Quote by r4jane
Is that the same as masturbation? lol.
I thought only ladies maturbated
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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
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Quote by deancannock
congratulations MINXY....however I don't think your journey has ended, I simply think you have turned the corner and its now all downhill as far as the eye can see. now that doesn't mean there will not be a few more hills to climb before the very end, but you now know you have the strengh to climb them.
Thanks Dean,
I would say up hill, I have found I dont mind a challege and I have set myself a new mountain to climb, but when I reach that top, what a view I will have.
Quote by Sassy-Seren
I think you change your attitude and outlook on life, love, your own self etc as you mature.
It's taken me 48 years to realise that no one is worth the pain of heartache, the only person who can change your life is YOU and the best person you can be is yourself
I've grown softer and more open in some ways, accepting in others, harder in a few. It's life's lessons that educate us and mould you into who we are today. I still make mistakes, get it wrong and always will. It's just these days, I find it easier to apologise if I'm in the wrong and don't hang onto people who aren't worth the effort
:thumbup: best lesson to learn I feel
Quote by benrums0n
I didn't think of it as a flounce either.
I can empathise with the self awareness/growth experiences.
The light bulb went on in my head and took away some of the shadows during a period of psychotherapy a while ago. Since then its been a lovely path to tread. Although I stumble and fall I usually pick myself up and find myself stronger.
Well done, good look, big hug and thank you for all your input here.
Thanks Ben xxx
you say that like I am going, I am not going I have only just arrived
You know me I like to question to think and learn I have only learnt one lesson, life is a forever ending education. I cant give up learning now I feel it is just my beginning.
So first question, is the earth really round?
Quote by flower411
Do you think it would liven it up if I mentioned the story in the Mail about Jade Goody having her arm amputated and getting a job presenting a childrens television program about asylum seeking dole cheats from her fully expenses paid MPs second home, all while she was out on bail because the prisons are full ?
only if she had a bike capable of 0 to 60 in half a second ...but never rode irresponsibly on a public highway ....
Quote by benrums0n
No question is dumb. I was 9 before I asked how I could work out which shoe went on which foot.
Well I was 18 when I found out what oral sex was, I just always believe it was talking dirty during sex. I had done it but always thought that was a bj
I wouldn't have minded finding out by one person telling me but we were at a birthday party of about 50 people and word soon got around
I never asked because I thought I knew the answer.
I know this is a bit of a stupid question on this site.
But reading another thread jogged a memory of a conversation I had with a group of friend years ago. We got into a conversation about wanking. A friend said her husband never wanks and I laughed and said all men wank she was horrified and said hers never would.
So was she naive or do some men never wank?
Come on guys trueful answers only
But reading another thread jogged a memory of a conversation I had with a group of friend years ago. We got into a conversation about wanking. A friend said her husband never wanks and I laughed and said all men wank she was horrified and said hers never would.
So was she naive or do some men never wank?
Come on guys trueful answers only
Quote by r4jane
I'm not sure we change, but there is some influence there to smooth the edges, just as the company we keep can shape our behaviour too. Of course we also mellow with age and having children I think makes us behave differently, as we are careful how our behaviour influences them.
well said!
I was just coming back to this thread when I read that I guess what I would agree with you I think nobody can change the core of use but can definitely change the way we think, but that as you said isn’t just our partner but most people we meet in life.
I do think those raw edges our partner can have an influence over and smooth out but only if we understand they were raw in the first place.
This is not a religious thread as I have never been a follower. This is the journey of a girl of 12 that had to find out.
Since the age of 12 something happened to me that changed my direction in life, until that point I thought we found it easy to give love, to like, to respect, to give warmth to everyone. At that was all I had know and be shown, I was lucky for that I know.
At the age of 12 I first witness personally hate, hatred of me this lead me try and understand why. Why would anyone hate another it was a concept that drove me on a private mission within myself to understand.
I have never had any training to understand but everyone I met in life I felt the need for them to help me understand by delving to find our how they think, what they feel, and then try and understand reactions.
Reactions and opinions of others are easy for me to understand and accept maybe that is why I have never judged always accepted people for who they are, and what it is they would like to offer me Love or Hate.
This journey has just ended at aged 44 I have felt I have always doubted myself through those people that hated me, I felt maybe I deserved hate as I said something or felt something that lead them to believe it.
I have felt confused and that confusion I turn on myself to cause the self doubt, but the one thing they could never destroy was the love within me that I had to share. They also never passed on the hate they felt.
Where they destroyed my schooling I have always felt stupid as I ended up failing my exams and my teacher told me I was stupid.
Well all I can say those people from school have given me my best education of all, and it is all self taught, they have given me the ability to understand and never judge anyone something I have never done, but at 44 can totally understand why.
For my flounce a few weeks ago, That was the moment of my discovery the time I hit back at those bullies and teachers but I didn’t expect anyone to understand that, and I doubt if anyone did, as it was out of character of me as that is the nastiest I have ever been to anyone.
But these forums have helped me express a lot and I have made two real friends here from the chat rooms that have helped me to find myself, they have taken the time to find out who I am and understand me and accept me for myself and I felt never judged me. The rest I hold no malice it just isn’t in me.
Since the age of 12 something happened to me that changed my direction in life, until that point I thought we found it easy to give love, to like, to respect, to give warmth to everyone. At that was all I had know and be shown, I was lucky for that I know.
