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Theladyisaminx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 62
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I take a little girl to school who is 7, the other morning on the way to school I said “my brain feels so scrambled I am thinking to many things, does that ever happen to you” She replied “no” I then said “really I would have thought all the things that you have to learn, could sometimes make it feel scrambled” her response “no I just take in information I store the bits I need to learn by and delete the rest in the recycling bin”
I then said that is very clever so what happens if someone is nasty to you?
Her response “I press the delete button in my brain and they disappear”.
She is a bubbly happy little girl.
I then said that is very clever so what happens if someone is nasty to you?
Her response “I press the delete button in my brain and they disappear”.
She is a bubbly happy little girl.
I have seen this word used a lot, and guess I feel sometimes people only consider themselves and not others.
I was talking to someone the other day that was asking me questions in the end I said I feel selfish as I seem to be talking about myself.
Their response was how can it be when I am the one asking you the questions.
Then said maybe I am the selfish one as I am asking you the questions that I would like to hear the answer of.
This then lead me to think, by writing things down say in a place like this forum and talking about your own experiences , could this been seen as a selfish act
Or could it be seen as sharing my experiences so others might be able to relate to share them and realise that sometimes we are not alone in our thoughts or experiences?
If it isn’t seen as selfish, what is selfishness?
I was talking to someone the other day that was asking me questions in the end I said I feel selfish as I seem to be talking about myself.
Their response was how can it be when I am the one asking you the questions.
Then said maybe I am the selfish one as I am asking you the questions that I would like to hear the answer of.
This then lead me to think, by writing things down say in a place like this forum and talking about your own experiences , could this been seen as a selfish act
Or could it be seen as sharing my experiences so others might be able to relate to share them and realise that sometimes we are not alone in our thoughts or experiences?
If it isn’t seen as selfish, what is selfishness?
Quote by neilinleeds
Kent, it would honestly depend on whether the joke was actually funny, or just some crap joke desperately trying to be topical, to be truthful. That's my honest reply. The whole point of sick jokes is that you're meant to feel that little inward groan that says 'I cannot believe I just laughed at that. Bastard!' It is the recognition that we are not supposed to laugh that makes it funny.
Neil x x x ;)
Neil I always enjoy reading your posts, they always make sence to me. :thumbup:
Ben I haven’t read the article these are just my own thoughts based on my own expierances.
I was having this very same conversation with someone only yesterday.
I was trying to understand what anger was, as in a way I don’t think I have ever really felt anger, I have felt frustrated and annoyed at times. I don’t class frustration and annoyed as being angry.
Anger to me continues it is something we can’t let go, it eats away at us and drives resentment, the inability to forgive, and hatred.
We are in control of our own minds we set the levels ourselves on how people affect us.
When I was bullied I never got angry, I want to understand why they done what they did, to try to make reason of their actions.
The person I was talking to said until you have felt anger you can not understand forgiveness.
I disagree I think we can forgive just by knowing and understanding why they did something in the first place.
But then I could be wrong.
I was having this very same conversation with someone only yesterday.
I was trying to understand what anger was, as in a way I don’t think I have ever really felt anger, I have felt frustrated and annoyed at times. I don’t class frustration and annoyed as being angry.
Anger to me continues it is something we can’t let go, it eats away at us and drives resentment, the inability to forgive, and hatred.
We are in control of our own minds we set the levels ourselves on how people affect us.
When I was bullied I never got angry, I want to understand why they done what they did, to try to make reason of their actions.
The person I was talking to said until you have felt anger you can not understand forgiveness.
I disagree I think we can forgive just by knowing and understanding why they did something in the first place.
But then I could be wrong.
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Quote Kent:
"Respect and dignity, but not always honesty."
Kent may I refer you to the AUP.
Non Acceptable Behaviour.
* Abusive, aggressive, hateful or racist behaviour towards fellow members, Ops/Mods or Administration staff.
I think that snide remark regarding my honesty is abusive, aggressive and hateful. May I ask that you desist. I will not be bullied by you or any other member of this community.
Have I missed something here? Kenty never referred to you so it appears to me that you either have a guilty conscience or are spoiling for a fight by baiting?
I agree - I don't think you are being bullied, Ben.
I think you need to go back to page one to understand where Ben thoughts have come from.
I think it was more of what was said then as a pure direction of what Ben wrote.
So I can see why Ben could feel this way, rightly or wrongly, But it is how Ben feels I believe.
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My god Minxy, if we didn't laugh at times like that (and this) we would be lining up to top ourselves.
My Mum is a breast cancer survivor and has had a mastectomy. She lost and ear-ring on holiday and she and I were in stitches at one point when I suggested she have her remaining nipple pierced so she could use the ear-ring she has left.
She's nearly 80.
Thats funny.the thing about emotions they are very closely link. It is the same I see it as crying when we are so happy and also crying when we are so sad.
