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3 Jul 2006

Quote by Happy Cats

jesus christ, and here's little 'ol me having kittens over the security of mostly well-known members at my crappity little munch :shock:

Well, when I pmmed you about it, you said it was 2 grand a ticket!
yeah I know hun, but it is you we're talking about dunno

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3 Jul 2006

i'm sorry, but someone's gonna have to say it and it may as well be me. Tania you've been to 1 social (that you incorrectly termed a Munch) and you're suddenly wanting to organise a swingers cruise consisting of 7-11 people who have never met (cos I really dont see how any of the different groups of friends here all have members who can afford 3 grand per person) ... you dont see safety as a problem...and suddenly you're in a position to organise something of this magnitude, and total cost (of approx 33 thousand pounds) . :shock:
jesus christ, and here's little 'ol me having kittens over the security of mostly well-known members at my first attempt crappity little munch :shock:

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3 Jul 2006

Quote by Sharif
Thats how i would read it because the "fuckfest" is afterwards and not during the meet.

but, my point is there may be people there who are new, who havent experienced a social before, who hear us lot banging on about socials being no play relaxed environments with no pressure etc - who then turn up expecting exactly that - and then find (especially if its advertised seperately/ privately) that its actually a pre-empt for a fuck fest? me, i'd be mortified, especially if I'd recommended someone who's finding their feet, to attend - like we do on a daily basis here.
and my second point - just how 'just social' is the other attendee's mindset at such a 'function'? Its a recipe for disaster imho. We see it on the forum and chatroom everyday - 'oh she's on cam, she's up for a show'.....'oh, she's a swinger on a swingers site, so she must be up for a shag' mentality. I really dont see how people (and it only takes 1) at a social, real life face to face who are there for drinks before the fuckfest are any different. dunno

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3 Jul 2006

ok, let me get this straight.
a meet for drinks in a pub before everyone moves on to a private house party (aka a "fuckfest" ) is a social (aka no play) ?
and a 'function' in a private venue with private facilities with many people dressed to a 'theme' or provocative & sexy and snogging each other hello is a Social ? dunno

i'm changing my name to blonde, cos I still dont get it.
sorry dunno

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3 Jul 2006

which category does 'social' that's actually a pre-party meet fall into then? dunno

and what should a newbie expect on arrival? dunno

or a social that's actually a Munch in all but name but cant be called that becuase it's perhaps advertised elsewhere? but the venue is an adequate Munch venue with seperate facilities...... but its billed as a social..... but the dress is Munch style...... but its still a social.....where people are greeted with the SH Munch 'handshake'? ... and in walk a newbie couple who had this idea in their head that it was a 'social' dunno

I see what you're saying Shireen, but it really isnt that cut and dry anymore.

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3 Jul 2006

Quote by mike48
It's easy really......
Munch - Large number of people requiring a hired venue, open to all site members NO PLAY
Social - Smaller numbers where a pub is adequate, non members (but not banned members) allowed, also includes the ability to say no to anyone they dont want to come NO PLAY
Parties - Fuckfest??
See dead simple :smug:

To encompass so much in so few word has to be pure genius
worship

Isn't it so true to keep it so simple
AND I'm sober
it would be nice to keep it simple - then it would all be easy peasy lemon sqeezy. But it isnt.
:arrow: we have Munches.
:arrow: we have Munches that were socials but upgraded
:arrow: we have Munches that arn't really munches
:arrow: we have Non-wedding non munch munches
:arrow: we have virtual not real wedding attempted munches
:arrow: we have Newbie Munches
:arrow: we have Mini-Munches
:arrow: we have Munches that cant be called Munches because they're advertised elsewhere, therfore have become 'socials'
:arrow: we have socials that are Socials
:arrow: we have 'socials' that are pre-party/pre gang-bang meets
:arrow: we have 'socials' that are chatroom exclusive
:arrow: we have 'socials' that range from BBQ's at people's houses to ice-skating and curry nights
:arrow: we have 'socials' that are for freinds only and 'socials' that lead on to club visits.
:arrow: we have house parties, and weekend parties, and camping parties, and gang bang parties, birthday parties, moving-in parties, dogging BBq's, BBW socials, Black on white socials, parties by pm invite only........

