Hi Sassy-Seren
You are so right and isnt that a real shame!
As a man (I use the term loosely!), I really do not want to have fun with a lady who is there under duress and does not want to play.
CnG
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bbw007
Over 90 days ago
Straight Female, 61
Straight Male, 68
0 miles · Buckinghamshire
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Warming the Bed
Hi Carol Martin
We are no spring chickens but havent been swingers for long. When we did our first meet we were both so close to being physically sick with nerves. We were lucky teh couple we met put us very much at our ease, we enjoyed a relaxed meal and they had us for dessert!!!
I suppose what we did was we both discussed this with each other in an honest and open manner, felt very secure in our relationship and agreed that it would be good harmless fun. We set our own parameters in that if either of us felt in any way uncomfortable we would call a halt.
Now there is no holding Mrs bbw back!!!!!!
Because we remember how tense we were making the other couple feel 'at home' is important, as is making clear that we will do nothing more than all are happy with. Its not always teh ladies who are too tense, we have met some couples where the man is so on edge as well.
CnG
We are no spring chickens but havent been swingers for long. When we did our first meet we were both so close to being physically sick with nerves. We were lucky teh couple we met put us very much at our ease, we enjoyed a relaxed meal and they had us for dessert!!!
I suppose what we did was we both discussed this with each other in an honest and open manner, felt very secure in our relationship and agreed that it would be good harmless fun. We set our own parameters in that if either of us felt in any way uncomfortable we would call a halt.
Now there is no holding Mrs bbw back!!!!!!
Because we remember how tense we were making the other couple feel 'at home' is important, as is making clear that we will do nothing more than all are happy with. Its not always teh ladies who are too tense, we have met some couples where the man is so on edge as well.
CnG
Warming the Bed
Thanks de_sade
It seems that sometimes the guys fancy 'swinging' the lady is dragged along without really feeling it is something she wants to do...How on earth is she expected to enjoy herself when she feels so uncomfortable she cannot even get involved in harmless chat let alone, throw herself into having 'fun'!
CnG
It seems that sometimes the guys fancy 'swinging' the lady is dragged along without really feeling it is something she wants to do...How on earth is she expected to enjoy herself when she feels so uncomfortable she cannot even get involved in harmless chat let alone, throw herself into having 'fun'!
CnG
Warming the Bed
Hi all,
In the absence of the chatrooms
I thought I would just share our thoughts on our experience in meeting couples.
We have been members since Feb 2006 and have had some good meets, making friends and having great fun along the way. We have also had some not so great experience...
On the whole we have been disappointed when we have arranged to meet a 'new' couple. In many cases, but not all, it appears that the male partner of the couple is keen to get into swinging. The lady on the other hand is often very nervous, uncertain about wether this is something she wants to try and as a result is very uncomfortable.
We are a relaxed couple, happy to go at a pace all feel at ease with but, to be frank, ladies should not be placed in this position. I feel so sorry for them, the 'threat' of being laid bare and perform with people she does not know is more than is reasonable to expect. We are happy to talk things through before hand and would prefer being told to what extent she feels unhappy about things. This would be preferable to either no shows or a atmosphere that is so on edge that no one enjoys themselves.
At least we get the place tidied up so not all is lost!
CnG
In the absence of the chatrooms
I thought I would just share our thoughts on our experience in meeting couples.We have been members since Feb 2006 and have had some good meets, making friends and having great fun along the way. We have also had some not so great experience...
On the whole we have been disappointed when we have arranged to meet a 'new' couple. In many cases, but not all, it appears that the male partner of the couple is keen to get into swinging. The lady on the other hand is often very nervous, uncertain about wether this is something she wants to try and as a result is very uncomfortable.
We are a relaxed couple, happy to go at a pace all feel at ease with but, to be frank, ladies should not be placed in this position. I feel so sorry for them, the 'threat' of being laid bare and perform with people she does not know is more than is reasonable to expect. We are happy to talk things through before hand and would prefer being told to what extent she feels unhappy about things. This would be preferable to either no shows or a atmosphere that is so on edge that no one enjoys themselves.
At least we get the place tidied up so not all is lost!
CnG