How does that work?
I see laughing the same way,
We can laugh when we are happy and laugh when we are sad too.
This is an old thread I done a while ago but I wanted to bring it back up for two reasons as there are some threads at the moment that are question this.
Plus for those that know what I have been through lately looking back this I feel is the time I started soul searching with a vengeance I needed to find myself sooner rather than later.
I tried to bring back the old thread but it wouldnt let me so I am doing it as a new one
A while back I mentioned my Mum had cancer and now a few months on she is suffering from side affects from treatments.
She never moans she just gets on with her life.
The other day she called to tell me her feet were better (as she has been suffering from bad blistering on the soles) but her eye brows she had noticed had gone. She made me laugh, I said “didn’t you notice them slowly going, Or have they just disappeared over night”? We were laughing.
A few days later she called to say she had taken the bull by the horns and just gone to get her wig? O bless her!
I asked what it looked like (as my mum has never been satisfied with her hair as far back as I can remember). She said “it’s great I love it, I have the hairstyle I have always wanted”!
I just said “Mum the things you have to do to get the hairstyle you have always wanted” and we just laughed so much on the phone.
I wanted to share this with you as I think we can laugh in the face of adversity.
But there are times when I feel I shouldn't be laughing?
I am sometimes on here having a laugh and feel guilty!
But it is the way I have always been, laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone, my parents have always instilled this in us.
I try to live my life with this motto!
But sometimes I get confused.
What do you think?
Is it right to laugh in the face of adversity?
Plus for those that know what I have been through lately looking back this I feel is the time I started soul searching with a vengeance I needed to find myself sooner rather than later.
I tried to bring back the old thread but it wouldnt let me so I am doing it as a new one
A while back I mentioned my Mum had cancer and now a few months on she is suffering from side affects from treatments.
She never moans she just gets on with her life.
The other day she called to tell me her feet were better (as she has been suffering from bad blistering on the soles) but her eye brows she had noticed had gone. She made me laugh, I said “didn’t you notice them slowly going, Or have they just disappeared over night”? We were laughing.
A few days later she called to say she had taken the bull by the horns and just gone to get her wig? O bless her!
I asked what it looked like (as my mum has never been satisfied with her hair as far back as I can remember). She said “it’s great I love it, I have the hairstyle I have always wanted”!
I just said “Mum the things you have to do to get the hairstyle you have always wanted” and we just laughed so much on the phone.
I wanted to share this with you as I think we can laugh in the face of adversity.
But there are times when I feel I shouldn't be laughing?
I am sometimes on here having a laugh and feel guilty!
But it is the way I have always been, laugh and the world laughs with you, cry and you cry alone, my parents have always instilled this in us.
I try to live my life with this motto!
But sometimes I get confused.
What do you think?
Is it right to laugh in the face of adversity?
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If Jade Goody gets her finger out we can have a national day of mourning.
Oh dear the tast-o-meter of this site just went down a rung or two.
I think that's just about the most tasteless thing I've seen on SH.
Ben - if you decide to edit out your original post I'll happily delete this quote.
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one persons tasteless is another persons funny
freedom of speech n all that old boy
I find nothing funny about a 27 year old mother of two dying and leaving her children regardless of their place in society.
Your post is as bad as his. You should be ashamed.
Death is a very delicate issue with most people, we cope in different ways some keep a sense of humour and others treat is seriously. We all have different coping strategies to deal with such a dilemma.
I think to express humour within a place like this when others have such different opinions, is a little inconsiderate of others, Ben maybe oversaw that when he posted that post.
see ya point hunny but then if no-one posted in here for fear of being inconsiderate of others it would be a big ole pile of tumbleweed now wouldn't it
True :thumbup: fair point, I say post and be damned I did smile and then thought naughty Ben, then told myself off after.
But then I remeber my mum walking past an undertakers with me I was about 14 just saying people are dying to get into there, I told her she was cruel, then I laughed.
I am going to boot another old thread of my up take a read.. called can we laugh in the face of adversity, give me 5 mins
see thats my point exactly minxie your honest enought to say it at least made you grin i did the same too and also like you flogged myself for doing so
we are all human ffs we can grin at summat then feel bad for doin so after doesn't make us bad people for finding humour in awfull situations in fact i think it makes us good people for being honest about it
i love honesty i hold a lot of regard for those that are n thats why i loves ya minxie my sweet
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If Jade Goody gets her finger out we can have a national day of mourning.
Oh dear the tast-o-meter of this site just went down a rung or two.
I think that's just about the most tasteless thing I've seen on SH.
Ben - if you decide to edit out your original post I'll happily delete this quote.
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one persons tasteless is another persons funny
freedom of speech n all that old boy
I find nothing funny about a 27 year old mother of two dying and leaving her children regardless of their place in society.
