I was talking the other day to someone about why I felt I wanted to stop meeting people for fun.
One of the reasons is I came to try out a couple of fantasies and feel I have done more and beyond what I originally set out to do.
I have really enjoyed my time in doing them and have no regrets.
But what I was feeling is that when you have a fantasy that you act out, that no longer is a fantasy, you can act out the same fantasy with others but I started to feel how many times do I need to do that.
What I found then was happening is you think of other fantasies that you would like to try so the cycle continues.
I have pushed my boundaries as far I want to push them, but this person then said don’t you have other fantasies, yes I have other fantasies but don’t feel the need to act them all out.
They said you only get one chance so they would act them out.
I am happy to take some of mine with me when I go.
So am I odd?
Do others feel this cycle or is it just me?
Do others feel they came to try a few fantasies or is the urge just to have sex with someone different each time.
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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
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I have on maybe 4 occasions while being in the forums send a pm to someone because I felt the need to do so.
Normally it is because I have been inspired by what they have written, or moved by what they have said.
I always feel a little embarrassed sending a private message as I feel I am somewhat invading their space, so generally I would respond in the forums.
Likewise I get very few pm’s from people from here too.
I would rather be open in public with my thoughts and feelings, so very rarely feel such a need to pm someone.
Do you ever feel the need to send someone a private message?
Do you enjoy it when you receive them?
Normally it is because I have been inspired by what they have written, or moved by what they have said.
I always feel a little embarrassed sending a private message as I feel I am somewhat invading their space, so generally I would respond in the forums.
Likewise I get very few pm’s from people from here too.
I would rather be open in public with my thoughts and feelings, so very rarely feel such a need to pm someone.
Do you ever feel the need to send someone a private message?
Do you enjoy it when you receive them?
We used to recycle in the 70’s what happened?
All milk came in bottles and got returned for refilling.
Fish and chips come wrapped in newspaper.
We had paper carrier bags.
All deli items came wrapped in paper.
Bottles from the off licence could be returned for a penny a bottle, kids loved finding a bottle to be returned.
Then along came plastics why did everything change?
This is just one example where we have gone backwards.
All milk came in bottles and got returned for refilling.
Fish and chips come wrapped in newspaper.
We had paper carrier bags.
All deli items came wrapped in paper.
Bottles from the off licence could be returned for a penny a bottle, kids loved finding a bottle to be returned.
Then along came plastics why did everything change?
This is just one example where we have gone backwards.
and :kick: from time to time. :giggle:Quote by kentswingers777
It is so frustrating to have a debate with someone that puts cotton wool in their ears and blinkers over their eys each time you have something constructive to say.
Or is it I talk sense and you can not respond to that?
777 I have added some what I believe to be contructive comments but you always seems to slip past them. I was hoping for some response at least even if it was to say minx you talk bollox which is your normal reaction
Sorry Minxy but....you asked me direct questions, for which I replied. As you did not comment on that, that is why I made the comment. :P
Quote by Theladyisaminx
When this country has massive unemployment, and the very people who are saying....yeah it's fine to have all these workers over here, and then the British people spend every other week signing on,let's see if they have the same care free Liberal attitudes they do now.
Is everyone ok with possibly another four million immigrant workers coming here? Is everyone ok with schools in this country not having one single child there speaking English?
Is everyone ok with destitute asylam seekers ( apparently ) getting priority over Brits on housing and jobs?
Labour have certainly done their homework, and created some lovely social problems, which apparently a lot seem to think is fine. Well the Liberals I hope it does not bit ya up your bum, in the future.
What I hope I can see happening in a lot of cases is people with have to think of other ways to earn a living, I took stock years ago as I could see this happening, how could I see it happening because I worked for a very large organisation for 18 years. When I started I felt valued as part of a team, we were given incentives as a reward for long term services it was a family owned business and I felt part of that family.
