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Lilith
Over 90 days ago
Bisexual Female, 45
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Quote by starlightcouple
" hearsay " from a person who has done 3 tours out there. Who has served in the army now for 17 years, and holds a rather high rank.

I think that flower's point was that when YOU tell the stories, it is hearsay... As in "I hear say that...". You don't have personal experience, so all you can do is repeat information you have heard from others (not that I'm commenting on how good your source of information may be...)
Now, I've not double checked the definition of "hearsay" before writing this, but I'm pretty confident that what you've been doing in your posts (other than writing insulting comments in response to others' comments) is writing hearsay...
Quote by Steve
Work is very physical and quite stressful and permanent night shifts don't help either..

I think you've answered your own question. You need to take the leave and make some permanent lifestyle changes. I hope you recover and it doesn't happen again. Xxx
Quote by Lizaleanrob
Who knew we had so many experts in military warfare, history and politics on this site...? dunno

That's it done it now Lilith :scared:
Que Dave Notts bolt
Lol - it's fun to hit the hornets' nest from a safe distance...!! ;-)
What made the best experience so good, nola?
I'm still thinking about my answer to my question!! Lol ... Just thought it would be interesting to hear some stories, as I'm sure there'll be people on the site with very colourful tales from their years in the scene! :-)
Who knew we had so many experts in military warfare, history and politics on this site...? dunno
What has been your all-time best swinging experience and your all-time worst (so far), and in each case, why?
Obviously, you need to be careful not to identify anyone when telling your stories, as that would be in breach of the AUP...
Take the leave. You may feel fine, but that diesn't mean your body doesn't need the rest. Stress is the cause of a lot of physical problems and people are rarely aware of the impact it can have.
A couple of years ago I got a slipped disc which resulted in my sciatic nerve (on the right side) being totally squashed. It was the most painful thing I have ever experienced and I had to wait 3 months for the surgery. I was in constant pain, and was on very strong painkillers, but still couldn't walk more than 10 steps and found it difficult to sleep, sit, stand, etc. By the time I had the surgery, I'd become so used to the acute pain that when I came around from the anaesthetic and the pain was just gone, I felt ecstatic. I was in and out of hospital within 24 hours and felt so much better that I didn't understand why they were telling me I needed time off work. So, I went back after the absolute minimum 3 weeks that they made me take. And then tried to get back into exercising very quickly. So, a couple of months later I got sciatica again and totally freaked out that I was going to have to go through it all again. Thankfully it was only a minor slip, which healed on its own within 6 weeks. But I learned my lesson... Just because you feel fine does not mean that your body is strong enough to do everything you want it to do.
So... Moral of my story... Take your time, look after yourself, and for once in your life put your health over your work. Give yourself a breather and some space to recover properly.
Lilith xx
Quote by anais
Will Ian be bringing his 12 inch torpeedo again??? :silly:

:bounce: :bounce: :bounce:
Quote by Cubes
Joe,
I'm gonna slip you over to the Chatroom Lounge so the chatters amongst us will be more likely to see the post. ;)

I'd be careful with Cubes offering to "slip you" anything, Joe... :giggle:
Quote by Cubes
Are you 'angling' for an invite?
:giggle:

Not offishially... But I do enjoy a bit of Internet prawn ...
(sorry...!! Cubes started it!!!) bolt
Quote by anais
I've been complemented on the size of my rod in the past lol

Judging by the pics its huge! :lol: Dawnie can comfirm this.... :-)
Soooo.... How does one go about getting an invite to view these photos...? innocent
:rascal:
Quote by Joewally
well it feels like it...........
who's deleted, removed or even stolen?????? (bloody scousers) the NW ROOM?????????????
when i first come here it was a thriving community, but alas? it's vanished off the face of the earth,
That got me wondering............... "when i first" gulp who's trying to say what????
help me? confused and misplaced .......... xtc jw

Um... That's a lot of panic over a chatroom! Why don't you just make a room with that name yourself?? dunno (Then you'll have the keys and the power too!)
Quote by Cubes
Someone bought an Iron Man outfit so he could do that...!!! :eeek:

Well obviously I didn't buy it just for that. rolleyes
:giggle: bolt
rotflmao
Quote by Cubes
Not an emote but.....

Someone bought an Iron Man outfit so he could do that...!!! :eeek:
Quote by samson63

We also need an ironing emote ......
just saying!

Like this?
worship
(very impressed!!) :-)
Quote by Dawnie

If you're dishing them out, could I have a spanking too...? :rascal:

It would be rude of me not too, line up :giggle:
(we need a bending over emoticon!!)
I suppose it would be rude not to share the compliment that led me to start the thread... I was told that my boobs are "superb", but not my best feature and was then complimented on the "nape of my neck just under my earlobe", the base of my spine and the creases behind my knees... All said in an incredibly sweet way, and probably the most unusual compliment I've ever received! :-)
Quote by Dawnie
I've been complemented on the size of my rod in the past lol

Judging by the pics its huge! :lol: Dawnie can comfirm this.... :-)
smackbottom Oooh anais!
She deserves more than one smackbottom nola :eeek:
anais, be afraid, very afraid :grin:
Fight, fight, fight!!! :-D
:eeek:
For some reason I automatically ducked when I saw this :lol2: :lol2:
I loves it when Dawnie wants to smack my bottom wink
rotflmao :rotflmao: :rotflmao: :rotflmao:
Next time I see you young lady, I am really going to spank you!!!
If you're dishing them out, could I have a spanking too...? :rascal:
Quote by Dawnie
I've been complemented on the size of my rod in the past lol

