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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
United Kingdom
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Quote by niceguysdoexist
We are the sum of our experiences and a little bit more.
Our sexualities are created within a hugely complex network which unites our past with a desire for the future and a perception of the present.
Consequently our sexuality is born out of the very fundamentals that make us the individuals we such in sex we reflect facets of our charcters some of which may be so deep that maybe even we are not aware they exist , altho we may maybe when we express our sexuality to the world we risk exposing our inner core ...trusting that the vulnerability that that entails is not exploited or abused. The reward for such high risk is totally satisfying sexual release , total mind possessing , problem killing release.
So in sharing sexual experiences with others we not only lay oursleves on a line but appreciate the trust, courage and person our partners(s)also committ to us.
So how absolutely,divinely magical it is to see the visual, tangible,evidence that your shared intimacy has taken your partner(s) to a physical and maybe even spiritual heaven for a few brief but oh so precious moments.
Bukkake is not my thing either, I dont cope well with regimented performing to order
I do know I adore watching ladies as their faces reflect the intensity and abandon of their orgasm. I love to see the joy on a lady's face when she makes me cum and watches my warm white semen pulse, oh so urgently out of my it alights on flesh then it somehow encapsulates and serves as testimony to the intimacy of the moment. I also love watching a couple who seek each others pleasure succeed in the ultimate ejaculation and revel in the beauty of what they have achieved.
Why ..I'm not sure I know
...............I'm not even sure I care
why doesn't someone stop me posting bollocks
What a great read you had me captivated! :thumbup:
If this is your bollocks, I would like to read something you think is good!
Quote by Whipsnspurs
I like Greek, Italian, Indian, Chinese, French, Spanish, and English in that order.
All cooked from family and friends recipes.
I just love all food, except artichokes yuck!
i'm greek, will i do? lol
whips
Ooo can I wrap you in a nice vine leaf?
Hubby is half Greek, I have never had a whole one!
wrap me in what you like but i'm also half greek so maybe you can take the best from both of us?
mmmm two halves make a whole!
Quote by Whipsnspurs
I like Greek, Italian, Indian, Chinese, French, Spanish, and English in that order.
All cooked from family and friends recipes.
I just love all food, except artichokes yuck!
i'm greek, will i do? lol
whips
Ooo can I wrap you in a nice vine leaf?
Hubby is half Greek, I have never had a whole one!
Quote by helnheaven
Im not sure this is a question that can be answered.
IMO, everyone is at the very least a little bit curious and those who say they arent are telling porkies
I have the curiosity to find out about it, but not the curiosity to act upon it!
Does this mean I am telling porkies then?
Yep!
O heck
I had better stem my curiosity in future!
I had better not start the new thread I was going to ask would you have sex with a rugby team, you might think I would like to!
Why not? It might be fun but then you'd not know unless you tried it!
My motto is never say never! :twisted:
Quote by helnheaven
Im not sure this is a question that can be answered.
IMO, everyone is at the very least a little bit curious and those who say they arent are telling porkies
I have the curiosity to find out about it, but not the curiosity to act upon it!
Does this mean I am telling porkies then?
Yep!
O heck
I had better stem my curiosity in future!
I had better not start the new thread I was going to ask would you have sex with a rugby team, you might think I would like to!
Quote by Mr-Powers
It's "lawles" compared to what we are used to, but those you voted in, created this rod for our backs.
compared to what we are use to???
you trying say that we were some kind of utopia 10,20 or 30 years ago!
people have always been getting hurt or killed on our streets...its only the press thats keeping a count about now though!
The press and TV I believe are a major problem in our country.
So many people believe what they say, you see them quoted so offen in these forums.
Quote by flower411
Good mood
Been sitting here most of the day playing 78`s cos I`ve just got round to getting a decent deck and amp to play them on :thumbup:
Blooming loads of em , skiffle, jazz, swing, rock n roll.......Just found "walking backwards for christmas" by the Goons
So now I can list them on ebay and give an honest description of the condition :thumbup:
And I`ve just got back from a meeting for a deal that should keep me mortgage paid and food on the table until Christmas at least !!!
YAY !!
The bailiffs can sod off now
So are you the DJ tonight then?
Quote by helnheaven
Im not sure this is a question that can be answered.
IMO, everyone is at the very least a little bit curious and those who say they arent are telling porkies
I have the curiosity to find out about it, but not the curiosity to act upon it!
Does this mean I am telling porkies then?
Quote by anais
The wonderful world of the unspoken word, devoid of physical emotion and open to interpretation, the way most things are received is down to the mood of the reader.
With ya hear Hib - but I do agree with what Minx said - I remember when I fist started reading forums - I worked an lived in a very pc world and some stuff written shocked me but it was how I interpreted it because of who I am and what I was about at that time.
