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Lissa
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 61
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Quote by westerross
1................what is the worst job you've ever had, and why? Mine was sitting in a room punching data into a computer................a chimp could have done that job! :sleeping:
Not a Cheeky one pleeeeeeease!!
Quote by Lissa
2.
Now you've confused me by asking two questions in one post
Lol...............my deepest apologies...............I forgot that 2 questions to answer would put a huge strain on some people
Maybe I just expect too much
But I do prefer a guy who has something between his ears as well as something between his legs :shock: Form PM's and text speak..............to me................show REAL unintelligence...............either that, or a total disregard for the intelligence of the person receiving the PM, which is even worse!
When sending a PM.................personalise it!
My inbox is constantly filling up with obvious form PM's and I don't even bother to read them. If you really are interested in someone the search throws up...............for God's sake make a little effort! A form PM shows that the person receiving it is just one of maybe hundreds you have PM'd out of blind hope. Not a very attractive proposition!
My inbox is constantly filling up with obvious form PM's and I don't even bother to read them. If you really are interested in someone the search throws up...............for God's sake make a little effort! A form PM shows that the person receiving it is just one of maybe hundreds you have PM'd out of blind hope. Not a very attractive proposition!
Quote by raunchyrabbits
As the female in a couple looking for single men, maybe you don't need to show your face - but you can always ask the guy to show his face and then you can be sure he is the same person as the one in his pics and that they're not 10 year old pics - or stolen off someone else's webcam in the way you describe.
Yep, had that scenario! But more like 20 years old!
At the end of the day though, it's the guy that loses out, not us. We always arrange our meets close to home.................if the guy has driven 150 miles and ends up going home with nothing because he has lied or mis-led us............that's his problem. At the end of the day, honesty is the best policy.
Quote by mattyduk
Would agree with the data entry though. Did get a blowjob from doing it once. Think the woman was so bored she did me because it bought her 30sec of excitement in a boring day.:lol:
Ah.............if I'd had a bloke there to give a blow job it might have made it more bearable..............but it was all women :cry:
Quote by raunchyrabbitsRubbish! SO people who don't have webcams aren't genuine!???
Yes there's lots of them about. Couples who aren't really couples - just the male half who has registered, put pics up, etc, without telling his partner. Single females who are actually just single men who think it's funny to try and fool people. Or men posing as women in order to collect pictures, which they then use to pose as women elsewhere again.
The best way to confirm someone's identity before meeting them is to see them on webcam. Genuine people will be ok with this, but if when you ask to see them on webcam they say things like "oh we keep meaning to get one but haven't got around to it" or "oh our webcam is broken blah blah blah" then be wary.
I agree with your first part of your reply however the second bit is completely off the mark as many genuine couples dont have a webcam or have one but are not sure how to use it. Or if youre like me, have one and lost it when decorating and the darn thing wont turn up no matter where I look for the sodding thing. It doesnt mean Im not genuine
Im also reluctant to go on webcam as Ive had people take screen shots of me and then mail them back to me, so be wary about that, but thats easily solved by keeping your kit on for a bit!
Although I do acknowledge that those excuses youve said about can be used often by time wasters, however there are always other means of estabilshing the person is who they say but then they still might not turn up on the day! Its about gut feelings with things and keeping in touch with the people youre planning on meeting.
What works for one person wont work for another so a blanket response wont really do you any good, suppose it really is a case of practice makes perfect. if you feel there is a sniff of something wrong or it doesnt feel "right" then ususually its dodgy. A simple mail telling them you dont want to meet might go down like a sack of lead balloons but its ten times better than a bad meeting.
Gem. x
No it's not rubbish. How much is a webcam, £20? If people are prepared to spend £15 a month or £50 a year or whatever to join a swinging site (not SH maybe, but SH is not the only swinging site in the whole world remember) but are not prepared to spend £20 on a webcam and show their faces on it, what are they hiding? And using a webcam is usually as simple as plugging it in and running messenger or clicking the webcam icon in the chatroom - if they can't manage that how on earth did they sign up in the first place? In our experience, most of the people that have tried to chat to us but come up with excuses as to why we can't see them on cam, have turned out to be fakes.
There may well be genuine people out there who don't have a webcam, but we have taken to only chatting to those couples with a view to meeting them, if we can see them first. It not only confirms that they are who they say they are, but also confirms that they are swinging as a couple, and it's not just the male partner trying to get his rocks off.
Yes, webcams may be a good way for couples to verify other couples, but in our case I certainly wouldn't ever use a webcam. We are only looking for single males, and I would never take the risk of using a webcam only to then face the possibility of seeing my face plastered all over the web by some single guy pretending he was either me, or I was his partner. Vague possibility, perhaps...............but that kind of thing DOES happen.