: confused yet?

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3 Jul 2006

Quote by davidandtracy
Thanks all............... im sure we will get a bi females interest sooner or later from this site....
Thanks A Billion !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

you will, because you're sticking with it and are not deterred at the first hurdle.
:thumbup:

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3 Jul 2006

I know we dont do cross-postings, but, if I may, for a moment bring your attention to this, http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/82305.html to illustrate, in part, the need for this thread.
As far as I'm aware, there has always been a 'certain way of doing things' - the known and tried & tested way, which most folk understand, know where they stand, are clear in what to expect, what is acceptable dress & what isnt, what is appropriate behaviour and what isnt , yadda yadda ... and is accepted by the majority as the way things are done around here, and passed on through the swinging gene tree (friend to freind, mentor to mentee, old-hands & those who've been round the block to newbies. That's how it works.
We havent had chatroom exclusive events, excessive charges, 'socials' that are advertised in the ads section, colour-coordinated get togethers, Munches where it doesnt matter if you've been here 5 years or 5 minutes, or people talking about 'Munches' that were actually parties. There's no wonder the 'social' scene is hitting more problems than ever before in terms of number of people not turning up when push comes to shove, because there's so much bloody confusion over what the fuck people are putting their name to, and more importantly turning up to. And it needs sorting. IMHO.

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3 Jul 2006

Hiya Jock

, you made it then wink

you'll be just fine here luv, just grab a brew / beer and join in :thumbup:
DarkFIRE x lol

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3 Jul 2006

just my personal oppinion, but if someone isnt satisfied with a face pic/ clothed body pic and presses for more, then I'm afraid its a no no for me. I dont have pics on profile because i like the anonimity - but i'll give them out on request - but never immediately. Similarly, if the pics arnt reciprocated, its a no no. I never send boob/gynae pics either - face and personality are enough to tell me if i'm interested, the rest comes from a social meet, and the kind of people i'm attracted to are usually of the same mindset. If someone cant make thier mind up without seeing my boobs/ pussy in a picture then they're not the sort of people I'd meet anyway, ya know wink

Thats just me though. Most people see me at socials and stuff anyway - its only if i'm contacted through the ads (which is rare now biggrin

) that I find this little hurdle dunno

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3 Jul 2006

good luck

http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/81382.html

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3 Jul 2006

Quote by Jambo69
Also can i enquire as to at what point sending someone an email address is acceptable, if someone as contacted you through the system and you respond can you then put in a email address or will it still be stripped out? does it make a difference if they or yourself are full members? I'm a full andextra member.

Hi Jambo

aside from the avatar pic, I cant help you with the photo ads order/date thing but with regard to your question above, if someone has replied to your ad via the system here (by private message - PM) there is no problem at all with you then replying to their message and giving your email addy. Pm's dont get 'filtered'. The issue with email adrresses is NOT to put them (or mobile numbers, or try to hide addy's in the ad text - cos that's naughty!) . As a full paid member you can reply to ads/ pm's no problem, its those who havent got full membership who usually try the hidden email stunt rolleyes

you give your email address in private, when you feel comfortable doing so wink

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2 Jul 2006

Quote by sheddy

Both of those options involve paying....
shes a student and so wouldnt pay to have it upgraded..
And anyways.... this is my account.. not hers.. had it long before i met her

Er so as it's a pay site for new members now, she should be excused paying because she's skint dunno

more like when it suits HB to be here as a single male it aint gonna cost him nowt to 'get rid' of the baggage.

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2 Jul 2006

so, you're not willing to share it with her, cos you were here first??

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2 Jul 2006

>>>> runs off to this well known auction site to stick a winning high bid on this item , cos i'm nice like that :twisted:
novelty value of something designed to save lives in Northern Ireland? not sure i can see the fun in it to be honest, but hey, if you feel the need

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2 Jul 2006

more than likley becuase the ad links to a fem, but the ad was written by you, and, if i read it correctly asks that people contact via you, under another username, not that particular ad :shock: how many accounts do you need?
female as bait type thing dunno

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2 Jul 2006

the sunshine is out, hormones are raging ... hence people dont bother reading the AUP, nor do they have any concern for their own or others safety. Common sense goes out the window and the quick shag brigade are out in force rolleyes

there's no conspiracy, its just numpty season
oh goody :twisted:

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2 Jul 2006

a fun evening out at a fun restaurant ? dunno

can you be a bit more specific please so folks know what to expect - ie: is this a purely social 'function' ?
'sense of fun & willing to dress up in school uniform' doesnt strike me as being an evening at the Ivy, so, what's the score?

