Before getting into it a bit in our own little way, i thought we were having a go at "swinging" I thought it was wife swapping/ some threesome fun but from what I have learnt since now I don't consider us as swingers just have had some sexy fun, too tame to be swingers, a real swinger has to be more adventurous than that.

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My wife is only a few years off menopause she's still using the pill, kind of hoping her sex drive returns at some point, whilst we have sex, now and then if I didn't initiate she probably wouldn't.

Then maybe she might fancy a new cock!

Have you ran it by her? I had loads of guys I fancied over the years and never hid it as john didn't (girls in his case) just being honest. Whether it was Patrick Swayze or one of his mates ( John's not Patricks 😉) in my case it took about 25 years before I went the whole way and I wish I had done it sooner, but it's how it works out and what you are both comfortable with. It did help how his mate used to mess about with me, a bit of dirty dancing with a few nice fella's in a club and it was we need to go home now 😊, the things they used to do to me, oh my those were the days.

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I tried to get my wife into this and we went to clubs a couple of times where I just watched her. It was the biggest turn on of my life but now she isnt interested leaving me with an empty gap in my fantasies. Doesn't hel that she has now hit the menopause so I guess it's gone for ever

You may be surprised, the menapause initially killed my labido and pretty much made life horrible but the patch made a big difference to me physically. I don't know if it was the hormones or something pyscological about getting older but I got my labido back stronger than ever and felt the urge to play and have more adventourous fun more than ever.