Join the most popular community of UK swingers now
Login
Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
United Kingdom
Forum
I have had two books for years now, always handy when hols come around they are called
Days out Atlas
1001 Days out with your kids
Plus I always check internet for local groups sports clubs that hold fun days activites.
The local police also use to run a fun week of mixed activites I don't know if it was a national thing or just local to us.
There is often organised activities going on at local parks near here too.
All these groups were very resonable in costs considering the price of child care and some are free
Hope that gives you some ideas
Days out Atlas
1001 Days out with your kids
Plus I always check internet for local groups sports clubs that hold fun days activites.
The local police also use to run a fun week of mixed activites I don't know if it was a national thing or just local to us.
There is often organised activities going on at local parks near here too.
All these groups were very resonable in costs considering the price of child care and some are free
Hope that gives you some ideas
Quote by flower411
Doesn’t original thinking happen when we rid our minds of others influences, judgements, and prejudices and we open our minds up to think for ourselves?
I just wondered others views.
I`d say that it`s not ridding our minds of other influences but, being able to see through other peoples agendas and forming our own view.
I believe it can be, we all are influenced from different parts of our lives, from upbringing schooling etc. Different emotions within us are part of others influences.
Take fear for instance why do we fear?
For example:
My Children fear spiders I have never shown them that fear but their Dad has, how does a 2 year old fear spiders when they haven’t had a bad experience from them?
A lot of our fears are unfounded, it is seeing the reaction on others face from early age and beyond.
Anger what makes us angry?
Anger comes from our expectations of others, how does that get there?
These are just a couple of examples but if you rid your mind of others influences you might be able to rationalise these things that makes us react in a different way.
It’s listening to opposing views and other people’s interpretations. It’s looking at things that are presented as facts by others, politicians for example, and then trying to find where they get their information and then seeing if the truth is available.
I agree it is not taking as fact what others say, unless we are presented with the proof, that we then can check out for ourselves.
It’s looking at things people say and remembering if they lied in the past, politicians for example, and then basing your thoughts on your previous experience to find solutions to problems.
Totally agree.
It`s being honest to yourself and others and not trying to manipulate their thoughts and opinions but giving them all the information they need to form a view for themselves.
Being honest with yourself I believe is paramount, if you can’t be honest with yourself you will be found out to be dishonest to others so will lose respect of others.
If you think you can manipulate thoughts of others then you are onto a losing battle, adults should be able to form their own opinions based on what has been said.
It`s encouraging people to think for themselves and not being surprised or annoyed when they come to a different conclusion to you. It`s working with opposing conclusions to acheive a common goal.
I totally agree this comes back to what I said above, it is peoples expectations of others that causes the annoyance and anger.
You can never reach a common goal unless you can accept others differences of opinion, this doesn’t always mean we don’t have the same common goal.
It`s saying what you think, despite the anger and aggression that this brings forth ....
Again I totally agree, although if the above was installed there shouldn’t be anger and aggression but acceptance that we don’t all think alike and form the same opinions but can still have the same common goal.
It`s being in a room with other people and somebody saying ....
"That`s a thought !! I`d never looked at it like that before" :thumbup:
When that happens to me I smile as that to me is a sign that I have kept an open mind, I find at these times a strong sense of contentment as my brain is active and open.
People that do that to me I look on as being exciting to be around. There are a few in this forum that have given me that feeling, I guess it is why I am still here.
Quote by Mark_July
Not a hamster anyway. . :shock:
Do you have a thing about hampsters?
Only I have a likeness to one, in that I go around in circles all day and never seem to get anywhere.
umm. . cough. . I eh um . read . um . . something about um um eh . . hamsters. .
I don't think I wish to know! Quote by mancunian
Not a hamster anyway. . :shock:
Do you have a thing about hampsters?
Only I have a likeness to one, in that I go around in circles all day and never seem to get anywhere.
Does that mean that the 'Last Post Wins' thread is representatve of your lifestyle?