Over the years they sold out to money making penny pinching big waged bods who had no consideration for their employees, they cut all incentive to nothing. All perks for long term employees were striped.
I decided then 10 years ago to bail out and go alone work for myself as then I am accountable to myself, I don’t blame anyone if we can’t pay the mortgage as I only have myself to blame, but then I don’t plan just for today I plan ahead on the longer future. It isn’t an easy option but one that I love the challenge of, it gives me a greater feeling of self achievement.
So going back to my first point what I hope I can see happening, hopefully smaller businesses appearing that offer good services that start to employ people and make them feel valued.
But sadly what I see happening is nothing as it is easier to just sit and blame others.
But then I am possibly label as a left winging liberal by some without having any ability to think.
O I do live in my own ideal fluffy world,if only hey!
Sorry to confuse you 777 but I was refering to this post of mine.
Quote by Lucyandmike7
"Does having more than 2 kids contribute to the decline of the planet environmentally?"
All humans contribute to the decline of the planet, no matter how environmentally concious they may be. What concerns me, is the cost to the country and the lack of social responsibility shown by or required of "habitual breeders". This article is taken from the Guardian in 2004.
Basically, it says that the cost of raising a child to the age of 21 in the UK has risen to £153,620.
£153 620!!!
And that was 5 years ago! How many people have suffered through lack of money to buy dialysis machines, cancer treatments, CTI scanners etc etc etc etc etc. But those who continually pump out multiple children don't care - someone else will pay for your kids, won't they? You won't have to worry about the financial costs, because someone else will. You don't have to worry about how many suffer through the lack of funds to the NHS, education etc. because someone else will, won't they?
In my opinion, 2 children should be the maximum and 1 child the optimum.
so what would happen in a case like mine I had one child and went for another, ended up naturally falling for twins, would you suggest terminating one at early pregnacy or both and start again?
Are twins common in your family group? If so, I think you were irresponsible in trying for more after your first child. If not, well then mistakes happen - that's why pencils have erasers. Your extra children are causing suffering and death because of the money they cost. That's something you'll just have to live with. Bear it in mind next time you hear of any children suffering because of the lack of funds for essential services. Watch the Great Ormond Street Hospital charity advert and ask yourself the question - "why do we need a charity to look after our children?".
Sarah.....is this reply a joke?
It does not read very well!
Lucy I would say some sick joke if is was, as not one part of it did I fine funny.
I am sure the parents at Great Ormond Street would not deny the happiness of others, I never never did when I lost mine.
Quote by SlurpySarah
"Does having more than 2 kids contribute to the decline of the planet environmentally?"
All humans contribute to the decline of the planet, no matter how environmentally concious they may be. What concerns me, is the cost to the country and the lack of social responsibility shown by or required of "habitual breeders". This article is taken from the Guardian in 2004.
Basically, it says that the cost of raising a child to the age of 21 in the UK has risen to £153,620.
£153 620!!!
And that was 5 years ago! How many people have suffered through lack of money to buy dialysis machines, cancer treatments, CTI scanners etc etc etc etc etc. But those who continually pump out multiple children don't care - someone else will pay for your kids, won't they? You won't have to worry about the financial costs, because someone else will. You don't have to worry about how many suffer through the lack of funds to the NHS, education etc. because someone else will, won't they?
In my opinion, 2 children should be the maximum and 1 child the optimum.
so what would happen in a case like mine I had one child and went for another, ended up naturally falling for twins, would you suggest terminating one at early pregnacy or both and start again?
Are twins common in your family group?
No I am the first known of.
If so, I think you were irresponsible in trying for more after your first child.
I tried for another for a mulitude of reason, I don't take having children as an irresponsible act, I have lost three children I know how precious life is. We pay our taxes to maintain the welfare system and give to such charities. Try telling the mums at great ormond street thats tough you have had your chances.
If not, well then mistakes happen - that's why pencils have erasers.
None of my children were mistakes I don't need a rubber to erase them.
