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Over 90 days ago
Gay Male, 59
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Quote by flower411
Errmmm ...Maybe cos you`ve been here less than 24 hours

Oh, this isn't Maccy D then? I thought all you had to do was stick a request in and it would be served on a tray within 3 minutes
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St3v3;
Not sure whether it's the same root cause, but I get this error regularly when I swap from server 2 to server 1 (for the first time in a session). The error appears and then I log onto 1 successfully, but sometime's I'm still stuck in the last room I was in on 2 as well.
Any ideas? Ta
Quote by easy
I'm hardly in control of my own bodily functions

Pop it back when you're finished:

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Seriously though, I agree with what you and Bilko have put. I prefer people knowing I'm a real person rather than some anonymous character....and I do get a fair bit of attention related to the star (including someone who wanted to come home and lick it for me!). I hope I come across as approachable and prepared to help members to enjoy the site. Always happy for members to add me to their friend list so they know when I'm online.
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ok I'll swallow the bait or this could be stuck for years lol
Op
1960s youth sub-cultures:
Mods
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Rockers
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Initial feedback:
Search page
Clunky and not particularly well laid out (hopefully this will be refined in future releases).
Unclear whether selecting multiple options is limiting the results to people who match on an OR or AND basis (e.g. if I select group sex, oral sex and oral sex, does someone need all 3 on their profile to appear?). I'd far prefer the control to choose either option.
I like the way the results numbers change at the top as you select options.
Results page
Layout is far too busy and the important thing (the number of results) is hampered by showing photos and large icons at all times.
I'd prefer a (mainly) text list of search results, and ideally with the option to show the profile photo and the "looking for" icons in a popup when you put your mouse over the member name. I've just done a quick search and have 82 pages to look through for members that are within 40 miles of me. I reckon this would be something like 6 pages if the results were presented better.
The "looking for" icons are all jumbled up for me if I have the browser window at anything other than maximised - I get the last icon in this section appearing underneath the "last seen" bar.
Overall? Better but a long way to go before it's anywhere near slick.
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The results for "looking for" aren't always accurate - some appear in search results as "no options set" when there are options when you view the profile.
The results don't tell you the member's sexual orientation.
If you search by distance, the result order goes to pot after page 1.
I'd like to see individual links for each of the search result pages so you could jump straight to page 5 for example.
Quote by Dirtygirly
Gibraltar isn't included sadly... but we do only take 200 at a time, just because we stash them in Spain and wander back over the border to get another 200 is by the by! lol

Yup "Of course Gibraltar isn't a member state.... "
Quote by Dirtygirly
EDIT: And while we're on the subject, my friend was on about this the other night and one of his mates had a surprise health and safety visit and got done for having an ashtray in the office with cigarette butts in it.

I'm surprised by this - I thought they had to prove that you've been smoking in a non-smoking area, not just that you have the remains (i.e. it could be an ashtray that's been brought in from outside)....bloody hell!
The other thing that annoyed me when working on a customer site in Wales was the council attitude. They had spent a considerable amount of time and effort installing what they thought was a conformant smoking shelter (i.e. no more than 50% was covered, sufficiently away from public entrances to the building etc).
The woman from the council measured the shelter and said that as she made it 56% coverage it would have to be rebuilt - result? Apart from the extra cost involved, it meant all the smokers were banned from using the shelter for 3 weeks whilst it was sorted and the whole place looked a right mess. Now there's progress for you!
Quote by kentswingers777
Oh yes and ps.....IF there are any people reading this who still continue to use your mobile whilst driving, I hope they throw the book at you when you are caught!

Hear hear!!! I was recently snail-pacing down a busy dual carriageway in rush hour in Manchester and there was a bloke in the left hand lane on his mobile and making a complete arse of himself (lane position etc). A woman in the car behind me got out at the lights, banged on his window and gave him a mouthfull about getting off the fecking phone! It was soooo funny watching his face. Like a goldfish that'd been electrocuted.
Back to the main topic - the two that really pee me off are those that drive in the outside lane when the motorway's empty, and those who are pulling a trailer but still go into the outside lane to overtake. Both recipes for a disaster.
Quote by kentswingers777
As for what Res asked about smoking in my van. It is ILLEGAL to smoke in a company van, whether you own it or not. But I will take my chances with the state police.

