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M1ssVery
Over 90 days ago
Bi-curious Female, 42
0 miles · Greater London
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Master of Sex
I don't really ever get involved in political banter and such on here..but for this one, all I have to say is I work at one of those insanely expensive private schools- let's call it "somewhere in Dulwich".. and trust me, even there where activities, clubs, after school care are in abundance, the staff are still overworked, minimally paid, and under appreciated by their SMTs. It's not an "ideal" template to follow. TAs especially! New found respect for them, they are doing so much for your kids than the class teachers themselves, especially in Early Years. And I do feel sorry for all those kids at pick up time, they are beyond shattered and sleepy and fed up. They are home by 5/ and in bed by 7-8. Back again the next day at 8 for Breakfast club!etc...
So state schools want to mimic private schools? Besides the kids, who's going to compensate the already worn out staff?
Luckily I am a contractor there so I am not a total slave to them in the week.
So state schools want to mimic private schools? Besides the kids, who's going to compensate the already worn out staff?
Luckily I am a contractor there so I am not a total slave to them in the week.
Master of Sex
:welcome:
The forums are a good place to start for making friends on here, the creme de la creme hang around here :sticky: even past their sell by date! :lol2:
Chatrooms are also good although can be a bit fast paced for newbies!
I'm sure most people will recommend you put your name down for socials which are a great way to meet without any pressure to play.
Shame you don't live closer or you would have had a sure offer of a hand-holder
Have fun!!!!
The forums are a good place to start for making friends on here, the creme de la creme hang around here :sticky: even past their sell by date! :lol2:
Chatrooms are also good although can be a bit fast paced for newbies!
I'm sure most people will recommend you put your name down for socials which are a great way to meet without any pressure to play.
Shame you don't live closer or you would have had a sure offer of a hand-holder
Have fun!!!!
Master of Sex
Quote by pookbunnies
i thought the reasons for the flooding were fairly obvious. The news channels keep telling us that over half the population has become obese, fact of the matter is that we are sinking under the extra weight.
I'm so sorry, is there any way to offset my carb footprint?
Master of Sex
Quote by flirty_4
I personally just don't get the hype that surrounds these books. I got to chapter 10 of the first book and was almost put to sleep. Just dire! Poor written and scripted, not to mention the use of words like 'down there', when referring to a woman's bits. Why not just be direct?! It's supposed to be erotic!
50 shades of yawn for me.
You'll like this then flirty_4...
www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/410685.html
Master of Sex
Although your profile is that of a couple, you do state at the end of your blurb that we should consider you a 'single male'..does that mean that your wife is not aware of this account you have? It would be a shame, because my suggestion would be for her to talk to other females 
who have experienced the club scene both alone and as part of a couple and that could help with giving her a woman's perspective, calming her nerves, and answer any reservations she might have..
who have experienced the club scene both alone and as part of a couple and that could help with giving her a woman's perspective, calming her nerves, and answer any reservations she might have..
Master of Sex
To the guys out there and the women/men who have played with them..how do you deal with guys who get overly sensitive to the point of needing to stop and not being able to cum? Do you think a physiological reason is purely the contributing factor as said male has considered getting the snip to deal with sensitivity..What's your sure fire techniques when it comes to blowjobs (pun inteneded!! 
) as those are proving very challenging 
Condoms create a "downer" and lack of does mean a sure thing..but that's not really ideal when playing with new people..and doesn't resolve the blowjobing issue..
come forth advisors!
) as those are proving very challenging Condoms create a "downer" and lack of does mean a sure thing..but that's not really ideal when playing with new people..and doesn't resolve the blowjobing issue..
come forth advisors!
Stick'em up the lot of you and show me your jewels!
Master of Sex
Quote by Geordiecpl2001
If only it had been Sunday 22nd instead of Sunday 15th !!
We're ideally situated to get a metro to the start and not too far from the finish. Have not been able to put people up previously due to kids at home and needing the beds, but they have now left so have spare rooms.
BUT, we're just getting back from Cap on that day.
Really sorry we could not help you M1ssVery.
John & Shel
Awww that's a shame! Especially since there would have been plenty to perv at as well :rascal:
But thank you anyway for considering us!!
X
Master of Sex
Quote by Lizaleanrob
If this is your idea of 'doing the cake run' I think you're in for a shock! :lol2:
Good luck though.... make us proud! :thumbup:
nope shes not running she's going to perv!! i mean spectate the runners
I promise to try my best not to perv or flirt with whoever hosts me; I shall restrain myself!!
