Hello you gorgeous people, I have my birthday on the 30th of June, are there any couples or single women up for treating a man the weekend of his birthday? I'll bring the wine of course 😉

I always ask if they have any questions in messages, I do certainly mean any, from kinks to what I'm OK to do but I always expect and willingly, actually keen to get them to meet my wife in person or to confirm and build a rapour but my messages can be long if I'm not careful so im trying my best to keep my messages readable, I just leave it as 'any questions' I hate having my integrity questioned (but won't let on) so I don't and won't lie, I've never done Internet dating until now so feeling accused isn't nice and I'm not used to it, I'll get over it, just a transition period, I feel like I'm being lumped in with the chancers at times, I'm a bit analogue for this world, my wife is even happy to come with me with our wedding pictures if needs be but to put that in a message seems a bit desperate, it's hard to explain your position while not looking beggy in a message. Now in real life everything is golden, analogue man in a digital world trying to figure it all out atm, the thing is as a man not bringing a woman we're ten a penny so to stand out won't be easy and that's fine by me, I like earning what I want, I just don't like being lumped in with the chancers, it does look like I've got an unusual break soon BUT I still won't be happy being viewed like the rest of the dishonest temporary (in this world) blokes, also luckily it turns out I've got a good few female friends that since I've mentioned my new arrangement have confessed they're into me lol, it is kind of nice to know people that know me have secretly been interested for a while lol, that's nice for my self esteem but really I want a social group of people that'll socialise and if things get sexy just roll with it, if it doesn't it's just a good social, my sex drive isn't huge but I do love to allow natural progression to happen when the vibes right, I'm a loving man to many and that's it, swinging to me is just not being awkward when the sexual tension happens between friends and it does happen all the time

Scotchlander, it's such a good way to be isn't it, the world's and all its joys are your oyster and best of all its all 'my bag' ha ha

Quick one, I'm not saying in a sub dom way (unless that's your thing then I'll facilitate that) but more of a use me purely for your own pleasure however you want way. Especially if we're talking 3 or more

What would it be called if my kink is facilitating others kinks and fantasies? I'm certainly not new to it but have never even considered if it has a name, it doesn't matter what the act is, I just get off on getting others off, another extention to that is being used as a sex object with little to no consideration to myself, I've never been subservient in normal life but in the bedroom it's a totally different story.

Thank you both very much for the replies, so some couples don't care and some see people like myself as cheats, that does clear it up a little more, personally I'm always keen to point out my wife will confirm she's happy but it isn't nice to be viewed like that but it is understandable too, loz you're reply is so wonderfully detailed and personal thank you for sharing so much 😊 I personally love the trust the wife and I have in each other and having the ability to ask her speaks volumes about our relationship much as your situation does for yours, what attracted me to the lifestyle is being the type of man I am is I'd often find myself vibing with strangers to the point enjoying each others bodies felt like a natural extension but I'd always stop it and conciquently either loose potential friendships or have to keep existing friends at a distance with this awkward tension, so then I thought why not just ask her? To me if I can get my foot in the door it means I can just enjoy these potential connections that I keep missing out on, happily since letting a couple of friends know they've sheepishly expressed an interest so that was nice to hear, I can now let people into my life and enjoy my friendships to the fullest, I'd love for my wife to join me in this but she's not (yet) interested but we have had a few really good conversations about the potential future, I'm aware it's not 'normal' for a traditionally masculine man but I don't generally have a type, I have a 'vibe' instead, if it's there, it's there and very quickly I'll become attracted, if you've made it this far thank you and well done, bit of a novel I know 😆

This is one that really has my curiosity, so my wife recently gave permission for me to start swinging (I did give her plenty of opportunities to change her mind as I'd hate to upset our relationship but she's very supportive) she even helps me out, but it's not something I see very often on the various websites, initially I thought it would be a bit of a bonus to set me apart, being in the same boat as it were with respecting partners, discretion etc. Now I'm not so sure how people really feel about it? Of course I'm not expecting instant magic to happen and it is all fairly recent so it's not impatience, more well just wanting to know how I'm generally going to be viewed within the community I've longed to join for a long time (oh and trust me if anyone does answer I'll leave your DM's alone unless asked otherwise lol, from what I've read people can at times be a bit pushy, I'd really rather not embarrass myself badgering anyone not interested in me) take care all x