I do feel that we forget that people are going through things in life and some topics affect them deeply - so they react or reply in a particular manner.
Others perhaps play the devils advocate - sometimes that's fine - sometimes not appropriate.
I totally agree some topics affect people, that is why I feel understanding of posters is paramount.
Some people play devils advocate, it is knowing when to apply this and when it is best to keep quiet.
We can learn from some people’s experiences, by listening.
If some find it amusing to pick these peoples opinions apart, then they will go, then who are we going to learn by?
Again, I totally agree with you Minx :smile:
I don't think anyone learns anything when a post is picked apart again and again - in fact I stop listening to what they have to say - even if it is interesting etc. Then, I start to see their posts as negative and destructive. So perhaps we can learn by this thread and think before we post? Be more constructive, positive and listen a little more instead of picking up on every last word and trying to enforce others to accept their point of view.
We all have different experiences and interests and could learn by others knowledge.
Heavens took me right back to barriers to learning/communication skills I used to train workers/young people in did this:lol2:
Maybe you could take a few aside and teach them privately! :twisted:
Quote by Drnwalls
Another straight female here
I can certainly look at other female and say WOW but have no interest in having sex with them.
What confuses me about bisexuality is more the fact women are so open and honest about it and hey if your attracted to the same sex then I say go for it.
However here’s the confusing bit
Lots of men in the swinging scene who claim to be bisexual also claim they are not attracted to men?? But then have preferences when it comes to women and how they look, be it size, shape etc, this becomes very confusing indeed.
confused
I'd like to comment on that and tryand explain it, or at least offer my thoughts on it (ie the confusing aspect).
I fall into the category of a man who claims to be bisexual, probably actually is by definition at least, or rather, if the definition is that you have to actually have or have had sex with a member of your own sex, then yes, that would make me bisexual.
If the definition is that you have to be sexually attracted to a member of your own sex, then no, i'm not, lol.
The thing is you see, personally speaking, I am only attracted to womens bodies, the touch and feel of a woman and the thought of being intimate with a woman.
I do not feel that way about a man, quite the reverse.
But, when it comes to sex, in the right circumstances, I can and would do certain things, sexually, with a man.
Now that would be for MY enjoyment only, not his. If he got something out of it then fine. With a woman, it would be for HER enjoyment (HOpefully, lol) and mine also.
I would say that it's a bit like using a vibrator. Fortunately there isn't a label in the same way as 'bisexual' for people who gain sexual satisfaction from using one.
If you use a vibrator, does that mean you are 'attracted' to vibrators??
Do you see where i'm coming from??
Just because you've fu@#ed yourself with a cucumber it doesn't make you a vegetarian!!!
There are though i'm sure men who are and can be physically and mentally attracted to other men aswell as and equal too, members of the opposite sex, same for women too, but I think most 'bisexual' men, as described on here, are actually not 'bisexual' at all, in the true sense, but just like the thrill and excitement of being with another guy, rather than the attraction side of things.
I believe that there is a scale of sexuality that has 'totally straight' at one end and 'taotally homosexual' at the other, and we are all at various places on that scale with not many in the dead centre and not many at either end, but most somewhere in between, though when you add in 'attraction' it all gets a bit too confusing and most (male at least) would move quite a few places towards the 'totally straight' side, lol.
That's my take on it anyway, from my own personal view, and I think it has little to do with greed or being selfish, that's all wrapped up in a different debate about cheating, but what do I know eh? I'm just a bloke, lol!!!!
DP
Thanks for your comments it was to me a insight, When I have spoken to a few guys feeling the way you do they have explained in much the same way you have.
Quote by anais
The wonderful world of the unspoken word, devoid of physical emotion and open to interpretation, the way most things are received is down to the mood of the reader.
With ya hear Hib - but I do agree with what Minx said - I remember when I fist started reading forums - I worked an lived in a very pc world and some stuff written shocked me but it was how I interpreted it because of who I am and what I was about at that time.
I do feel that we forget that people are going through things in life and some topics affect them deeply - so they react or reply in a particular manner.
Others perhaps play the devils advocate - sometimes that's fine - sometimes not appropriate.
I totally agree some topics affect people, that is why I feel understanding of posters is paramount.
Some people play devils advocate, it is knowing when to apply this and when it is best to keep quiet.
We can learn from some people’s experiences, by listening.
If some find it amusing to pick these peoples opinions apart, then they will go, then who are we going to learn by?
Quote by Hibernian
My Bi - Side is just for fun & only comes out when the time is right & with the right people.
Sexuality is a complex thing... :twisted:
From,
Wunderhorse.
:thumbup:
Do you have something to contribute to this thread or are you just going to comment on others posts?
You responded to a few posters comments but as yet you haven’t answered the original thread.
Plus I have asked some questions on a post you submitted but as yet you have yet to comment on these.
