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Hi
we will be at Terre de Soleil onthe above dates anyone else be ther?e we will be on cap beach during the day
We will be at Cap d Agde from 4 to 12 June. Drop us a line via our profile
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3 weeks ago
Bi-curious Female, 74
Bi-curious Male, 74
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Quote by noladreams
Right... I'm doing a spot of research: lube.
Do you use it? If so, what brands?
I'm tiring of Liquid Silk. Want some new stuff to play with! :rascal:
Eros. Absolutely the best. Perfect for sex, wanking, anal. The lot. Condom safe. Not sure who else stocks it but have bought it in a rubber/gay shop ff Oxford St and at Cap d Agde.
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Have their been any kids? I ask this because if not, its possible the wife might have been trying to conceive?
its easy to overlook the basics........
We both have children from previous marriages so it's nothing to do with that.
Mark
Mark
Take a , and seriously consider doing Jan's Living Tantra series of workshops - saved my life, never mind my marriage. PM me if you want to know more.
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I recieved an email an hour ago asking for a meet up with both parties and politely declined stating I was happy to have sexual contact with the female in the way we had been previous but that due to the nature of how things had turned out I didn't think that going down the road of 3 somes with them would be what I wanted.
I have recieved an email from the husband being generally very aggressive, saying he wanted to know exactly how many times I had seen his wife, exactly what we had done and where. She has since rang me saying the guy is going mad saying she is "hiding things" and this only goes to show that my first initial thought that this was a strange situation was bang on.
Otherwise why all the lies, why not just advertise for a cuckold situation etc? We live and learn I suppose, but to those that mocked and said I was whineing.......Hmmmm maybe I know a little more about situations that I'M involved in
I can understand you being upset and feeling deceived. My reaction to the earlier posts was - even though it was not quite what had been explained, this sounds like it could be fun, now that the husband has joined in so to speak, opening up all sorts of other possibilities (each to his own on that I guess).
However, your latest info puts a completely different complexion on it and sadly, I agree that you are right to drop it like a hot potato, write if off to experience, remember the best bits and look for someone else. I wondered whether you would have got involved if you had been told at the outset that she saw guys and told her husband about them.
An important lesson is how discretion and security can't be taken for granted. Someone who we trusted once took some fairly graphic pictures which we were a bit uncomfortable about but were given all sorts of reassurances, only to later discover via a mutual contact that they had been widely circulated. We take much more care now.
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being involved with the cuckold thing is no more of a danger of your other half straying with that person, than all the others on here who advertise seperate room fun.
in this swinging scene there has to be a complete and utter trust between the parties. to be honest i know mrs star would never do something along those lines and i have to say i possibly would be a little tiny bit pissed off if a bloke i had invited into my home tried to get more than i was willing to give.
i would deam that rude and bang out of order and he could well leeve my house with a bit more than he came into it with. something black springs to mind. :twisted:
Trust is the key to this. I have had my wife warn me that it would be dangerous for her to see a regular threesome buddy on her own. I was kind of disappointed as I was really encouraging her to do this (at this stage we only did threesomes and I was getting more and more desperate for her to have a meet with him on her own) but understood that I should not push it. She never did see that particular guy on her own but we often still fantasise about it.
Coming back to original question, we also tried at first to answer the question "Why?" but realised that was as pointless as trying to explain the meaning of life - by the time you find out, you will probably be dead (or even worse, no longer able to have sex). So now we just enjoy it. It is a wonderful juicy part of our sex life. It is always arranged by me, not as a security idea as someone suggested, although it serves that purpose. Once we are in a scene with a guy, she really loves it and every now and again she takes the lead and suggests that I set something up with someone. That really turns me on.
After many years, I still get hugely turned on by the idea of her being on her own with a guy who turns her on and love hearing her talk about the times (sadly not that many) when she has done that. In a threesome scenario I love to watch the two of them, joining when I feel like it (I don't look like Mr Bean, so it wasn't me that someone on here met).
Like everyone who has contributed to this thread, we have no interest in the idea of humiliation of anyone ever and no-one has ever tried it once we have met. We have weeded out quite a few guys who have approached it in that way, though, before we met them.
Don't forget, men are very performance orientated and anxious, and the more gorgeous the woman (which you really are) the more concerned he is likely to be about not doing a good job. A sort of backhanded compliment really. And then being watched by another guy who is obviously able to fuck you successfully .....
We also see guys for MMFs and have had the same problem now and again. We now try and choose experienced guys, which is unfair to newbies but they do seem to be less bothered by the occasion. And I think that that in itself bears out that it is nerves of some sort. We have also had guys go soft when condoms are being put on and also a guy who was so excited that he came while he was putting one on. Condoms are quite a barrier for some strange reason.
I would say that if you like him, don't judge him as a failure because of this (that's unfair and is falling into to the male "performance" way of looking at things), and invite him back instead. If he fails the second time then maybe think again. Believe all of us when we say that is not an adverse reflection on you. And don't give him too much to drink.
Just keep going until it comes right - my wife loves her MMFs!
We also see guys for MMFs and have had the same problem now and again. We now try and choose experienced guys, which is unfair to newbies but they do seem to be less bothered by the occasion. And I think that that in itself bears out that it is nerves of some sort. We have also had guys go soft when condoms are being put on and also a guy who was so excited that he came while he was putting one on. Condoms are quite a barrier for some strange reason.
I would say that if you like him, don't judge him as a failure because of this (that's unfair and is falling into to the male "performance" way of looking at things), and invite him back instead. If he fails the second time then maybe think again. Believe all of us when we say that is not an adverse reflection on you. And don't give him too much to drink.
Just keep going until it comes right - my wife loves her MMFs!