Your extra children are causing suffering and death because of the money they cost. That's something you'll just have to live with. Bear it in mind next time you hear of any children suffering because of the lack of funds for essential services. Watch the Great Ormond Street Hospital charity advert and ask yourself the question - "why do we need a charity to look after our children?" .
Sorry you can not and will not make me feel guilty, as I have suffered great pain and sorrow over death of a child, I know from expierance what that feels like, and I have not hidden the fact on these forums if you read back you would have known.
You are intitled to you opinions but frankly I do not agree with you views.
Quote by SlurpySarah
"Does having more than 2 kids contribute to the decline of the planet environmentally?"
All humans contribute to the decline of the planet, no matter how environmentally concious they may be. What concerns me, is the cost to the country and the lack of social responsibility shown by or required of "habitual breeders". This article is taken from the Guardian in 2004.
Basically, it says that the cost of raising a child to the age of 21 in the UK has risen to £153,620.
£153 620!!!
And that was 5 years ago! How many people have suffered through lack of money to buy dialysis machines, cancer treatments, CTI scanners etc etc etc etc etc. But those who continually pump out multiple children don't care - someone else will pay for your kids, won't they? You won't have to worry about the financial costs, because someone else will. You don't have to worry about how many suffer through the lack of funds to the NHS, education etc. because someone else will, won't they?
In my opinion, 2 children should be the maximum and 1 child the optimum.
so what would happen in a case like mine I had one child and went for another, ended up naturally falling for twins, would you suggest terminating one at early pregnacy or both and start again?
It is so frustrating to have a debate with someone that puts cotton wool in their ears and blinkers over their eys each time you have something constructive to say.
Or is it I talk sense and you can not respond to that?
777 I have added some what I believe to be contructive comments but you always seems to slip past them. I was hoping for some response at least even if it was to say minx you talk bollox which is your normal reaction
Or is it I talk sense and you can not respond to that?
777 I have added some what I believe to be contructive comments but you always seems to slip past them. I was hoping for some response at least even if it was to say minx you talk bollox which is your normal reaction
I was told about the forums by another forumite, and he even encourage me to post Then I tried my first thread the rest is history. I am unsure if he is proud and feeling smug or holding his head in shame for this recruit. 
I don’t name names, but you have him to kick or thank for me being here. :P
I am sure if he is feeling proud he would admit it himself.
I don’t name names, but you have him to kick or thank for me being here. :P
I am sure if he is feeling proud he would admit it himself.
Quote by fabio
I think someone mentioned arable farming, but I think there are several other jobs which could easily be done by the native population, but in fact the british have no intention of doing them at all. So we are already employing a variety of other nationalities do things we don't want to do.
that is a good point..... there are jobs out there.... but a lot of people don't want to do them for various reasons......whether they think it is "beneth them" or whether it is just for "the minimum wage".....
A lot of people here know my status here... I am a british national... so technically I am taking one of these jobs "for british people" that kent is talking about.......
there are some thing about the problems that Caused the current dispute that I don't think have been made clear.....
the contract that caused it is only 6 months long.... so in a sense it kinda made sense to get people in that were already equipped to do it, rather than having to train up people for months
How many people out there would agree to just a 6 month contract.... because I would admit I would certainly think twice, knowing that you could be in the same position.... so not as clear cut as you'd like
The thing that mades me laugh a bit is that it is "british jobs for british people" only when it suits them.
so when countries like australia or canada are actively recruiting and fast-tracking people with skills, we don't complain when it works in our favour then.... hmmm... nope...
those hundreds of thousands of brits and ex-pats better come back then......
for example... the NHS were crying out for nurses, Schools were crying out for teachers, people from different made the differcult decision to come here to fill those gaps.... now what do you want to say
"we thank you awfully for coming over these X years ago....but we don't need you anymore, so if you'd be as kind as to scuttle back to where you came from, that would be brilliant, thank you"
you forget that these people are paying tax in the UK, spending money in UK shops, ect ect ect.........
bloody people... coming over here... nicking our jobs!!!!!... they will be bloody nicking our women next!!!!!
it borders on sounding rather xenophobic doesn't it............ hmmmmm
sean.....
p.s why do people try to make being "liberal" out to be a bad thing... it is not a dirty word, so when did it become a slur?
