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Tony ;-)
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Quote by Dirtygirly
I had a session at the gym yesterday... it was a fairly tough session and today my arms ache.
So... does anyone have any quick fixes for muscle ache? Any tips as to how I can ease the pain and actually be able to move properly?
I joined a gym in April. The only time I've stepped foot in there was when I was given a tour around the facilities before I signed up.
I'm fine
I'm sure there is a message in that
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Extra's:-
Extra picture storage
Extra video storage
Extra cams in the chatrrom
Extra's Lounge Chatroom
Funky Icons
Highlighted Adverts
Watch vids at a larger size
Priority Support
Extra photo tools
Extra profile 'themes'
See who's been pervin' your profile
Send more 'winks'
Think that's about it...
sneeky backdoor route into the chatrooms on the occasional time on of the servers goes AWOL.
Priceless :thumbup:
Well I never knew that ... how do you do that then??
Say for example server 2 falls over and is completely FUBAR, quite afew people when they try to enter chat will be sent to server 2 and will only ever see a grey screen no matter how many times they log on.
However, if you have extras, you can first go into the xtra's lounge, and then move onto either server 1 or server 3 which are usually full of people just waiting to chat to you
:cheers:
Quote by Gufuncouple
Extra's:-
Extra picture storage
Extra video storage
Extra cams in the chatrrom
Extra's Lounge Chatroom
Funky Icons
Highlighted Adverts
Watch vids at a larger size
Priority Support
Extra photo tools
Extra profile 'themes'
See who's been pervin' your profile
Send more 'winks'
Think that's about it...
sneeky backdoor route into the chatrooms on the occasional time on of the servers goes AWOL.
Priceless :thumbup:
Quote by twos_company
was on cam n still movin on server 1 n stuff... i found a loop hole...
someone ..st3ve ian dawnie anyone?????????????
Sorry, I was midway through a 4 hour stint in the local accident and emergency so wasn't online. Didn't get home til you'd logged off.
Nice nurses on the night shift though :twisted:
what you done now??
Wasn't me this time
One of the kids had taken a tumble but thankfully no broken bones Quote by couplefunuk
I can bet you've replied to at least one couple who don't have an ad and their profile clearly states they aren't looking
Interestingly, I've found there are many people who put on their profiles that they are not meeting, or not looking to meet single guys with the sole intention of stopping the mail bombing of their PM box.
Yet, in chatrooms and at socials they are busy doing exactly the opposite. Arranging meets with single guys. Granted this is not situation all the time, but I've seen it so often, I take the words with a pinch of salt. (Not meant to start a flame war as to specifically who is and who is not meeting !!!).
So, are people "taking a chance" and sending messages? In some cases yes, in others no.
I used to reply to adverts myself, but the total lack of responses meant that I now don't bother. And YES I did read the profiles and adverts from top to bottom. And I prepared a unique, not copy and paste message.
I'm sure there must be other ways of arranging meets on site :wink:
Quote by twos_company
was on cam n still movin on server 1 n stuff... i found a loop hole...
someone ..st3ve ian dawnie anyone?????????????
Sorry, I was midway through a 4 hour stint in the local accident and emergency so wasn't online. Didn't get home til you'd logged off.
Nice nurses on the night shift though :twisted:
Quote by goldsmith
Hi this is thefirst time I have used the forum (hope im doing it right ).I use the chat rooms mainly chat 1 quite regularly (sometimes too much). I find some rooms hard to enter then find the same people in multiple rooms clogging up the server.
Sometimes u arrange to meet for a chat and this causes a problem ( I have made loads of friends on here).
It makes it seem like you are talking to yourself sometimes then skip rooms and find the same people.
Just a minor gripe I think the rooms are great as a whole
Dave
I totally agree, its very irritating, how can people pay any attention to several rooms at once, and have any sort of chat in all of them.
Dual monitors :thumbup:
One chatroom on one screen, a different chatroom on the other. Both clearly visible. Simply right click on your desktop properties and enable it. Oh it does help if you have a second monitor connected.
Quote by easy
I have never paid directly for sex.
You offered me £40 once, I put out but you have never paid
Thank you for validating my original comment. :inlove:
I've just counted my loose change. I've got 98 pence. What's on offer tonight
98p :shock:
Someone's doing themselves a disservice. :shock:
Kate charges me £5 to tell me to go fuck myself. :shock: :giggle:
she gives you too much pocket money in the first place. I only get a quid.
Quote by brucie
so my questions are;
1. is it paying for sex if someone else is paying?
yes
Thats like saying if somebody buys you a bigmac it doesn't have any calories.
Quote by brucie
2. should i go?
depends if you are asking "legally" or "morally". The only person who can truly answer this looks at you every morning in the mirror.
