thanks ste..I thought my ad to be pretty accurate in what I look for and repeated it mainly to be visible in the various searches (by categories)..I would never repeat the same ad in the same area and I am indeed not ready to shag just about everyone..lol ( I just repeated it because I AM however interested in the diverse "configurations" couples, single ladies, groups..etc..and repeating the ad is just the way to be visible to all these different configurations, nothing more..it's still me)
I'll think about it though and see if I should modify some of the ads or take them of altogether (but I'm sure that as an ex single you'll agree that less visibility reduces any chances even further :P.. then again...I'm not really desperate either, lol)
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I thought a public debate would help other people in similar ambiguous situations
(and I'm also still intrigued by the "public perception" of single males profiles and what in them is perceived as honest and or misleading or "baiting")
however, I guess I'll take it off then, no problem with that..but I would really love to receive a public answer on this matter, from anyone of the admins..
(and I'm also still intrigued by the "public perception" of single males profiles and what in them is perceived as honest and or misleading or "baiting")
however, I guess I'll take it off then, no problem with that..but I would really love to receive a public answer on this matter, from anyone of the admins..
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You can't advertise for a non-member.
AUP
From the AUP:
Non Acceptable Behaviour.
* Allowing a third party to activate or use your account.
So nothing to do with being cynical... your friend needs to be a member before you can advertise on her behalf.
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If you want to play as a couple with people you meet from this site, then you need to set up a couple account.
that's the thing..we are not a couple..and I'm mainly looking for myself...but we have talked about 3somes and would like to try it...(and she wouldn't mind meeting a girl herself
)but ultimately it's me, looking for a girl.. and if this girl (as in another member of this site) agrees to playing with me AND someone else, I fail to see how that is of any relevance to the website, it's staff or anyone but me and the girl..I just am upfront and telling whoever likes the idea of meeting with me, that this is an option I am looking into and I might bring up if we ever get to meet.
not trying anything here...just debating the limits of the rules and how to abide with them without sounding like a cheepskate or a faker..
if you insist it is against the rules I will of course take it off..
just to clarify, I am the only one accessing this profile and the other person doesn't know about this profile or this website (we met on another similar site and agreed on looking together and independently each on our "other sources" so to speak)
I'll have a look but if I remember correctly, currently it's just my ad, on which I've just added a line saying that I can involve another bi friend..
anyway if it's a problem I can work on the wording to make it compliant to the rules
but I guess it still is a waste of time..
anyway, for the sake of debate...would anyone actually believe my words, or just dismiss it as fake bait? what is the general view?
anyway if it's a problem I can work on the wording to make it compliant to the rules
but I guess it still is a waste of time..
anyway, for the sake of debate...would anyone actually believe my words, or just dismiss it as fake bait? what is the general view?
..I were to state that I have a "non member" bi female friend who wants to play with me and another girl?
that's what I am currently looking for (the "other" girl, that is)...but I have a feeling that if I were to post this on my ad (it somehow already is), most people would dismiss it as the umphteenth single bloke who tells no matter what story to try and score a date..
am I being too cynical?
I just get the impression that most of us are prejudiced against the "hordes" of single males and therefore tend to dismiss their "claims" as just that...when actually there can be truth in them. I myself am a cynic by default..so I wonder if I should bother making the effort or just forget about it...
that's what I am currently looking for (the "other" girl, that is)...but I have a feeling that if I were to post this on my ad (it somehow already is), most people would dismiss it as the umphteenth single bloke who tells no matter what story to try and score a date..
am I being too cynical?
I just get the impression that most of us are prejudiced against the "hordes" of single males and therefore tend to dismiss their "claims" as just that...when actually there can be truth in them. I myself am a cynic by default..so I wonder if I should bother making the effort or just forget about it...
it is about sex, yes, but the attraction to any woman, for me, lies mostly in the brain..and in the connection we make..through talking and getting closer or at least knowing each other on some level
that's why I normally end up being friends with the girls I meet..be it for one time or more..(truth is, if it ends up being mostly about sex, it will be one time...where when we connect on more levels than just that, we will also have more "fun" along the way of our friendship)
that's why I normally end up being friends with the girls I meet..be it for one time or more..(truth is, if it ends up being mostly about sex, it will be one time...where when we connect on more levels than just that, we will also have more "fun" along the way of our friendship)
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The Dukes of Hazard - the original, not the movie remake.
Although I didn't have a clue at that age what 3sums were, I think somehow Bo & Luke got into my subconcious and still make it into my fantasies these days.
Oh - and me and my sis used to put shorts on over tights with our sandals and run about the garden pretending to be Daisy Duke!!!!
Scar xxxx
I can totally picture lindsay lohan in a daisy duke outfit.
other than that...give me 'Allo 'Allo and blackadder reruns any time of the day..
