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Have you phoned them yet? :giggle:
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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
United Kingdom
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Quote by varca
If I was new and didn't read the forums, I don't know if I would have known what they meant by asking the questions. It is only that I have had the chance of reading the thread where both opinions both for and against, has helped me form a more informed opinion.
Exactly Minxy!! :thumbup:
The majority won't have a ^%&$^&%&*^%*^%&^ clue as to the pros and cons!
I think I might just be cynical, but maybe that was the idea
Quote by medic_1
I have said this in a previous post >>>
What we need is an "IGNORE" button
The more the ignore button is used the sooner the plonkers will realise they are in the wrong and the rooms become less crowded.
medic_1
Could that go someway of eliminating timewaster?
Because eventually they would have no one to talk too?
Just a thought!
Minxy
Yes I think it could.
It would be worth a trail
medic_1
Might save the verification process
Quote by Dave__Notts
I do not pay and feel that I contribute to the site, all be it bollcoks most of the time. Here comes Dave Notts now.
I have never picked up on a spelling mistake before but spelling bollocks wrong had me in stitches
Quote by kentswingers777
I have lots of good ideas for the site, but will wait for Admin to contact me first.
You cancelling your account then :shock:
Dave_Notts
I thought it was a job application
Quote by medic_1
I have said this in a previous post >>>
What we need is an "IGNORE" button
The more the ignore button is used the sooner the plonkers will realise they are in the wrong and the rooms become less crowded.
medic_1
Could that go someway of eliminating timewaster?
Because eventually they would have no one to talk too?
Just a thought!
I have retired from meeting, and the reason I give if asked is I am past my sell by date.
I am only 44 but feel the time is right for me to stop.
I don't really think I am past my sell by date, but it is something I don't feel I want right now.
I have fond and enjoyable memories I am happy with that.
Age to stop I feel is when you know you don't want to contuine. Doesn't mean you are past your best to me it just means you are off doing other things.
Also something to bare in mind it is said a mans peek is 18-30
A womans is 40-60 so I would say you are just beginning
I am only 44 but feel the time is right for me to stop.
I don't really think I am past my sell by date, but it is something I don't feel I want right now.
I have fond and enjoyable memories I am happy with that.
Age to stop I feel is when you know you don't want to contuine. Doesn't mean you are past your best to me it just means you are off doing other things.
Also something to bare in mind it is said a mans peek is 18-30
A womans is 40-60 so I would say you are just beginning
Quote by kentswingers777
This is how I would like it to go.
Every member has the option to either allow verification or not. For those like us that would, we would only allow a couple of verifications saying that we meet and are genuine.
Now if we say met a single guy, we would ask him if he wanted us to verify him, in other words he turned up and was a nice guy. OUR verification for him would remain annoymous, so WE would not be shown as leaving it. He would of course have the option of allowing that verification.
I am not talking about being able to leave something like " shit shag, a right arse ". The whole point for us would be to see people have met others, and that they are genuine, and they are who they say they are. ANY verifications left, must be annoymous otherwise people would clearly see who you had met.
Are you still with me boys and girls, cos it is confusing, and I know what I am thinking.
IF we saw say five guys profiles and they all seemed very meetable, but two had verifications and the other three did not, we would be more likely to contact those WITH verifications. There lies the main problem here.
It seems the people who do not want verifications are the ones that think, they will be at a disadvantage where others are concerned. IF people had none at all, would other prospective meets bother with their profile, IF another person had verifications?
There lies a lot of peoples fears I feel.
IF I was a single guy on here, I would do everything to make people believe I am not a timewaster, as so many are. If being verified uped my chances, which I think it would, of them getting a meet, I would take it with both hands.
But for this to work it HAS to be at the discretion of that member as to whether or not they opt in, and ALL verifications MUST be anonymous for the giver of any verification.
That for us is how we would like to see it work. I think it would work well if done like that, but as I have said before, it would work for us, but maybe not others.
If this is going to be brought in I think this would be the fairest way of doing it....unless others think differntly of course.
777 on the point I have hightlighted in blue.
Ok the ones that have verification you say look more reliable, over time say that verification was marked in 2009 and we are now in 2010. he/she/they met once went well, so verfication was left. But since have decided not to meet again, but still like a sexy chat with a male/female/couple.
would the verification be pointless then or still give you reasurance?
What is a swinger?
What is real swinger?
what is a fake swinger?
What is a timewaster?
what are we?
I am confused how I would be precieved
We did meet have met a couple of guys this last year, but have decided not to meet at this stage due to other family stuff going on, we don't know at this stage if it is something we might light to do at a later stage or not.
