Thank you for your feedback, I guess your first observation is a measure of my own lack of experience of how things work here. It was apparent from the off that there are shedloads of solo guys here, how to stand out from the crowd, other than being straight up and honest? I suppose my level of experience here is also a measure of how confusing deng I am to do that?

Discretion dictates the lack of an identifiable profile pic, I thought I'd posted a reasonable snap in the private bit but the tech defeated me on that, took forever to get a profile one on..

Looks like I'm doing as well here on a forum as sending messages, am I missing something?

I'm a newbie to all this and really don't have a scoobie. Sent a few polite first inquiries and not getting any response. I'm not making a secret of the fact I'm married, would that be an issue? I'd be interested to know if I need to approach things differently somehow?