I agree with those who have commented that the brain is the greatest stimulant of all. Perhaps some of you might recall, in the dim and distant past, the use of voicemail messages for recording responses to advertisers. In my experience, nothing compares to the dizzy anticipation of listening to someone using their voice to say a little about themselves. They may have left the most mundane of messages, but the erotic thrill of hearing a person describe who they are and what they are looking for, and the vivid unspoken detail that is conveyed to the listener regarding social class, regional accent and the personal nuances of speech itself, is simply unparalleled in conjuring up an impression, in my case, of an interested couple and the mutual pleasures that could potentially follow as a consequence, and often did. The memory of those messages, often simply conveyed, remains strongly imprinted.
The internet may be a valuable tool for meeting like-minded people, but I preferred it when the voice was the only necessary tool for social engagement. Maybe i'm alone in thinking this way?
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ashxx
Over 90 days ago
Straight Male, 58
0 miles · West Yorkshire
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Hi there
I'd be grateful if anyone can offer advice on this. I went into my account settings for the first time in ages, and the email address is not one that I use anymore, and when I try and change it to the email address that I use, I receive a message saying that I can't use it as another person has it. I've no idea how this has happened, or how I can resolve it. I'm still able to send and receive PMs, so I'm not sure if it makes any difference. I'm not much of a techie as you can see. Any thoughts or suggestions gratefully received.
I'd be grateful if anyone can offer advice on this. I went into my account settings for the first time in ages, and the email address is not one that I use anymore, and when I try and change it to the email address that I use, I receive a message saying that I can't use it as another person has it. I've no idea how this has happened, or how I can resolve it. I'm still able to send and receive PMs, so I'm not sure if it makes any difference. I'm not much of a techie as you can see. Any thoughts or suggestions gratefully received.
Sorry I meant the number that appears when you look in an advert category on the left hand side of each advertisement. I just made a note of a few numbers earlier on, and I suppose I should have noted the username and not the long number. Thanks for your reply anyway, I think I'll just redo the search and make a note of the username instead.
I agree with Mike North, there is something deliciously nerve-wracking about meeting through Loot when you only have a vague notion of the person's/persons' appearance. Also there is the thrill of listening to the intonation of a person's recorded voice, and making inferences about them from what they say and how they say it. Don't misunderstand me, the internet is fine and all that, but there's almost too much visual information available now prior to meeting up, and perhaps we've lost a lot of that intoxicating air of mystery and suspense that we used to have when meeting a stranger through a voicemail greeting. The voice is such a powerful sexual tool. It all seems much more formulaic now 
I think its really down to personal choice. I know that most people would rather see a face pic before responding to an advert, and its just a shame that our world is so judgemental of the lifestyles of other. I do occasionally send face pics, but having one on a public profile is a brave step that I don't think I'd be comfortable in taking, though i fully respect those who do.
I've taken part in quite a few mfm scenarios over the past few years, and for myself and the couples i've been with, discretion has been the most vital element. It has also been an essential part of the sexual fantasy for us to have entered into a private world that is completely separate from the way we would normally behave in the non-swinging world, and which is only shared with the people we are with. Mutual respect and trust are so important for them to really work, and I imagine other mfms would feel the same way.
It seems to me that trying to combine your close friendship with your sexual fantasy could be a dangerous cocktail. Whatever the outcome, I think your friendship will be seriously affected. Close friendships are hard to come by, so is it worth it?
Even if your mfm scenario happened, you will have changed the dynamic completely and your 'private world' will never be as private again, as you will have compromised it with someone who is not part of that private world.
Your friend's relationship with his partner should be valued just as much as your relationship with your partner. Its a breathtaking assumption to make that he is only living with her to 'help with the mortgage'. Relationships can develop, and she could end up as the love of his life. If you respect him, is it fair to be so callous toward her?
I know there are lots of single guys on here, but I'd suggest meeting a few single guys socially and taking it from there. I've met couples with families, and I appreciate that it is more difficult, but you are not selecting a variety of tomatoes from Sainsburys but a particular male who is going to tick a various boxes, both sexual and social, for you and your partner. Is that not worth the effort?
It seems to me that trying to combine your close friendship with your sexual fantasy could be a dangerous cocktail. Whatever the outcome, I think your friendship will be seriously affected. Close friendships are hard to come by, so is it worth it?
Even if your mfm scenario happened, you will have changed the dynamic completely and your 'private world' will never be as private again, as you will have compromised it with someone who is not part of that private world.
Your friend's relationship with his partner should be valued just as much as your relationship with your partner. Its a breathtaking assumption to make that he is only living with her to 'help with the mortgage'. Relationships can develop, and she could end up as the love of his life. If you respect him, is it fair to be so callous toward her?
I know there are lots of single guys on here, but I'd suggest meeting a few single guys socially and taking it from there. I've met couples with families, and I appreciate that it is more difficult, but you are not selecting a variety of tomatoes from Sainsburys but a particular male who is going to tick a various boxes, both sexual and social, for you and your partner. Is that not worth the effort?
Hi Everyone
Could somebody please remind me how to update adverts since the site has been revamped, so that adverts appear at the top of the categories. I thought that by clicking on edit and save, this would do so, but apparently not.
Hope you're all well and hope to meet some of you soon!
Cheers
Ashxx
Could somebody please remind me how to update adverts since the site has been revamped, so that adverts appear at the top of the categories. I thought that by clicking on edit and save, this would do so, but apparently not.
Hope you're all well and hope to meet some of you soon!
Cheers
Ashxx
Hi, just wanted to say the site looks great now (although it was great before!). I logged on the other day after a week or so, and what a surprise! I seem to have lost my ad, so I've just created a new one from my homepage. Hope this is ok. It seems much easier to contact other people with the new set up.
Festive greetings to all!
Ash x
Festive greetings to all!
Ash x
I agree with the above, meet the guys on your own and be honest with them about her concerns. If you do decide to go further, maybe meet them in a hotel to enhance discretion. I've met complete newbies, and the key is the social element above all else, and then whatever happens will happen as a natural result.
Best of luck,
Ash xx.
Best of luck,
Ash xx.
