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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
United Kingdom
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Quote by Cossie
Yes, But no validation no contact for us, I will not waste time chatting to anyone with out a validation.
This sounds realy harsh, but it works 90% of the time.
we only play with couples, so we need to know that the couple is a couple and they play and the validation system proves that. It does not mean they will be a time waster, it does not mean that we will not have a bad time, but what it does mean its not some bloke with old pictures of his ex girl friend wasting our time.
I do believe it must be much harder for couples to meet genuine couples. But I can not see a fail proof system, can you?
Quote by Deviants
In general life we meet people we make friends surely we don’t base our judgement on what others have said. We must form our own opinion on people.
Say for example you were blind you would have to make a choice based on responses that one has said and rely on gut reaction then.
That is how I see people I go in blind and make my own opinion from conversing with them I don't think you could ever rely on others making up your mind on people
would you buy a plasma tv fram eBay from a seller with only 3 feedback which are all negative?
would you visit a swingers club that had 50 reviews and 48 were bad?
a green tick verifying you are a couple, a single female or a single male should never be a bad thing, yes it isn't fool proof but its better than having nothing. Don't agree with feedback systems though as its open to abuse and isnt very discreet.
If people need to see I am a female of a couple just come into my chat room my face is always on cam my hubby is sometimes about whistling too.
you can then tick your own box
In effect you have already verified yourself being on cam, just like attending socials can verify to other members you are what you say, it’s even done via word of mouth, that’s the whole point, we all already use methods to verify each other but on the other hand everyone gets up in arms when it gets brought up on the forums.
Just because I am a real person doen't mean I am a real player.
I have meet people but I don't anymore as my profile reflects this.
As the op said a system that would weedle out timewasters and one of the ideas put forward was verifing people were male female etc.
well you could see I am a woman, but then you would need to know if I was still a timewaster.
I am honest in my profile, but I don't believe that is always the case.
Quote by Deviants
In general life we meet people we make friends surely we don’t base our judgement on what others have said. We must form our own opinion on people.
Say for example you were blind you would have to make a choice based on responses that one has said and rely on gut reaction then.
That is how I see people I go in blind and make my own opinion from conversing with them I don't think you could ever rely on others making up your mind on people
would you buy a plasma tv fram eBay from a seller with only 3 feedback which are all negative?
would you visit a swingers club that had 50 reviews and 48 were bad?
a green tick verifying you are a couple, a single female or a single male should never be a bad thing, yes it isn't fool proof but its better than having nothing. Don't agree with feedback systems though as its open to abuse and isnt very discreet.
If people need to see I am a female of a couple just come into my chat room my face is always on cam my hubby is sometimes about whistling too.
you can then tick your own box
In general life we meet people we make friends surely we don’t base our judgement on what others have said. We must form our own opinion on people.
Say for example you were blind you would have to make a choice based on responses that one has said and rely on gut reaction then.
That is how I see people I go in blind and make my own opinion from conversing with them I don't think you could ever rely on others making up your mind on people
Say for example you were blind you would have to make a choice based on responses that one has said and rely on gut reaction then.
That is how I see people I go in blind and make my own opinion from conversing with them I don't think you could ever rely on others making up your mind on people
Quote by Sgt Bilko
I may have mentioned this before, but.......
On March 9th we are flying to Dubai for four nights, then on to Singapore for two nights, then off to an island off Indonesia for six nights, followed by a lifetime in Brisbane Australia!
Yep, I reckon on seeing quite a bit of sunshine this year!!
Errmmm only once or twice
Quote by neilinleeds
Well there you have it. Strong opinions on both sides.
Where is the problem with having a verification system that SOME want to use? It is not a compulsary thing, you are not forced to say anything...be it positive or negative.
What is it that some do not understand about that?
*snip*
For those who do NOT want a verification system here, why are you so against it, if it is something you are not forced to enter into? Can someone explain that to me?
If you was being forced to by SH then fair enough, but you can leave it blank and nothing will change for you, as to how it is now but...if people want to enter things like " turned up for meet ", why do you have a problem with that?
Kent, it would not affect Gem or I too much, you're right, because we go about things our own way. We tend to use the social route to find playmates, so do not really use profiles beyond a cursory glance to have a bit of a perv when a new name on the forum catches our eye. ;) It would make no difference to us whether someone was verified or not. It would probably have little impact on long established members.
