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could someone sum it up so I don't have to read all that.......

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could someone sum it up so I don't have to read all that.......

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There's a fun forum, why didn't anyone tell me about it?

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I think the notion of monogamy is ingrained in societal norms, culture and religion and as such, we all grow up in a world where this belief is a central tenet to what is a 'decent society'. This has come about after centuries of modelling by religious leaders, culture and indeed the innate fear of being 'different'.
It is amusing to think that we are avowed believers in that monogamy is right and yet the vast majority of the rest of the animal world, doesn't practice it. Some do, and when they do, David Attenborough usually tells us in soft gentle towns, with the accompaniment of gentle strings and harps, about how these animals mate for life... and we sigh and think how sweet. When in actual fact, they and we are the freaks of nature.
Also biology calls into question whether this was actually the right way forward. Sir Robert Winstone presented a series on this a while back. It actually put camera's (don't ask me how) inside a woman and filmed her as she had sex. It showed that sex with her partner didn't produce the same reactions as sex with another that her cervix would 'dip' into his pooled sperm, facilitating its easier passage into her womb. This happened because, presubambly she was more excited and orgasmic with a new man, than her partner.
The upshot of this could therefore be that if a woman wanted to get pregnant, she should have sex with as many different partners as possible. It has also been found that different sperm 'compete' with each other in the womb, ensuring that only the strongest make it to the egg. This would ensure her offspring would tenbd to come from a stronger gene pool and have the best chance of survival. It's natural selection in a microcosm.
At its core this is also nature v nurture debate. There's plenty of evidence in nature that monogamy is not normal and perhaps even detrimental to a womans chances of procreation. Nurture however is teaching her that this is not as important as finding a sexual partner for life. For men, it is simply about him furthering his genes. The best way for him to do that is have as many people take them as is humanly possible.
I think swinging is popular because it appeals to the natural animal instincts within us and sates their desire, without the rather tiresome moralising of "society" judging you for it, all without the need to betray the feelings of a loved one (if you are with a partner). The fact it is somewhat and judged as wrong by many. also adds to its attraction for some.
It offers a bridge between taking the moral stance of monogamy as good and right, and perhaps fulfilling a natural need to enjoy sex with others on a more fundamental, animalistic level. There's also the added bonus that it's bloody good fun and that we have evolved to find aspects of it, such as seeing our partner with someone else, attractive too.
So Minxy, you may well be programmed by society to think one way, but you are programmed by your genes to think another too. Whoever wins the battle will decide whether you are a swinger or not.

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probaly ran off with the black guy