And Cubes, thought you might put in a good word.. You've tried my cake and seen what I can do with a moustache :grin:
Assure the northerners they have nothing to worry about having me over!
Master of Sex
Honestly don't stress too much about the age thing and you will benefit more in the end. People I played with have always been close to my age, both through the site and at clubs. Although it happened naturally, I didn't exclude anyone based on age. Actually, a better way of phrasing this is I never had any set expectations when I met people from here face to face. Some really good friends of mine from here are 45-55yrs and getting to know them has been a pleasure and i did gain something from that relationship( yes besides the vacuum Mr C :lol2 Like I said before, your preconceived idea of what clubs/socials are like is holding you back from having a good night out (whether you hook up with anyone or not). I'm 32, my friend is 30, and we're going to a club with no idea what kind of ages will be there, but I'm sure we'll be fine whatever happens! I should mention though that the first time I ever went to a club it was a special evening for under 35s. I found the couples there very reserved, unapproachable, the women oh god overprotective of their men, and mostly there to exhibit themselves.. Next time I went, the evening had wider age range and I had a blast! You don't have to play with anyone you don't fancy, but "older" more experienced couples I found friendlier, easier to talk to, and more open to sharing each other.
Oh, and hey I once met up with a 42yr old..siigh..shame I can't attach the pic of his torso to this :twisted: never say never
A social is a good idea, go for it! In the meantime, take it easy, go with the flow, and have fun!
Like I said before, your preconceived idea of what clubs/socials are like is holding you back from having a good night out (whether you hook up with anyone or not). I'm 32, my friend is 30, and we're going to a club with no idea what kind of ages will be there, but I'm sure we'll be fine whatever happens! I should mention though that the first time I ever went to a club it was a special evening for under 35s. I found the couples there very reserved, unapproachable, the women oh god overprotective of their men, and mostly there to exhibit themselves.. Next time I went, the evening had wider age range and I had a blast! You don't have to play with anyone you don't fancy, but "older" more experienced couples I found friendlier, easier to talk to, and more open to sharing each other.Oh, and hey I once met up with a 42yr old..siigh..shame I can't attach the pic of his torso to this :twisted: never say never
A social is a good idea, go for it! In the meantime, take it easy, go with the flow, and have fun!
Master of Sex
Your post makes me wonder if you are actually ready to meet people yet even though you say you've been talking about this for a couple of years..
You seem to be putting up quite a few barriers for yourselves and limiting your opportunities to fulfil your fantasies. I don't think it will be hard for a sexy couple like yourselves to find playmates on here and you might have to just take the plunge and find "swingers who are nice" that could possibly turn into "friends who are swingers". If you are adamant that you want to forge a vanilla friendship first with people before playing, then perhaps this is because there is still an element of worry/uncertainty for you.
I'm early 30s, I was a newbie (still am really) and last year when I joined I was in the state of mind of "right, I'm doing this". Like the others have advised I engaged in the forums and the chat rooms and that's were I found my first meets. Finding playmates in a vanilla club sounds more like a fantasy scenario to me rather than a practical one- nevermind the fact you say you're not very good at chatting people up!
So I'm afraid the Internet and clubs are your best bet. Swinging, partner swapping, SEX with strangers, can be built up in your heads and a visit to a club and "seeing" it happen can help bring back it down to reality. Jeez my vision of clubs was nothing like the reality once I visited. You also have the advantage of being a couple and being each others hand-holders, I was a single lady!!
So in conclusion?.. I'm going to a club this weekend if you want someone to push I mean lead you through the door
You seem to be putting up quite a few barriers for yourselves and limiting your opportunities to fulfil your fantasies. I don't think it will be hard for a sexy couple like yourselves to find playmates on here and you might have to just take the plunge and find "swingers who are nice" that could possibly turn into "friends who are swingers". If you are adamant that you want to forge a vanilla friendship first with people before playing, then perhaps this is because there is still an element of worry/uncertainty for you.
I'm early 30s, I was a newbie (still am really) and last year when I joined I was in the state of mind of "right, I'm doing this". Like the others have advised I engaged in the forums and the chat rooms and that's were I found my first meets. Finding playmates in a vanilla club sounds more like a fantasy scenario to me rather than a practical one- nevermind the fact you say you're not very good at chatting people up!