However, I think it would have something of an impact on some users. Would it mean the unverified get fewer approaches from verified members, or find it harder to arrange meets, cos their lack of verification introduces an element of doubt, and they are somehow seen in a somewhat dubious light? I don't know. Would it impact the ability of new users to get into the swing of things until such time as they are in a position to get themselves verified? Maybe. Does that put a pressure on new users to opt in and get themselves verified , whether that sits well with them or not? Possibly. Is that what this website is all about? Depends on your perspective I suppose.
The point is Kent, if verification is gonna be so advantageous to some users, and I don't personally believe that a strong enough case has yet been made that demonstrates it's advantages, does that necessarily mean it will be to the detriment of some others, and if so, is that entirely fair?
Neil x x x ;)
Neil good points raised.
There would be some issues with the new members of the site I believe.
But then some would say as paid members that they are genuine but I haven't personally always seen that to be the case.
Also what happened if the two should meet would the none user have to leave feedback on the users profile and would the user expect to leave feedback on the non users profile?
Quote by __random_orbit__
For a short lived, though interesting sensory and visual experience, these cold mornings can have a little light hearted and uplifting effect. It need not be all chill & shiver!
the air in the bathroom is frigid as you strip for your bath, you muscles tense and a shiver runs across your goose-pimply flesh.
But lower yourself slowly into the deep and hot water, supporting yourself on the sides of the bath; feet, calves and as far up your thighs as you can without actually 'sitting'in the hot steamie water. Support yourself for a minute in that position before standing again, and then:
Admire the new pair of bright pink and wet stockings you are wearing!!!
Im about to try some on now.
lp
I would look like I am wearing a bight red see thought body suit
Quote by two-4-more
i think its daft if named after place or day you were born....
andrew born on st andrews day
romeo born in rome
george born on st georges day
brooklin born in brooklin
and finally
pancake.... child was born on pancake day
:giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle: :giggle:
April born in April
May born in May
June born in June
Maybe Augustus could be August
Haven't heard of the rest yet
Quote by varca
Lp Is this who you were talking about?
oooh my goodness... who could have believed that such a horror was part of the Rupert franchise?
I always thought he was dodgy
maybe that's the reason I never took to the check-trousered ursa-puppeta!!
lp
Can't trust anyone with checkered trousers LP :lol2:
Minxy and I wore the tinternet out looking for that little blighter methinks :lol2:
It was working together as a good dectective team that got us there in the end.
Just call us Cagney and Lacey.
LP I blame the writer of the stories who would have put those two characters together?
I think someone that was out to scare the nippers
I had a Rupert the bear that I used to have in bed with me but as for the other character, would you? :twisted:
Quote by kentswingers777
Well there you have it. Strong opinions on both sides.
Where is the problem with having a verification system that SOME want to use? It is not a compulsary thing, you are not forced to say anything...be it positive or negative.
What is it that some do not understand about that?
We are on another site where there is a verification system, wh have two comments on there saying " nice couple, turned up as arranged ". It does not say we were shit shags, or total tossers. It gives others an indication that we ARE as couple and that we turn up, that's it.
It is a bit like people moaning about certain topics on the forum, and going in there to say something negative. The whole point is if you do not like something, then walk away from it. The verification system can be used by those who WANT to use it.
It is like your profile and pictures on here, a lot enter nothing, but you are not forced to enter anything, people who do, do it of their own free will. A verification system could easily run along the same lines.
We are lucky we do our homework on people, and we make double checks they are who they say they are, before we agree a meet. It has most of the time worked for us.
For those who do NOT want a verification system here, why are you so against it, if it is something you are not forced to enter into? Can someone explain that to me?
If you was being forced to by SH then fair enough, but you can leave it blank and nothing will change for you, as to how it is now but...if people want to enter things like " turned up for meet ", why do you have a problem with that?
Kent I think and forgive me if I am wrong, I have seen other threads about this issue. But I have never seen one where it has been metioned that a system could be coming in, but have also said there could be an opting out choice, as you will see if you go back to the beginning of the thread and read again, some people that were very much against it are now saying if there is an opting out choice then we are not as bothered about having the system in place.
What difference it will make to the op concerns I don't know and neither do many others.