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2 Jul 2006

Quote by Freckledbird
My fear is snakes, i can't stand them and can't even watch them on tele. Anyone else feel like that?

Noooo, snakes are lovely - we have two corn snakes biggrin

I've slept with a snake!! wink

Slept?

i too, just did the ' :shock: ' thing lol

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2 Jul 2006

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2 Jul 2006

press the quote button (at the top edge of theor post) wink

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2 Jul 2006

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2 Jul 2006

i dunno luv, what do you think?

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2 Jul 2006

what about you, are you a watery person or an icing person? rolleyes

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1 Jul 2006

Quote by sexkittenhfx
I think I must be really shallow..... It wouldn't matter how much I liked their personality, if I didn't fancy them looks wise I couldn't shag them....
I have tried it once and it was a disaster..... My body just didn't want to play...

i completely agree, i also tried it once and felt the same.....lovely guy he was, we got on really well, i think i thought i would feel differently when it came down to it, but i didnt........i just didnt fancy him, regardless of how much i liked him as a person dunno

shallow, or just plain straight-up and honest? i'm with you both on this one.

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1 Jul 2006

i need banning off this bloody forum redface

, i'm meant to be at the BBQ in an hour - i'm not even dressed yet, havent sorted what i'm wearing, have the weekly shop to do and havent done me bits redface

stop posting interesting stuff please or i'll never fookin get there today lol

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1 Jul 2006

there's a difference between bantering/ being friendly/chatting on msn, and shagging???? dunno

i can be the best of friends with someone, be really close, chat on msn everyday etc - but if I dont fancy them , well, I dont fancy them. The cruelest thing is if you really get on with someone, you build up a pic in your head of what they're like/look like , and the reality is very different - and you drop back down to earth with a bump, usually on your ass.

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1 Jul 2006

:thumbup: Curvy - but if ya read the last 9 pages you'll find your oppinion isnt that far out from what others have said ! wink

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1 Jul 2006

Quote by winchwench
In Dammys defence here- he did say ugly, NOT fat.
And it sure as hell doesn't follow that "fat birds" are ugly birds!

no of course it doesnt luv, I think you got the wrong end of my 'wooden spooning' lol

- my comments were aimed at those who will (on here) say things like 'its the person inside that counts' - because it scores brownie points, seen as 'nice', the 'acceptable' thing to say - and often is done to 'get in people's 'good books''. Some people say it genuinely - some dont. Some will say it here a create the idea that looks/ body dont matter as long as the personality is there - but when it comes down to it the intention is to offend the less people as possible (thus increasing their chances of a shag). In real life, given a choice between their fantasy woman and the fat/ugly bird with a great personality, for the purposes of sex, which one would most people choose?
I know it sounds blunt, but this irritates the crap outta me. I dont believe for one minute that its all about personality - yes, its about the person as a whole, but I'm not swallowing that 'well she's no oil painting but she's so warm and bubbly' claptrap - similarly as does the 'well you dont look at the mantlepiece when you're stoking the fire' attitude .

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1 Jul 2006

Quote by Sarah
Ok no matter what they are called,
I will always try to attend, as long as:-
... I know I will be safe from gate crashers etc, and know what 'type' of event it is...........
i.e. just drinks and a meal, or a swinging party, or bowling, ice skating etc.........so I know what to expect or join in with.

but isnt that exactly the point Sarah? how can you know what to expect when what means one thing to someone people obviously means something different to others?
how do you know the venue is safe from gatecrashers when you dont have a clue who the majority of people are who're attending? how can you guarantee safety in a venue that's open to vanillas? or when the location is compromised somewhere in the thread? etc dunno

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