Quote by Dave__Notts
A company vehicle only driven by one person can be allowed to be used and smoke in it. If anybody else is carried a s a passenger or somebody else drives the van then it is covered by the legislation.

You're both sort-of there....we had a big investigation at work about this to establish what the law is in relation to company vehicles and smoking. The law states you can smoke whilst on company business (and in personal time) if the vehicle is designated primarily for sole use and you are on your own. If not, you should not smoke at all. This lead to a number of challenges at work about whether company vehicles are primarily for sole use or not. FYI I have a company vehicle and in the 10 or so years since having one I've carried passengers 4-5 times. However, mine is still designated as being for shared use so I shouldn't be smoking in it. If you have a privately owned vehicle and you are using it on company business, the same rules apply when carrying passengers.
Quote by Dirtygirly
The tax bothers me... my best mate lives in Gibraltar and you can buy 20 fags there for just over a quid. rolleyes That gets my goat but to be fair I do smuggle a whole heap more than I should out of there when I go to visit as she does when she comes home.

The law on importing from EU countries (with a few small exceptions) is that you can bring any quantity home providing it is for personal use. Customs officials tend to go by the rule of thumb of 3200 cigarettes being the threshold for when to start questioning people. Of course Gibraltar isn't a member state....
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And for the record, I smoke (and I like marmite!).
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Careful! You're not a gay cliché yet, but are well on your way. Bet all the girle girls just adore you.
Yep a PM is an alternative way of doing it - like I said, I wasn't advocating a rule change, just giving an example of why someone might want to whisper first rather than asking in open chat.
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It's not appropriate to ban the use of the word " " in a room title because it is a little too generic - what is to one person is perfectly acceptable to another (and the majority of us on here) as well as being within the site rules and the law.
For that reason we monitor content instead. :thumbup:
Quote by fabio
2) If you can tell me what the problem is with asking "x, can I please whisper you?" in public rather than in private, then sorry I'm not quite seeing it...... dunno for me it is a common curtosy issue

I can give you an example here - if someone is exploring their sexuality they may not want the whole room to know they have made initial contact with another individual (e.g. a member of their own sex, or a TV/CD), let alone the embarassment of asking and then getting a public cold shoulder.
Not advocating changing the rules, but you asked for an example..... wink
Hi John;
Good question - I'm a Chatroom Op and we monitor rooms for chat that's illegal and/or in contravention of the site rules. Whilst we are generally an easy-going bunch, some things (family fun included) are definite no-nos on here.
Members who indulge in such conversations risk having their accounts deactivated and information may be passed to the appropriate authorities for further action.
If you have any concerns about the actions of another member, you can always report it to Admin or any of the Ops or Mods. Please include the name of the room and the approximate time.
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Quote by BIoke
What is your fetish?

OK, I've thought about this for a bit and a very honest answer would be BIG cocks :shock: In that I will actively seek them out (although it doesn't mean to say I won't play with guys with smaller ones as long as they have a nice arse).
Quote by noladreams
Why do you like it?

