To answer your question re Rios. Yes I have been there a few times but I wouldn't recomend it for a novice single guy. It just isnt the right sort of place. Its ok for couples or if u wanna have a sauna and shower. Couples do play but, in my opinion only, I wouldnt recommend it for you.
As a novice I would try the Private Club in Aston, Birmingham. The "entertainment" is all laid on so u dont have to try too hard there. The guvnor's a rite nice bloke and his missus aint bad either!! She sometimes plays too !!
I have visited there many times but am taking a break from there just now. If u do go there say Paul from Maidenhead sent ya.
I dont work there or have anything to do with the place but for a beginner it's ideal. Check out their website of the same name. You never know - u mite even see me in there!!
Good luck
