Many thanks for the extremely useful and considered advice, its really appreciated. Just hearing other peoples views helps to get things in perspective. I see there are people not even as far down the line as me and people a lot further ahead so normal life really.
softly, softly catchee Monkey ! I think thats the expression I'm looking for lol
Thanks everybody. I know I'm a really lucky guy to have a wife I love more than anything in the world so this is just one of those things. My wife without swinging would win every time over swinging without my wife.
Being an eternal optimist and having got over the initial down, the seed is planted in her mind so you never know..............................................
Well, for those that are interested!
Real fire, duvet in front of, nice bottle of wine, good dvd and a great hour and a half of fun with the missus. Then I raised the subject of swinging. A relatively short discussion ensued with me in no doubt whatsoever that it wasn't something she would consider.
I'm more disappoined than I ever thought I would be so I guess no where to go from here? :cry:
Hi Bob, great story. So dreams do come true!
Well, due to the wife having a bad head all weekend I never got off the ground. But hopefully one night this week will see me emerge victorious. I'll keep you posted with an in depth report of her reaction for those that are interested.
Funny how reading evryones elses thoughts focus's your own. I need to have a goal from this and apart from divorce (or avoiding it) I think I'll suggest a chat and a drink with another couple to talk about their experiences and issues. I'm sure an ad on this site would find a couple willing to do that. May even be someone in the same situation. No pressure, just a friendly drink one evening, then go away and discuss it after. Then if she says no at least I've tried in an adult and considered way!
Thanks all. I'm feeling confident.
Many thanks for all the responses and links to other threads. What a friendly bunch you are!
I'll let you know how it goes although she has just woken up with a migraine so maybe the Gods are conspiring against me? Or can she sense something?