I have a few experiences of finding things as a child.
I found a handbag with purse cards and person ID in when I was around 11 that I handed to the police, I was told it was claimed but never received a thank you.
Around the age of 12 I found a wage packet with a wad of money in it along the staircase to our flats, I put a letter through all the doors just asking if anyone had lost some money, it was one of my neighbours wage packet I asked him to confirm how much was there, he was so relieved he gave me £10 and insisted I take it.
I have found the odd £10 in the street but nobody around so I have just kept it. If I saw anyone drop anything I would always let them know.
About 5 inches here London at a stand still there are no bus services a friend said, kids off car are slipping every where.
I think to a degree all people can gossip (if gossip is talking about others that are not present) If the chat is with malicious intent or general chit chat, to me would be the over riding factor.
You can have conversations whereby no names need to be passed on but information shared could help others then I can not see it being a problem.
If names are named with malicious undertones, that would make me very weary of the person talking, I would wonder what they have said about me behind my back.
In these situations I tend to keep my ears and eyes open but my mouth shut and keep whatever I have heard to myself, I wouldn’t encourage such a conversation and feel very uncomfortable when others have lead one.
I would not invite anyone vanilla or swinging to an event to celebrate an occasion of mine, nor would I expect to pay fee’s to celebrate others occasions even if hire costs were involved.
I would expect others to pay and expect to pay myself if it was just an arranged social if there were hire fees involved.
I read this op as to mean if you hold a party for vanilla friends (as in an engagement, anniversary etc) you would pay costs.
Are you asking if someone holds a swingers party that they charge to cover costs is this correct or are you asking if they hold an enagagment party for swinging friends they are asking for a donation towards costs?
I am a little confused.
The "right to buy" issue is an interesting one; what that gave to Council tenants was the ability to buy their house at a discounted rate (according to the length of their tenancy I believe) and in many cases they paid no more in mortgage payments than they did in rent but with a stake in the equity.
Possibly that was the intent, I am not against in some cases people that had the right to buy, but those I agree with would have lived in those properties for a number of years 20+ years but then that would have meant being in their 40’s+ before taking out a commitment of a mortgage with then a debt for the next 25 years over your head.
What I also saw in these times were people that had state paying for their rent finding ways to raise the mortgage, family clubbing together finding ways to pick up something that would give them some sure investments and a money return at the end, it was a money driven frenzy. But if you can not afford it you can have it, said Thatcher in some peoples eyes, so people nad banks found a way to have.
The debt culture to which I refer is the over-extension of credit fuelled by greedy and irresponsible bankers.
You can’t just blame one fraction you have to in my eyes look at the bigger picture.
The Thatcher Government, in providing the "right to buy", gave people more of a sense of belonging in their community and greater choices on their future.
II believe it gave people the chance to cash in on a windfall then sell up with a profit to move out of the communities, haven’t you seen in history people unite when things are at their lowest ebb. I believe people had more a sense of community during the war when many had very little but compassion for their fellow man.
I don’t agree with war, why can we not have that same sense of community in better times and appreciate what we have, instead of having more and moaning?
GnV You are saying you are a Tory and I would like to quote you here “The people of Britain are now hamstrung by their debt culture.”
Wasn’t it Margret Thatcher that drove people that way by giving in some case people the right to buy, that have lived in their council houses for 10 years paid by the state?
Surely that is an action telling people you can have what you can’t really afford.
Before that it was unions telling people they were worth more than what they were getting, when in fact they should have just been about to help people have a voice against big corporate companies where as an employee you are but a number.
Do not both the examples above lead people to think we are worth more in a monetary sense and think only of our own self gain?
I have yet to find a party that in one way or another that doesn’t false and use what our party can do for YOU!!
Once I see a party that makes people believe in themselves but that isn’t all about person monetary gain and selfishness, I am a lost Brit but then I think I would be lost in every country in the world.
I love living in Britain as I like the diversity of people that live here.
I believe out tolerance as a race to other races is second to no other country.
Call me stupid as really I have not idea about politics all I know is who I am and what I like.
Going on from a thread about love at first site.
I have felt judging by myself a couple of friends and family members that meeting your partner before the age of 18 can have a lasting effect on a relationship as I know of 6 couples that meet around the ages of 13-18 and are still going strong even with the ups and downs that come with relationships.
It seems you are able to get through obstacles put in your paths, as you grow and learn together.
The couples I know have been together from a range of 25-50 years.
I am not saying this is always the case as I feel the first 10 years are the hardest of trying times.
I just think meeting at sure an early age it seems easier to withstand longevity.
But then again I could be talking a load of rubbish again.
What are you views?
I believe you can meet someone and know instantly that they are the one that you know you are going to spend the rest of your life with.
It is an overwhelming kind of feeling, it isn’t until you are older that you realise it isn’t love, unless it happens it is very hard to explain, it is just knowing with an intense feeling that it will happen.
It happened to me aged 13 just took him a couple of years to see it himself, we have been together 30 years this years, married for 22
oooo yes I have had one of those nights before, :rascal:
WBB don't tell them anything, they are a nosey bunch! :giggle:
Fan belt with a pair of stockings…
Just as she was reading the manual she realised she had heard an echo…
Someone was saying..
I just ignore them!
I generally find that works best.