Because I am REALLY good at sucking/swallowing them and it gives me immense pleasure to see the guys I'm with getting off on it :thumbup:
Goes back to hide under a stone confused
We're such a pair of peas in a pod lol
Leather, latex, hoods, videos, estim, boots, outdoors, sports kit, bikers, truckers, hi-viz....plus a few others i'd best not mention wink
Gay porn? Ewww, I'd never watch the stuff :rascal:
But seeing how you're mentioning bits of rough I'm gonna have to tick the "notify me when a reply is posted" box just in case any of those types contribute to the thread.
I don't mind what size they are (unless they really are at the extremes of the scale) as long as they're attractive looking.
I prefer uncut if I'm given a choice but the right cut ones do it for me too. Thicker is better as far as I'm concerned and I love a big bellend rather than it tapering off.
What always gets me is the members who describe themselves as VWE or VVWE or HUGE in their ads/profiles and yet are most obviously hung like a hamster (despite the flattering cam angle). I've even seen one of those who persisted in posting "VVWE male looking for a meet" into the chat, and getting ridiculed for it.....what don't they understand? One sandwich short?
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Call me greedy (shh DG!) but I'm happy with both options and it really depends on the person and situation for me.
I like the pervy build-up on planning something....which usually falls into the category of "out of the ordinary" rather than vanilla.
I get off on the adrenalin rush of an unexpected quickie.
Tart, moi? lol
Hi Flower - I presume new members still have to agree to the terms and conditions.
I perhaps didn't express myself well (always a challenge when you're typing rather than having a conversation).....it doesn't matter what webpages you put in front of people, you can't guarantee they have read it or understood it.
What I was suggesting is that it's useful to give people the benefit of the doubt (particularly if they're new) as they may have done it unintentionally. I wasn't suggesting that you should excuse those who know better and simply choose to ignore it wink
Hosts can already see who's watching their cam just like before - it's the Eye icon.
With regard to kicking without warning for whispering and directing, a number of users don't know about the rules. I know they should read them, but we can't force them to before they join chat. However, you only need to warn any user once and then you can kick. I also think we should give some users the benefit of the doubt (e.g. they may be new and not realise what the issue is). This is about being a good Host/Op and educating people in appropriate etiquette.
If anyone is causing disruption in the rooms (e.g. people not being able to deal with single males as well as other situations such as persistent whispering), I have discreet chats with them in whisper and send them PMs. Other Ops take similar action. If anyone has hassle from another member, they can always report it. Admin look into these reports and take action where appropriate.
Regarding people using multiple rooms, I get the impression that most concentrate on one room at a time. I don't think that just because it's there it will automatically lead to a lowering of chat quality. Likewise with people being able to watch more than one cam at once.
I've also done the home kits that come with trays you mould yourself (put them in hot water so they become soft and mould them round your teeth as they set). The whole kit cost around £70 including 3 lots of whitener, a UV light and a desensitising gel if your teeth feel a little sensitive afterwards.
No problems with sensitivity, but I have to confess I haven't used it much - can't be arsed sitting there with a gum shield and UV light in my mouth regularly lol
Quote by Elliot
I think a good way to kick this off would be people put their top 5 choice of smilies in this thread, we will then see what, if any can be put in.

Hi Elliot - I think that's a great idea. I suggest that people look at the original list as and pick 5 from there as a starting point (or maybe include descriptions of 1-2 other ones they'd also like if they aren't already listed).
The original list is here:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/85897.html
Ok, in that case here's a suggestion based on the old list for emoticons and the ones available in the forum:
biggrin smile sad :shock: confused cool redface :cry: rolleyes wink :!: :?: :idea: :mrgreen: blink :doh: dunno flipa kiss rotflmao wave :love: :sleeping: :rude: :sparring: :gagged: :lol2: :smitten: :thumbup: innocent
Plus......
:brb
:awe
:baby
:fuck
:ninja
:slash
:weird
:whistle
:call
:check
:clap
:nono
:hypno
:java
:rose
Quote by Mal
I've spoken to Martin about this and there will be something announced tomorrow about it, which should alleviate some of the problems you were concerned about.
Hope that helps
Mal
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Mal, I think you've earned this for having the conversation :thumbup:
Never used them but I keep hearing adverts for Seatwave on the radio.....
Martin - can't you just reinstate the old ones that were there before? They are listed in the sticky that Sarge posted:
http://www.swingingheaven.co.uk/swingers-forum/viewtopic/85897.html
If you're short of space, please remove the ones people don't use much like the US flag, the blue circle with the arrow, the dollar sign, the yin-yang and the revolving earth.
If you need to redo them, we already have a comprehensive list that are available when creating forum posts. There are also plenty available in the public domain.
With regard to the colour picker, the previous one looked like a standard "out of the box" widget whereas the new one appears to have been hand-developed. If you can't put the old one back, please increase the number of colours and take out the ones that are less usable (like light pink and yellow).
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I think there have been lots of good examples posted already that really show that it's about context and the intent behind what's being said.
Having said that, an individual response to a given sitation is just that - individual. What's acceptable to one person may not be acceptable to another, whether they're on the receiving end or are simply overhearing it being exchanged by others.
If someone says they're offended or upset (by something you say to them or something they hear you say to someone else), it's courtesy to take this onboard - not argue the toss whether they should be offended/upset. Most reasonable people will happily explain the context, adjust their behaviour where appropriate and move on. I don't see this as being anything to do with the "PC brigade" - it's just common courtesy and showing other people that their feelings are being taken into account.