Judging by the pics its huge! :lol: Dawnie can comfirm this.... :-)
smackbottom Oooh anais!
She deserves more than one smackbottom nola :eeek:
anais, be afraid, very afraid :grin:
Fight, fight, fight!!! :-D
:eeek:
Quote by st3v3
I've been complemented on the size of my rod in the past lol

Are you an enthusiastic fisher, then...? :giggle:
What is the most interesting / unusual compliment that you've received about one or more of your physical features from someone other than your partner (and I'm thinking genuine compliments here, rather than the crap people say to get into your pants!!)
Quote by tweeky
It appears that very broadly there are those that need some kind of visual aesthetic attraction prior to play and then those that don't or can work with personality alone. Ive said to Mrs Tweeky in the past, wish I was less picky, wish I was bi lol More choice then :lol: but sadly that's just not the way I am.

It's more of a spectrum for me. Like balancing looks and personality on a set of scales. A person could be not quite "my type" physically, but where they're slightly lacking in looks (for me), they may make up with personality. Or vice versa. It's not like there's a formula, but it is certainly true that there's a tipping point, i.e. Where there just isn't enough to result in any sort of sexual chemistry / attraction. I guess the op's question is about whether people adjust their tolerances when swinging. I don't really think I do. But it's a hard question, because initial contact on this site is in a very different context to meeting someone in a bar. So, it's hard to compare IMO.
Quote by justinjacksonuk

I'm not often offended by posts on here, but I think that this is downright rude.
Apart from the fact that your photos are private, so we're unable to judge whether you are "Good looking" or not (your own words from your own profile), how on earth can you lump all women and couples in one bag.
Yes, I know our photos are private too, but I'm not making a sweeping generalisation about the attractiveness of half of the site, so I'm not exactly putting myself out there for judgement.
When we swing with guys, I can almost always find something good and attractive in them - it's not always about six packs and chiseled good looks. I sometimes lower my usual standards and frankly less frequently raise them. I have a fab relationship with the man I love, so what does it matter to me whether a brief encounter is likely to "consider (me) attractive enough looking to date"?
I don't think that I've ever played with anyone "above my weight". We are here for fun for me (mrs) cos we both enjoy it. As far as we're concerned we can live very happily as a couple without meeting other men for me to have fun with - it's an optional extra - so why on earth would I have to raise or lower my standards at all?
We do what feels good and right at the time and we have a lot of fun doing it. I would hate to think that someone was sacrificing his integrity for a quick fuck with me.

Seriously, i can't figure out what you are getting so angry about and don't put words in my mouth. I never said i was "good looking" or anyone wasn't attractive. I am presenting what i think is a pretty obvious hypothesis:
1. Single men on here are a dime a dozen
2. Single men send a lot of messages to couples and women
3. Couples and women get a lot of messages so they can choose from the best-they RAISE their standards.
4. Only the best looking men get return contact which in turn makes the other guys LOWER their standards and send messages out to the couples they overlooked the first time round.
Stop thinking about YOU as an individual; I am purely speculating on how i think the majority work.
Anyone who denies this is..........well in denial. IMHO
I agree with you to an extent... It's certainly true that women and couples looking for single men have a large pool to choose from. But, that doesn't mean that we suddenly become fickle. When looking for a meet, my wife and I are interested in the whole package and not just looks. I wouldn't say that we have only met with super hot men. In fact, an average looking guy with a bit of charm and personality is likely to be far more appealing to me than a dull-as-dishwater hottie (not that I'd throw him out of bed, of course... But I wouldn't go out of my way to look for super hot men).
I obviously cannot speak for the men my wife and I have met with though... For all I know, they may consider that they lowered their standards! dunno
What about removing the bed from the equation altogether...?
dunno
Quote by MikeNorth
Apparently some men fear that if their feet become cold during sex, more blood will flow to their feet, and that consequently less blood will flow to the todger area, leading to a bit of a "letdown", as it were.

rotflmao
Quote by Toots
'appen you're right Hooters, but you must obviously know someone that has an iPad and who is going on to view you or else as Dawnie says, how do you know it's an iPad?
I've just emulated what you say, I'm logged on wiv me TootsTits cam, hoisted my joint account onto chat via the ipad an BINGO! I can't see my iPad watching me...mind you, I haven't as yet done my hair so no loss there, but anyway, not sure why an iPad isn't seen
in your watchers list but your right, they are invisible as a watcher
So, i can now go to bed wiv me ipad, log under me joint account and perv cameras without being seen, I've got me sat night/early hours Sunday morning viewing sorted, who needs xfactor.

I'm pretty sure you can only perv one cam at a time on an iPad, Tootsy... So, depending on how much you want to watch just one person, you may need x factor after all...!
I'm always on cam when in the chatroom. Often semi-naked. I don't have a cock (unless dildos count). And every time I'm online there are couples and other women on cam - more often than not there's a couple putting on a show too. Are we talking about the same site?? dunno
Hey Try,
Inanna and I definitely can't make it to this one now - sorry. Not sure whether you're doing confirmations yet, but wanted to let you know ASAP.
Lilith
Xx
Please put us down for this one Gorge! So excited!!
Lilith & Inana xx
Quote by tweeky
The body does most things for a reason and there would be no reason for a secondary type of male orgasum.

Why not? Women have different types of orgasms - clitoral and through penetration (i.e. g-spot)...