I am a liberal and proud of it. But became a slur when 777 added liberal lefty yogurt knitting sandal wearing pc brigade to it I think.
Quote by kentswingers777
Sorry 777 I am confused, nothing new there.
You have said many a time that you would love to leave this country and live abroad.
Would that be a country that spoke English?
No. Spain has always been my dream retirement destination.
If not would it be a country that before you went you would learn the language fluently before you arrived?
Most of Spain can talk English anyway but....I would def learn enough to get by BEFORE I went.
Would you take enough money to sustain yours and your family lifestyle there?.
Or would you or one of yours like to find work there?
Minx unlike over here, Spain would NOT let me live there if I could not sustain myself. If I was to retire there, of course I would have enough money to live comfortably there. I would not get a free house and free for getting work there, I hope not.
Sorry hope you can see what is causing my confusion.
Nothing new there then.
777 most foreigners I know, know enough to get by!
We have polish living opposite me they are hard working and the only people in my close that made it into work Monday, in the summer they went shopping and bought back ice lollies for all the kids out in the street, they have had to leave their children back at home, I don't have any problems with them at all. What they might gain in one hand they lose in another, I believe their loses are greater than their gains.
Quote by kentswingers777
When this country has massive unemployment, and the very people who are saying....yeah it's fine to have all these workers over here, and then the British people spend every other week signing on,let's see if they have the same care free Liberal attitudes they do now.
Is everyone ok with possibly another four million immigrant workers coming here? Is everyone ok with schools in this country not having one single child there speaking English?
Is everyone ok with destitute asylam seekers ( apparently ) getting priority over Brits on housing and jobs?
Labour have certainly done their homework, and created some lovely social problems, which apparently a lot seem to think is fine. Well the Liberals I hope it does not bit ya up your bum, in the future.
What I hope I can see happening in a lot of cases is people with have to think of other ways to earn a living, I took stock years ago as I could see this happening, how could I see it happening because I worked for a very large organisation for 18 years. When I started I felt valued as part of a team, we were given incentives as a reward for long term services it was a family owned business and I felt part of that family.
Over the years they sold out to money making penny pinching big waged bods who had no consideration for their employees, they cut all incentive to nothing. All perks for long term employees were striped.
I decided then 10 years ago to bail out and go alone work for myself as then I am accountable to myself, I don’t blame anyone if we can’t pay the mortgage as I only have myself to blame, but then I don’t plan just for today I plan ahead on the longer future. It isn’t an easy option but one that I love the challenge of, it gives me a greater feeling of self achievement.
So going back to my first point what I hope I can see happening, hopefully smaller businesses appearing that offer good services that start to employ people and make them feel valued.
But sadly what I see happening is nothing as it is easier to just sit and blame others.
But then I am possibly label as a left winging liberal by some without having any ability to think.
O I do live in my own ideal fluffy world,if only hey!
Quote by DeeCee
Someone has just thought possibly I have just criticised their posting, which wasn’t the case but can understand possible why they might have thought so.
what difference does it make....????
NONE of us are beyond require more of it than others!!!
It makes no difference Dee, purely raised it for a topic of discussion.
Sorry 777 I am confused, nothing new there.
You have said many a time that you would love to leave this country and live abroad.
Would that be a country that spoke English?
If not would it be a country that before you went you would learn the language fluently before you arrived?
Would you take enough money to sustain yours and your family lifestyle there?.
Or would you or one of yours like to find work there?
Sorry hope you can see what is causing my confusion.
You have said many a time that you would love to leave this country and live abroad.
Would that be a country that spoke English?
