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Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 58
UK

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Quote by tantricboy
I'd have a standard message which I'd send out, would read "you didn't read my profile very carefully before you sent this message. Sorry but you're not one for me. Goodluck with you're search." Remember manners cost nothing.
Take your point about junk mail though. Because you're a sexy, hot woman (the shot of you in the shower makes me shiver) you're going to get interest from people who can be bothered and those who can't.
(thinks) :idea:
Okay you've actually changed my mind - I guess you should respond with the same effort the writer made even if it is a no thanks.

Yes, you're right, manners cost nothing - and most of the time I do reply - if they've got my name right, are obviously replying to something or are just saying 'Hi'. But I don't reply to obvious carpet bombers, I don't reply to junk mail in the real world, I don't reply to spam in e-mail, I don't see why here should be any different. Somebody said earlier about a 'no-thanks' often getting a reply of 'why not?', that does put me off replying, I end up getting hate mail calling me all sorts of things simply because I was being courteous(sp?)
Oh, and by the way, the shower was nice and warm, no shivers involved biggrin
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It works the other way round too though, if I see a guy I fancy there's not a chance in hell of me going up to him and sparking up a conversation. I just sit there and think of all the reasons not to talk to him, in the mean time, guys I don't fancy talk to me and I feel oobligated to talk to them because they've been nice enough to do so. Daft aint it?
H.x
I yearn for a long hot soak! When I had alterations done to my house I had the bath taken out, now the only time I get to have a bath is if I stay at a hotel. Between half an hour and an hour is a good legnth of time I'd say. I love my big walk in shower but I miss my bath.
H.x
If it were up to me to make the first move I'd be celebate.
H.x
Tom-boy, no boobs biggrin
I've always felt more or less androgonous(sp?) I do like to dress up now and then but sometimes catch sight of myself in the mirror and think I look like a drag queen.
H.x
OK I've not read any of this cos I missed all the last DrWho's, they're repeating on BBC3 at the moment and I hope they're going to show the whole series again.
H.x
I do like being naked in the open air, generally this country is too cold for me (although today it would have been nice) a couple of things stop me, lack of confidence and I don't think the world is quite ready for my wobbly bits biggrin
H.x
Quote by tantricboy
I'll always reply to messages (but then again I don't get very many - on a Swingers site I think it's called "single man syndrome") I just love the fact I have something to read - even if a gay 75 year old guy messages me to say I read your profile and thought you looked nice I'd thank him.

If 499 of his friends also wrote to you, would you reply to all of them?
I don't have an ad, my profile makes it quite clear that I'm not looking but I still get mail from people saying 'nice ad' and one even started 'hello you two'. Why should I reply when they are either stupid or send out so many mails they don't even read profiles anymore.
H.x
Quote by tantricboy
Swinging Heaven has not been tested on animals.

but puppies have been squeezed.
H.x
I changed to e-on recently and have found them very good, I read my own meter once a month and just log on and enter it on the web site, my direct debit is automatically adjusted the following month. It doesn't make much difference, a pound or so either way, but it's a good habbit to get into. I hadn't read my meter for a year or so previously and ended up having to pay over £250, my own fault but it still stung.
I can't get mains gas for heating so have to use oil and am dreading the next refill, I have a wood stove for the winter which helps a bit but you do tend to just put another jumper on when you know it's going to cost you over £1,000 to fill the tank up.
H.x
Have you tried the Citizen's Advice Beaureux (sp?), or I think there are advisors who charge for their time and don't work on commission.
H.x
Right, so you get free board and lodge and I get to cook for you and clear up after you for a week - sorry, if I wanted that I'd get a husband. I'd have to know someone very well before I could spend a week with them.
H.x
As Nola said, anal comes down to trust more than intimacy. I think oral is more intimate possibly down to the eye contact whilst doing it, and possibly down to the amount of touch sensation you have in your mouth and fingers compared with er.... anywhere else biggrin
Giving a BJ is a huge turn on because of the level of intimacy and reaction of the person you're doing it to, the turn on from anal is more to do with trust and submission than intimacy (for me anyway).
As for kissing, if you don't feel that flip in the pit of your stomach when you kiss someone, sex aint gonna happen wink
H.x
Lindt 86% dark - sheer luxury.
And Green & Black's Mayan Gold
H.x
Quote by Stormwalker
Doesn't that involve a degree of celibacy :huh:
I'd stick to French maid if I were you.... biggrin

Wow, you can do anything on the Open University these days!
French Maid it is, although I hope no-one notices I don't speak French..........
.......or do much in the way of housework.
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Quote by Stormwalker
I think at your age, you can safely upgrade to woman...
Stormy, a bit of a Winnie

Nah, I'm working on my 'old maid' status biggrin
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I'm a card carrying idiot - and last time I checked I was a girl (although there has been some debate on this issue)
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Couple of years ago Nat and I watched the FA cup final, Man U lost to Arsenal - boy he was mad, sex afterwards was great biggrin
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Or get some friends around and be butt naked when they turned up, tell them you're a naturist and if they want to come in they'd have to strip off.
H.x
Go to the library and get a book of Satanic verse, tell them you've found a book which is much more you and would they like to read some passages together?
H.x
Quote by __random_orbit__
booked!
Roll-up, roll-up!
penny a throw!
lp

I have a farthing and a bag of sherbert lemons?
H.x
Maybe you should change it to 'Ironic Eros'?
Or 'Ignore me, I'm just taking the piss but by the way d'you fancy a drink'?
Maybe not biggrin
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Quote by HJ
I agree H-x, but I do get a little confused when I get attention from a guy with “straight” on his profile !!!

I saw one guy with 'straight' on his profile the other day had checked the 'gay male couple' in who are you looking for. Made me giggle.
Quote by samj6484
I'm always curious about this, and maybe I am naive but as a bi bloke myself why is this an issue with some women? I accept that everyone has choice on their side, always, but on the outside mostly we look just the same as a straight guy. And in my personal experience I have never had any problem from a straight guy whilst shagging his partner - and one or two have even become curious when we get started.

The OP is a guy.
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Time - He's waiting in the wings
He speaks of senseless things
His script is you and me boys
Time - He flexes like a whore
Falls wanking to the floor
His trick is you and me, boy
Time - In Quaaludes and red wine
Demanding Billy Dolls
And other friends of mine
Take your time
The sniper in the brain, regurgitating drain
Incestuous and vain,
and many other last names
I look at my watch it say 9:25 and I think
"Oh God I'm still alive"
We should be on by now
La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la
You - are not a victim
You - just scream with boredom
You - are not evicting time
Chimes - Goddamn, you're looking old
You'll freeze and catch a cold
'Cause you've left your coat behind
Take your time
Breaking up is hard, but keeping dark is hateful
I had so many dreams,
I had so many breakthroughs
But you, my love, were kind, but love has left you
dreamless
The door to dreams was closed.
Your park was real dreamless
Perhaps you're smiling now,
smiling through this darkness
But all I had to give was the guilt for dreaming
We should be on by now
La, la, la, la, la, la, la, la
Yeah, time!
H.x
Quote by noladreams30
:shock: Not at this time on a Sunday! lol

:thumbup: Well said that woman!!
Nola x
Wait en minutes........
H.x