Darn, I am just back from down your way. If I'd known before I'd have stayed over an extra night! Well, tell her it'll be worth the wait when she gets one!
WW
I just got back from one of my many business trips. Frankly there is not much to recommend frequent staying in hotels. It occured to me while driving home that there may be SH members who'd be interested in meeting up on a social basis, just for a few drinks, when I'm away from home and in their location. Not saying nothing else would ever happen. Who knows? But the object, on my part at least to start, would be friendly company for a few hours, a glass or two, maybe some food, and a good natter.
Mostly I go to Manchester, Leeds, Glasgow, a couple of places in Surrey, Warwick, Cardiff. There are others, but this is the main list. It would be nice to know there would be a friendly face in the bar when I arrive.
So, guys and gals, is it worth me making the effort to publicise my travels? If you are interested in just getting together and spending some time, that would be a start. Let me know. If you'd like to know more about me first, then the same, let me know and I'll tell you.
WW
Motivates me to learn to write Flash! Bloody Brilliant!
WW
Of course not! Carry on and much success to you! Meet you at a munch perhaps sometime.
WW
I think this is the most important topic I've seen raised here and I am glad and reassured to see such a positive response - absolutely safety comes first. You have to feel comfortable before you can begin to think about anything else... which is why a post in one of the forums recently from someone (a guy) saying they wanted to be worried me. is far too serious a matter, and so is all physical violence, in my view, unless that happens to be what turns you on and in that case you know all about the special precautions you need to take. I know 1 woman personally and 1 friend of a friend who've had that terrible experience and it is not a laughing matter, ever.
So if I was up for a meet, the first thing would be to convey that she will be safe with me, and the second is that I need to know that I'll be safe with her and that no-one is going to creep up behind me when I am otherwise engaged. That may be done explicitly, or maybe be implicit non-verbal signals. But it must be done. If you are in any doubt, don't meet.
WW
I suppose that's why I hate him: we're too alike! I always wanted to be the announcer on Victoria Station and say things like "Passengers waiting for the to Basingstoke on Platform 5: it has just left from platform 16."
WW
Can hold my hand up to them all, except that I thought then and think now that said DJ is a plonker!
And I am NOT too old - with testimonials to prove it!
WW
I well take your point: faking it is a bit tough for a guy as the evidence is not forthcoming, so I used to try to reassure the lady and, frankly, I was very happy that she'd had a good time and I hope I was sensitive enough not to cause distress. One certainly must not just go on for ever!
It is easy to be flippant about this kind of thing until you've had a problem.
WW
I wonder if there would be any takers for a munch in the Cambridge/Bedford/Northampton area?
And happy birthday from me too...
WW
Believe me, it can be a problem. Betablockers, medically prescribed, can have the effect that seemingly you NEVER come - it's not that the magic isn't there, it's just that the body chemistry doesn't work for good reason. And after a while the lady thinks it's her fault, she isn't doing the right things for you in one way or another. Reassurance doesn't help. So another problem has been set up. It isn't something I'd want to laugh about in the presence of a sufferer.
WW
Gosh, so many typing mistakes in such a small message.... it should be a GOOD day not a GOD one and CAN not VAN.
There may be others....
WW
I just had a really god day, so I've got lots of good feelings to go round. Virtual hug for anyone who needs it is included here .. .
:therethere: :therethere: :therethere: :therethere:
Always happy to share because I've had the benefit of much kindness myself in the past.
it sad you feel bad, but a hug van make you glad. (Oh dear, poetry is not my strong point.)
I wouldn't feel bound by confidentiality unless the other person and I had specifically said so before hand, in which case I probably wouldn't have gone any further. Being discrete is one thing (not blabbing in public etc) but an enquiry from another member is not like that. So I think (hope) I'd have said something like "Well, it didn't work for me on that occasion, but I can't say what it would be like for you" or perhaps "If he was the only butcher in town I'd be tempted to buy my meat at Tesco" (or go on a fish diet... you get the drift).
If the question of danger arises, then public responsibility takes priority over everything.
WW
Surely it works both ways? For me, physical attraction is important, sure. Tthere are people I could not imagine doing it with under any circumstances. But equally, I can't do it with someone I don't like! Doesn't matter how drop dead gorgeous they are, they are a nasty person nothing can make up for that. And the more I like them the less important (but never unimportant) the physical side is.
As for feeling guilty: you are who you are! We can make marginal improvements but we can't change our basics and that's that. So don't feel guilty if you neither like or fancy me - I don't mind, and your taste is your own affair. But if you do either, then great and I'll buy the first round of drinks.
Just don't do what someone did once - met me after many years in a pub and told me she had the ranging hots for me BACK THEN! Not now, of course!
WW
Just off to do some UAT (user acceptance testing for normal human beings)... thanks.
WW
Is there a way to find stories posted by a particular author? I've posted a couple myself, and while I can find one I can't find the other. I can't remember when I wrote it, all I am sure about is when I DIDN'T as I was in hospital for a while and it certainly wasn't then!
Wicked Wizard
I am sure that is all good advice... I'm going to let it pass. Never will know if it's really them. Not going to let curiousity kill this cat!
Browsing through the ads recently I recognised something - not a face, nor a name, but the background. I am 99% sure the photo in the ad was taken in the front room of a business colleague in another city. I've been in that room often and get on well with him and his wife who is lovely. The location was right, the ages were right, it must have been the same room. I don't want to embarrass them, but on the other hand I'd love to get it on with them. But what if I'm wrong and it wasn't them, or worse, if it was one of them and someone else and the other one doesn't know? I could reply to the ad, but that means sending a photo, and the risk then is that they'll know about me but decide not to meet. I'd never know if my colleague was in on my secret or not!
Any advice please?
If anyone is game to brave the chill night air around Northamptonshire tonight, 4/12, I'll meet you and we can keep eachother warm. Check compatibility and location by email once initial contact made.