If not would it be a country that before you went you would learn the language fluently before you arrived?
Would you take enough money to sustain yours and your family lifestyle there?.
Or would you or one of yours like to find work there?
Sorry hope you can see what is causing my confusion.
Quote by kentswingers777
i'm with you minxie hunny i like to think of it as having a joke about, touch of a wind up in the nicest possable sense it is incredibly rare anything i say could or should be taken as criticism but even that is done with tongue in cheek to b honest but some may b a bit sensitive from time to time myself included i have been known to think that a reply to my post might b rather criticle but i just tend to ignore n move on rather than take to heart easiest way me thinks
I think that is easy to do, when you first come here as I have done. I would stick up for myself when it is blantant, but I still treat it as water off a ducks back at the end of the day.
What like this you mean?
Quote by bouncy332
i'm with you minxie hunny i like to think of it as having a joke about, touch of a wind up in the nicest possable sense it is incredibly rare anything i say could or should be taken as criticism but even that is done with tongue in cheek to b honest but some may b a bit sensitive from time to time myself included i have been known to think that a reply to my post might b rather criticle but i just tend to ignore n move on rather than take to heart easiest way me thinks
I think that is easy to do, when you first come here as I have done. I would stick up for myself when it is blantant, but I still treat it as water off a ducks back at the end of the day.
Someone has just thought possibly I have just criticised their posting, which wasn’t the case but can understand possible why they might have thought so.
I can pull people’s leg have a laugh with people but only once I feel they are able to understand my humour, I wouldn’t do it unless I felt it was taken in jest.
But one thing I don’t like to do is criticise others.
I take very little of what people say as a form of being criticised. I normally think people are pulling my leg, on a wind up as part of a joke, I don’t mind this form of joking about, as I feel I can give as good as I get.
I could just be naïve I suppose.
Do you take what others say as criticism?
Or do you just give as good, as you get?
Do you find yourself criticising others?
I can pull people’s leg have a laugh with people but only once I feel they are able to understand my humour, I wouldn’t do it unless I felt it was taken in jest.
But one thing I don’t like to do is criticise others.
I take very little of what people say as a form of being criticised. I normally think people are pulling my leg, on a wind up as part of a joke, I don’t mind this form of joking about, as I feel I can give as good as I get.
I could just be naïve I suppose.
Do you take what others say as criticism?
Or do you just give as good, as you get?
Do you find yourself criticising others?
Quote by Truescorpio
Hope you mean Winnie the Pooh
You beat me to it - I wondered if she was criticising me in a roundabout way
Some people are so cynical :giggle:
Show me any post where I have criticised others I might have a joke pull a leg perhaps, stand up for myself, but one thing I don't do it criticise others.
I mean't the bear.
In edit: I have just looked at your previous post can you say the same as I just have?
I mean't the bear.
Quote by Dirtygirly
Can I ask, what time and day does the Forum chat usually open up? Or is it totally an ad hoc thing?
I'd love to come in and chat, and would have done so yesterday, but I didn't realise it was open (and being particularly dense and male I always forget to check this thread).
If you click the "watch this thread for replies" link at the bottom of the page you'll get a notification by email when someone posts in it... that'll let you know when it's open. Well provided someone remembers to post here!
well I never knew that!
thanks xxx Quote by Lucyandmike7SHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! It terrible here, can't mov for the snow!!!!
West Midlands here
Not snowed in as such,
3rd man, have you pretended your snowed in and not gone to work??
I cryed off after 2 hours, and came home, I did not want to get caught out in bad road conditions!
Now, I'm bored as **** and posting on every post I can find!
On a self imposed exile from the chatrooms......again!
errmm You didn't answer my question to you on this one if you dare! :P
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopicpage/290867/60.html
YOU BAD LADY MINX!!!
Ok Ok, I faked it, to get it over with!
Not!
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:giggle: :giggle: Sorry just couldnt resist!
