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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
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Quote by benrums0n
OK Minx I will elaborate.
I cant get upset about jade, Prince Charles first wife or the 9/11 people because their death and suffering has happened or is inevitible and is a tiny tiny proportion of what happens every day since.
I can get upset about millions of people dying or suffering every day from malnutrition and the lack of clean water, partly because that happens every day and partly because its a relatively simple thing to stop happening. Much easier than finding a cure for cancer, or catching terrorists and a darn sight less expensive.

Ben all life is inevitible,
I understand to a point where you are coming from, but people are trying to help people suffering in mass, it is the regimes in some of those countries that don't help the plight of people trying to help.
But still to state your other points 9/11. or mother thersea or any single person as a comparison to death I still can not understand.
If it be hordes or one, everyone in the horde is just one. Anyone person that dies is still sad if they have never inflicted pain or suffering upon others.
Quote by benrums0n
Do you not think we should have this kind of media coverage of folk dying from malnutrition instead.
Perhaps we could have an OK /Living TV feeding station or a well built somewhere needed with the cash thats going to ensure poor old Jades kids get to go to school with rich kids who will probably despise them.
Of course I care that she's dying a horrible death just as I care about the other 55 million.
I simply dont understand why this persons death brings everybody out in waves of sympathy. For the record I didnt understand the Diana/ Mother Theresa/ nonsense either.
Real tragedy in my view involves suffering and death that is preventable.

Not all death is preventable but it is still a tragedy sorry ben I really cant understand that statement.
Quote by Purple-bug
i thought i had made a lot of really good friends on here.
Some are those that i miss talking to if they arent in the chat very often but are they more just aquaintances?
Others i've allowed in to my private life and (apart from two people) I've lived to regret it deeply the last few months and have now vowed that my personal life and my swinging life are gonna to remain poles apart now.

It is so hard to form true friends.
Here I believe even harder than in the vanilla world.
I believe I have let you all into my private lives on these forums, I didnt do it to gain friends, but I have one person I would trust totally from sh, a true friend but trust goes both ways and unless you have that totally I believe they are just people,friends maybe Perhaps you could call them aquaintances people to pass the time of day with.
But a true friend would never let you down nor you them.
Humour in the face of adversity between the actual people it is affecting I have done within my own personal suffering, I believe it is different treating humour as a way to pull you through a situation on a personal level, than to use it when you don’t know the person suffering.
I wrote a thread about this a while ago on my experience at the time.
Quote by Mr-Powers
I would like to as my two penn'orth to this thread.
Rightly or wrongly Jade came to the publics attention via Reality has already been said this is irrelevant with regard to her current situation.
All that needs to be said is she is raising money for her childrens future in the only way she knows!
I would say that this shouldn't be berated or criticised as who knows what we all would do in the same situation and should just think "there but for the grace of God". This is only a phrase and not an invitation for everyone to start going to church!! lol
Live and let live is a much maligned and overused phrase but I think its particularly apt on this occasion,and as others have stated its my opinion and I am entitled to it!!

well i hope she also gives a bit of her cash to the hospice that has been taking good care of her aswell.
I hope she does to, many work on charity and I always think use a little pay back a little never hurts but always helps.
It is just a way of thanks is how I see it and there to help the next person.
Quote by Theladyisaminx

As a regular I have not shared my opinion but my thoughts and emoticons based on my own personal expierances not of others.
By doing this I thought I would hear others thoughts based on their own expierances, as these are the people I can relate with on common ground.
People have opinions yes but you never know if an opinion is based on what is read or seen on tv or someone else has told them.
So the differences to me is one that is sharing facts facts That I have shared as I have witnessed first hand, not second third or fouth.
wink

Ahh but minxy, is that not sharing an opinion, but more sharing an experience?
Is it sharing an opinion?
Is an expierance and what we make out them not thoughts, I don't see them as opinions. I have writen some threads on political issues, perhaps they are more of my opinions, on personal threads are my own expierances. I don't see the two as the same thing.
Or are they?

You can have an opinion on anything, but if you have experience of something then you can speak from that. Which is entirely different and based on personal judgements and values of that experience. Opinions are similar but can also hold no personal value to you. I've experienced having a tooth out, so I know dentists can be painful, is an experience. Saying "All dentists just hurt you and take the money" is an opinion as other people may have contrasting positive experiences with dentists from their point of view...
It's only a slight difference I suppose, but it makes a difference.
With expierances I form my thoughts which can be changed by listening to others because we all have different expierances to share.
The two different ways we see our expierances are not right are wrong as we form our own thoughts for many different reasons.
With an opinion I believe we then form on not really our own expierances but what we feel inside
.
If people attack my opinion by saying "Well I went the dentist and he did X Y and Z and it was fine..." then that is entirely fair enough. If people say "Well you are a big cry-baby wuss pants for saying it hurts" then that is more a judgement of me than the opinion.
I agree
It's very confusing this... But there's nothing like a good philosophical thread to start Monday off with a bang!
Sorry! kiss :therethere: lol
I'm sure people have given you the benefit of their experiences that you allude to Minx, and I am equally sure people have just looked at what was posted and given you what they feel with no real involvement in the issue. However if you seek opinions then that is kind of what happens I suppose?
I seek nothing really I just like to hear what others have to say, you can observe and learn a lot from reactions words and people point of views. Thats is what I find facinating being here.
I'm now confused as to who I am, what I am doing and whether this is opinion, fact or a figment of my imagination...
biggrin
I am as unsure as you lol
I dont even know if what I have put makes sense I haven’t re-read them as they were the thoughts at that moment but could be subject to change. I can disagree with myself at times to.
Just call me
Or
Res what is it when you disagree with yourself? Mad?
Sorry Res just thought you might know that answer.
whoops mistake I have put res's responses after mine they should be the other way around, my thoughts in response to res. If you know what I mean lol
Res I quoted in blue
Mine in red lol
Quote by Resonance

As a regular I have not shared my opinion but my thoughts and emoticons based on my own personal expierances not of others.
By doing this I thought I would hear others thoughts based on their own expierances, as these are the people I can relate with on common ground.
People have opinions yes but you never know if an opinion is based on what is read or seen on tv or someone else has told them.
So the differences to me is one that is sharing facts facts That I have shared as I have witnessed first hand, not second third or fouth.
wink

Ahh but minxy, is that not sharing an opinion, but more sharing an experience?
Is it sharing an opinion?
Is an expierance and what we make out them not thoughts, I don't see them as opinions. I have writen some threads on political issues, perhaps they are more of my opinions, on personal threads are my own expierances. I don't see the two as the same thing.
Or are they?

You can have an opinion on anything, but if you have experience of something then you can speak from that. Which is entirely different and based on personal judgements and values of that experience. Opinions are similar but can also hold no personal value to you. I've experienced having a tooth out, so I know dentists can be painful, is an experience. Saying "All dentists just hurt you and take the money" is an opinion as other people may have contrasting positive experiences with dentists from their point of view...
It's only a slight difference I suppose, but it makes a difference.
With expierances I form my thoughts which can be changed by listening to others because we all have different expierances to share.
The two different ways we see our expierances are not right are wrong as we form our own thoughts for many different reasons.
With an opinion I believe we then form on not really our own expierances but what we feel inside
.
If people attack my opinion by saying "Well I went the dentist and he did X Y and Z and it was fine..." then that is entirely fair enough. If people say "Well you are a big cry-baby wuss pants for saying it hurts" then that is more a judgement of me than the opinion.
I agree
It's very confusing this... But there's nothing like a good philosophical thread to start Monday off with a bang!
Sorry! kiss :therethere: lol
I'm sure people have given you the benefit of their experiences that you allude to Minx, and I am equally sure people have just looked at what was posted and given you what they feel with no real involvement in the issue. However if you seek opinions then that is kind of what happens I suppose?
I seek nothing really I just like to hear what others have to say, you can observe and learn a lot from reactions words and people point of views. Thats is what I find facinating being here.
I'm now confused as to who I am, what I am doing and whether this is opinion, fact or a figment of my imagination...
biggrin
I am as unsure as you lol
I dont even know if what I have put makes sense I haven’t re-read them as they were the thoughts at that moment but could be subject to change. I can disagree with myself at times to.
Just call me
Or
Res what is it when you disagree with yourself? Mad?
Sorry Res just thought you might know that answer.
Quote by Lucyandmike7
In a old job, many years ago, I had to sit in and study focus groups. I did not participate, but just watched how they all interacted with each other, and how they were handled by the moderator.
It never ceased to amaze me at how highly charged a group could get, even discussing something like an advert on the telly for chocolate!
What I did realise then, is that we all have different angles/views/opinions on a wide subject of matters, thats what makes us all quirky, unique and individual!
If we were all carbon copies of each other, and had the same opinions on everything, what a dull world we would live in!
Some are forceful with their opinion, some not, it all made a good study about human behaviour, and social interaction.
Bensrums response makes a lot of sense to me also.
Is that called back slapping??? wink wink

I would say it all depends if it is a hard slap, or a pat on the back lol
Quote by jaymar
I think you've more or less answered your own question. As a regular OP on threads, it would 'appear' you have quite a few opinions, which is really what everyone has.
You've said you have your beliefs and thoughts, that's what opinions are, they're yours and yours alone, no one elses.
Opinions are beliefs, ideas, views, attitude, anything that belongs to the owner, and people will try and challenge them.
All the above has been said by me, in my opinion wink

As a regular I have not shared my opinion but my thoughts and emotions based on my own personal expierances not of others.
By doing this I thought I would hear others thoughts based on their own expierances, as these are the people I can relate with on common ground.
People have opinions yes but you never know if an opinion is based on what is read or seen on tv or someone else has told them.
So the differences to me is one that is sharing facts facts That I have shared as I have witnessed first hand, not second third or fouth.
I am not challenging your thoughts or opinions just a way that we see things differenly perhaps but I dont know. So I form no opinion, so I am none the wiser what an opinion is really wink
Whoops noticed a spelling mistake lol
Quote by jumptoit
I actually mis read the question at first glance, my response was going to be .......
It is a small round root vegatable, known to make you cry when cutting or slicing it, used to add flavour to stews,curries and other food dishes and also good when pickled in vinegar.
I am so glad i did not post that to be ridiculed again by you more intelligent forumites. rolleyes

I would have thought o no I have done it again and checked my spelling lol
It would not be the first time I have spelt something wrong lol
well I havent spelt the word wrong just used the wrong word altoghther.
Examples instead of saying
Jazz funk..said Jazz Fuck
conversion house said conversation house.
As for intelligence I was once told that:
Intelligence is not only the ability to gain knowledge but how also you apply that knowledge, so the fact that you have explained the uses of onions would say you have applied that knowledge well.
I would let you decide what this all means. wink
I have neither thought about why I do.
I don't think we have to have a reason, do we?
It is the voices in my head that make me do it. loon
Quote by fluff_n_stuff

When I write I never feel it is an opinion but just my thoughts, as people’s
thoughts are very individual I never question them.
Who am I to question them when sometimes I don’t understand my own.

It may well be that you feel this way Minxie, however it can be posible to question someones view, or the logic that braught them to thier conclusion without questioning the person behind the view/opinion... know what I mean?
Discussion doesn't have to become personal where some can feel personally attacked... but can remain open and flowing where opinions are exchanged and balanced against one another...he mumbled. (it's early)
lp
Judging by your avatar, in my opinion, it must have been a full moon last night :shock:
I didn't notice that.
Now that is :scared:
Quote by __random_orbit__

When I write I never feel it is an opinion but just my thoughts, as people’s
thoughts are very individual I never question them.
Who am I to question them when sometimes I don’t understand my own.

It may well be that you feel this way Minxie, however it can be posible to question someones view, or the logic that braught them to thier conclusion without questioning the person behind the view/opinion... know what I mean?
Discussion doesn't have to become personal where some can feel personally attacked... but can remain open and flowing where opinions are exchanged and balanced against one another...he mumbled. (it's early)
lp
:shock: :shock: Total agree again.
My thoughts are, should I call the doctors now? lol
Quote by __random_orbit__
o⋅pin⋅ion
   /əˈpɪnyən/ Show Spelled Pronunciation Show IPA Pronunciation
–noun
1. a belief or judgment that rests on grounds insufficient to produce complete certainty.
2. a personal view, attitude, or appraisal.
3. the formal expression of a professional judgment: to ask for a second medical opinion.
4. Law. the formal statement by a judge or court of the reasoning and the principles of law used in reaching a decision of a case.
5. a judgment or estimate of a person or thing with respect to character, merit, etc.: to forfeit someone's good opinion.
6. a favorable estimate; esteem: I haven't much of an opinion of him.
in my opinion, when I use the pgrase my opinion I am expressing my thoughts, or knowledge based on what I may have read or experienced, but cannot necessarily back up with classified fact.
Or it may be a thought/conclusion formed over time through life experience, or that of others... a 'personal' view.
I use the the phrase quite a lot.
lp

I have to say I totally agree with you.
This I find scary. :shock: :P
I have never understood what opinions are and have always thought they are just our thoughts at a given time.
I have in the past used the word opinion but have always felt uncomfortable about using it as what I say is just my thoughts at that moment in time.
These can change at a given time by mood, feeling or listening to others
We can not justify our thoughts as it is who we are, they are formed by so many things in life, nor should we have to.
Sometime we can not rationalize them ourselves.
When I write I never feel it is an opinion but just my thoughts, as people’s
thoughts are very individual I never question them.
Who am I to question them when sometimes I don’t understand my own.
Quote by Mr-Powers
I have revived the odd old thread but not 15-20 in one go.
Looked at others posting and liked what I have seen.
I know it’s nice to look over old times remise on people past I don’t have a problem with that either.
I am not bothered about myself here contrary to some beliefs I am thinking of a boarder audience that cant remise and not inclusive, I believe it make them feel left out hence why a lot might not want to post.