Quote by brucie
3. do you really believe that most men havent been with a prostitute at least once in their lives? (almost every single male i know on the swinging scene has admitted at the very least getting hand jobs during massage for a "tip". thats paying fo rsex in my book).
I have never paid directly for sex. But then I'm not single and you don't know me, so I guess I don't count.
Ahhh yes, a munch. A place where noobies can talk to the old hands and learn all about swinging in a no pressure, no play environment.
Only if you were too new and unknown you couldn't get onto the list, and the music would be soooo loud you could never ask any questions anyway
I remember in the good old days going to munches, being asked who I was and then to be told ewwwwww you are one of those chatroom people.
Yes the socials are a way to invite non site members to the event, but as others have commented, the potential of others attending has never stopped me from going to the events I've wanted to go to.
Now, for us, attendance depends on if we are free, where it is, and who is going. Rather than the lets get our names down for every event going as it had been in the past. Real life and the spiraling costs do take over at times.
One thing I've noticed though is that there are afew people who put their names on lists to attend socials with no intention of really going, just it keeps them in with the circle for a while longer.
Only if you were too new and unknown you couldn't get onto the list, and the music would be soooo loud you could never ask any questions anyway
I remember in the good old days going to munches, being asked who I was and then to be told ewwwwww you are one of those chatroom people.
Yes the socials are a way to invite non site members to the event, but as others have commented, the potential of others attending has never stopped me from going to the events I've wanted to go to.
Now, for us, attendance depends on if we are free, where it is, and who is going. Rather than the lets get our names down for every event going as it had been in the past. Real life and the spiraling costs do take over at times.
One thing I've noticed though is that there are afew people who put their names on lists to attend socials with no intention of really going, just it keeps them in with the circle for a while longer.
Quote by Cubes
Are single males desperate? Or are they just having to work harder to find what they're looking for? Whether people admit it or not, there's a distinct pecking order in the swinging lifestyle:
1) Single bi fems
2) Single straight fems
3) Couples
4) Single bi men
5) Single straight men
OK... the categories may blur around the middle but you have to agree it's pretty much the way things are. It's like being the worst footie player in the playground: If you don't jump up and down, waving your hand in the air, and shouting "Me! Me! Me!" you'll always end up being the last to get picked.
In my experience as a site moderator I can categorically state that single men are no more likely to cause an upset than single women or couples. In fact, most single men are far more respectful because they know they need to play nice to get a meet. Couples and single fems know they have an upper hand and so don't have to be as respectful.
6) Married Men pretending to be single
7) Married Men admitting they are not single
To add my comment as a chatroom op, I have lost count how many times I've warned a female in the chatrooms for whichever rule they have broken, and basically the response comes back "I have tits, they trump your rules so I'm exempt and you can't chastise me".
Whereas the majority of blokes (single or married) either reply with a "fair cop guv", or an apology cos they hadn't read the rules.
Quote by Lilmiss
to say..75% are timewasters is silly. This site is no differant t0 normal life. If you organise a party, for a birthday....there will always be people that don't turn up. Some have viable reasons...some just poor excuses.I know from organising a few things on here, that it is a pain, but you simply have to cater for the fact probably 10%/15% won't show. No one wants to see a name and shame thing.....but I know that I note who don't turn up for my arranged things....and they certainly not first on the guest list next time around for sure.
Who said they dont? I certainly wouldnt object to it, its rude and theres no need for it
It may be rude..but I think the following senario would be much worse...
You keep getting pestered by somebody who you have made it clear you don't want to meet, but instead to be nasty, they 'name and shame' you.. Although you know its not true. Its your word against there's and why would anybody believe any of you?? How would you feel then?
For me, naming and shaming is not the way to wean out the timewasters. We all get them. It's just one of the down sides of this kinda lifestyle.
Lil x
There is a big difference in these two scenarios.....
Making the positive step to put your own name down on a social listing, going back at a later date to confirm, and then not having the common decency to post a "sorry i can't make it" or to even get in touch with somebody else who is going so they can pass the message on is just plain bad manners. I doubt many people would go to a social without knowing anybody else on the list, and be able to contact somebody by msn, or text etc.
As the postings are in a public forum for everybody to read, I can't see how anybody could claim they didn't apply to be on the social list.
Appearing on a "no show" list, or being blocked from attending future socials could only be blamed on the person who repeatedly doesn't turn up. - And with some events regularly having reserve lists, it would prevent others from attending.
The second scenario of a rejected person falsely claiming a no show for a meet could never be validated as being a name and shame option. Any arrangement would usually be made in private and could often be subject to a long winded "he said / she said" saga.
I know people who often put their names down on event listings as the "crowd" are going and you have to be seen to be participating Even though they haven't the slightest interest in attending. People can be very fickle if they find out you can't go to every single event they are going to. But, to not make contact with the event organiser if you can't make it I find difficult to understand.