A community is a diverse group of people brought together by one common factor.
As in a family, there will be differing ages, outlooks, personalities, and experiences. Not everyone will get along with everyone else. There will be personality clashes, arguments, and occasional conflicts.................but just like a family, they will band together against adversity and support each other.
As in a family, there will be differing ages, outlooks, personalities, and experiences. Not everyone will get along with everyone else. There will be personality clashes, arguments, and occasional conflicts.................but just like a family, they will band together against adversity and support each other.
I agree that there are a lot of timewasters on here, and it's not just the (supposed) couples and females. Many of the men are just as bad, as you might be aware if you've read the threads about guys not turning up for meets.
Another tip I can give is to check out any website the person may have, or any pics they may have posted. Check for consistancy of pics...............is that the same pussy in every shot, or are there differences? Does the body type take a dramatic change from one pic to another? Consistency isn't a 100% sure-fire guarantee that the person isn't a timewaster, but it might at least prove that it isn't just a pic collecter sending random snaps of other people.
Another tip I can give is to check out any website the person may have, or any pics they may have posted. Check for consistancy of pics...............is that the same pussy in every shot, or are there differences? Does the body type take a dramatic change from one pic to another? Consistency isn't a 100% sure-fire guarantee that the person isn't a timewaster, but it might at least prove that it isn't just a pic collecter sending random snaps of other people.
Quote by gingerminge38
So If you wouldn't like it done to you ? Don't do it !
Some newbies ask for it...............purely by their attitude or the things they post. They would have a much better reception if they had the intelligence to actually read the Forums before diving in with hob-nailed boots on.
On the other hand, some do get verbally abused for reasons I can't see, or have their posts locked for what can sometimes seem to be a whim on the part of a Mod. Often, however, this is because the topic has been done to death!
I have given people a bit of a verbal slapping on occasion, but I do also make an effort to respond to those who are making a real attempt to fit in and join in.
Quote by niceandgentle
I've read quite a few threads and gone to join in then thought better of it and the few I have I've only been acknowledged once by one other poster.
Don't let that bother you!
I've been a member for ages and still get blanked by some other regulars...................not everyone's cup of tea, me
Quote by Dawn_Mids
Now I know its sneaky, but bloody clever if you ask me, why not use your own name but just spell it backwards, then no one will instantly recognise you.
So as an example if your names bob then just register it the other way around........bloody clever eh :smug:
Excellent Idea jevad
ASSIL?
Kinda suits my avatar I guess
Well, I've slapped a few people down in my time, but only the total morons who really asked for it.....................such as the guy who posted the same thread several times and just couldn't take the hint that NO-BODY was going to give him what he wanted.
I don't object to Newbies who make an effort, and try to get into the spirit of things, but those posting crap will get flamed!
Yeah, I know, I'm a bitch
I don't object to Newbies who make an effort, and try to get into the spirit of things, but those posting crap will get flamed!
Yeah, I know, I'm a bitch
Maybe I'm the only one who feels like this, but since the change-over I've really missed all the non-sexual, inconsequential twaddle that used to go on in here.
So I'm having a go at getting it started again
Ok............here's a couple of really inconsequential questions to get the ball rolling.
1................what is the worst job you've ever had, and why? Mine was sitting in a room punching data into a computer................a chimp could have done that job! :sleeping:
2................if you could go back in time and live in any other period of history, which would it be? I'd like to go back to the time when Bouddica was kicking butt and give her a helping hand, although with my height I'd be better at kicking kneecaps :D
So come on, peeps, get answering
So I'm having a go at getting it started again
Ok............here's a couple of really inconsequential questions to get the ball rolling.
1................what is the worst job you've ever had, and why? Mine was sitting in a room punching data into a computer................a chimp could have done that job! :sleeping:
2................if you could go back in time and live in any other period of history, which would it be? I'd like to go back to the time when Bouddica was kicking butt and give her a helping hand, although with my height I'd be better at kicking kneecaps :D
So come on, peeps, get answering
Quote by Rainbows
With the new law for couples I wonder if sites like this will suffer under the laws of discrimination, so are sites like this one are going to have to change their polices when it comes to couples, since now under the law a couple can be two males, two females or male and female?
I wasn't aware that this site ever discriminated against same sex couples. We do actually a have a few active same sex couples on here, nd I don't see how the new laws are going to change that.
aRSexx :color:
I agree. I can't see why a couple's make-up would matter a damn on a site like this.
Quote by DreamerHelen
Sorry.............I was posting earlier, but then my other half got home from work and we've been shagging
Lucky you!!!
Can I join in please?
:D Too late, Pete's almost at the snoring stage by now..........you know what guys are like..............but might post some of the pics from this afternoon on my website later :wink:
