It's easy enough to say yes to a meet, but what if you get there and you don't fancy the other person / people, and they show that they're very keen on you or just come onto you?
I have found in the past, when swinging as a single that I find it difficult to say no in person, and just went through with it regardless, so I became very fussy with my screening beforehand.
My OH is far more direct, and while it hasn't happened yet I know he'd just say no after drinks or something if it wasn't a go for him or I. At clubs he's able to say no to people if he sees that I don't like them, but I have let quite a few people I don't fancy grope me or touch me because I don't know how to say no and my OH hasn't seen.
It's not a big problem anymore, but I would like to know how others handle it?
1) People who write in text speak. I don't mind (a few) spelling mistakes, but I wouldn't be attracted to a woman or a couple that don't mind appearing to 'grunt' at others to try and attract them iykwim?
It just seems so sloppy, lazy and indicates a person not on our wavelength.
2) Grooming and age are important to me. I'm the female btw. My oh is far less fussy, and fancies women from all different age groups as long as they're groomed and good looking. I would prefer someone less than 10 years either side of me. Too old or too young would be creepy for me.
Things that are not necessarily deal breakers but have an effect on my desire:
Shape / height / hair. I like both slim and buxom women (big breasts with huge nipples are fab - sadly mine are small), but short women don't turn me on. I prefer taller women. The hair for me is important as well and I prefer it long.
Fussy? Moi?
I've not had any outrageous liars except once. A few years ago on here with a different profile name as a single girl, and I had my pick of SH, I had a few meets, and one gave a photo of this gorgeous blonde bloke, IN rugby gear by a bunch of other blokes playing rugby, mischievous smile etc etc. 6foot 4 or something.
I was on heat going to meet him, but sadly the pic must have been about 5 years and 500 pies out of date. Don't do that to a girl! The disappointment was so awful.
We have one torso pic in public of mr a, but full body and face shots in our private album which I send out when replying to anyone.
I try my hardest, and I love giving them to my partner, (and always swallow), but I had to be shown the techniques that he likes as apparently I was a bit crap in the beginning. I tried though. Now I think I'm pretty good, but when it comes to hand jobs I still often get it wrong and have to be shown again...
I'm now learning to DT. Not easy. I want so much to do it and am nearly there, but find I can't breathe after a bit so have to pull back.
I only started wearing heels semi regularly this year. Prior to this, I've hobbled along once every 2 months or so to a function in vertiginous heels, but I'm aiming to make them a daily staple. (Apparently there isn't a trick to it, just lots of painful practice).
My motivation is that thanks to my oh, I now own a few pairs of seriously good, expensive shoes and want to get some wear out of them dammit!
Talking of daily heel wearing, has anyone been watching the Apprentice, notably the women stalking around in their tight skirts and killer heels? They look gorgeous and as they can run around London all day in theirs, it spurs me on.
I'm really interested in this. I first squirted about 6 months ago, and it's still hit and miss to the extent that it's only happened a few times. My oh LOVES it when I do, and I'd like to be a bit more in control of it, but at least it happens now and then.
I have always had abundant clitoral orgasms, and I think that the muscles developed over the years keeping myself from peeing now are part of the mechanism of said orgasms. (Does that make sense to anyone?)
Are there particular vibrators that are best to use?
They look amazing.
