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Darkfire
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 50
0 miles · Greater London

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lol lol I thought everybody knew that already lol lol
I meant - I'll do them if asked by friends rather than going to a shop where its all impersonal & overcharged wink Florists charge sooo much money for the obligatory things like coffin sprays when usually folk have got enough on trying to sort out the funeral costs etc, so, its my way of doing my bit to help a mate when they need it, as daft as its sounds wink, and if its a friend or someone close to me who has died,( and there's been a fair few) doing the arrangements is my way of channelling grief dunno
but anyway - back to favorite flowers wink
hiya Goose
yeah, i usually do that but forgot :doh:
i give up with the pm box tonight, its just not happening. Normal service resumes... well, when admin stop tweeking poke
oh, and have you noticed the new fangled 'add a pic' extra thingy thats appeared in the pm box???- or has it been there months and i've faffed about with photobucket just for the hell of it? dunno lol
I cant reply to pm's because things are so slow, i've just wrote a big long reply, hit send, and the bloody site timed out between typing and it being delivered - so, for those who've sent me a pm, i'm not ignorant honest - just struggling. I'll reply asap.
in edit: ooooo, so, i can post OK just not pm dunno
I love flowers, couldnt pick a favorite, well yeah I could actually, orchids. :shock: although I love Calla lillies & white roses too. :shock:
My hobby, believe it or not (and most of you wont lol ) is flower arranging and I do wedding flowers/ funeral arrangements for friends redface redface
the one's i like in the house best are sweet peas, but prefer to see flowers generally stil growing in the garden.
Oi! that's my house! :shock:
only kiddin (i wish it was) lol - but get rid of the pics, the house is identifiable so you're effectively giving the location away :doh:
Quote by Tania
Yes, been there, was subjected to that and hated myself for it afterwards. Forcing orgasms is so cold compared with being made love to regardless of the outcome.
Forcing an orgasm out of a girl is like forcing her to get drunk - where is the fun in that?
dunno

Just my perspective, of course, but... being made love to? :scared: ..... in the swinging scene?? :scared: sod that . (but maybe its a 'terminology' problem again????dunno)
and,
Fun?? comes from playing with someone you know, trust and knows you & your body inside out and is able (because you allow him) to have that level of sexual power over you dunno
its 'fun' because you've taught him/ learnt together which buttons to press and how dunno
Tania , when you speak of being 'subjected to' & hating yourself for it, I really dont think we're talking about the same thing here.
I'm gonna come back to this when I can word it in an understandable way lol - I know what I'm on about but explaining it here is a bit more of a challenge than I thought :doh:
Quote by essex34m
and i just got into server 3, does that mean the forums will stagnate for the afternoon?

I certainly bloody hope not, everyone knows the Forum is the place to be - hence why we're always here when the chatroom goes tits up and you lot always come running back 'home' to moan about it
>>>hands out the kleenex
flipa
Quote by Kiss_Me
Age descrimination comes in all forms... I saw an advert I really liked the other day and messaged the lady who's ad it was. She PM'd me back to say she wasn't interested in me because of our age difference!! I am 27 and she is 38!! This wouldn't be so annoying apart from the fact that that is the age of my gf!! I comfort myself with knowing that it's definitely her loss!

ooooo now THAT sounds familiar poke
innocent (dont mind me, private joke)
Quote by Sarah
Travelodges:- got met at 2am or so, (location:- after the barell dancing lol) by the night manager and a clip board, if you didn't have the right number of people with you, the room card thingy, and match his list, you weren't coming in.............. :shock:
Some folk that night, went in and out of the hotel about 6 times trying to get everyone back in, dropping room cards out of windows.........etc

:gagged: innocent rotflmao
Quote by essex34m
... as much as i feel there is a place for the darkfire threads (aka pink and fluffy)...