At the age of 12 I first witness personally hate, hatred of me this lead me try and understand why. Why would anyone hate another it was a concept that drove me on a private mission within myself to understand.
I have never had any training to understand but everyone I met in life I felt the need for them to help me understand by delving to find our how they think, what they feel, and then try and understand reactions.
Reactions and opinions of others are easy for me to understand and accept maybe that is why I have never judged always accepted people for who they are, and what it is they would like to offer me Love or Hate.
This journey has just ended at aged 44 I have felt I have always doubted myself through those people that hated me, I felt maybe I deserved hate as I said something or felt something that lead them to believe it.
I have felt confused and that confusion I turn on myself to cause the self doubt, but the one thing they could never destroy was the love within me that I had to share. They also never passed on the hate they felt.
Where they destroyed my schooling I have always felt stupid as I ended up failing my exams and my teacher told me I was stupid.
Well all I can say those people from school have given me my best education of all, and it is all self taught, they have given me the ability to understand and never judge anyone something I have never done, but at 44 can totally understand why.
For my flounce a few weeks ago, That was the moment of my discovery the time I hit back at those bullies and teachers but I didn’t expect anyone to understand that, and I doubt if anyone did, as it was out of character of me as that is the nastiest I have ever been to anyone.
But these forums have helped me express a lot and I have made two real friends here from the chat rooms that have helped me to find myself, they have taken the time to find out who I am and understand me and accept me for myself and I felt never judged me. The rest I hold no malice it just isn’t in me.
Quote by fluff_n_stuff
I am the eldest of 4 girls and had a very strict upbringing (mainly on the part of my father but my mother generally backed him up). I had to babysit my sisters in the school holidays while my mum worked part time, and overall I was quite responsible and did what I was told.
From about the age of 11 or 12, I discovered my father's collection of porn mags and paperbacks. Nothing under-the-counter but pornography nonetheless. I wanted to join in and lost my virginity at 14, and was pregnant before my 15th birthday. I knew about contraception but was too scared to get it so I relied on knowing my monthly cycle and when to avoid intercourse. Where I came unstuck was in foolishly allowing my boyfriend a fuck for Christmas, which I knew was at a risky time. I guessed quite quickly I was pregnant and just knew I couldn't tell my parents because they really would kill me! But it didn't go away and my mum eventually twigged because I wasn't using up my sanitary products.
So at the age of 15 I had an abortion. The thing that stuck in my mind was how disappointed in me my parent's were but at no point did they shout at me or condemn me. My mother at least, took the blame on herself. I never considered having the baby as an option.
I don't feel I was let down by the sex education I had - neither at school nor from the leaflet my mum gave me with a red-face, mumbling 'come and ask me if there's anything you want to discuss'. I had enough trouble telling her when my first period started. I'm a very private person, and even now can't discuss my own bodily functions with anyone (including my husband) without squirming and blushing.
My point is it isn't always possible to blame something on the failure of the Government to act appropriately or in a timely way. On the one hand you're moaning about the 'nanny-state, and then on the other, how the Government isn't doing enough to reduce teenage pregnancies. I am no psychologist but I cannot see that anything in my upbringing or education could have been changed to prevent my curiosity that got the better of me and caught me out.
Great post :thumbup:
Quote by fabio
I was at the end of the queue when they handed out patience. Sometimes wish I had more of it.
What personal quality would you like, or like more of?
Actually I think I queued up 2 or 3 times in the patience queue..... what do you have to swop???
I'd actually like a bit more "confidence"......
I have just found my confidence, I am 44 hope you find yours sooner than I did don't waste as much time looking, as you never get those years back you can find it, it is never far away.
Good luck
Quote by Nicekat
My ex hubby was never very compimentary but thank god my boy friend likes me no matter what size I am and in whatever clothes I wear and he is not bothered about make up either.
Theladyisaminx
I once was questioned and felt judged years ago from my hubby as to why I didn’t dress more like a real woman.
He married me as I have always been, I will never change to please anyone.
I know how you feel!
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If I went shopping perfecly dressed With all my slap on, I would not remain so for long Id end up looking like Id been dragged through a bush backwards anyway
. I am glad you are now happy, me too, it always works in the end to just be yourself and true to yourself, its a hard stuggle but you win in the end. Your post made me smile. Quote by benrums0n
My son sent me this mathematical proof.
Firstly let us agree kids take time and money.
kids = time X money
It is widely agreed that time is money.
kids = money X money = (money)²
Money is of course the root of all evil.
money = ¹(evil)
Therfore.
Kids = (¹evil)²
And our conclusion is
Kids = evil
QED
If we give them a bill when they leave home and they pay back all the money, would we not be back to square one? :P
You could argue ok there is the time to, but time stands still for no man, you have shared your time, got your money back.
Surely this must be a win, win situation.
I have my daughters old Alcatel, it is fine to text and make calls,
Battery life is rubbish.
But you can retrieve texts you have already sent and send again, which was a function my friends modern phone could not do.
But I guess it is what functions you would like to do, this phone would not suit everyone.
Battery life is rubbish.
But you can retrieve texts you have already sent and send again, which was a function my friends modern phone could not do.
But I guess it is what functions you would like to do, this phone would not suit everyone.