So I'm afraid the Internet and clubs are your best bet. Swinging, partner swapping, SEX with strangers, can be built up in your heads and a visit to a club and "seeing" it happen can help bring back it down to reality. Jeez my vision of clubs was nothing like the reality once I visited. You also have the advantage of being a couple and being each others hand-holders, I was a single lady!!
So in conclusion?.. I'm going to a club this weekend if you want someone to push I mean lead you through the door
Master of Sex
Anyone know of nice hosts who might rent out a room for 3 young ladies on the island in August?
Any other tips and recommendations welcome including :swingingchair: fun
First time on the party island- but not really planning on being featured in the next series of Boozed Up Brits Abroad..
Any other tips and recommendations welcome including :swingingchair: fun
First time on the party island- but not really planning on being featured in the next series of Boozed Up Brits Abroad..
Master of Sex
Quote by herts_darlings1
Cant lock the lock the door coz its elf and safety mate! cobblers. We use a popular club that has lockable rooms and actually has panic buttons in them. So it's your choice. They work too as we found out be accident one Saturday evening. Surely the point is you do what you want, with whom you want and were you want! if that is in public view then fine, if in private fine. Irony is, if it the club I am thinking it is, we were once told to "get a room" as a bit of a joke. What's the bloody point when they ain't got locks on the doors.
We probably are talking about the same place and I don't think he was joking. It says on their website- if you want private room get a hotel room.
I've seen something else on their website that I would like to ponder on here, but might start a new thread for it..
Master of Sex
It is a real shame, because besides that, it's quite a nice wee club. Handy to me, lovely people there, good size(the club that is) but the one time I played there I found myself finding the furthest darkest corner possible and asking my partner to "block the view" siigh. A friend of mine who frequents it with her boyfriend said she feels very self conscious as well there and tries to hide behind people..
I'm surprised that not enough people have mentioned this to the owners for them to do something about it.. Obviously it's not something that's affecting business..
I'm surprised that not enough people have mentioned this to the owners for them to do something about it.. Obviously it's not something that's affecting business..
Master of Sex
I have been to a few sex clubs, and most have had a similar set up when it comes to the play areas including lockable private rooms. However, I went to a club that didn't have any private rooms. They said you can't lock a door for safety reasons in case something happens in there and one of the people involved can't get out. Ok fair enough, we don't need to "lock" the door, but atleast be able to shut it as an indication that the individuals in there want privacy. The owner's response to that was:"Private Rooms, are against the Ethos of Real have areas where you can lock doors to play but these areas are viewable through mirrored windows."
I am struggling to see how being watched is part of the ethos or a requirement? Isn't it about being comfortable with what you're doing? And if I want to join a couple but feel self-conscious about people standing there watching me, I am no longer a swinger, or the couple for that matter..
I feel like what they're saying is that I am being a bit of a hypocrite if I say I like to perv and watch people but when it comes to me, I'd rather go private. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for flirting and being playful in open spaces and yeah sometimes I have engaged with someone infront of others. But sometimes, I am not in that frame of mind and would rather focus solely on what I'm doing/being done to me rather than on the fact that I am putting on a show for someone..
Thoughts?..
I am struggling to see how being watched is part of the ethos or a requirement? Isn't it about being comfortable with what you're doing? And if I want to join a couple but feel self-conscious about people standing there watching me, I am no longer a swinger, or the couple for that matter..
I feel like what they're saying is that I am being a bit of a hypocrite if I say I like to perv and watch people but when it comes to me, I'd rather go private. Don't get me wrong, I'm all for flirting and being playful in open spaces and yeah sometimes I have engaged with someone infront of others. But sometimes, I am not in that frame of mind and would rather focus solely on what I'm doing/being done to me rather than on the fact that I am putting on a show for someone..
Thoughts?..
Master of Sex
As long as you are as open and honest with the female you intend to play with as you have been in this forum post, then I don't think there will be any "disappointing" going on. The right female or bi couple for you would be ones that were understanding of your apprehension. I've been in your shoes, and after lots of chatting and getting to know the couple(fem) I was upfront about the fact that this is new to me and I don't know how I'll like it until we get down to it..No pressure. If anyone gets annoyed at you because you're not feeling comfortable, then good riddance. This obviously works both ways.
Goodluck x
Goodluck x