Quote by cummon
I am 46 and my partner 42, we are both fit and happy in our bodies but the thought of perhaps getting it on with another couple at say 55 seems scary and a tad wrong!!
This comment, I would put down as your own personal preference. I for one would never critisise anybody for having preferences of the people they hope to meet. The fact that you would put a blanket ban on all couples that are just nine years older than yourself is very limiting.
I ran a quick search and there are over 37,000 profiles (singles included) where they specify their age as 55+
Quote by cummon
I see profiles here of couples that age and I think wow...............
Now this is where I come unstuck. Are you saying ewwwww people that are 55 should be on a veranda in a rocking chair reminising on the war? If I (/we) decide that at 55 years of age we are still having sex, and wish to remain in this lifestyle, then I hope that nobody will be judging our choices.
I was at Chams a couple of months and there was a 70th birthday party for one guy who I've seen there many times. I've also seen a frail old chap who carried two walking sticks (think of Old Mr Grace
). Anyway he had a leggy blonde on each arm and it was quicker for them to pick him up and carry him from room to room than it would have been to wait for him to try and shuffle there. :shock: 
Looking at this from a chatroom's op point of view....
All of the trouble makers would instantly put all the chat op's on block and then they wouldn't see any of the warnings before their screens go grey.
So immediately I can see that an over-ride would be needed.
As to your comments on other, lesser used sites have this facility I can totally agree how the option appearing on those sites would make it seem as though it would be possible.
I've been in many discussions on the development of the chatroom with admin and the biggest problem with additional features in here is the high volume of users renders most chat systems prone to crashing on a regular basis.
The theory behind a block button sounds quite appealing. However the application may not be quite so straight forward.
All of the trouble makers would instantly put all the chat op's on block and then they wouldn't see any of the warnings before their screens go grey.
So immediately I can see that an over-ride would be needed.
As to your comments on other, lesser used sites have this facility I can totally agree how the option appearing on those sites would make it seem as though it would be possible.
I've been in many discussions on the development of the chatroom with admin and the biggest problem with additional features in here is the high volume of users renders most chat systems prone to crashing on a regular basis.
The theory behind a block button sounds quite appealing. However the application may not be quite so straight forward.
Quote by Markthomsonuk
Your thoughts please
People have been removed from chat for both directing and also encouraging directing when in chatrooms that have "no directing" in their title.
anybody seen / reported to be breaking this rule will be dealt with by the chatroom ops or admin (not mods)
I'm often reminded about a couple of threads I started in here.
The Dawnie Knicker Drawer Thread. (Methinks that needs an update)
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/10424.html
And the more recent
A good deed goes badly wrong
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/289467.html
Also, Staggy's signpost challenge thread was amazing. The trouble we almost got into taking the photo's
The Dawnie Knicker Drawer Thread. (Methinks that needs an update)
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/10424.html
And the more recent
A good deed goes badly wrong
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/289467.html
Also, Staggy's signpost challenge thread was amazing. The trouble we almost got into taking the photo's
Quote by Kaznkev
I wonder how many married men use the "i dont fuck" a way to excuse infidelity?
Used to work with a guy who tried it on with just about every woman in the office. He wasn't interested in fucking, but was up for everything else. When somebody asked him, it was cos his missus would detach any loosely attached bodily items if he ever shagged anybody else.
That was the only thing he promised not to do, so he felt that all other sexual acts were acceptable.
I've also heard other excuses, like the men are still recharging from earlier, or the best one.... saving himself incase a good looking woman came into the club.
pmsl and he lived to watch another day lol
:banghead::banghead::banghead::banghead:Taken from the homepage of this site
When we joined back in 2003, we did so as a couple who were interested and wanted to know more. We had no idea back then what to expect :eeek: but I can say that almost seven years later we are both still logging in pretty much every day.
There are couples on here who are single guys hoping that the status gets them meets. There are also single females on here with couple status because they are bombarded by random messages if they set their status to single.
People bend the truth about where they live, how old they are, single guys are acutally married, the list goes on...
Take some time to get to know people (munches and socials are perfect for checking people out in a no pressure, no play environment).
It has been said many times that what you gain from this site depends on what you put in.
Quote by SH Homepage
This site is dedicated to swinging in the UK and it's completely free to register as a member. If you are either into 'The Scene' or interested in learning more, this is the place for you.
When we joined back in 2003, we did so as a couple who were interested and wanted to know more. We had no idea back then what to expect :eeek: but I can say that almost seven years later we are both still logging in pretty much every day.
There are couples on here who are single guys hoping that the status gets them meets. There are also single females on here with couple status because they are bombarded by random messages if they set their status to single.
People bend the truth about where they live, how old they are, single guys are acutally married, the list goes on...
Take some time to get to know people (munches and socials are perfect for checking people out in a no pressure, no play environment).
It has been said many times that what you gain from this site depends on what you put in.