If we did come back would we be fake as having no tick?
Should I not be here?
What is real swinger?
what is a fake swinger?
What is a timewaster?
what are we?
I am confused how I would be precieved
We did meet have met a couple of guys this last year, but have decided not to meet at this stage due to other family stuff going on, we don't know at this stage if it is something we might light to do at a later stage or not.
If we did come back would we be fake as having no tick?
Should I not be here?
Quote by __random_orbit__
i remember whatching "Why dont you" on the tv on saturday mornings i think it was.
knew all the words to the theme tune then but my memory has gone now and can't remember all of it.
Had some great ideas on it though.
sittin at home,
watchin tv
turn it off, it's no use to me!
whyyy don't you?
whyyy don't you?
whyyyyyy don't youuuuu,
just switch off your television set and go out do something less boring instead!!!
i did.
lp
Now days it could be
whyyy don't you?
whyyy don't you?
whyyyyyy don't youuuuu,
just switch off your pc and go out do something less boring instead!!!
I have read every response and I still do not understand what people mean by a verification system as there seems to be differing opinions, even by those that want it.
Is it
1) a tick in a box to say someone has met you? (Mentioning no names)
2) a tick in a box with comments ( met can confirm their profile is who they say they are)
3) a tick in a box (contact ladyisaminx for further details)
4) a tick in a box with comments (had great time can shag like rabbits)
until it is clear what some want I am still
Maybe some could tick my boxes
Is it
1) a tick in a box to say someone has met you? (Mentioning no names)
2) a tick in a box with comments ( met can confirm their profile is who they say they are)
3) a tick in a box (contact ladyisaminx for further details)
4) a tick in a box with comments (had great time can shag like rabbits)
until it is clear what some want I am still
Maybe some could tick my boxes
Quote by kentswingers777
What are your thoughts on people who have no pictures, and nothing written on their profile?
Does not that lead some to think they may not be genuine?
I have no public pictures and I have no useful information in my profile.
Do you think I'm genuine, or am I a timewaster.?
You tell me. But would I have enough information to believe what you said anyway?
Your profile has 3 private pictures which we could ask to see if we was interested but...there is nothing there about other important things. So as a lot of others do have those things, we would be more likely to contact them first.
Can I ask why you have not filled out your profile? Is giving your build away a big problem?
I can understand some people not wanting public pictures, but I cannot for the life of me understand why a profile is not filled out...where is the problem in that?
For us we look at a profile to see if there are pictures, if there are we make a decision to carry on and read the profile. If that is filled out and the ages and builds are what we are looking for, we would then maybe make contact via a message.
They then have the opprtunity to look at our pictures which are genuine, and our filled out profile. If they contact us back with a positive, we would then have a chat on the phone and take things from there.
We tend to ignore members with no pictures or no profiles. Sorry but that is the way we do things, maybe thats right and maybe thats wrong, but it has worked for us.
Pictures for me has never been a problem if people have them or not,I do like a well written and thought out profile. If I make contact I like to cam face to face as soon as possible then take it from there.
Just beacuse I talk to people that is still no gaurantee we will meet.
Quote by Kff30
some things i have noted from a number of posts on here by members who are against varificaton
quite a few of these members say they are members of other sites wich have varification and they choose not to use it so why would it be a problem if it was the same on here ???
secondly ppl keep going on about a 2 tier system if the varification comes in we have that on here already how many profiles have you seen that says "no photos no meet" or "dont contact us unless you have a face shot" is that not a two tier system that has been self imposed by large numbers of members on here we are guilty of this we wont meet if ppl dont have photos or a cam
i have never seen a thread on here yet that says "its unfair not to meet members who have no photos" no one complains about that 2 tier system yet it has always been here
we all use photos and seeing ppl on cam as a form of varification they aid us in choosing who we meet
having a verification system would be another aid that would just help confirm members decided who they meet
i can not understand why so many members are against having a voulntry varification system if its some thing they have not got to use the only only reason they seam to give is they feel it would create a two tier system but as i have just pointed out dont we have that already ??
The two points highlighted in RED are preferences or requests and NOT verification.
yes they are preferences but we all use them to decide if some one is genuine or not we all use them to verifiy a member to some sort as i said how many ppl on here refuse to meet a member if thay have no photos on their profile i would say just about the whole site and if we had a option for verification on our profile that too would be a preference
That statement is incorrect as we have never had pictures on this site, but have met a few guys that it didn't matter too. As I have other means to verify who we are.