Would you like to do so at some point please. :thumbup:
Quote by DeeCee
do you know what......
the more I read the more I think some people really do just go out to wind people up just for the sheer fun of it... regardless, its like they get a kick
and the more i can see it will turn off people from writing or participate in the forum.....
it feels as if the forum has become the domain of strong attitudes... and if they don't agree, then be damned.....
so, do you have any constructive comment on whether to "split" the forums in some way?
it has always been this way... and in the 4 and a bit years I have been here I don't think it is a problem with the way it is split presently......
do I think it is "broken".... no.... i think the problem is more to do with attitude!
it has more to do with the way that some people like to try and influence others by the way comments that they disagree with are dismissed.... condesending, belittling, downright rude and obnoxious..... and like i said, to see "some" people IMO get a kick out of it is worse still
i think you make a good point...but things are only condesending, belittling, downright rude and obnoxious when percieved that way..... maybe words are taken out of context... maybe people are ultra-sensitive etc etc.
i just think that presently there are very few firm guidelines. Yes the AUP exists.. but that doesnt mean to say that rules dont need to be ammended or that guidelines for best practice shouldnt be considered.
my point is that coming onto a thread and voicing our opinions of how we percieve another members actions doesnt help at all.
Can we question another’s opinion?
I think it is ok to do that!
I believe it is down to the way the question comes across.
The written form of talking is the hardest I believe you see it time after time here, that some people think what they say and others say what they think.
How we perceive others should be added to the AUP. To voice on the forums how we perceive another person in a negative way, is to me judging that person.
Who are we to judge anyone one by the written form?
Are we not all here to listen and keep an open mind?
Or are we here just to judge?
Quote by Mr-Powers
well i quite like Peanuts postings...i honestly think some are guilty of goading him,then play the victims!
I like peanuts postings too, a lot of the time he brings a good debate, he just needs to know when to step back as it isnt really worth getting the last word. I think it takes a real person to back off.
The strongest type of people, are the ones that can walk away.
I believe if people post, you can question their opinions.
An arguement can occur when you have questioned all their responses and still keep asking.
It is knowing when to stop!
And just accept!
Quote by Lost
One of the great things about this site and the forum in it is its inclusiveness to cater for most people and tastes.
The Forum is broad spectrum and has loads of different topics isn't that a good thing. Blimey we all have the right of veto on our own keyboards. I like the heavy stuff oh and I like the sexy funny stuff is what I like too and the flippant stuff and the general interest stuff and the sad stuff happy stuff short stuff long stuff. Leave it be its fine.
I guess there could be a poll but dont ask me to get involved with that one
I totally agree with all you have said!
Should I start the poll?
Quote by flower411
Seems some people are proposing a new forum for political threads.
Try the Radio 4 forums :thumbup:
This is a swinging site and I think the cafe should be used for general chit chat and a bit of fun. Of course there will be serious threads but why would a swinging site want a whole forum dedicated to political/controversial threads ???
The mods have enough to do without having to police a whole new forum totally dedicated to poitics.
As I said, try the Radio 4 forums, they have loads of really good arguments if that`s what ya looking for.
Sorry didn’t mean just political I was really talking topical.
Some topic can get heated like the one I have locked that wasn’t political.
It was just an idea I didn’t say it would work here, just that from keeping general topic and more topical one apart, might help some that get upset at some debates from knowing where those debates might occur and be able to avoid them.
Maybe some topics should be banned and the forums just used for sex threads and fun threads.
I don’t know what others feel about this?
After all this site is a fun site, I still have fun that’s why I am here.
Quote by kentswingers777
My opinion on it should be that who ever started the thread, should have the power to either delete a post or to be able to issue a warning.
This was my original thread and what started off as a debate, as usual goes off topic, and away from the question that I asked...exactly the same thing happened on my 9/11 thread.
If I open a chat room I have the power to kick members who are either abusive or nasty. You should be able to have those same powers in the forum IF it is your own thread.
I feel that would work and would I think stop the vast majority of the problems we now have. Two of my threads ended up going off topic and I could have easily stopped that from happening had I, as the poster had that option.
Maybe one for admin to look at at some stage in the future?
Blimey....hijacking me own thread now. :shock:
:shock: everyone including myself would be booted if they don't agree with you!
You would be left chatting to yourself!
Quote by Hibernian
I started to have look at other women in my 20s but I think it was more finding the female body sexy than anything else. I started to feel attracted to women in my 30s and even discussed it with my ex hubby. He was ok for me to experiment but I said it would be a private thing between me and the woman involved rather than to put on a 2 girl show for his benefit. Don't think he liked that much
I didn't do anything about my tendencies until we had split and did so for my own reasons. Never looked back since
Don't take this personally, but that really annoys me, it's selfish and it's cheating.
