What charity appeals or appeals for sponsorship gets you to put your hands in your pockets?
When you see dying African kids does that get you donating or do you think, "well, however much we've given to Africa over the years nothings changed".
If you see an appeal for wild animals going extinct do you write a cheque or think "well, it's only an animal".
For us, appeals for UK based charities get much more attention and support than those to help people abroad, but we have supported several appeals to help nature or wildlife round the world.
Are baby Elephants and Tigers more photogenic than human babies hence tug on heartstrings more? Maybe you think that you'd give money to provide contraceptives to Africans rather than any other aid.
So over to you, what sort of charity do you support and why?
John & Shel
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Geordiecpl2001
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Bisexual Female, 63
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Like many people we've gone to clubs, often travelling a long way, to find very few people in them.
Once we were the only people in a club on a Friday night at 10pm, then another couple came in, we got chatting to them, then had a great time with them in a playroom, so in the end it was well worth it. It's not how many people are in a club, but finding the RIGHT people in a club !!
In fact, if we know the club is having a special party night and its going to be packed we don't expect much sexual fun, as the private playrooms will be full all night and an orgy room is not really our scene. So we go to party nights to expect a "party" with a sexual atmosphere.
John & Shel
Once we were the only people in a club on a Friday night at 10pm, then another couple came in, we got chatting to them, then had a great time with them in a playroom, so in the end it was well worth it. It's not how many people are in a club, but finding the RIGHT people in a club !!
In fact, if we know the club is having a special party night and its going to be packed we don't expect much sexual fun, as the private playrooms will be full all night and an orgy room is not really our scene. So we go to party nights to expect a "party" with a sexual atmosphere.
John & Shel
We always go last week of June, 7 years on the trot now. Most popular weeks for Brits are last two of June / first week of July.
As to where to stay, it ranges from tents to luxury hotels, with everything in between. Question you need to ask is "how much do I want to pay for accomodation"? You also need to decide where you flying to and from. If you decide those two questions drop us a pm and we can help with specific advice.
No accomodation includes food. On resort there are supermarkets and takeaways right up to great restaurants. Expect to pay E5 per pint at least, wine at least E3 per glass in pubs, clubs more expensive. But booze quite cheap in the shops.
Expect lots of nudes during the day, sex on the swingers beach, outrageous sexy women at night and 6 sex clubs on resort.
And REALLY expect not to want to leave.
John & Shel
As to where to stay, it ranges from tents to luxury hotels, with everything in between. Question you need to ask is "how much do I want to pay for accomodation"? You also need to decide where you flying to and from. If you decide those two questions drop us a pm and we can help with specific advice.
No accomodation includes food. On resort there are supermarkets and takeaways right up to great restaurants. Expect to pay E5 per pint at least, wine at least E3 per glass in pubs, clubs more expensive. But booze quite cheap in the shops.
Expect lots of nudes during the day, sex on the swingers beach, outrageous sexy women at night and 6 sex clubs on resort.
And REALLY expect not to want to leave.
John & Shel
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Hello Peeps,
We've just joined SH, admittedly at a bad time with Xmas and all. But we are rather surprised to find that there are so many people on the site who have barely filled in any information about themselves, and then expect to become a Friend. It's as if just existing were enough.
I think most genuine people on here would agree with the above, if fact on our profile we make reference to it, asking people to have some info on their profile before contacting us.
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I'm also rather nonplussed by the number of people who seem to want people with our profile type to contact them, yet when we do, no reply is forthcoming. If nothing else its bad manners not to acknowledge, even with a polite 'no thanks'
Can anybody tell me if this is par for the course, or is it just a bad time we have chosen to join?
This can be a few reasons, maybe they have not logged in for a while hence they have not read your message, maybe their circumstances have changed and now don't look for the same as they did. It is annoying when you go to the effort of finding a profile which looks like a good match, write the messgae then hear...............nothing, but it happens to all of us !!
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It's a bit dispiriting as we are totally new to the scene and hoped there may be some 'espirit du corps' about the place.
There is a "espirit du corps" within the genuine people on here, but you've got to get to know people either at clubs, or socials, there is no magic door marked "genuine swingers this way please", but there are some great people on here, just stick with it for a while.
John & Shel
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please may I go down on the list......oh and PFhorny as DJ...i will vote for that... as I know he will play Tiffany !!!!
Think we need to get a response from P to sort this first, lol. He also plays Wham and Rod Stewart, so be warned, lol.
First sensible record I ever bought was Tiffany, love Wham and Rod Stewart as well.
Can you put me down provisionally please and I'll start saving some pennies!
Regards
Harry Jones
Be good to see you Harry !!!
Xtasia, any chance of you getting a good rate on the hotel rooms next door? We'd be there Sat and Sunday nights.
John & Shel
All being well, we'll be at ClubF in Durham on NYE, if it's like last year it'll be pretty busy, lots of drinking (well they are mostly Geordies) some food and a few people in the playrooms and wet area, maybe a few in the dungeon.
