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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
United Kingdom
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Quote by Mack-m
Thought I would add these
1 It is acceptable for us to drive your car. It is not acceptable for you to drive ours.
1 BEER is as exciting for us as handbags are for you.
1 Let us ogle. We are going to look anyway; it’s genetic.
My hubby would agree with the last, he has also said to me in jest.
The reason he would not agree with the first is that I don't drive
I have never needed to I have a chauffeur It is him.
He doesn't drink, but then I don't have interest in having a load of bags or shoes either.
What is yours is mine, what is mine is my own
I came here not feeling there was anything missing in my life except having a couple of experiences with other men as my hubby was the only man I have had sex with as we met when I was 13. So to me to try a couple of new experiences were enough for me.
So I decided about 5 months ago to quit, a lot of people here thought my quitting would not last, as many said when women try this life style they never wanted to quit.
I guess what it proved to me although I have met some great guys and we are still really good friends even though they know my views are I am not there for them to meet, they still would like to remain friends is that I have converted back to thinking nothing was ever missing in my life as I always knew was the case.
So I don’t feel I need to come back to swinging but I don’t have regrets for trying it neither.
I just hang about these days, chatting to people I enjoy chatting to that I have met on my journey through this time in my life.
So I decided about 5 months ago to quit, a lot of people here thought my quitting would not last, as many said when women try this life style they never wanted to quit.
I guess what it proved to me although I have met some great guys and we are still really good friends even though they know my views are I am not there for them to meet, they still would like to remain friends is that I have converted back to thinking nothing was ever missing in my life as I always knew was the case.
So I don’t feel I need to come back to swinging but I don’t have regrets for trying it neither.
I just hang about these days, chatting to people I enjoy chatting to that I have met on my journey through this time in my life.
Quote by flower411
Just when I think I`m getting the hang of it, some git comes along with one of these lists just to prove I`m not a "proper" man at all :cry:
Oi don't call me a git! :kick:
Ok I will await Flowers take on the mens rules!
I know you don't like sport, but what others do you not agree with?
The Man Rules
My hubby sent me this I thought I would share it with you,
We always hear "the rules"
From the female side.
Now here are the rules from the male side.
Please note.. These are all numbered "1"
ON PURPOSE!
1 Men are NOT mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
We need it up, you need it down.
You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
sports. It's like the full moon
Or the changing of the tides.
Let it be.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!
1. "Yes" and "No" are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every
question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it.
That's what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument..
In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.
Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways
makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one
1. You can either ask us to do something
Or tell us how you want it done.
Not both.
If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during
commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings..
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color..
Pumpkin is also a fruit.
We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched.
We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like
nothing's wrong
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to,
Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere,
absolutely anything you wear is fine... Really .
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to
discuss such topics as footy Or boxing
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this.
Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight;
But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.
Pass this to as many men as you can -
To give them a laugh.
Pass this to as many women as you can -
To give them a bigger laugh.
My hubby sent me this I thought I would share it with you,
We always hear "the rules"
From the female side.
Now here are the rules from the male side.
Please note.. These are all numbered "1"
ON PURPOSE!
1 Men are NOT mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down.
We need it up, you need it down.
You don't hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
sports. It's like the full moon
Or the changing of the tides.
Let it be.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!
1. "Yes" and "No" are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every
question.
1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it.
That's what we do.
Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument..
In fact, all comments become Null and void after 7 Days.
1. If you think you're fat, you probably are.
Don't ask us.
1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways
makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one
1. You can either ask us to do something
Or tell us how you want it done.
Not both.
If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during
commercials.
1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.
1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings..
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color..
Pumpkin is also a fruit.
We have no idea what mauve is.
1. If it itches, it will be scratched.
We do that.
1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like
nothing's wrong
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to,
Expect an answer you don't want to hear.
1. When we have to go somewhere,
absolutely anything you wear is fine... Really .
1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to
discuss such topics as footy Or boxing
1. You have enough clothes.
1. You have too many shoes.
1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!
1. Thank you for reading this.
Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight;
But did you know men really don't mind that? It's like camping.
Pass this to as many men as you can -
To give them a laugh.
Pass this to as many women as you can -
To give them a bigger laugh.
Quote by flower411
As for Flower he is a very nice person
Nice !!!! :shock: :shock:
What on earth happened to Super stud or sex god!!!
NICE !!! ????
I AM gonna sulk now !!!
:shock: I could not say that after you said I am like a sister
It just isn't right
If I had said that you would have thought I had totally lost the plot!
Oh Hell woman !!
