck's it got to do with you" (you're a straight male) sort of way.
Because I don't like to see anyone treated badly ! !
:sad: so, I dont care whether your bi, straight, couple, single, poly, TV or web fookin footed, post it and be damned! Just called landlord, said i wasnt paying rent for every day the kid is in the house, explained why and he said 'OH no, we had to give him a chance but i will move him out today"
It seems the kid has a history and clearly doesnt know how to live in civilised company.
Quote by varca
Sounds just my cuppa tea hon and I'd loved to have come if the dates didn't clash with a wedding I have been invited to. Have a few JD's for me won't you? :grin:
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However, if a couple, was of the likeminded concept of mutual connection and pleasure and they were pre-disposed to a mindset and expectation of the addition of an SBF within their given relationship as being an extension rather than an "add on" I think I would be rather more for!
But there is a fine line, in my head, between stepping away and giving them space and being 'discarded' after play. Or do I have completely the wrong idea about swinging?
As an afterthought, I find it very interesting that the thread where this was originaly posted has gone a very different way.
*Her*
Quote by Marya_Northeast
Swinging with vanillas? Not likely but no impossible.
I much prefer this environment even though i seem to actually have less chance of a shag than if I tried to pull on "the outside".
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*Now leave me alone. I've got a thread about fucking vanillas and the single swinger to write
I just think the two of them would have been better off meeting without me....
I just don't know what I was supposed to be there for? Did they just want my house to use? Did he use me to lure her? did she use me to make herself feel more safe and secure with him?
Quote by dambuster
So, single bi-fems and couples especially ( but anyone can answer this!) what IS the role of the single bi-fem?
(It does make sense to me, honest!) 
but I'm sure Scotland heard much the same comments when the ban was introduced up there and it ammounted to ..well...not much at all, people just comply and adapt. Hmmmm To me, this is one stop from prostitution without the money passing hands
so what do they want from meeting a single? ..... Quote by hornyinslough
The ultimate a few weeks ago was one guy tapped me on the arm so I looked up and he pointed to a bed without speaking :shock:
' in response to the thread title..... :twisted: plus some folk dont have them, they simply meet someone they click with and it moves from there... but there's also the 'just want to play with a bifem, any bifem will do' type approach...I bet we dont get any posts from that camp although I'd like to see people post honest responses and not what they think we want to hear 
) Quote by little gem
I've seen a fair amount of single bifemales treat other people dreadfully too by account of their supposed 'status'...
...because it's that, or they simply stop playing with couples/ chamge their playing rules beyond recognition or worse, stop playing altogether, and then we all lose out! Quote by sexkittenhfx
i do look forward to getting back from work this evening and seeing some more responses, nice one darkfire :thumbup:
and so far there's been some excellent contributions :thumbup: I think sometimes we all need a gentle reminder of what's going on in the swinging world and how the way we do things affects others. but, be angry all the same if that's how it makes you feel There 's a real person behind the thread regardless of who posted it , so, your contributions please! What is the role of the SBF? 