Your post is as bad as his. You should be ashamed.
Death is a very delicate issue with most people, we cope in different ways some keep a sense of humour and others treat is seriously. We all have different coping strategies to deal with such a dilemma.
I think to express humour within a place like this when others have such different opinions, is a little inconsiderate of others, Ben maybe oversaw that when he posted that post.
see ya point hunny but then if no-one posted in here for fear of being inconsiderate of others it would be a big ole pile of tumbleweed now wouldn't it
True :thumbup: fair point, I say post and be damned I did smile and then thought naughty Ben, then told myself off after.
But then I remeber my mum walking past an undertakers with me I was about 14 just saying people are dying to get into there, I told her she was cruel, then I laughed.
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If Jade Goody gets her finger out we can have a national day of mourning.
Oh dear the tast-o-meter of this site just went down a rung or two.
I think that's just about the most tasteless thing I've seen on SH.
Ben - if you decide to edit out your original post I'll happily delete this quote.
.
one persons tasteless is another persons funny
freedom of speech n all that old boy
I find nothing funny about a 27 year old mother of two dying and leaving her children regardless of their place in society.
Your post is as bad as his. You should be ashamed.
Death is a very delicate issue with most people, we cope in different ways some keep a sense of humour and others treat is seriously. We all have different coping strategies to deal with such a dilemma.
I think to express humour within a place like this when others have such different opinions, is a little inconsiderate of others, Ben maybe oversaw that when he posted that post.
I have been called for jury service twice and at both times it was within the court I was called on a jury.
One was a criminal case the other was a civil case, I was told at that time that generally civil cases don’t have a jury, but this one did as it was a claim case against the police.
I think that is odd that any information is given to people before they have arrived at court, would be interesting to see if it is the norm.
One was a criminal case the other was a civil case, I was told at that time that generally civil cases don’t have a jury, but this one did as it was a claim case against the police.
I think that is odd that any information is given to people before they have arrived at court, would be interesting to see if it is the norm.
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Funnily enough I was thinking today about all those who bemoan when the forum gets "fluffy" ...
Nothing wrong with the forum getting fluffy ... helps to balance the seriousness
We need more fluffy threads at the mo
Can I be a fluffy thread please? :giggle:
I hope I haven't upset anybody, but if I have I am truly sorry and promise to step back before I respond to a controversial thread in the future. :inlove:
fluff by name fluffy by nature
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Funnily enough I was thinking today about all those who bemoan when the forum gets "fluffy" ...
Nothing wrong with the forum getting fluffy ... helps to balance the seriousness
We need more fluffy threads at the mo
I did do fluffy once.
I just don't know where I left it until I saw this.
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One by knowning feeling myself doubt and my feeling of being stupid, he pointed me in the direction of the forums, maybe unknowning he was giving me what he and possibliy I didn't know that helped me here, was the feeling of being able to express myself in a way I never thought I could.
Minx ...if you are refering to me, I knew exactly what I was doing ...
I definately remember saying
" They`re all a bunch of weirdo`s in there, you`ll fit right in "
Was I talking about you? :shock:
Yeah you know I was
But what you didn't see then was I could end up being a complete
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No it is not.
The sooner admin get ya the better as far as I am concerned.
You never used to be as " nasty " as you have been recently so.....something must have happened to you.............oooh I am so tempted to say something, but I won't. Mrs777 would batter me.
?????
Admin?
I must admit, it isn't in great taste and I wouldn't post the comments Ben has, but I do find equally distasteful the mordant, maudlin, pious mourning we indulge in when some vapid celebrity or other shuffles off the mortal coil. Whilst not on a scale of the Princess Di outbreak when the Isle of Wight nearly disappeared in a flood of tears, it really does irritate when we eulogise about these folk as if they were one of our own.
Meanwhile another 200,000 children die because they can't get fresk drinking water or basic medication.
But we're fine with that. Cos they ain't famous, don't sell papers and don't matter.
I do feel sorry for the family and the person regardless of what they did. But just because they are famous does not mean we should mourn their passing any more, or any less.
I don't think Ben has warranted the attention of admin any more than people who, like you Mr K, stir up political threads that enrage more than a few on here. Or people like me who just post arse slackeningly inane nonsense. Some may find that equally distasteful and distressing. Like everything on here, your opinion of someone's passing does not have to be shared by anyone else.
I always think, in situations like this, if you have nothing positive to say, then don't say it. That does not mean however, I implicitly agree with what is being said. A person dying is sad enough, however our reactions to it say more about our own needs and perceptions than it does the person who has snuffed it. (I'm Sorry I can't do the whole flowery religious "gone to sleep" nonsense. Their dead, deal with it, cos they have.)
Res why do you make so much sence?
Sometimes
Silk I believe I have been honest with people thus far so I will be honest with my thoughts to this questions as it is a really sensible one and one that I have questioned myself within myself and others.
When hubby suggested to me about swinging our marriage was content, everything was comfortable at home, but in the sexual way I guess we both were a little bored as we have been together 30 years, most things we have tried together so thought we would try something different.
When I decided to give it a go, I knew I could not meet anyone that just wanted sex, but I wanted to meet guys that would respect me for me as my husband always has not just as a sexual object, and in turn I would want to give all of me back.
We have met guys and while there were a couple that I felt were liked me, they were a couple that possibly were more self cantered. It is funny that the guys like me we are still friends and a couple of others have just drifted away.
But more like me I mean wanting to please and enjoy the other than really thinking about ourselves, but knowing that if we done that we in turn would benefit to.
I just think there are a lot of people that don’t think things through, but then if they are happy doing that it is their lives, we all have different reasons to swing this was just mine.
I decided to give up meeting as it made me realise that although I have enjoyed it and have fond memories and made I hope lasting friends. I don’t need it and never have, I had what I need at home but then I always knew that.
I just wanted to try a few different experiences with people that wanted that to.
When hubby suggested to me about swinging our marriage was content, everything was comfortable at home, but in the sexual way I guess we both were a little bored as we have been together 30 years, most things we have tried together so thought we would try something different.
When I decided to give it a go, I knew I could not meet anyone that just wanted sex, but I wanted to meet guys that would respect me for me as my husband always has not just as a sexual object, and in turn I would want to give all of me back.
We have met guys and while there were a couple that I felt were liked me, they were a couple that possibly were more self cantered. It is funny that the guys like me we are still friends and a couple of others have just drifted away.
But more like me I mean wanting to please and enjoy the other than really thinking about ourselves, but knowing that if we done that we in turn would benefit to.
I just think there are a lot of people that don’t think things through, but then if they are happy doing that it is their lives, we all have different reasons to swing this was just mine.
I decided to give up meeting as it made me realise that although I have enjoyed it and have fond memories and made I hope lasting friends. I don’t need it and never have, I had what I need at home but then I always knew that.
I just wanted to try a few different experiences with people that wanted that to.
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Have you ever thought of starting a blog Minx?
Jaymar someone metioned a blog to me ages ago, to be honest I would not know where to start, as I know very little really about the workings of such things.
I am in the process of doing something else, and have taken steps in that direction.
Bloke
Your words are very true about friends, but one thing life as taught me is to choose your friends wisely, I believe when I metioned two I have, as they unknowning have helped me to release myself in a way I don't really think they are aware of they have done.
One by knowning feeling myself doubt and my feeling of being stupid, he pointed me in the direction of the forums, maybe unknowning he was giving me what he and possibliy I didn't know that helped me here, was the feeling of being able to express myself in a way I never thought I could.
This other friend has just been there to listen and encourage me when at times I thought I could not do this anymore, as at times it has been so painful.
I did not come here to find myself, it just kind of happened.
Sorry res for using you. :twisted:
But i just went to post this on another thread and it got locked as i entered with my response :cry:
To the man that asked do women like DP
Working on my theory of probability only
Women that meet women- would be difficult unless toys are used
Women that meet a men – Difficult as only one unless a toys was used too
Couples that meet couples – possibility
Couple that meet men- higher possibility
Hope that helps
Just helping to make this a long one
But i just went to post this on another thread and it got locked as i entered with my response :cry:
To the man that asked do women like DP
Working on my theory of probability only
Women that meet women- would be difficult unless toys are used
Women that meet a men – Difficult as only one unless a toys was used too
Couples that meet couples – possibility
Couple that meet men- higher possibility
Hope that helps
Just helping to make this a long one
Thank you all for your kind encouragement both here and pm’s I have been moved with words that have been written.
I can’t stop from being inquisitive and questioning as life is all an education there is so much to learn.
Res my dynamic duo???
I can only think what you might mean, they are staying firmly where they have always been. :P
But the hairdryer will be back soon, still hot and blowing.
I can’t stop from being inquisitive and questioning as life is all an education there is so much to learn.
Res my dynamic duo???
I can only think what you might mean, they are staying firmly where they have always been. :P
But the hairdryer will be back soon, still hot and blowing.
I do believe Duncan to be right.
We still have to remeber the little boy that called wolf, I think some incidents should be reported of course, but do a lot have a just cause?
I don't know, it is the same as bullying by reporting someone has called you a name for instance and it gets labelled as bullying, could detract from the real mental and phyiscal damage of others.
should they all carry the same label?
I personally dont think they should.
We still have to remeber the little boy that called wolf, I think some incidents should be reported of course, but do a lot have a just cause?
I don't know, it is the same as bullying by reporting someone has called you a name for instance and it gets labelled as bullying, could detract from the real mental and phyiscal damage of others.
should they all carry the same label?
I personally dont think they should.
