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Sugar__n__pom
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 63
Bi-curious Male, 64
0 miles · Hampshire

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Quote by foxylady2209
You think being made redundant is bad?
At my company they have a thing called 2p (or some such stupid name).
They sack you, force you to take the same job but at an agency and you lose ALL YOUR YEARS OF SERVICE.
They don't call it sacking - but that's what it is.
They say your terms and conditions are transferred - but they aren't - you lose all your years of service.
And the agency has ZERO reposnibility to continue your employment. You can be out of work completely in a couple of months.
If a company wants to make 100+ people redundant they have to go through a whole consultation process. Minwe also tries to place you elsewhere in the company.
But this 2p'ing is criminal and sidesteps the whole protection you get from a redundancy process.

Yep - this is known as TUPE (transfer under present employment) and we've experienced it first hand. Pom's employment was transferred to a new company that bought out his old one and, surprise, surprise ... once it had all taken place, he was given the boot because they had enough engineers of their own. But because, under TUPE he had no length of service, he didn't get a penny in redundancy.
He managed to find a new job a couple of years ago but now we're in a situation where he's just had major surgery and will be off work for up to 9 months. His new company only paid sick pay for 2 weeks so we're now down to the pathetic sum you get on SSP and my meagre wage which isn't even enough to cover the bills. I somehow think we won't be entitled to any help whatsoever because, as always, honest hard working people fall through the welfare gaps whilst long term 'career' benefit claimants seem to do very nicely thank you courtesy of our taxes.
I for one am fed up being shafted by big business and the government mad
In my silly youth, I had a small-ish 175cc motorbike. One saturday, I took my L plates off and took my mate out on pillion for a ride. At a roundabout, 2 guys on a Kawasaki 900 pulled alongside and I stupidly decided to chase them. Yes, they left the stupid young female on the small bike standing but I didn't know the area and took a bend too fast, not knowing there was a T junction with lights ahead.
There was no way I could stop ... the lights were at red and I just ploughed through them, couldn't make the tight left turn, hit the central reservation and ended up on the opposite carriageway.
How I didn't kill myself, my friend and possibly people in cars coming the other way, god only knows!
My guardian angel was with me that day!
Sugar x
Quote by Choochie
I was a bit disapointed with M and S very expensive - and too short (and I have short stumpy legs). I always buy hold ups and use suspenders - they kind of stay up better than normal stockings.

Strange ... I love M&S hold-ups and didn't think they were too expensive at I find the nice deep lace band with stay-put silicon makes them comfy to wear all night. I've bought XL but found they come up to my groin (I'm short and a size 24)and consequently found I can get away with a L. I think the only thing to do is to try a few different ones as people are definitely having a variety of experiences.
Sugar x
The only part I'd have surgically enhanced is the bit between the top of my head and the soles of my feet.
If money were no object, I'd have a list of 'things to have done' as long as my newly nipped-and-tucked arm!
A small, independant 'adult' shop was forced to close in my town recently because children going to church (all six of them) had the trauma of walking past it. God forbid that they should witness the horror of red frilly knickers in a shop window (about the raciest item on show)! Makes me wonder why M&S isn't also closed down for displaying such horrific items in full view of the public! Whatever next? With cucumbers on show in supermarkets where children can see them, baby oil in clear containers and squirty cream available to anyone tall enough to reach it on the shelf, society is going to hell in a handbasket I tell you!
At first I said I'd never play with anyone younger than my kids and for the younger ones, that's still true. But as time has gone on, I realise that my eldest, at nearly 30 years old, is no kid and neither is anyone her age. Consequently I'm a bit more flexible and am willing to at least consider someone in their late 20s providing they have a mature outlook. To be honest, chronological age isn't always a totally accurate way to ascertain someone's maturity or suitability but more a general guideline. I've met guys in their 50s who act like petulent teenagers and have had absorbing, intelligent conversations with young guys half their age.
So for me, I guess the answer is ... 'it depends' wink
I really must get some more instalments posted (and not let my degree go to waste lol). Mind you, I had rather hoped to publish stuff that paid lol If I had 10p for every viewing of the first 3 instalments I'd be having a foreign holiday this year instead of a week camping in Devon lol
Some stories can be a turn on as the imagination is a powerful thing. But some are such a cliche that they are more comical than erotic. They describe every detail ("my wife is a stunning blonde, a size 10 with huge tits and long tanned legs")so it leaves no room for the imagination. If physical details are kept sketchy then the reader will fill them in with what THEY find a turn on.
Ive written three instalments of one story - I don't think anyone would guess it was sweet, gentle, innocent li'l ole me that wrote it though :twisted:
If anyone is curious, pm me and I'll reveal my pseudonym wink
I eat as low carb as I can (although of course I'm no angel and have my danish pastry moments!). The problem with carbs is a lot of people think they 'fill you up' but unfortunately the effect isn't long lasting. If you loads with refined carbs then you can suffer a sugar spike, where loads of insulin is released to deal with what the body thinks it needs to digest the meal ... invariably there is too much insulin, the blood sugars drop rapidly triggering the 'I'm hungry' message to the brain. Hence you can get hungry only a couple of hours after a carb heavy meal (we all know the chinese take away analogy!)
That's why low GI foods are recommended for keeping hunger at bay as they have a more 'drip feed' effect. I also find protein staves off hunger - some tuna topped with a bit of sweet chilli sauce does the trick for me.
Just to add to what foxy advised ... I was able to cut my meds from 3000mg of metformin a day to zero within months by cutting out all refined carbs. Helped me lose some weight too - win win!
I think it's a bit like the marmite issue ... love it or hate it. I hate it.
When I was MUCH younger (and Long John's parrot was an egg), a boyfriend asked if he could cum in my mouth. I only agreed if I could have a packet of salt and vinegar crisps to hand to get rid of the taste afterwards. Romantic eh?
Oh - I like marmite by the way.
Good advice from all above ... but can I just say your wife needs to be up for it WITHOUT the lagers.
Bad teeth are at the top of the list plus all of the above ... poor hygiene has no place in swinging!
and I'd also find a guy with a giant ego a huge turn off.
Facial hair doesn't 'do it' for me either.
Quote by Steve
There's no option for dont like being naked at all in company (at least with the lights on) :lol2:

four <sigh> sad
Lucky people who take you up on this offer (just checked your profile)!! Fab city with a tasty host - phew!! biggrin
I agree with danne-gary ... check the 'events' section and Let's meet up section on the forums - look out for socials and munches in your area and go along. The single guys who seem to have most success are those who get known socially. By doing that, people know they're genuine and are therefore more willing to meet up with them for fun. Also persevere with the chat rooms - especially any regional ones.
As for ads and searching online - all I can advise is READ THE PROFILES carefully before responding. If a couple only wants to meet other couples, it'll only piss them off if you message them chancing your hand.
Good luck and happy swinging smile
Remember that ice play has to be conducted carefully ... if not it can verge on painful. Maybe your wife has has a bad 'ice experience' in the past?
Done carefully though, it can be a really unusual, horny sensation smile
Quote by YoungGuy86
Also I find applying sunblock to my arms, neck etc to be enough of a chore, so I wouldn't have the patience to do my whole body!

Good point!! lol
I'd say I'm more lacking in confidence than shy. If I was available 'romantically speaking', I could chat, smile and have a good time with a guy but I'd never assume he fancied me - especially if he was a looker (and I certainly wouldn't make the first move and ask for his number!)
Luckily I don't really have to worry about things like that(from a dating point of view anyway) as I'm married to Pom and intend to stay that way smile
Naturism - couldn't do it, no way no how, not ever. I don't even like being naked by myself in a room with the door closed let alone with the prospect of someone seeing me (strange sort of swinger you may be thinking smile ).
Nahh - can't/don't/won't do nekkid - very, very uncomfortable even at the prospect of it (are you starting to get the idea I'm not a naturist lol).
All the best to all you nudies though :)
Me and Pom both like being smooth - makes oral SO much more enjoyable without a hairy barrier. Trimmed is ok - but not to keen on bushy bollocks and I'm surprised how many blokes still sport them. All they'd need is a mullet, a tash and a bri-nylon shirt and they'd look like they'd stepped right out of the 70s.
As for shaved adults looking pre-pubescent ... that's like saying a bald man looks like a newborn - clearly a daft suggestion. Adults look like adults - with or without hair.
One very common feature of amateur literotica that I'm not a great fan of is the detailed 'telling' of what someone (usually the female) looks like - "She was gorgeous, a very slim size 8 with firm 34C tits, long brown legs and a pert ass". Well, 'gorgeousness' is relative ... to a guy who prefers curvy women with large soft breasts, a size 8 woman may not float his boat so the story is as at a disadvantage straight away as the reader has been force-fed the author's idea of 'gorgeous'.
When I write literotica (yes I do have some on here but under a pseudonym ... pm if you're remotely interested wink ) I avoid overt physical descriptions as I know the reader will apply his or her own erotic mental image to the characters. It's far better to concentrate on the situation and leave the fine detail of physical attributes to the imagination of the reader.
Quote by Tania
If you get pregnant, opt for natural childbirth with no anaesthesia. Sure it hurts but you get to enjoy your baby straight away instead of drifting in and out of consciousness.

You (hopefully) get decades to 'enjoy' your kids ... go for as much anaesthesia as you can get!! lol
I'm watching it now on BBC news - omg!! This is an 'Elvis has died' moment. Love him or hate him, he was a collossal star.