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i refuse to be associated with such things, wash your mouth out with soap young man evil
actually, i think some people might do just that - drop in for a nosey. I've been known to frequent the bareback room for 'entertainment value' and kinda sit there a bit chin on floor at some of the conversations taking place :shock: lol
The danger is when 'nosey' turns to curiosity and some bright spark decides that meeting a stranger from the chatrooms to 'have a go' is a good idea :scared: or worse, can be 'talked into' it.
To be honest when this thread first started, within a couple of posts I was a bit like 'well, why the hell are we discussing the very same subject in here' - but , forum being what it is, it's discussion not opportunity or putting 'this is perfectly acceptable chit chat / activity between people who have no idea who they're talking to / dealing with' ideas in people's heads, I hope.
how's about I throw another one into the discussion, give it a little... direction?
Let's be clear though that the majority do not like the term ' fantasy' - it gives a perception that we're talking about forced, non consentual abuse, and I think we've established that those who are willing to admit such fantasies and some having played them out all agree that it really isnt like that, and that safe loss of control play can really only be done between known and trusted partners....
so, what about the concept of 'forced orgasm'?
one of the areas of loss of control play that fascinates me is how, particularly within the Dom/sub scene, orgasm can be 'forced' - usually on here we talk of being relaxed with a partner and bringing each other to orgasm as a mutually pleasurable thing, where the build up is usually slow and steady and the climax of 'events'.....
i've experimented in the past with someone who, quite literally, could 'make' me orgasm at will - even if my head said No not yet, my body gave in first. A (by consent, of course) 'you are going to cum for me wether you like it or not and I'm gonna make you do it ' type role play/ loss of control play.
Usually we can control orgasm (picturing something in your head to put you off, move slightly, 'sqeeze in' , whatever) most people (i think) usually cum if they 'allow' the build up, are ready for it, need the release etc - but its as much controlled by our heads as the physical feeling.....
so, i'm interested to see if anyone else has heard of it, done it, fantasised about it (or maybe you'll all think i'm completely off my trolley lol loon) not sure i've explained what i mean too well though dunno
I think I'm having a blonde day, but what does 'navel-gazing' mean ? dunno lol
*Dark starts writing a new book on 'forum terms' * lol
what's 'starburst mode'? dunno
and , although it's going round in circles a tad now, as threads go, this is probably one of the most interesting, albeit highly emotive, sensible adult discussions we've had for a good while - lots of oppinion without false 'nicey niceyness'. Its a shame some more of the guys havent contributed, but hey, you cant have it all :thumbup:
i cant believe i'm actually trawling the ads section :shock:
fook me there's some wierd folk out there :eek:
publish and be damned sweetie
how else does the forum (in terms of threads & contributions) survive? dunno
me, I often sit here, typing a 2 page rant/ oppinion/ whatever - and yes, sometimes the moment has gone by the time it comes to hitting the submit button - sometimes I'll delete it, other times i'll edit it so its more relevant to the last reply posted, and sometimes I hit submit and think bollox, I have something to say and i'm saying it lol Rightly or wrongly.
If you've spent time and effort (or steam) typing a post, it means you have a contribution to make! how else do threads run for pages and pages, or several days? how else do we get discussion, different oppinions, other's viewpoints and equally, to know what makes us individual, makes us tick, makes us laugh, ponder or seething mad?
Quote by neilinleeds
if someone is being evasive, and your instinct is telling you something isn't quite right, your instincts are probably right! ;)
there's no easy way to tell unfortunately. there are still some who seem to think deception is a way forward! rolleyes gut instinct is always the best guide?
neil x x x ;)

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Quote by Kiss_Me
..one or the other gets jealous of their partner and the attention they may be getting..

I totally understand that situation! I have found it hard to relax and go with the flow for that very same reason! rolleyes
I've had the same - in reverse confused
with couples, my attention is predominantly with the fem, and I state that quite clearly - but to be honest I've had the majority of the few meets I have arranged cancelled, or there's been 'issues', because I'm not particularly bothered about full swap with the bloke so he tends to get a bit jealous, or just decides I'm not for them, or thinks I might come round to the idea once I'm at their house or sommat ( rolleyes ) dunno
having said that, like Neil, I'll almost always let the bloke lead things. I like him to be involved in that way. He knows his partner & what she likes & when, so I'm happy to take my cues from him - as long as I feel that she's fine with it too. There's just nothing worse than that feeling (usually from her lack of enthusiasm lol ) that says 'she's just going along with this to please him, stop it right now' :scared:
The other 'thing' that makes me 'wobble' a bit when it comes to playing with couples is the fact they do communicate allthe time - and afterwards. Meaning, they discuss 'it' and you. As a single, you often get pushed out of that bit, imo.
why not talk to them again luv before actually going to this meet not knowing what to expect? I'm concerned about this whole DP / full on 3some assumption that's going on , becuase there's nothing to suggest that in your post, other than you've been invited to join them dunno
chances are, if you're nervous and unsure of what's gonna happen - and more importanly, what's not going to happen, you'll bottle it confused or you go steaming in like a bull in a china shop :shock:
'hubby present' may just mean that he'll be there for her 'security' and watch, or it may mean you'll have the opportunity for DP or whatever else they want to share with you - but clarify it first so you know where you stand and importantly everyone is comfortable.
Congrats though! :thumbup:
of course biggrin :twisted:
brucie sweetheart, what's workable for you? :rascal:
Quote by Dollyminx
We have a similar problem... and people think you're being one big tease and a no show because you have to suggest dates weeks..months even ahead!

have I pm'd you in a previous life?? lol
thanks Dolly, at least I know I'm not on my own! lol
I'm here wave
you havent started without me, have you? give me a minute while I lube up and adjust the straps, they're really starting to chafe you know confused wink
dunno dunno
but reluctance to speak up or admit such fantasies might have something to do with it. Funny how there's not been one bloke post yet along those lines.... - its not the most socially acceptable of fantasies is it!
can you imagine what would happen if someone came into the thread and mis-worded his 'i have fantasies about a woman' (and yes, I know - that was deliberately mis-worded to make my point wink )
I know I have typed out and re-read/ edited my posts in here so many times, because it is so emotive and it only takes one misunderstanding to light the fire
Quote by westerross
So I'm going on imagination here and I did wonder whether enjoying being a is entirely healthy. .

good point TE
this is the big grey area for me, and the main reason I'll say over and over again that this has to be with someone yuo know and trust. I dislike the chatroom idea because it is, imo, wide open to people (and in this sense I mean blokes) who enjoy taking control from strangers, with or without consent. There is always a chance that one of them enjoys, in the sinister sense, the idea of ' '. Lets face it, there's plenty of people who fit into the quick shag brigade category, we're not naive enough to think there arn't other 'types' of people out there! I assume that's what others have meant earlier in the thread by sending out mixed messages over loss of control fantasy.
I would have serious concerns about anyone who pm'd me as a result of this thread wanting to play out the scenario, but i have no concerns about the person I've actually experimented with this with dunno