Quote by cockslut
there seems to be a common denominator appearing through this thread etc,that theres a divide between forum,/ ads and chatroom users,
its been mentioned people who use the ads section are ungenuine,people in the chatrooms are the quick shag bridgade and the people in the forum are the genuine swingers, perhaps a poll is needed to find if this is correct, surely you're not trying to impose an ads / a forum all swinging heaven has given us the 3 mediums to find what we are all searching for.

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in my mind there's a difference bewteen a 'social' and a mini munch

as there is between a social and pre fuckfest drinkies in a pub.

I personally have a problem with something that's billed as a 'social' but the organiser has an ad running on the same day, in the ads section welcoming any single blokes, bi guys and TV's to come along to the social.

But if the correct terminology was used and clarity given in the first posts, we wouldnt even need to, imo.

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...If it wasn't handled right then yeah it could make the females feel like a piece of meat...
If the 2 guys was talking and said... "tell you what, you have my woman tonight and we will have yours tomorrow" ....
Shaz x

Quote by HornyLittleBlonde
David & Tracy
I can understand your desire to find a Bi Female, but try and understand what the Bi females are looking for as well.
Celestria has given you a link to a very inciteful post and it's worth reading if you have the time.
As another member who joined as a Single Bi Fem (or SBF) I'll give you an idea of how I used to use this site. Yes this is only my opinion and I fully accept this does not apply to everyone.
In the beginning I found that as soon as people saw my SBF label they would pm me not knowing anything about me or caring about my looks/personality just because I was "the ellusive SBF".
I was also nervous and safety conscious of meeting people on my own.
I then got into the social/munch side of the site and found this suited me more as I'm a much better judge of character in person than on line and I felt I was meeting people in a safe environment.
What I was able to see when I met people was how they would talk to me half interested and then ask who I was with. When I said I was single all of a sudden there's a spark in their eye and they ask "Are you Bi".
All of a sudden they're handing off my every word like I'm thw most interesting person in the universe. I have to say I found it extremely off putting and wouldn't shag them if my life depended on it.
Now the other thing I always do if someone contacts me is:
Check out their profile
Check out the pics
Check out the ads
Check out their posts
You seem like a really nice couple, put bearing in mind your time on the site and the posts you've made regarding SBFs. Some of them are practically ads. You could easily be pigeon holed into the "we want an SBF now - anyone will do" category and to many of the girly's it's extremely off putting.
Having said all that I sincerely hope you find what you're looking for :thumbup:

Quote by Steve_Mids
Darkfire, I've pulled up my own social because I'm beginning to think this discussion isn't actually achieving anything

The XXXXX social
Note: This social already advertised at another location.... (therefore its a social)
To be held in a pub close to central Bristol ...We will have use of a private function room which cannot be seen from the public areas but must use the bar in the main pub for drinks. Toilets are also shared with the main bar but are directly outside of the function room so you do not have to cross the public area. Please use your common sense to dress appropriately for the venue. (its a social)
Although this is classed as social we intend to make this as much of a mini Munch atmosphere as possible. (and here's where the problem starts)

hi XXXX would love to attend the mini munch

see what I mean ?

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Yeah I can see how that could be construed! I could be the mysterious stranger with the dark past.....

(dont worry I was away at university!)

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Hiya,
I'd love to come if there is room for me........
Foxy

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Has anyone else noticed an unusually high number of silly posts today - locations, phone numbers, email addresses and general tosh?

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Quote by Tania
...If you read back to my first post on this thread, I asked for ideas about a possible swinging cruise. It is all in the conception stage, still; it is not even down on the planning board....
You have rightly mentioned that the people would have to know each other and feel confident with each other. Well, we have the time to get to know each other, I believe....
...As for guaranteed action, I am sorry, nothing in this life is guaranteed, except death and taxes.....
aside from anything else - the point you're missing here is that you're planning a 'swingers cruise' to which people need to pay a guestimate figure of 3 grand. I might be wrong, but I'd assume people would want thier money's worth. There will be a certain expectation, 11 people on a boat that's been marketed as a swingers cruise is not going to be a social event.
And true, I have only been to one social so far but I think it is irrelevant. It is like telling a couple about to get married that they have not attended many weddings themselves, therefore they are not qualified to organise their own and cannot hope for success under the circumstances...
True Tania, I'll give you that - but a swingers cruise when only a couple of weeks ago you were just dipping your toe into the swinging scene??
So please, let us stick to constructive criticism, if criticism be necessary. I wanted ideas, input, advice, help. Telling me it cannot happen is not helping me.
You posted your idea- you'll get responses - both negative and positive. Its a forum, you cant control that like its a boardroom meeting. People have opinions, and will give them. Its the nature of the beast. Sorry.

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