You know I think that anyway
I was normal until I bumped into you in a chatroom once a long time ago.
Quote by flower411
As for Flower he is a very nice person
Nice !!!! :shock: :shock:
What on earth happened to Super stud or sex god!!!
NICE !!! ????
I AM gonna sulk now !!!
:shock: I could not say that after you said I am like a sister
It just isn't right
If I had said that you would have thought I had totally lost the plot!
Quote by BIoke
I`ve often apologised to people to diffuse an argument or a volatile situation. It serves a dual purpose
It shows the other people in the room that you are prepared to back down and not continue a futile argument just for the sake of it, which demonstrates that you are a strong person capable of diplomacy...And...
It annoys the shit out of the dick head who was looking for an argument in the first place
:thumbup:
Half the time I think people wrap themselves in knots in this place and end up contradicting themselves and the princliple they set out to prove/debate.. and usually in my opinion as a result of not having a damn clue of where they are really starting from or what they really think
I say that because, and, if I'm reading this right:
Theladyisaminx - you approve of flower411 'annoying the shit' out of people with his insincere apologies and think that deserves a 'thumbs up'?
flower411 - you think 'annoying the shit' out of people is a good way of diffusing 'an argument or volatile situation'?
WTF?
Bloke if you noticed I did not highlight the bit that said that, I hightlighted the bits that I agreed with.
As for Flower he is a very nice person, and what he says sometimes you have to know him to understand him. As in all people in life.
But if you would like to judge me go ahead as I really can not be bothered what you think.
But have a nice day doing it!
And keep smiling.
To get to know someone takes time and effort.
Quote by flower411
I`ve often apologised to people to diffuse an argument or a volatile situation. It serves a dual purpose
It shows the other people in the room that you are prepared to back down and not continue a futile argument just for the sake of it, which demonstrates that you are a strong person capable of diplomacy...And...
It annoys the shit out of the dick head who was looking for an argument in the first place
:thumbup:
Quote by jaymar
I'm with Minxy, .
You would be
I don't quite know how to take that unnecessary comment. I'm sorry I offend you by agreeing with somebody.
I was brought up by a father who cared about me but was uncompromisingly arrogant, and a mother who was, and still is, a doormat to him. I didn't think I was as much like her as you evidently do, but I try not to behave like he would. I feel that in saying sorry whenever there is conflict defuses the situation and prevents the friction I regularly experienced growing up with a man who would never apologise. I guess I have the balance wrong. Sorry :undecided:
You haven't offended me, you've nothing to apologise for, please don't apologise as this thread suggests for nothing.
You don't have to explain about your upbringing Fluff.... for the record mine's EXACTLY the same but that doesn't make me apologise for things I've not done.
Fluff, do yourself a favour.. please?
Either you and Minx are winding the whole forum up with this 'apology' business or you're being serious,
I don't know as I don't know you, but what I do know is... just be yourself, you don't need to agree with other people to keep them happy, you don't need to apologise for things you haven't done, just be yourself and if you disagree say so, you'll be your own person, not your father's daughter and I can guarantee you'll be happier.
I didn't realise by me putting a thread up about apology could wind the whole forum up.
It was just a topic for conversation, most people that have posted here do not seem wound up.
Quote by jaymar
I have just read the steam room and it upsets me to read it at times, I don’t know really why I go in there, as there are always people that have been upset by others here.
Why can’t people just be nice to each other, life is too short to be nasty, and quiet often the person you aim it at isn’t the person you have normally been upset by, I feel.
I would apologise even if I didn’t think I had done wrong, I just don’t like to think I have upset anyone. It is then up to them if they accept my apology but it makes me feel better.
Why don’t you just say sorry?
Why say sorry if you haven't done anything wrong??I've just picked up on a few things here Minx, first of all, if the Steam room upsets you that much, my advice? don't go in there.
Secondly, I totally disagree with your bit I've highlighted, why would you want to apologise for something you haven't done? I've known people like this and I'm sorry they don't get any respect, you can't apologise for something you haven't done, something someone else has done.
People can still be nice, caring individuals without having to appear 'nice and fluffy' all the time life just isn't like that, and in my view if someone's like that 100% of the time, I'd kind of worry actually.
You would never catch me apologising for something I haven't done, it's demeaning.
As I said I would say sorry even if I think I have done no wrong.
Because even though I think I haven't done wrong does not always mean I haven't.
By Saying sorry in my life I have found had defused a situation and then me and the other person can talk on a more understanding level of each other.
So to be honest I do not see it as undermining of myself at all.