you've certainly started the odd 15-20 threads in one go.
I was challanged one evening in the chatrooms to see if I could feel the whole first page up with threads, I got six up early one morning then Anais put one up and that put paid to that idea. I was told Lost tried it once for a laugh to.
That could be what you are talking about.
To MINXY
1. Are you happy today?
Yes
2. Where will you go on holiday this year? Lincolnshire
3. Do you have sky plus?
Yes
To Minxy:
1. Where would you be right now if you had clicky-Dorothy shoes that could take you anywhere?
2. Who is your favourite author?
3. Have you ever kissed a girl?
1. On fjords of Norway
2. Anne Frank
3. yes
Quote by Freckledbird
I have revived the odd old thread but not 15-20 in one go.
Looked at others posting and liked what I have seen.
I know it’s nice to look over old times remise on people past I don’t have a problem with that either.
I am not bothered about myself here contrary to some beliefs I am thinking of a boarder audience that cant remise and not inclusive, I believe it make them feel left out hence why a lot might not want to post.

I disagree. I think the funny threads, however old, actually encourage newbies to post far more than the serious debate threads. Newbies can still go beyond page one.
It's always the same people who moan on behalf of the newbies though.
As is always the same ones that jump on their first few post wink
There are a couple of us that mention the forums when in the chat rooms and say once you get used to the first starting days it isnt a bad place to be. I believe there are a few here now that post.
I have revived the odd old thread but not 15-20 in one go.
Looked at others posting and liked what I have seen.
I know it’s nice to look over old times remise on people past I don’t have a problem with that either.
I am not bothered about myself here contrary to some beliefs I am thinking of a boarder audience that cant remise and not inclusive, I believe it make them feel left out hence why a lot might not want to post.
Quote by Steve
Ben I have seen all sorts going on in these forums.
But the one thing that I just don’t understand is like what happened the other day the threads were ticking along new posters were contributing and there were about 36 threads 90% of which were all from different posters in today’s forums.
Then whoosh an influx of threads of by gone days that wiped over half of them off the pages.
So it seems all those people that contributed to help what I call was a thriving forum voices disappeared lots of input seem irrelevant,
I have looked back over the revived threads most got another response or two then just faded.
Where the ones knocked off were thriving, one day I looked recently and every thread on page one around lunch time had a response that day so people were coming forward.
Now look only half the threads on page one has responses.
Just something I have noticed that annoyed me a little as I don’t understand it.

They have only dropped to page 2...
If something on page one doesn't excite you then browse page . etc...
That isn't what I meant as I know they do, I was talking more about new people watching and keeping an eye to the workings of the forums following threads.
When I first come here and mostly even now it is page one that I look at as they are like new news the rest possibliy I have read so I very rarely would look back to.
I would like to know how many people go back, maybe it is just me that doesn't I tend to stick to page one.
I have occasionally in the past but not often
Ben I have seen all sorts going on in these forums.
But the one thing that I just don’t understand is like what happened the other day the threads were ticking along new posters were contributing and there were about 36 threads 90% of which were all from different posters in today’s forums.
Then whoosh an influx of threads of by gone days that wiped over half of them off the pages.
So it seems all those people that contributed to help what I call was a thriving forum voices disappeared lots of input seem irrelevant,
I have looked back over the revived threads most got another response or two then just faded.
Where the ones knocked off were thriving, one day I looked recently and every thread on page one around lunch time had a response that day so people were coming forward.
Now look only half the threads on page one has responses.
Just something I have noticed that annoyed me a little as I don’t understand it.
Quote by fluff_n_stuff
Two swallows reminded me oof spring only last night.

At least you swallowed Ben :twisted:
:shock: rotflmao rotflmao redface
bolt
Quote by noladreams30
Surely the rules should be don't repeat any that have already been said... then it gets harder?! :twisted:

I dont think it really matters. dunno
Whatever pops into your head. lol
The thread will soon disappear when people don't have anything to add to it. wink
To all the people have no fear
Res is around he is still here
I know as he answered my request
Thanks res you did your best
I knew it was a hard one thats for sure
Even hard for Res to endure
I don’t know if the answer was correct
But it was one that I would expect
I wonder if other would know
Care to share here and show
Then Res and I would not need to ponder
And still go on to wonder
What is the opposite to medium? lol