I'll have the car, so not be drinking apart from low alcohol, but the one thing I don't like, maybe cos I'm not drunk, is random strangers wanting to kiss, cuddle and be your new best friend, just cos it's midnight on 31st Dec. !!! Hey, it's OK to shag them, but please don't slobber and get sentimental over us !!
John & Shel
I'll have the car, so not be drinking apart from low alcohol, but the one thing I don't like, maybe cos I'm not drunk, is random strangers wanting to kiss, cuddle and be your new best friend, just cos it's midnight on 31st Dec. !!! Hey, it's OK to shag them, but please don't slobber and get sentimental over us !!
John & Shel
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can be very you want to make it cheaper or are looking to try for first time and are not sure if you can take `full on`sex all day and night look at marseillon is the same beach and you can walk in to the swinging part of town along the beach in 15 are a couple of places that do static bungalows (pvc) with direct access to beach at half cost of cap
good luck
bonafide
Shel has never fancied trying to walk a mile of beach on an evening in high heels, or indeed walking back along the beach in the pitch black.
J & S
We loved the foam party as you know.
Would the luminous party be clothed or naked? If naked then bums / tits painted would work, but if it were clothed maybe be better with glow bands or glow stars which self adhesive to clothing.
The worry about the oil party might be an adverse effect on condoms.
What about a ball pool such as kids play in? Nice soft balls required but not messy like any wet stuff.
Or, some bales of hay, fancy a roll in the hay.
J & S
Would the luminous party be clothed or naked? If naked then bums / tits painted would work, but if it were clothed maybe be better with glow bands or glow stars which self adhesive to clothing.
The worry about the oil party might be an adverse effect on condoms.
What about a ball pool such as kids play in? Nice soft balls required but not messy like any wet stuff.
Or, some bales of hay, fancy a roll in the hay.
J & S
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I used to love xtasia - I'm in Yorkshire but have been going to chameleons for years on the Friday night, a group of us always went to xtasia on the sat night generally the sdc nite for a change - xtasia was more dancy nightclub vibe chams isn't. It would take a great deal for me to step foot in the place now, my guy and the rest of the group all think the same. This is why: when they shut the showers I was disgusted and asked if this was permanent, I like to clean after sex with my own man never mind another swinger and i said this to the owner at the time, their response was - use a wet wipe and the tone of voice was like, tough showers are shut end of. The loft - hot, it stunk rotten, cramped and how any woman can have sex up there and not faint from heat stoke is beyond me and you were never allowed to take a drink up there. My opinion - worst playing rooms ever. No lockable rooms. You can't get 5 mins private time to lay and chillax with your own man or friends without getting hounded and I can handle myself well (been round most clubs in the uk as a single fem for 10 years and 5 years as a couple. So I am not easily intimated so if I do feel intimated it's not good and you can kinda tell the other women there at the time feel the same. No means no and to me that rule in xtasia went out of the window a long time ago and to me that is the biggest problem because it's woman who decide not men, no women no club.
The dj was never at his stand it was the same songs every time in the same order practically and many many times never knew or had the number one single in the charts at the time. When the dance floor eventually got some people up dancing and the vibe going, he would put a slow song on put the curtain down and empty a full dance floor, I mean wtf is that all about.
No lockers - we had to pay £25 deposit to use a locker, for us it would cost £60 hotel, £30 fuel, £15-20 entrance, so one week it was buy drinks or get a locker. We were regulars the club knew this and would not give a locker one week we couldn't afford it.
These are my feelings on xtasia and what i tell people when I get asked my opinion because its the truth. The best club I've been to in my opinion is without doubt fun 4 two in Amsterdam, there is nothing like it in the uk and I think every owner of uk clubs should go there then you may see what I mean. This post is not meant to offend anyone. I found not many really voice their true thoughts in fear of upsetting anyone. How can anything improve without that. I say what I really think and I am either loved or hated for it.
At the risk of this being a review of the club, which it isn't. We go to swingers clubs in UK Europe and USA. We look for cleanleness, friendlyness and value for money, in that order. We were at Xtasia Sat 8th (we were last there @3 years ago) and it well meets all the values we look for. We have only one complaint about the club...........It's a long way from Tyneside !!
J & S
We're coming !! Hotel booked !! Bet I win the best foamy T shirt comp !! With extra points for having a "Glamour foam party" hat !!
Just some info for people.
We go to the legendary foam parties at "Glamour" in Cap D'agde, there is nothing like them on earth. It is a total ice breaker to be in a mound of foam with people. Such a laugh as the foam builds up around you, it really hides the bad dancing, then you see people rubbing the foam onto themselves and their friends or even total strangers !
Oh and if your going, might as well get to Xtasia early cos the bar prices are cheaper than the prices in a pub !!
John & Shel
Just some info for people.
We go to the legendary foam parties at "Glamour" in Cap D'agde, there is nothing like them on earth. It is a total ice breaker to be in a mound of foam with people. Such a laugh as the foam builds up around you, it really hides the bad dancing, then you see people rubbing the foam onto themselves and their friends or even total strangers !
Oh and if your going, might as well get to Xtasia early cos the bar prices are cheaper than the prices in a pub !!
John & Shel