I didnt see it that way If you are in a relationship where this has been dicussed and both are ok about it, how can it be cheating?
The fact she has asked his thoughts on it isnt cheating in my opinion.
She didn't then say she went and done it without him knowing, I think sassy said she waited and now they are no longer together has since tryed.
I used to use a lesbian chat room some years ago, and there was a bisexual woman used it, and we got on very well, on and off the board, however, her atttude towards that side of her sexuality really annoyed me.
Can I ask why would you being a male, be using a lesbian chat room?
And what does on and off the board mean?
She used to see women, and her husband wasn't very happy about it, she said that was "his problem to deal with".
All parties I believe need to be happy.
When asked how she would feel if he cheated on her, she said she would "cut it off" (his member), she wasn't cheating, just satisfying her bi side
.But to quote this in the same sentance as questioning Sassy, I can not see the resembalance!
Is it me being dim again?
Quote by DeeCee
herein lies the reason why i still think it would be better to split these types of threads from the "light hearted" threads....
lets face it.... this is turning into a thread where people are trying to censor what another poster is saying... again.
As ive said before, im not without fault in the way i sometimes have used the forums..... but even if one uses the pre-cursor that "i'm not making this statement about anybody in particular" it cleary (imo) is exactly what you are doing.
theres a massive amount of intolearnce/bigotry on this forum... and even worse are the tactics of being personal to other members without actually saying it....... personally if i think someones a bully or whatever, ive got the balls to say it.... even if it would get me banned!!!!
no offence like.....
I agree with you, other forums have a place just for topical debate and poster are asked to stick to op. It works well there, I can't see why it wouldn't work just as well here.
we have sections already here as in: chatroom forum, the cafe, lets meet up etc would another be so hard?
Then the mods can do their job and watch things there dont get out of hand.
Just an idea!
Quote by danne-gary
im interested in knowing of any too, i shave but its painful, i cut myself and then have a rash despite following advice given here about what shaver, cream etc to use
iv even bought a ladyshave but its crap, it dont shave close enough, altho no pain, cuts or rash
Have you tryed using hair condition?
Works well on wet shaving.
thank you, il try that, will try anything
did see in sainsburys a bodywash that had a moisturiser in it and it said you could use it for shaving, that would be similar i guess
thank you
danne x
Try just plain hair conditioner first I use herbal essences but I think any would do. It leaves the skin feeling soft and silky too.
Teatree lotion is good after waxing and shaving but I don't know in deicate areas I would find out first.
Quote by danne-gary
im interested in knowing of any too, i shave but its painful, i cut myself and then have a rash despite following advice given here about what shaver, cream etc to use
iv even bought a ladyshave but its crap, it dont shave close enough, altho no pain, cuts or rash
Have you tryed using hair condition?
Works well on wet shaving.
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I started to have look at other women in my 20s but I think it was more finding the female body sexy than anything else. I started to feel attracted to women in my 30s and even discussed it with my ex hubby. He was ok for me to experiment but I said it would be a private thing between me and the woman involved rather than to put on a 2 girl show for his benefit. Don't think he liked that much
I didn't do anything about my tendencies until we had split and did so for my own reasons. Never looked back since
Thanks sassy!
I can flirt with woman I don't have a problem there, and some I find very sexy too!
I do believe you have one life why not try what you want, I say good luck to anyone for trying things that they want to try.
Quote by flower411
One of the reason this country has gone to the wall is because people just aren't tolerant of others points of view!!!
Which is arguably what you are doing
No actually, I'm quite tolerant of both aspects of this "argument", neither opinion is wrong, neither opinion is right, they are just that ... opinions!
I don't feel the need to belittle someone so publically because they hold a differing opinion to my own, I may not agree with what they say, I may find it frustrating that they are so one sided, but as I am entitled to how I feel, they are entitled to be the same way.
I just see that it mirrors society, if people were willing to accept someone elses point of view, even if they don't believe it, then society would be a much nicer place!
"Tolerance" manifests itself in many ways, as does 'intolerance'.
Frustration as in 'banging one's head against a wall' could be deemed to be intolerant.
Intolerance isn't just when one speaks out or argues with another's PoV, intolerance can be a passive event too.
You also seem to be confusing the right for someone to have a PoV and the right to believing that PoV to be correct. There is nothing wrong, in my view, with contesting the reasons behind why someone has a particular viewpoint.
Likewise, agreeing with someone's viewpoint when it is diametrically opposed to one's own isn't always the right thing to do either.
People banging there heads against the wall in frustration doesn`t appear to me to be because they are in any way commenting on your opinion or views.
It is simply the fact that you constantly pick peoples threads apart line by line if they have the audacity to disagree with you.
Your constant nit-picking and total inability to allow somebody to express a differing opinion to your own is, at worst, a form of bullying and, at best, just plain boring.
:thumbup: go flower go!
