I have only just started to visit the forum and have been most interested to read the postings regarding married men looking for sex outside their marriage.
The principal view of those trying to take the moral high ground is that if a married man cannot swing with his wife or with her consent then he should not "swing".
I suspect that the majority of those holding this view are those who are in the enviable position of having a wife who is either agreeable to swinging with her husband or to him swinging alone.
I, and I suspect many other married guys, are not in that happy position. My wife in particular would not for a moment consider swinging, She has very deeply held religious views which I respect but do not agree with. (this is a topic of a certain church morolising to the masses, when it needs to clean up its own act. but is not for this site I suspect).
This leaves me with four choices:
1 Divorce: No thanks, I do love my wife. Am I being a hipocrite? Probably
2 An affair: No thanks, These can get very messy. Am I being sensible? Absolutely
3 Swing discreetly: This sounds better, I am only on this earth once and I am going to make the best of it. Am I being selfish? Maybe
4 Do nothing: Ah I see the moralists smile!, Will this make me a saint? I don't think so, and anyway, from what I hear the only thing to swing in heaven are the pearly gates!
Let me make it quite clear that I do know that many many couples do not want to meet with a married man playing away. I for one always respect that view, and always make it quite clear when replying to a couple that I am married. The choice is then theirs if they want to meet me or not.
I do wonder if some of the moralists would object with quite the same vigour if they were to meet as a couple with a married woman playing away?