I do dislike it when people seem to think I see life as fluffy and nice, when I for one have seen much heartache within my life, I find that undermining to be honest.
I just find in the whole scheme of life I would rather live happy within my self than hold onto what has made me miserable.
I am not here to earn respect I am here just being me.
So if saying sorry and continuing on makes me happy, I would still rather do it.
Quote by fluff_n_stuff
Okay... where did wrestle come from?
:giggle:
I think I'll give up and let you two ladies go back to the original rules!
Sowee...
It's letters with a 'w' replacing one of the 't's
Can we please go back to 4 letters and just changing one each time please?
ok I will start with
minx
Minx, in here as in real life, people will argue. There will always be strong opinions, and each argument has more than one side. Arguments come about because people have different standpoints, or different memories of the same event. You can't make people be nice to eachother- to stop people falling out you'd need to police peoples emotions.
I totally agree with you on difference of opinions I have had many debates in the past where by I have not agreed with anothers opinion and they haven't mine, that does not upset me. It is more the comments in there that others have listened to other people and believe what someone else has said about them, that I was refering too. Tittle tattle back stabbing is what I find upsetting about others.
I agree that if you're in the wrong you should step up to the mark & apologise. There's not a snowball in hells chance you'll find me apologising for something I haven't done. It solves nothing. You can apologise for hurt caused by a remark, whilst standing by the remark.
I would always stand by what I have said if I believe it to be just. But I would never listen to others opinions of other people and join in anothers arguements or disagreements as it seems in the steam room.
But I would like you apologise for making them feel upset.
There are many, many people on here capable of disagreeing with another persons standpoint without getting personal. They can debate whilst remaining friends, and it's wonderful to see.
I agree and have done that is what is great about these forums that you see that happen.
Not many hold a grudge which is the way it should be.
I'd rather see some of the grudges taken to PM. The sniping & backbiting can become tiresome. However, the steam room is there for people to vent. If it upsets your sensibilities, steer clear, and stay happy.
Simples
I am always happy, but it does not stop me feeling for others that feel upset.
I don't go in there that often but when I do it is sad to see, that is all I wrote the thread for.
I totally agree with you on difference of opinions I have had many debates in the past where by I have not agreed with anothers opinion and they haven't mine, that does not upset me. It is more the comments in there that others have listened to other people and believe what someone else has said about them, that I was refering too. Tittle tattle back stabbing is what I find upsetting about others.
I agree that if you're in the wrong you should step up to the mark & apologise. There's not a snowball in hells chance you'll find me apologising for something I haven't done. It solves nothing. You can apologise for hurt caused by a remark, whilst standing by the remark.
I would always stand by what I have said if I believe it to be just. But I would never listen to others opinions of other people and join in anothers arguements or disagreements as it seems in the steam room.
But I would like you apologise for making them feel upset.
There are many, many people on here capable of disagreeing with another persons standpoint without getting personal. They can debate whilst remaining friends, and it's wonderful to see.
I agree and have done that is what is great about these forums that you see that happen.
Not many hold a grudge which is the way it should be.
I'd rather see some of the grudges taken to PM. The sniping & backbiting can become tiresome. However, the steam room is there for people to vent. If it upsets your sensibilities, steer clear, and stay happy.
Simples
I am always happy, but it does not stop me feeling for others that feel upset.
I don't go in there that often but when I do it is sad to see, that is all I wrote the thread for.
Quote by Dirtygirly
I think we have to do anagrams now
so mine is
Rattles :giggle:
An anagram with a letter changed as well? Cause you won't be here for very long doing anagrams of rattles!
Letters
I did think that after I sent it
Lets do both or either or as you have already done make the rules up as we go along
Sorry fluff Dirty has already had that word try again :giggle:
Quote by Mistress_39
I would add to the above comments by saying that, in my experience, some people just enjoy being plain nasty.
Some people are only happy if they are making others unhappy.
My advice is just keep smiling.
That is what I have always failed to understand.
Are they really happy making others miserable?
My guess is that they can't be happy, which is a shame really.
But as you say we can't let others drag up down, keep smiling is a good way of dealing with it, it works for me.
While out and about in normal life I often find myself talking to strangers. I have never thought about why or how it happens I just find myself doing it.
My children often ask if I know the person and say you will just talk to anyone.
So I thought I would set up a thread so that you could say hello to someone you would not normally talk to.
So I will start by saying
Hi Choochie,
How are you today?
My children often ask if I know the person and say you will just talk to anyone.
So I thought I would set up a thread so that you could say hello to someone you would not normally talk to.
So I will start by saying
Hi Choochie,
How are you today?