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the sitting in the back garden with the sun at its hottest (well hotest for birmingham anyway). then saying "i'll only sit out for 10 mins.. dont need the sun tan lotion".. then 90 mins later waking up with a slightly red chest.. then as the evening progresses that chest goes through that transition from Mildly red.. to lobster red. and no matter how red it gets you still fore go the Aftersun, thinking it wont hurt that much.....
my dutch genes don't help here either...
I know for a fact that when I'm sunbathing back in Italy I WILL get burned from my knees down to my toes (don't ask why...my body does stranger things)
I will still insist on using the same mild lotion I use on the rest of my body..
of course I will then get burned..
lately I've started using factor 60000 sunblock lotion...thing is I use it on my legs only..
and get subsequently burns on shoulders and nose.
Will I ever learn?
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Timewasters are fab! :shock:
Without them, we wouldn't be able to work out who it was is that we actually have time for.
Am i a timewaster? I'll be considered a timewaster by some people and i won't be considered a timewaster for others and really i won't apologise for being a "timewaster" in someone elses eyes simply as i will have completely legitimate reasons for being someone else's timewaster, it doesn't necessarily follow that the other person will view my reasons as being legitimate or actually have a right to an explanation.
Of course all things considered, i would much rather have "my time wasted" than have my time impinged upon by the opposite. I'm thinking the opposite of this as being "stalked" where someone else is wasting My Time by imposing themselves or being pushy to the extreme. (The extreme being my own interpretation of acceptability.)
Anyway, as ever, my thoughts are my own. You can decide for yourself if i have wasted my time in posting.
Little X
huh?
I have perservered and as for the idea of naming and shaming...the person who stood me up is regularily online (not here)...and to this day (nearly one year has passed) I still don't know what her motives were. not that I'm interested..
I admit that there may be cases such as your example..but still..
anyway, it seems to me that the word timewaster, these days is thrown around too easily and quite often inappropriately..
I have a feeling that people who simply are not interested, or have found so after chatting for a short while, might end up being called timewasters... when all they are is people who have made a choice.
I admit that there may be cases such as your example..but still..
anyway, it seems to me that the word timewaster, these days is thrown around too easily and quite often inappropriately..
I have a feeling that people who simply are not interested, or have found so after chatting for a short while, might end up being called timewasters... when all they are is people who have made a choice.
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in my line of work I encounter parents who have had this done to their babies and the parents have been very immature mentally and have had a disfunctional upbringing themselves,
as much as I'm against pierced ears for babies, you're being unreasonable here..
it's not like having their ears pierced is going to cause the children long term emotional damage or a stunted growth..
stating such a thing is bordering on reckless and a bit offensive..
yes, baby piercing happens in determined areas and social environment and not in others..but methinks piercing a baby is a consequence, and not a cause..
it certainly doesn't cause mental illness or instability as you seem to suggest...or maybe I'm just reading too much in your post
yes I think piercing a baby is an act of vanity and should not be allowed if not under medically supervised condition..by all means, make it an expensive and bureaucratically difficult procedure... but what you're suggesting is just a mental leap that makes no sense at all
having perved a fair ammount of profiles and taken a look at several of the ads, I can say that I have the same perception...
single black males seem to be very much sought after..as not everybody wants to meet a couple, but apparently just about everybody is looking for black males...(lucky buggers)
I have considered shoepolish..
it seems to work, in the movies. :giggle:
single black males seem to be very much sought after..as not everybody wants to meet a couple, but apparently just about everybody is looking for black males...(lucky buggers)
I have considered shoepolish..
it seems to work, in the movies. :giggle:
I flew from stansted to dublin, for a date that did not show up.
I knew it was going to happen as she had broken contact 2 days before the date... on msn and cellphone
I still went and spent the weekend touring a city new to me.
was I happy? f..k no I wasn't!
it's the first and only no show so far.
I've been a gentleman about it too, as I knew where she would have been at later that day..and even have her on facebook, where I could have posted a few nasty things about her...but what would have been the point?
but yes the idea of posting on these websites the names of those people who have a change of heart and don't have the manners to alert you (or alternatively give an explanation afterwards)... should be an option to look into.
I knew it was going to happen as she had broken contact 2 days before the date... on msn and cellphone
I still went and spent the weekend touring a city new to me.
was I happy? f..k no I wasn't!
it's the first and only no show so far.
I've been a gentleman about it too, as I knew where she would have been at later that day..and even have her on facebook, where I could have posted a few nasty things about her...but what would have been the point?
but yes the idea of posting on these websites the names of those people who have a change of heart and don't have the manners to alert you (or alternatively give an explanation afterwards)... should be an option to look into.
I have no friends in the uk that I haven't met through one or the other website...
so that's all fair, open and not at all a subject to be ashamed off.
outside the uk, both my parents know, as does my best friend. nobody else needs to know or would be interested in what I do with my time or who my friends are.
so that's all fair, open and not at all a subject to be ashamed off.
outside the uk, both my parents know, as does my best friend. nobody else needs to know or would be interested in what I do with my time or who my friends are.
