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Theladyisaminx
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Without letting private information out that might offend, say something you know about the person above.
Please keep it friendly you can use their profile or previous posts for inspiration.
As I can’t say anything about the person above I will say something about myself.
I can chat a lot! redface
Over to you.
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Theladyisaminx
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Quote by duncanlondon
Several times I have convinced myself that I have thought something out and it seems good to me. But then I meet other people who have thought quite differently about the same thing, and in their own way are quite right also. That different perspectives can seem apart but are in fact doing something very similar, even if both sides can't see it. That they are mostly in accordance but can only see the minor differences as major problems, which is enough to convince each other that they have a real argument.

I completely understand what you are saying you could be talking about my husband and I. We have been together and for 30 years but wondered why we always seemed to get into heated discussions when sometimes only discussing minor issues that we know we agree on but always seem to disagree when discussed. when we analysised it we found we start at a point then what happens he goes in a semicircle right and I go in a semicircle left. We go off in different ways as we both think and explain things differently but end up joining at the top of the circle and then realising we both agree.
Does that make sense?
We put it down to thought processes and the way we explain ourselves to each other. After 30 you would think one of us would just be agreeable but if you have two strong minds and personalities together that is when this cycle seems to happen. It also keep debate lively in our house and communication open.
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Theladyisaminx
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Quote by Srne
Yeah I would definitely agree that the people here are a big draw that brings me back. It's the liberated outlook like you mentioned that makes me feel sort of that I belong here a bit, and that I'm maybe not weird just a little more adventurous than non swingers.
I talk more openly and honestly through these forums than I do to anyone I know in a non swinging way, even about things non sex related, strange that, never really thought of it that way till just now!

Talking more openly here I have found is mainly because the topic of conversation in the vanilla world is mainly sex, in here sex is what the site is based around to a large degree, so once you take away the topic everything is up to be discussed. I think that is why some people always say what you have you can discuss anything here.
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Theladyisaminx
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I still am not sure what you are asking, but here is my take from someone that doesn’t swing anymore.
I think like most things in life that are different from the norm there is always more of a thrill in the beginning, will me I found that the thrill to meet a new person was not as intense when I decided to quit as it was in the beginning, hence one of my reasons to stop. What I found more enjoyable was meeting the same people as with time you felt more relaxed and able to discuss trying new things on subsequent meeting with them, as I felt I tried a lot of things I came here to try and a lot of things I never thought I would try I was happy to stop swinging and meeting new men.
Do I miss it?
I miss the interaction with people the fun and laughter I had here on my quest to meet the right people, That is why I am still here, but I don’t miss the having sex with other men, I enjoyed what I done and with whom I done it with, most of which I am still friends with, I have fond memories of times shared together with them and those memories will be there forever. But I have my husband and he is the one I have always wanted so I am a happy quitter.
Maybe I was never a real swinger something I often wonder, but I do like the liberal minds of a lot of people here.
Would we resume one day?
Who's knows what the future holds and how we might feel a year from now, so I never say never.
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Theladyisaminx
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Quote by benrums0n
Dontcha think Res that a bad workman always blaming his tools or a good workman never blaming his tools can both be interpreted either way?
And yes language is lovely.
And no I dont want your babies.

Damn thats confused me now! redface
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Theladyisaminx
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I am a smoker but very rarely use pubs on the odd occasion I did or do even before the ban I would go into the pub garden or outside to have a cigarette as most of my friends don’t smoke. But I don’t think a carpet ban was the answer, it was the easiest answer the government could find to make it easy on them, and basically let everyone get on with it.
What I don’t think they considered in their (if you want to call it) planning was
a) the livelihood of a lot of people within the pubs
b) what a detriment affect it would have on small village life where the pub was one of the main places for a social gathering especially for the older folk where it was one of the places they could just about get to on foot, to meet up and have a chat.
c) The decreased risks to other pub uses, but increased risk to children and babies. Before pubs used to be crowed on major sporting events to meet up with friends to watch with a pint and a cigarette. Now a lot take cans home and watch it on TV and invite friends around to watch.
Other countries can manager to combine the two, why can’t we by having segregated smoking areas, like the company I worked for years ago that indroduced this long before the ban was inforced, there were more non smokers in the smoking area than smokers.
I think the government should question more on what everyone would like, before assuming all non smokers would like a carpet ban because a few selected polls told them that is what was wanted.
The government causes the feelings of them and us and just sits back and still smokes in comfort, as they didn’t ban it in their bar in parliament I am lead to believe I would stand corrected if I am wrong.
Maybe the government could have coughed up some help with the revenue it makes on alcohol and cigarettes to have created an even balance to make everyone happy
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Theladyisaminx
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Quote by kentswingers777
Staff Incentives do help promote staff loyalty, Minx and good employers are well aware of this. Contrary to what some would have us believe, there are many good employers out there and no doubt, many bad ones too but that's no different to there being good and bad employees.
The thing about our "system", is that anyone can start up their own business if they have the desire but not everyone has that desire, many prefer the relative "comfort" of employment....so to anyone who feels exploited by their employer why not give a try it on the other side...and then do things the way you think they should be done.

Both hubby and I were employed but we are both self employed now have been for around 9 years. we are the makers of our own destiny. We don't employ people as we do enough work to cover our overheads as we work from home. But what it does do is frees up time to do what we enjoy too which is work doing voluntary work within our community which to me is so much more rewarding than what I done for 18 years prior to that. I loved my job years ago and felt I was a valued employee but when they started stripping incentives we had to find a way to have job satifaction and a sence of worth, this way was the only way I could see out of what was then becoming the materialist society inwhich we have now, where most were out for self gain we opted out and although a struggle at times we are have freedom to do what we do now.
Can you explain what you mean by that?
I am a tad confused as to what it means.
The bit you have highlighted was a continuation of the materialist society bit.
You have asked me what I mean by that.
So these are my own thoughts by experiences I have seen over the years and not something I have read.
I have seen over the years people’s precepts of what is important within a society change from how we can live in a society and feel a belonging to shutting ourselves off from society and becoming closed. More people years ago wanted to fit into society to share what little we had to give or offer help in anyway we felt we can to others.
Now days I feel more and more people judge others on what they have more than what they have to offer to society hence my term out for self gain. It seems important to a lot what car you drive, what phone you use, what size TV you watch, where you go on holidays etc. It seems in a lot of circles the only topics of conversation.
I believe everyone should do something to help others if only a couple hours a month.
There is so much that can be done in our society to give benefits to so many for such a short time within our own lives. This wouldn’t interfere with our everyday lives and work, but most don’t see beyond their time or the benefits that giving a little can achieve.
Most hype on about spongers of the state, but there are other vulnerable people out there that need a little time, not money.
Time to me out ways money and the rewards are much greater
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Theladyisaminx
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I have always seen this saying to mean, a bad workman will blame it on anything but his own abilities. I believe this to be the case, as anyone that is good in what they do, can do a great job even with the poorest of tools.
Look at some of the historic wonders of the world, we have the best tools going now days but can not it seems reproduce what they did with the most primitive tools that had to work with.
But this saying can relate to anything in life that you appoint blame on something else.
So for me I see it as a cop out clause.
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