:shock: How observant you are, I wondered how the idea come up.
But then I could be a dog, chasing it's own tail.
Are you going to be any animal providing it runs round in little circles.
I'm a little worried that you may run so far forward that you may disappear up your own rear orifice. :shock:
Well if I disappear from here then you know where to find me. I thought friends requests were there for people that have had at least a chat on here and might mention about adding each other as a friend etc.
What I am finding is people are using it at random and just using it I feel to get noticed without even sending you a message first.
I can not be the only person this is happening to, do others just accept friends at random or use it for those we like to keep up with on here.
If you decline the request does the sender get a message saying minx don’t want to be your friend?
I really don’t understand the difference between favourites and friends only that one is discrete and the other shows you have a total of friends on your profile.
I noticed someone the other day with around 50 friends on their list, do some people just collect them?
I wouldn’t know who was who with that many names.
Are you a collector of friends or just keep it to the select few you have chosen to be friends with?
What I am finding is people are using it at random and just using it I feel to get noticed without even sending you a message first.
I can not be the only person this is happening to, do others just accept friends at random or use it for those we like to keep up with on here.
If you decline the request does the sender get a message saying minx don’t want to be your friend?
I really don’t understand the difference between favourites and friends only that one is discrete and the other shows you have a total of friends on your profile.
I noticed someone the other day with around 50 friends on their list, do some people just collect them?
I wouldn’t know who was who with that many names.
Are you a collector of friends or just keep it to the select few you have chosen to be friends with?
Quote by flower411
You just want them to lock it don't ya?
Then you can say I told you so!
They went and locked the wrong one minx !!!!
Anyway ...where`s me points and who`s in charge of keeping score ??
I noticed :giggle: in there as quick as a blink of the eye.
I was going to put the score I make it 15 love or is that love 15.
Now bugger off and stop hijaking this one.
Quote by Tamcouple
I think it's thinking outside the box... not just accepting things for what they are or "because that's how it's done"... surely swingers in general are much closer to original thinking than people in vanilla relationships, as they have successfully bypassed the social/relationship constraints which have been imposed on us all. Certainly I think questioning everything is a good thing.
I agree with you it is about thinking out side the box, but that for a lot is a scary place to be, as its the unknown.
What I find are people are happy to do it in certain aspects of their lives where risks are greater, but not in others where the risk is less greater.
I have wondered for years why some people make me listen and think, while others just seem to bore me.
What I find are people that speak with passion about their own experience no matter what the subject or topic make me listen to their point of view, even if I might disagree with it based on my own personal experiences, I still would listen as listening I could learn from their own experiences. What I find is if someone says another told them something or their say I was bought up to believe, I then think what they are saying isn’t original, as in some way others have had a lot of influence in their thinking.
So to me an original thinker is someone that can speak from the heart and what they say holds clarity.
Doesn’t original thinking happen when we rid our minds of others influences, judgements, and prejudices and we open our minds up to think for ourselves?
I just wondered others views.
What I find are people that speak with passion about their own experience no matter what the subject or topic make me listen to their point of view, even if I might disagree with it based on my own personal experiences, I still would listen as listening I could learn from their own experiences. What I find is if someone says another told them something or their say I was bought up to believe, I then think what they are saying isn’t original, as in some way others have had a lot of influence in their thinking.
So to me an original thinker is someone that can speak from the heart and what they say holds clarity.
Doesn’t original thinking happen when we rid our minds of others influences, judgements, and prejudices and we open our minds up to think for ourselves?
I just wondered others views.
Quote by mancunian
Not a hamster anyway. . :shock:
Do you have a thing about hampsters?
Only I have a likeness to one, in that I go around in circles all day and never seem to get anywhere.
Does that mean that the 'Last Post Wins' thread is representatve of your lifestyle?
:shock: How observant you are, I wondered how the idea come up.
But then I could be a dog, chasing it's own tail.
